r/abortion

I was 7 weeks & 1 day pregnant when I took the abortion pills on July 9th and 10th. I bled and passed clots for 2 full weeks and then the bleeding stopped completely. I had unprotected sex on July 23 and he did not ejaculate inside of me. I took a plan b that same night just to take extra precautions. I bled for a week after we had sex. I took a first response at home pregnancy test on August 5th and it was still positive. I took another a couple of days later and it was still positive. I went to the ER on August 13th and they took blood, urine and they did a traditional and a trans vaginal ultra sound. The urine and blood test came back positive and my hcg level was at a 75. Neither of the ultrasounds showed a pregnancy or an ectopic pregnancy. I did have some endometrium thickening but no signs of a pregnancy that they could see. I took another at home test 2 days after going to the ER and it was still positive. I’m honestly just an anxious mess and im hoping that it is not a new pregnancy.

Hi everyone, I’m posting this because I figured it might help other people as some of your post has helped me. I’m five weeks today. I took the first portion of the medical abortion pill yesterday at 5 PM. It’s now 5:30 PM the next day. This morning when I woke up, I took my normal medication (suboxone) — please don’t judge. I have been clean for years … once I left home I was feeling pretty normal. On my way to work before I got there. I took a little bit of cannabis, that usually calms me down because I’ve been feeling really anxious. I figured it would help. Well, I was very wrong about that. It sent me in a full-blown panic attack. I was trembling. My heart was racing beating through my chest. I couldn’t even hold my hand out without it shaking tremendously. I had to cancel my entire day.
I ended up going to the walk-in clinic and they checked my vitals. Everything was normal. I tried to go to the hospital emergency room but the wait time in Canada is absolutely disgusting. I would’ve been there probably for 30 hours – no lie
so here we are in about 20 minutes I’ll be taking the four pills (misoprostol) I’ll be inserting them vaginally. I have a comfy blanket watching movies heating pad. I took 800 mg of ibuprofen 20 minutes ago and my partner is here in case anything happens. I also sent him a list of emergency situations and what he should do. I am petrified to save the lease so if anyone has any advice or anything at all, please comment because I’ll be trying to distract myself over the next little while and I’ll also update you guys in a few hours. I forgot to mention that I spoke to the abortion doctor once I got home and told her everything I just said, and she said that cannabis can interact with the abortion meds that can increase the effects of Thc supposedly and she said it could’ve just been the perfect storm, but it was awful. I am praying this second dose is a breeze like some of yours has been.
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7:15pm — approximately an hour and a half since inserting miso, have minimal cramping maybe a two out of 10 no bleeding yet. Please pray for me.

aaaaaah. ill be 4 weeks tomorrow and decided an abortion would be the best option just due to life circumstances for me and my boyfriend. ive ordered the pills— and decided i wanted to wait until 6ish weeks to take them as i want to have a scan done for memory purposes. does that make me delusional? a hypocrite? idk. no reservations as for the abortion itself. but i want to remember this? the fact that we actually created life together just unfortunately at a very bad time? i would love to hear other perspectives and stories. thank you all so much.

I had an abortion very recently at around 7 weeks, and I’m struggling much more emotionally than I expected. I’m hoping to hear from people who have experienced similar feelings afterward.

When I found out I was pregnant, I felt very sure that I couldn’t have another baby right now. I already have a 2-year-old daughter who I am the primary parent of, and her pregnancy and the first couple years of parenting were incredibly difficult. The thought of going through pregnancy again while simultaneously raising a toddler felt overwhelming.

I’m also rebuilding my career and trying to become more financially independent. Another baby right now would have completely changed the direction of my life.

The relationship situation made everything even more complicated.

The father and I have been in an on/off relationship for about a year. We love each other, but he has struggled tremendously with knowing what he wants.
The last time we got back together, I specifically told him I would only try again if he genuinely saw the potential for a future together. He told me he did. We talked about marriage, what living together might look like, and even potentially having a baby someday.
Then, only 2–3 weeks later, someone asked him if he could see himself with me in five years and he immediately said no. He broke up with me and told me he didn’t see a future together.

Then I found out I was pregnant.

I remember thinking that I absolutely could not risk ending up as a single mother of two young children, potentially navigating two different co-parenting situations. I couldn’t make such a huge decision based on hoping that our relationship would eventually become stable.

