r/firsttimemom

My 5 month old doesn’t cry when other people carries her. At what age does a baby develop attachment to their mother?

I’m afraid she will get more attached to my MIL since she took care of my baby for almost a month (from the moment she got out of the NICU to when we got discharged). Though now, I breastfeed her, carry her, change her diapers and hold her when she cries and cosleeps with her. My MIL visits once a month and stays for like a week and during her visits, she plays with my baby and she only gives me my baby for feeds.

FTM here, I am currently 6 weeks and 3 days pregnant. My bowl movements have become extremely irregular sometimes im not going for up to 4 days! Havent changed my eating habits at all, but I am up 4 pounds already and im freaking the hell out.

I have maintained 135-138 lbs for the last several years, im 5'7. I was 137 when I found out couple weeks ago. Havent gone number 2 in 3 days now and I feel huge. Got on the scale this morning and im 141. Needless to say this has sent me into a bit of a spiral as I struggle with ed and body dysmorphia. Im horrified of gaining a bunch of weight during pregnancy and never getting back to my pre pregnancy weight.

Not sure how im going to manage the body dysmophia as my body goes through insane changes over the next year.... id like to keep my weight gain under 40 lbs but ive read alot of posts from people who gained as much as 100 lbs during pregnancy..... I lift weights and walk and so far have kept up on being active. No morning sickness as of yet... but im sure its coming... is there anyways I can manage weight gain and try to keep it under 40 lbs?

I know I can't be the only one tired of the dinosaurs, cars/trucks, sports, etc. 😭 What are some not as common themes you've seen that you think there should be more of? I've seen some cute sea/turtle items that are absolutely precious! Where do you buy some of your non stereotypical "boy" fun themed clothing from?

I guess this is more so just a “am I in the wrong”.

My sister and boyfriend do not get along at all due to previous fallout between all of us a couple years ago. She refuses to have anything to do with my boyfriend. So much so that she didn’t even come to my baby shower. She’s even told me that she doesn’t plan on attending any of my son’s birthdays because that means she’d have to be around my boyfriend.

He feels the same way towards her, however, he’s been much more open to being around each other so that my family can all be together.

My dad wants everyone up at his cottage for the weekend so they can see my baby and when I said my boyfriend would like to come he basically told me no because my sister will be there and he doesn’t want it to be uncomfortable for her. He said any other time is fine just not this weekend. My boyfriend does not feel comfortable having our son go somewhere that he isn’t welcome, which i completely understand and respect.

My dad still keeps pushing that I bring my baby and just myself and can’t seem to understand why I won’t bring my son. I’ve explained to him that we are a package deal and it’s not relaxing for me if I’m going to have to be taking care of the baby the whole time by myself. My boyfriend is my support and he’s the only other person who knows how to soothe our son and keep him happy.

How would you react if you had to deal with this, or if you have, what happened?

TL/DR: my boyfriend doesn’t feel comfortable with me bringing our son somewhere that my boyfriend isn’t invited to.

Struggling to get my guy down at anytime OTHER than 845/9 every night. And it takes 45 min+ sometimes! He's 12wks old, I basically just try to time his wake window to end before the bedtime I want him to have (730/800) and about 10 minutes before I know he'll be tired, I go put him in a fresh diaper and jammies, keep him in the dark room, get some white noise booted up and lie down next to him so he can see me in the bassinet. I give him a pacifier and proceed to spend the next hour or so watching him fall asleep and wake up over and over, just giving him the pacifier when he wants it. He gets much more worked up when i walk away. He does not like being soothed in ANY other way - he doesnt want to get drowsy on me, doesnt want to feed to sleep, doesnt want to be pat, rocked, or anything. He wants to lie there and make me watch him. Would really love to put him to bed and have an evening with my husband. Side note: from around 900/930 he will sleep until 4am, and immediately go back to sleep after he eats and sleep until 8, with some fussing from 6/7am till 8.

