u/dmrising2492

Husband's family keeps pushing visits. This weekend they wanted 9 or 10 people coming. Baby is 9 weeks and is getting first round of shots next week. He didn't ask me if I was okay with this, it was just supposed to be his parents again. Our pediatrician said 1 or 2 people is fine but a group gathering significantly raises risks of him getting sick and it would be best to wait until 2 weeks after shots. This caused a huge multi-day argument with spouse because i wanted to reschedule it based on that timeline. He accuses me of not letting him see his family but his parents come over frequently. His mom already had all these people over once too and they didn't tell me they were all coming. I told him then I wasn't okay with that and he got mad at me for it. Here we are again.

I usually keep things to myself, but my SIL has told me multiple times that I can vent to her if needed because she understood that I'm going through a lot of changes, adapting to motherhood, etc. I broke down this morning and explained the situation to her. She said she understood his point because they've only seen baby once since he's been home and didn't get to hold him then (he was asleep while they were here). I invited her and BIL over this past weekend but she never responded. Sent me tik toks, but didn't acknowledge the invitation at all.

I've explained to everyone I'm just going by what my pediatrician is recommending to me. I feel like nobody understands where I'm coming from and they think I'm just being a B****. I sincerely wasn't expecting her to basically take his side especially after I told her how hard this has been on me and that I'm at my breaking point.

I completely understand now why so many women struggle postpartum and feel incredibly lonely. I'm just trying to make the best choices for my little one and all anyone else cares about is when they can hold him. I do get that they have excitement and want to love on him. I want him to have his family too but don't want to risk him getting sick either. I'm starting to feel like I'm wrong but our pediatrician agreed with me so how can I be wrong here?

My husband texted me this morning and apologized but idk, I feel like the damage is done. If he had my back to begin with or even simply asked me before inviting everyone after I asked him to after the first time this happened, we could have attempted to talk about it first and actually plan it out before having to go back and reschedule it. I feel incredibly disrespected with this and extremely lonely. I feel bad for trying to do what I think is best but also know I probably shouldn't feel that way. I don't know. I'm tired of crying over feeling guilty and feeling like I'm being a mean person. I'm tired of him getting mad at me and having this argument over and over. I'm tired of second guessing myself. I'm just exhausted.

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I understand being excited about a new family member. I respect that. But my MIL is teetering on the edge of my boundaries. I'm tired of it already and feel like it's just going to get worse. Talking to my husband does nothing. He always takes her side no matter what. He's always done this where she is concerned and I know if I even try I'll just leave the convo feeling like crap. I'm not sure what to do.

My own mother has given me space and I deeply appreciate it. She's let me have time to settle into my new role. My MIL keeps pushing for things. My baby will be 4 weeks this week. I've allowed his both of his grandparents and my brother/sister in law to come visit if/when they want. Brother and sister in law haven't been pushy at all, only came over when my MIL invited them over to our house, without telling us btw. I only found out they were coming because my SIL told me a couple days before as we were discussing something else. That was kinda rude, I thought, as he was only 2 weeks old then, but BIL and SIL had visited in the hospital already so I let it go.

Yesterday my MIL sent my husband a text saying that her brother and his wife want to see baby. This aunt knows how to contact me and already told me she would wait until I was ready. MIL wants to come over again this weekend with them. My plan was to wait until baby is 6 weeks old for anyone other than grandparents or his aunt and uncle to visit. Idk if it's just me being hormonal but I'm getting sick of MIL doing this type of thing. If I'm ready for a new visitor I'll let them know. I don't need her trying to coordinate this stuff or whatever. It's annoying.

We live far out and NONE of these people have ever come out here to hang with just us before, and that notion may have something to do with my irritation too. They've come for birthday parties for us, but never just socially. I also really like my privacy and am extremely introverted which probably doesn't help. I have 3 dogs that aren't used to all these people/visits either because no one ever bothered to come over despite us inviting them. Our house is kinda small. We don't have a lot of space inside and because once again, no one came over here, we only have a 3 person couch, 2 person dining table, etc. The first time MIL came over after he was born she said we needed a bigger dining table for everyone and I just thought where tf would I even put it?

Idk the point is, I get that she's excited about her grandson. I'm happy that he is loved by so many. But he's my child. I had lost hope of even having one at all and my pregnancy was a little complicated. Ultrasounds every two weeks, lots of worry with that. I know that makes her more happy he's here as well but I still feel like I should be the one inviting people when I'm ready or when I want them here, including her. She's dropped in on us once and I was of course struggling that day. That caused some problems between me and my husband too. Just feel like this would be easier if she would respect my space right now and let me make those decisions. I've had other issues with breastfeeding, not producing enough milk, which makes me feel bad. I wish I could just focus on my boy, have the space to do it, and quite frankly I don't want to share him very much, especially while he's so small. This is already going by so fast I don't want to waste any second more than I already have to like with showering or him taking a nap or me sleeping at night.

Maybe I'm just being overly possessive or unreasonable? I do feel bad for thinking negatively about it/her but I can't help it. It's been bothering me a lot and on my mind more than I want it to be. I don't have anyone to talk to about it either because I don't want to be like, talking bad about her to anyone. It helps to be able to rant about it somewhere though at least.

How do I get play store/books to stop suggesting certain books to me. I've deleted history, deleted the cache/data, said not interested for over 2 years now and they're still there. I don't have any books related to these suggestions in my library but it shows up under my series tab and there is no option to remove it from there either. I'm tired of seeing these suggestions. The help center was no help at all. I don't know what to do anymore nothing seems to work.