r/Preschoolers

Our daughter is nearly three and is generally wonderful. She is whip smart, empathetic, kind, loving, etc. All that goes out the window when we are out in public because every single time, she goes nuts and sprints away from us at random. ESPECIALLY at crowded public events and shopping trips where our hands are full. It’s heart stopping and insanely stressful. You can actually spot the twinkle in her eyes when the urge hits.

She will rip herself out of holding hands, and ends up halfway across a room, park or a busy sidewalk while we have to go full Olympian, all the while yelling her name like she’s a naughty otf-leash dog. When we finally have her, she is usually dying of laughter, then dramatically collapses to the ground, which makes it look like we are dragging her or being rough, which is so not the case. We end up feeling frustrated, flustered and defeated and it ruins whatever activity we were doing.

All this to say: is there any preventing this, apart from getting one of those leashes my parents used on us kids in the 90‘s? When does this phase end? Adding to my frustrations is the fact that none of my friends‘ kids did this, and I always get it with the “Wow! That’s so crazy, no, *insert name* never did anything like that!” when I ask for advice.The internet says she has ADHD, which honestly might be true, because her Dad has that and used to do the same thing growing up. I‘d ask his parents what they did about it, but they were not attentive or involved parents, so I wouldn’t take their advice. Anyway, some day I’d love to take a walk outside with my kid without having a heart attack.

Kiddos' preschool teachers mentioned we need to work on fine motor skills at home, since kiddo has trouble putting on and taking off shoes, using toddler scissors, and sorting small items with tweezers etc.

​The problem is that whenever I set up crafts or toys that can help with working on fine motor skills, my little guy just finds it boring and refuses to engage. I always make sure no TV or music is on so it's not distracting. I have tried setting things up in the morning on weekends when he has plenty of energy, but that still is a flat refusal. I tried showing him pictures or videos beforehand so he knows what to expect, but that approach didn't work either.

​His teachers mentioned he enjoys craft time at school, but I think it is because he is surrounded by other kids doing the same thing. it is just me trying to guide him through these activities at home.

​If anyone has practical tricks that actually get a preschooler interested in this stuff without turning into a daily battle, I am all ears.

Our 3.5 year old son has a tooth infected. They told us it needs to get removed under general anesthesia. We are ofc scared like every parent. We sent him to 3 different clinics just to get another opinon but they all agreed in it. He will be having it in children hospital which puts my mind a little to ease. Can you share your experiences ? He has 2 small cavities and a teeth that needs to be removed. We are no doubt so scared

My 3 year old has been in his own room since he was 7 months, and in a floor toddler bed since 2.5. Until the last few weeks, he’s stayed in his bed the whole night and never got up. However, in the last few weeks, he’s gotten up every night constantly. For many different reasons. Every night we put him to bed, and he’ll chill for a bit but then get up to come see us. Can be once or sometimes up to 6+ times. Various reasons (I want socks, I want a hug, I can’t find X plushy, or just not wanting to sleep).

Overnight sometimes he gets up because he has a nightmare. Since he’s potty trained though, he wakes us to go pee even if he has a pull up (we potty trained beginning of Sep).

He goes to bed around 8, doesn’t fall asleep until at least 845 sometimes 9. Wakes in the morning between 6-7. One nap between 1-3, often just an hour at most.

We’ve tried everything. We try to stay quiet and not exciting and bring him back to bed everytime. If he wants a hug, we tell him we can give one but only in bed cause I feel heartless saying no. I want to be more harsh but he’ll just start crying loudly and he shares a wall with his 8 month old brother.

I’m at a loss. Any advice? If not advice, please tell me this is normal behaviour and if anyone has ever gone through this

My 3-year-old daughter started preschool in July, and since then we’ve noticed a pretty major shift in her personality.

Before preschool, she was extremely social and interactive. She would ALWAYS greet random people in the condo elevator, at the mall, etc. She’d ask people their names, compliment what they were wearing, wish them a good day, and generally just engage with everyone. She became quite well-known in our building because people would always comment on how chatty and friendly she was for such a young child.
Since starting preschool, though, she has become almost the complete opposite around other people.

She actually seems fairly confident at school (drop-offs and pick-ups are smooth) and she apparently communicates quite a lot with her teachers. Her teachers also describe her as one of the happiest kids at school.
But outside of school, she barely talks to anyone anymore. She doesn’t greet neighbours, and if someone asks her a question, she often won’t respond. Instead, she might do some silly actions or just run away.

Her behaviour at home has changed quite a bit too. She seems much more emotional and is very quick to cry or scream over things that previously wouldn’t have bothered her.

I should mention that her transition into preschool itself was incredibly smooth. From literally day one, she happily went into school without much fuss, and we’ve consistently been told that she’s a very happy child there. She also seems to be doing well socially with her teachers.

We’ve also been quite careful about her sleep schedule, diet, etc., so I’m wondering if this could simply be a normal developmental response to starting preschool, or whether there could be something else going on.
Has anyone experienced something similar with their 3-year-old after starting preschool/daycare?

I’d really appreciate hearing other parents’ experiences and whether this is something I should just give her time with, or something worth discussing with her teachers/pediatrician.

My daughter is 4 yo and will need to do monthly infusions at the hospital (about 4 hours). Among other activities, I was thinking we can work on reading. We read a lot and she’s expressed interest and knows the sounds of the letter.

Does any one know of starting to read resources or activity books? We’ve tried sounding out words in books every once and awhile, but tbh English doesn’t always make sense haha.