At the same time, this wasn’t a situation where raising another child would have been financially impossible. He owns a home, makes very good money, and has family who likely would have been extremely involved and helpful.

But I didn’t have the security of knowing that I had a stable partner who was choosing a life with me.
So I had the abortion.

And now that it’s over, I’m having thoughts I genuinely wasn’t expecting.

I miss the pregnancy. I’ve wondered who the baby would have been. I keep imagining the possibility that maybe we could have figured everything out. I’ve caught myself wishing the abortion somehow didn’t work, even though I know that’s extremely unlikely.
The father is grieving too. He has told me that he loves me and that maybe we could have made having a child work someday, but that right now wasn’t the right time.

And hearing that somehow hurts even more.
Part of me wishes that when I became pregnant, he had said, “This wasn’t planned and the timing isn’t good, but I love you, I want a future with you, and we’ll figure this out together.”

I don’t mean that I wanted him to pressure me into continuing a pregnancy. Ultimately it was my decision. I think I just desperately wish the circumstances surrounding the pregnancy had been different.
I knew logically why I was having the abortion. I knew another pregnancy and baby would be extremely difficult right now. I knew my relationship wasn’t stable enough to build such a huge decision around.
But now my brain keeps showing me the best possible version of what could have happened instead — us somehow working things out, raising the baby together, his family helping, and everything eventually being okay.

And I can’t know whether that would actually have happened.

I think I’m grieving more than just the pregnancy. I’m grieving the baby that could have existed, the relationship and family I wanted us to eventually have, and this imaginary version of my life where the circumstances had been different and I could have felt happy about being pregnant.

I’m also realizing that I probably need to finally end this relationship for good. He has admitted that he doesn’t know what he wants and maybe needs to be single for a while to figure that out. I love him deeply, but I can’t keep building my life around the possibility that someday he’ll be ready to build one with me.
I just didn’t expect all of these feelings to hit me afterward.

For anyone who chose an abortion because you genuinely believed it was the right decision at the time but experienced grief, regret, or “what if” thoughts afterward — did it get easier?
How did you stop idealizing the life that might have happened if you’d made the other choice?

And is it possible to eventually reach a place where you can miss the pregnancy and grieve what could have been without feeling like that means you made the wrong decision?

Hello, I am the boyfriend writing this. We found out she was pregnant two days ago, and we have been so terrified. As much as it hurts us to get this abortion, we have to do it. We are both in college barely getting by with bills and everything. She doesn't have parents in the picture, and my parents are just like me, barely getting by since they are taking care of my little brothers, and my father has a very ill disease. We both decided to get the abortion. Though we don't know how we live in Oklahoma and can't go to a clinic here, we would have to drive to a neighboring state, and that we couldn't do as well since school starts this upcoming Monday. She is still very early, maybe 2 weeks into the pregnancy, and we are trying to get the pill, though every clinic needs her there, which she can't since she's in camp with our college and doesn't know what to do. Thankfully at my job I'm off until Monday, which is when school starts the 24th. What do I do to help my girlfriend? She was crying on my arms lastnight when we were trying to go to sleep, saying how scared she is and that she doesn't want to start getting morning sickness and her belly is starting to show, and I felt helpless because I am part of the problem we are in. This problem I just don't know what to do. I've been trying to see if I could just go to a clinic and get the pill for her, but unfortunately she has to be here as well, which she can't since she's busy with school. Is there anything I can do? Could y'all please help us, please.

Okay this is gonna be a weird question. I am 6 weeks pregnant and have an abortion scheduled for September 1st. Obviously I am scared shitless, and I hate that this was a decision I had to make. With that out of the way, my question is: if I am already pregnant, do I have to use a condom for the next few days if I want to be intimate with my partner?? I mean, Im already pregnant, and my abortion isnt for another almost two weeks, I should be good, right? This might sound selfish, but Ive been going through a lot with ya know, finding out Im pregnant and needing to schedule an abortion, and I would like to be intimate to get my mind off of it a bit. Sorry about this lmao but thank you guys!

Edit: I got pregnant from a broken condom, failed Plan B, I promise I wasn’t trying to do this regularly lol

I’m 31 and unexpectedly pregnant. My fiance is 33. We both want children eventually, and had actually discussed starting to try around the end of this year/January. Nothing set in stone though but we’ve been talking losely about it.