My little guy just turned 8 months old and his 9th tooth is gonna come through any day now (his upper left canine). He's definitely got a little swelling and discomfort towards the back of his gums but I don't think the molars are on their way out yet, I think they're just moving around and he can feel it

Anyway, he's pretty consistently been popping a new tooth out ~every 2 weeks. Sometimes shorter sometimes longer but on average. It's not like it's happy, happy, happy, TOOTH! There's obviously the discomfort leading up to the eruption

He's been teething/feeling his teeth moving around since 3.5 months (I can tell it started about then because there's almost no pictures from that time where he didn't have his hand in his mouth lol) and his first tooth came out at 5.5 months. So that's 8 teeth in such a short time frame and like I said, at least a couple of his canines are right around the corner.

I'm talking a lot but basically did anyone else's baby go through this? Did they actually get a good break before all 16 teeth were out or was your kid pretty much just on a "let's get this bull over with asap" mission?

I am a FTM 38+5 weeks pregnant.i am 5'1 and very petite.even UK size 6 fit me before pregnancy.so i am basically XXS size originally.i am extremely scared of two following things:

1. being a first time mom ,if i would go into labor naturally or not.the place where i live ,you can only be induced after 41+3.but i am scared that the more i go further the more baby will become big resulting in a difficult delivery.

2. i am extremely scared of shoulder dystocia.i don't want to have a vacuum or forceps assisted delivery as i have heard lots of negative things about both.

So my questions are : what are the chances of complications like shoulder dystocia and if such a situation arises should i then request for C section instead of having a forceps assisted delivery?

I so desperately want to go into natural labor as soon as possible as i am in tooooooooo much pain,whats the thing that helped you? I am eating dates , raspberry leaf tea, pineapple and doing few exercises on exercise ball.

I am a first time mom so i have no idea about these things, excuse me if any of it sounds dumb.

My baby will be 3 months old tomorrow and still hates tummy time like the day she was born. Full blown huge meltdowns where she struggles to breathe, inconsolable for at least a half hour afterwards. I know the general advice is to just keep trying but here’s where we’re at and what we have tried if you have any further advice. I don’t want to set her back by not doing it as much as I should ( we do 1x a day for like 1.5 minutes. genuinely cannot last longer than that and it’s so awful we push it off and push it off )

We have tried:
- elevated on legs, boppi, blanket
- put arms under her shoulders
- toys in her face, us on the floor in her face
- patting butt talking singing
- tummy time on our chests which used to work but she hates that now too
- she used to love the carrier but now hates that and also hates behind held vertical in our arms against our chest
- doing it when she’s really happy

I’m just at a loss here. All my mom friends don’t seem to have such a hard time with this. She definitely has some head control but I don’t think she will have full head control at 4 months like my doctor recommended.

We dread tummy time and because of that we don’t do it as often as we should and it makes me feel horrible. Does anyone else have advice not listen above that worked for them? I mean I get just biting the bullet and doing it but damn it’s a guaranteed 45min+/- meltdown. She does lift her head for a bit but it ends as forehead time with big big cries every time. Help :(

Babygirl is 11 weeks old, but for the last week, right before her vaccines, she has been hysterical crying and wanting to eat every hour and a half to two hours. She stays awake for over 1.5 hours at a time. When she does eat, it’s only half of her feed and she’s falling asleep at the bottle naps are anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour and a half depending on if I contact nap or not.

Luckily, she is sleeping at night! I’m worried that what i i mentioned above (falling asleep at the bottle and associating food with sleeping, I’m worried she’s snacking and won’t take a full feed). Is she too little for those “habits”!?

Even if there’s no advice, I just wanna hear that someone is going through the same thing and that this too shall pass.

I don’t think anything really prepares you for how much life changes when you become a first-time mom.

It’s not just the lack of sleep or the new responsibilities — it’s the way your entire sense of time and routine shifts overnight.

Some moments feel overwhelming, where you’re just trying to keep up and figure things out as they happen. And other moments feel incredibly meaningful in a way you didn’t expect before.

The title says it all. Ok, not literally, but I get so easily overstimulated wearing itchy or tight clothing.

I’m looking for the comfiest of all nursing bras. One that I can sleep and lounge in or wear under a casual top when I’m out and about.

Taking any and all suggestions. There are too many options online and I’m feeling overwhelmed. THANK YOU!

I have been itching for a baby for a WHILE. My husband has always said he wanted kids but was not ready. This is weekend he finally told it’s time.

