u/almond_auntie534

27f here. So to start off with some positive news; I’m going back to school and got my first aid/cpr. I’m also trying to go back to work and trying to fig out childcare for my daughter.

The thing is I just feel like I have no support. No one to cheer me on. No one to comfort me when I need it. I asked my partner what he loves about me and all he said was “I love that you’re a good mom”, yesterday I was telling him about my first aid/cpr training, I was really excited that I’m now safety qualified. I could give our kid or anyone’s kid cpr if needed. He said “that’s cool. So do I. It’s not hard to get” and started going on about how we’re “always broke” and tbh I took it like he was blaming me.

Anyway I told my mom and my grandfather, they both were like “well idk why you bothered paying for first aid when you’re not working”. Good point. But I’ve been wanting to do this for a long time but didn’t have time when I was working, then I got pregnant and really didn’t have time.

I just feel alone. I can’t stop crying. I feel like I just don’t have patience and trying to find any distraction I can lately. Anyway sorry for the sob story. I just don’t know who to turn to, I might get counseling next week when things settle and there’s not as much going on.

Hey yall. So I found out I was pregnant over the weekend with baby #2. I feel like I’m starting all over again and feel so paranoid/on edge. I also felt like I could recall every symptom, when it started, etc but now I’m second guessing myself…

I’ve been having cramps that kinda come and go. I could go a few hours and feel a band cramps (cramp that wraps around my hips, back and lower abdomen), random twinges, or what feels like period or poop cramps. I’ve had to sit down at lunch because I felt sick during a cramp. I also get so itchy around my scar/lower stomach. It’s crazy! I don’t really remember having that with my last pregnancy.

I made an appointment for an over phone consultation. But won’t be getting an in person appointment until after my phone appointment on the 10th of September… I plan on testing again soon but trying not to panic test. Honestly my 1 yr old kinda keeps me occupied so I haven’t really thought about it….

Anyway I’m just looking for some reassurance… like a “oh yeah, I had that too”, or something like that.

Ftm here. Sooo… maybe it’s just me but I’m hoping it’s not. So for my daughter’s first birthday my Mother in law bought diapers, wipes, clothes and bath toys for her. I thought this was brilliant!

I had a couple birthday parties to go to for newly one yr olds so I did the same gift basket idea. I bought a really nice wicker basket, I put a bag of diapers, wipes, toys and a rolled up blanket inside! My mom asked me who’s baby shower I was going to and when I said I was going to a friend’s daughter’s first birthday party she giggled. Then told me it seemed more like a gift you’d take to a shower or maybe a gift that’d be given by a family member. Now I’m overthinking it lol…

Is it too much? Or too little? It’s stupid but I actually cried over this because I feel kinda like I’m being inconsiderate lol

27f here! First time mom of an almost one yr old and a sahm.

I love being a mom, staying home and watching her grow up but I want more. Being a “good mom” is literally bare minimum to me, not an achievement. I need to complete my goals! I want my Red Cross/cpr training, I want to take courses so I can become a PSW and potentially get my dream job.

How did y’all do it without much to no help, or support? What did you go back to school for? Do you have your career?

27f here and trying to conceive. I’m in a lot of these groups/subs and have been posting my tests there whenever I feel like my line eyes are getting the better of me.

Well… yesterday I actually got a vvvfl. I posted it but got told there was nothing there and it was negative. I ended up sending a picture to my fiancé because I just couldn’t shake this feeling I could actually see a line. He said he saw it too! This afternoon I took another test and I can still see a line. It’s faint but I can see it, my fiancé couldn’t. I posted it to a couple subs, including the one from yesterday. Comments saying it’s Negative… I feel even more crazy.

Usually I’m like “ok, yeah I figured but needed to confirm it was negative”. This time I was more so showing my results to confirm the line is there, someone other than me can see it. Also if you ask for advice in these subs, you don’t really get advice. Tbh I feel like these “lineporn” subs aren’t actually so someone can try to see it with you, I think these people are doing a quick glance, assume it’s an evap/negative or just assume you’re fishing.

But if you post a positive I’ve seen these girls get told “yeah it’s very obvious positive”, even when they aren’t asking “is it positive”. Ugh…

Sorry… Im projecting. I’m irritated lol. I’m tired of seeing negatives just like the people in these groups are, but I feel like I try to actually see a positive in a picture that at a glance looks negative. Like why else be in a group if you aren’t looking to support others going through what you’re going through?

Thanks guys for listening❤️

27f and officially almost a year postpartum! It’ll be a year the last week of August🩷

So my hair was thin to begin with but now ive lost my curls, my volume and my hair is so uneven… it also looks so… lifeless. My plan to fix it is to go in and get a shag (which is literally just bangs and layers from what I can tell), then I’m dying my hair and maybe buy a clip in topper.

I’m hesitant though as I’ve never bought clip in extensions, or anything like that before even though I’ve always wanted to! That being said I don’t know what I’m looking for. I’ve been looking on Amazon but I feel like I’m going to get the opposite of what I’m looking for/gonna pay for. I’m also working on a budget and a time sensitive deadline as I want the topper for pictures.

Also how do you colour match? Tbh I don’t really know what hair colour I have, it’s kinda reddish, blonde but kinda on the medium brown side?

I just need some advice/tips

Hey 26f here. So I was 21 or just turned 22 when my mom met her boyfriend. I at the time was very much against having kids, for good reason. I was on birth control and using every precaution to avoid pregnancy. Then when I started dating my now fiancé I got pregnant and had an abortion. I hid it from my family as my mom’s boyfriend is very pro choice, was obsessed with the idea of me getting pregnant and making him a “grandfather”. Also was obsessed with me getting pregnant to “straighten me out” as I was apparently too wild and free.

I mostly worked to afford rent and groceries. when I wasn’t working I was rarely partying, I was usually at my best friend’s place smoking weed, or with my boyfriend’s (now fiancé’s) place.

Then I had just turned 23, about to go on a big girl’s trip with my best friend when I found out I was pregnant again. I ended up miscarrying a month later. It was bad enough to land me in the er and my mom found out I was pregnant. I ended up over hearing them talking about how “it’s just so unfair that women who don’t even want kids, substance abusers and reckless teens/young adults can get pregnant but not good people”. My mom’s boyfriend said that because apparently his wife before getting with my mom had a hard time getting pregnant.

Which is unfortunate. I don’t wish it on anyone. But this man doesn’t even have a relationship with the kids he has from previous marriages.. yet ig I’m the POS who recklessly got pregnant so I deserved what I got.. I’m a mom now to an 11 month old and still get reminded “to think you didn’t want kids”, I knew you’d change your mind”. I even got the “I was waiting for you to get pregnant just once just so you’d get out of your pro abortion phase”. Yet they don’t understand why I rarely come around to see them.

I’m sorry for this kind of rant. Something really set me off today and reminded me of this so I had to just rant about it.

Dpo unknown but last had unprotected intimacy on the 13th of July and waiting pretty impatiently to test. If I do get pregnant it’ll be my second pregnancy since having our daughter (who was a wonderful surprise).

How long did you wait to test and when did you finally get your very faint second line/bold second line? I know it’s way too early but it’s eating at me… I just want to test so bad even though I know it’ll be stark negative🥲