The timing now feels really wrong. We have everything perfectly ready ”on paper” - high incomes, stable jobs, supportive families. But our relationship has been a bit unstable over the past few months with conflicts around chores etc. and we’ve only just started couples therapy. We also want to buy an apartment and settle into our life and figure out our issues first before we bring someone else into the mix**.**

Neither of us was happy or excited when we saw the positive test. We were both shocked and panicked. My fiance is supportive of whatever I decide

I don’t have a strong baby longing right now (never had), and a big part of me feels “not yet.”

When I imagine carrying the pregnancy to term, giving birth in April 2027 and actually living my life as a new mom with a baby, I feel anxious. It doesn’t make me feel excited or happy. Honestly, it feels like something I don’t want at all right now.

But I’m absolutely terrified of having an abortion and regretting it. I keep thinking about the baby this could have become and whether I would wish I had continued the pregnancy. My age is also stressing me out. I’m 32 next year and scared that if we have an abortion and try again later, I might struggle to get pregnant or regret waiting.

I have an appointment at an abortion clinic next week, and I’m lucky to be in a place where it is a completely normal procedure, but I’m still so conflicted and I can’t sleep, eat or function normally having to think about this decision to keep or abort.

For those who were in a similar situation - early 30s, wanting children eventually, everything set up ”on paper” but feeling the timing was wrong - how did you make your decision? Did you regret having an abortion later?

I figured I would provide an update so no one thinks I died! Monday I posted about having a LOT of bleeding and then dizziness in what I thought was my first period after my medical abortion, which was 4 weeks ago. I was bleeding through a super tampon on top of a pad every 1-2 hours, and huge clots and big splashes of blood were coming out every time I sat on the toilet.

I learned that I was not supposed to be using tampons, only maxi pads, and I wonder if using the tampons was stopping the flow somehow of blood and caused more clots. I also took a bath, which I think loosened things up and caused lots more clots and blood to come out, which is when the dizziness started. I ate some food hoping it would help the dizziness but it did not. I called my doctor (I have been out of town) and they said to go to the ER.

I went to Urgent Care first because I stubbornly did not want to go to the ER, but they then sent me to the ER, where I had a blood test taken. My hemoglobin was 12.2 so not quite low enough to be considered anemic, but definitely on the low side. They did a pelvic exam and the doctor could see pregnancy tissue coming out of my cervix.

They then did a vaginal ultrasound and saw some more pregnancy tissue inside of my uterus, along with two small 1cm fibroids that I didn’t know were there. This was at about midnight. Eventually at 4am the OB/GYN came and told me about the retained pregnancy tissue, and recommended a D&C (dilation and cutterage) which is a when they dilate the cervix and scrape the tissue out of the uterus. She also suggested that I could get the tissue sucked out in outpatient with no general anesthesia, but that sounded awful so I elected to have the surgery in the hospital.

I spent the night in the hospital and they did the surgery yesterday at 12:30pm. It went well and I feel a lot better today (just a lot of fatigue) with minimal spotting. Anyway that’s what happened! Hope my experience might help someone, if you’re having a lot of bleeding and dizziness weeks later after a medical abortion it’s a good idea to go to the ER. The retained pregnancy tissue can cause sepsis which no one wants. Thanks for reading!

So after a lot of back and forth and indecisiveness I think it’s best I abort this baby. I just found out the gender and my partner ruined the moment. No matter how much I wanted this to work I realize he will never change, he’s a shitty person and he does not deserve such a blessing from someone like me. I want to be done with him. No attachments no coparenting nothing. I hate that he brought me this far to drop the ball now but truth be told I really believed he was open to working on himself. It sucks that such a beautiful journey was robbed from me and I fear I may not get the chance again I’m 32 but when I think of the life ahead of me. Single motherhood coparenting with someone I hate it’s not what I signed up for. I’m sad depressed. Still slightly unsure if I want to go through with the abortion but I will be scheduling that appointment just in case.