So we’re gonna start trying. The hardest part for me now is holding my excitement in and not letting the whole world that we’re trying.

How did y’all do it? Did y’all tell anyone?

I'm going for my first ultrasound later this evening, it's a transvaginal ultrasound which is already scary to me but that's not the thing that's got me the most scared, for some reason I have this fear that they're not going to see anything.

I took a at-home pregnancy test it came back positive and then my first OB appointment also confirmed it with a pregnancy test, they are going to date my pregnancy today and find out how far along I am, I am so scared for whatever reason they're not going to see anything like I had absorbed the pregnancy or something, I know it's unlikely but I'm terrified this is my first pregnancy and I want everything to go right.

Has anyone else had this fear? Or am I being too emotional?

I have been sick for about 5 days and tried so hard not to get my LO sick. This last weekend he stayed at my MILs so I can rest and he can stay away from me. Unfortunately last night he was coughing and sounded really congested. I feel so bad, I feel so guilty for making my son sick. I don’t know what to do I’m a FTM and was thinking of giving cough syrup but google says no OTC meds??? Also I told my partner I was breastfeeding him because they say it’s good for the baby and he said that’s what got him sick. Not to believe the internet and he doesn’t think breast milk works like that, that I’m giving him my sick cells. Anyways I made a doctors appt for him hopefully this doesn’t last too long

I was not planning to be a stay at home mom, but after baby was born I had a change of heart and decided to leave my job (husband was fine with it). He has a pretty physically demanding job, so I know he is tired after work, but I really thought he would be more involved with the baby especially on his days off (he was the one who wanted to have kids more than me). He does the yard work, some dishes, and some house work, but close to nothing with the baby. She will be 9 months old next week, we do bath and bedtime routine together (then he leaves to relax while I get her down to sleep), other than that I have to ask him to help or hold her or play with her. I know that I chose to be a stay at home mom and it wouldn't be easy, but I don't even feel like my own person anymore. I haven't had any time to myself to do anything I want in 9 months, let alone had a full night's sleep. I can't even count how many times I've said "I need to get some sleep at some point" and he just nods, but never takes a night shift on a day off so I can actually sleep. Thankfully baby slept through the night for the first time last night, so I can see the light at the end of the tunnel on that one. He wants to have another baby to try for a boy, but if he isn't going to help out, I don't think I can do it by myself. So for the stay at home moms out there, is this your experience as well? Am I expecting too much from him? I know he needs time to relax after work, but I am on call 24/7 and only get to relax after baby goes to sleep (during naps I am washing bottles, cooking, etc) and I feel like he expects me to handle everything and doesn't see or care how stressed and burnt out I am

Since my babies umbilical cord fell off i’ve been doing nightly baths to help her relax and sleep better. She’s 2 months now and she really enjoys her baths and her spa treatment right after. She’ll eat after and fall asleep and only have maybe one or two feeding throughout the night.

Now that she’ll almost be 3 months soon, i can’t help but have the scares for the 4 month sleep regression. I return to work around that time and i have no idea how i’ll cope with it.

I’m sitting here thinking to myself maybe if i keep the same routine with her maybe we’ll get lucky and avoid it?? idk
Any tips on how some of you guys got through it?

I'm deciding whether to get a hands-free wearable breast pump and would genuinely love honest experiences.

I'm 32 weeks and going back to work at 10 weeks. My insurance covers a Spectra S2 for free so I have that option. But I'm wondering if I should also get a wearable. The idea of sitting in a pumping room plugged into a wall two or three times a day already sounds exhausting before I've even had the baby.

I've been looking at Momcozy, eufy, Elvie, Willow. I've seen a lot of positive posts about the eufy ones specifically (apparently the heating feature helps with clogs?) but I honestly can't tell which reviews are genuine and which brands are just flooding Reddit with fake accounts lol. The Elvie looks nice but it's $300 which feels like a lot when I don't even know if breastfeeding is going to work out for me yet.

Things I'm actually unsure about:

- Do wearables empty as well as a regular pump or will my supply take a hit?

- Is the eufy worth the extra cost over the cheaper Momcozy options?

- Should I start with the free Spectra and add a wearable later, or try the wearable from the start?

Thanks for any honest advice! Sorry if these are basic questions, first time doing any of this