25th last month I did my MA seen doctor two weeks ago and my hcg was 89 which was to be expected but now a week and two days later it’s at 59 ! Why it is dropping so slowly ? Can I do anything to make it drop faster ? Please don’t attack me I’m seeking answers

I am a 38 year old woman who has had a pretty turbulent life to date (poverty, parental alcoholism and domestic abuse as a child, inpatient for anorexia, sexual and emotional abuse in adulthood, drug addiction, abortion). I’ve worked so incredibly hard on myself in adulthood and especially over the last 10 years. I’ve managed to cultivate a successful career, good savings, bought my own house and car, have a great group of friends, amazing relationship with my 14 year old niece and the world’s best cat and have been lucky enough to be able to travel the world - India, Japan, Thailand, America, most of Europe. Life has been pretty good in the end. Then, 1.5 years ago I met my current partner, he has 2 kids (5,7) from his previous relationship and when we met he was going through a really messy divorce. We had a conversation and he asked me if I wanted kids to which I replied ‘I’m happy either way’ and I really meant it. Then something happened, and the more we spoke about it, the more I realised that for the first time in my life it was actually a possibility for me to have a baby and a family and I got excited and said I did want one. We rushed into it, as I was 37 and didn’t know if I’d be able to get pregnant etc but I fell pregnant really quickly. As soon as I found out I panicked, we didn’t love together, we’d only been together 6 months, I barely knew his kids and he was still going through the divorce. Ultimately, I went back and forth until I was 13 weeks, trying to find a way that I could be happy about having the baby but my mental health was so bad (self harming, awful anxiety and depression), that I felt I had no choice but to have a termination. Fast forward a year and we are pregnant again. He is divorced, I have a great relationship with his kids, we’ve been together 18 months, we’ve been through a huge life crisis together and come out stronger, I thought I would be okay this time. I am not. Whilst I’m not as bad as I was last year, I am filled with fear, dread and panic. What if the baby isn’t healthy? (I am vaping at 7 weeks and struggling to stop as keep changing my mind about whether to have the baby or not and getting mixed messages from
Midwife and internet about how bad vaping really it), what if my mental health gets even worse, I have PND and hate the baby, what if I become suicidal, what if I can’t cope as a mother, what if my partner and I break up, what if I can’t cope with the blended family dynamic etc etc. the anxiety is overwhelming. I am also struggling with my eating disorder and body image a lot. All that said, I am 38. I have a very supportive partner, I have a stable career and savings, and this could be everything I ever wanted. Is this just perinatal depression? I’ve spoke to my GP and am getting support but ultimately I’m the one that needs to make this decision. I have no idea what to do, I’m just so scared of making the wrong decision.

I am 19teen year old college student , livin with my family here at Dwarka Mor and I missed my period by about a week, but I didn’t think much of it because my periods were usually delayed every month. However, because of my anxiety, I decided to take a home pregnancy test one morning and it came out positive.

Day 1 — The Positive Test

That first night was terrifying. I kept thinking, What am I going to do now? I wasn’t earning, and I had no idea how I was going to manage everything. I spent the entire night on Reddit and ChatGPT, searching for information about abortion, costs, procedures, and trying to figure out how I would arrange the money.

I was having intense anxiety attacks and felt like I was going to lose my mind. At one point, I even felt like I couldn’t go on. I was completely alone, panicking, with only my laptop in front of me while trying to figure out my finances.

Out of anger and fear, I blocked my boyfriend because, in that moment, I felt like he was the reason I was pregnant and that I had to deal with everything alone.

Day 2 — Telling Him

The next day, I took another pregnancy test just to be sure. It was positive again.

I decided to unblock my boyfriend and text him, at least to ask for financial support. But he was completely blank too. We were both basically pocket-money kids in India with no independent income, so neither of us knew what to do.

That night, we decided to tell his mother everything and ask for her help. When he told her, she was furious and almost killed him, but eventually, she agreed to help us financially and take care of us through the process.

Day 3 — Visiting the Gynecologist

We went to a gynecologist ( Janak puri- New Delhi) . I was trying my best to hide my anxiety and act professional, but deep down, I was absolutely terrified.

Thankfully, the gynecologist was incredibly welcoming and calm. She handled everything very gently, which made me feel a little safer.

Her consultation fee was ₹300. She recommended an ultrasound and some blood tests. I had a transvaginal ultrasound to confirm that it was a normal 5 week intrauterine pregnancy, and everything looked normal. My blood tests were normal as well. The tests together cost approximately ₹2,500.

The doctor explained several options for abortion, including a surgical procedure and a medication abortion. Because I couldn’t afford an expensive surgery, I decided to go with the pills, which cost me another ₹500.

After having lunch, I took the mifepristone tablet and went home.

I was extremely scared because I had been told that I could experience heavy bleeding and severe cramps, and that sometimes some pregnancy tissue can remain in the uterus after a medication abortion and require further treatment.

Day 4 — Waiting

I only experienced some light spotting.

Day 5 — Misoprostol

This was the day I was most afraid of. I had to take the four misoprostol tablets, which I knew could cause bleeding and cramping.

I decided to stay at my boyfriend’s house with his mother so that my own mother wouldn’t become suspicious. At least there, if anything went wrong, someone could take me to the hospital.

At 12 PM, I took all four tablets together as instructed, keeping them under my tongue. It was extremely scary for me because I hate taking medicines, and the thought of keeping four tablets in my mouth for 30 minutes made me anxious that I might vomit.

Somehow, I managed to keep them there for the full 30 minutes and then swallowed the remaining medicine with water.

Based on everything I had read on Reddit and ChatGPT, I expected bleeding to start within a few hours. But nothing happened.

As the hours passed, my anxiety became worse. I kept thinking, What if the abortion failed? What if the medicine didn’t work?

Eventually, I called the clinic. The doctor calmly reassured me that bleeding varies from person to person and told me to wait another two to three days.

Day 6 — Still Waiting

There was still no heavy bleeding. I only had mild spotting.

Day 7 — Finally Bleeding

That evening, I finally started bleeding and passed some blood clots.

But surprisingly, the bleeding was quite normal. It wasn’t extremely heavy, and I didn’t experience the severe pain I had been expecting. I only had mild, manageable cramps and some back pain.

I continued bleeding for around six to seven days, after which it completely stopped.

However, I became worried again.

I kept thinking, What if the abortion failed because I didn’t bleed heavily? What if there is still pregnancy tissue inside my uterus?

I had to wait two weeks before getting an ultrasound to confirm whether everything had gone normally.

Week 2 — Follow-Up

I went back to my gynecologist for a follow-up. She asked me some routine questions and recommended another ultrasound to make sure there was no retained pregnancy tissue in my uterus.

The ultrasound came back completely normal.

The abortion had been successful.

There had been no excessive bleeding, no unbearable pain, and no complications ,just a relatively normal medication-abortion experience that was completely different from the terrifying scenario I had imagined in my head.

My gynecologist prescribed iron supplements and some additional supplements, which cost me another ₹2,500.

Total Cost

In total, my entire abortion process at a private clinic cost me approximately ₹5,700.

Looking back, the hardest part wasn’t even the physical process. It was the fear of the unknown , the endless Googling, Reddit searches, anxiety attacks, financial stress, and constantly wondering whether something was going wrong.

I was terrified almost every step of the way, but eventually, everything turned out to be okay.

I live in USA, MS. My period is 4 days late and I've taken two tests and they've come back negative. Even though they are negative I still don't want to take a chance and somehow that result changes later if I take another one in a week or so.

I checked the two websites that sell the pills for $150. Apparently it's illegal to have them mailed to me in the state I reside (or a risk). I was going to get it mailed to my sister's address who is in LA (the state, not city) but it says that's a risk too? So should I just take a chance and use my address? I do have a friend that lives in GA I could send to her address but I don't think I'll be able to pick them up in person (6 hr drive).

Anyway, I think I'll just risk doing jail time because this is annoying.

Hi everyone, I recently figured out I’m pregnant and that I am 10weeks and 2 days, I am not a position to be pregnant. I ordered some abortion pills off of abuzz. Will it still be successful? I am really scared

Hi guys, I’m currently 10 weeks and 2 days pregnant, and I have 1 mifepristone and 8 misoprostol pills. I’m looking for some instructions and advice on how to use them as safely and effectively as possible, since this is my first time. I’d also like to know what I should prepare beforehand and what I should expect after taking them. Thank you so much

I (F33) just found out I’m pregnant, and I’m certain I don’t want to continue the pregnancy. Not sure if I should tell my husband or just go through with a termination.

I just found out I’m pregnant (currently probably 5 week). It wasn’t planned, and I had actually taken Plan B, but unfortunately it didn’t work. I am certain that I do not want to continue with the pregnancy for a number of reasons, including my mental and physical health, finances, my career, and where my husband and I currently are in our relationship.

My husband (M39) has always wanted children. I have been on the fence, and he has always known that. More recently, I had actually started coming around to the idea and told him that, if certain things fell into place, I would be happy to start trying when I turned 35, which is less than a year and a half away.

We are currently in a good place overall, but we only started couples therapy a few months ago, and I don't feel like we have the strong foundation that I would want before bringing a child into our lives. I am also the breadwinner in our household. I'm waiting on a promotion at work in the next 6–7 months, I'm currently trying to figure out some hormonal issues with my body, and honestly, I don't want to give up my time, independence, and financial flexibility just yet.

I found out while I was on the phone with a friend, so I ended up telling her. I know she will support whatever decision I make because she knows our history.

The difficult part is that this has actually happened before. A few years ago, right before I turned 30, I also became pregnant after taking Plan B. At the time, my husband didn't even have a job, and I told him very clearly that we were not in a position to have a child. He was understandably disappointed and sad, but ultimately told me that the decision was mine. He went with me to the abortion clinic, although he waited outside because he couldn't bear to see it.

Obviously, we're in a much better position financially and otherwise now, but I still don't feel ready. And I don't want to make this decision based solely on the fact that we're in a better place than we were five years ago when I know, deep down, that I am not ready to have a child now.

I also know this will be much harder for my husband this time because he has always wanted children and I had recently started talking about potentially trying in the near future. I feel guilty knowing how much this will hurt him, but I also don't feel like I can continue a pregnancy simply because he wants a child when I am certain that I don't want one right now.

I know I want the abortion. My question is whether I should tell my husband beforehand, knowing how badly he may want to continue the pregnancy, or have the abortion and move forward. I don't want to lie to him, but I'm also afraid that telling him will turn a decision I've already made into a fight or make him feel like he should have a say. I genuinely believe that if things keep moving like they have, that I will be ready at 35.

Just found out I am pregnant, I have 2 older kids (3&5) Husband has vasectomy planned. It’s not that I don’t want another baby, I just don’t think financially or mentally is the right thing. I am guessing I am around 5 weeks. I ordered pills online but am terrified of taking them. I have anxiety/health anxiety and have mostly read horror stories. I don’t need it sugar coated that it will be a great experience, just some reassurance. I don’t have anyone I can tell besides my husband.

Hi everyone. I am in an incredibly terrifying and desperate situation right now and I am panicking. I just found out I am pregnant, even though my partner and I were careful and used condoms. My parents are extremely strict, and I am not exaggerating when I say my life will be in danger if they find out about this. I absolutely cannot carry this pregnancy, and I don't have anyone in my personal life I can safely turn to for help.
I am begging for any information on safe and discreet abortion options available to me. Are there specific pills I can get, trusted doctors, or confidential organizations that help women in this situation? What are the exact steps I need to take to do this safely?

If anyone has been through this or knows how to navigate this discreetly, please comment or send me a private message. I am completely lost and really need your guidance. Thank you.

21F needs help.

I found out i was pregnant 2 weeks ago and im already 4 weeks in. Im not ready to keep it and i would like to ask for advice. in my state, its illegal to have one and im looking for sources online where i can buy medicine to induce abortions. to those who had abortions before, how many miso medicine did you take and how many mife medicine? what week were you in when you did the procedure? did you do D&C afterwards or did you not? do you always have to do D&C after MA's? please i really need answers. 🥲

Hi from 🇭🇰, I did a misoprostol only abortion and I bled quite a bit that night I took it (specially after the second round) but not enough to where I could call it “heavy” although it would pool and gush out a lot when I would go to the toilet to pee. The next day (now) I am getting brown discharge with clumps and blood clots but not too much. For reference I was only given 10 misoprostol in the pharmacy I went to (I did not go to a clinic, otherwise I’d need my moms consent as I’m 17) and so I took three for the first round, four in the second and three again in the last. I got A LOT of intense cramping, diarrhoea and nausea but the lack of blood is making me nervous and making me think it's ineffective. Is it possible for me to take it again? But, the full amount this time? I’m so worried.. I’m currently 17 years old and I’m turning 18 in just about 6 weeks. I took a test and it said I was 2-3 weeks but that means I’m actually 4-5 weeks now. I’m so worried.. I had a surgical abortion at 16 and my mom knew about it, she was so depressed and so was I and I just can’t go through that again. I don’t know what to do if this wasn’t effective. I need any advice I can get