Be me 18 in 2011 going to a "rave", its a club with a $5 entry fee women free. You go in people dancing, buying $3 drinks huge dance floor, I walk into the dance floor no idea how to dance, many single people by themselves looking to dance with someone, a girl(my future wife) backs up towards me and starts dancing with me, we hit off and buy her a drink, talk tell her its my first show she laughs we go back to dancing, months later I end up dating her and few years later I marry her. We still go to shows often even with kids(baby sitter watches them).

Years go by and the scene drastically changes for the worse:

entrance fees start applying to women who are not gorgeous, eventually everyone has to pay and the "fee" goes to $50 tickets sometimes way more, all women still have pay

Club now is often 50% dance floor 50% VIP

drinks are $15-$20 now

girls come with their girl friends, guys come with their guyfriends everyone is too scared to talk to each other so they dance with their friends. Ratios start skewing towards more guys because guys would pay $50 to get in than girls, no shame this is what I am seeing. Great for gay men, not really great for straight men.

Atp its just couples and friends dancing with each other, everyone is somehow vetted to be able to dance with each other and if someone tries to join in they are either shunned or pushed to the side.

Me looking back at this thinking, how many people missed their special one because of a $50 cover charge or the fact that he/she is with their friends and are initiated by talking to a group or the fact that if they go alone it will just be friends/couples that go to these events.

The part that scares me the most is if I was in this current generations rave club scene I would have never met my amazing wife and if I did go to these events as a single person or with friends, what would even be the point? to blow a bunch of money and not even have someone you can befriend or even go home with? I hope the message here does not get lost but personally I think the club rave scene is dying in a sea of greed.

A little over a year ago I bought some of their embroidered floral pieces before I realized IHeartRaves really isn't the quality I thought it was (and after reading more, it seems like a lot of it is basically dropshipped).

I ended up returning my order and found out they do store credit instead of refunds, so now I have money just sitting in my account that I'd rather not let go to waste.

I don't really want to support them further, and I've since been trying to buy from smaller makers and locals instead when I can, but I also don't want to throw away the credit I already have and just give them free money.. (literally $100+)

Are there any items from IHeartRaves that are actually decent quality or worth getting? Are there certain materials, collections, or products I should look for or avoid? I'd appreciate any recommendations from people who have ordered recently or know more than me. Thank you!!

My partner and I keep having these weird, negative interactions when we’re out dancing, and I’m wondering what we can do to diffuse things. We both dance pretty free-spiritedly, but sometimes when people see my boyfriend dancing, they’ll come up and comment specifically on how he’s dancing or copy his movements. Some times it seems in good fun, other times there is definitely a feel of negative energy to it. I love to see him dancing happy and free, but it seems like his expression of himself just draws people’s attention. I’m wondering if there’s something I can do or say to peacefully remind people to focus on themselves and not worry about other people. I definitely don’t want to be confrontational, but it’s not like we’re asking people to come up to us. We’re just there, vibing, enjoying everything, and then bam, someone enters into our little area and points out his dancing. I just don’t get it. There is absolutely no scenario where I would walk up to a complete stranger and make fun of or copy their dancing. Have you guys ever had something like this happen? If so, what’s a good way to shift the focus and keep things positive? Very much appreciate any advice!

Baby raver who’s born and raised in sd. R tunnel raves still a thing here?

im going to my very first rave next weekend and im so excited!! does anyone have any tips for a newcomer to the scene? all advice appreciated, thanks in advance! :D

As the title says I’ve been for quite a while looking for a cross body bag that could also be used around the waist that can carry the nights essentials when going to a club, party what may be. More particularly something that I can carry a small water bottle, phone, some essentials like wallet, earplugs and other things. The essential is that it should be able to be tightened to the body so as to not hit me when dancing around when the phone and water bottle are there. I had a North face borealis sling bag for the past while and the size was nice and it was comfortable but because of the shape it always annoyed me while dancing around if it had my phone inside for example. I was thinking of the north face terra 3L bag because the shape and size seem to be what I’m looking for (looks more skin tight) but I’m open to suggestions and/or reviews from y’all. Preferably not insanely expensive options and that they can be found at like Amazon, Zalando or asos since I need it shipped to Denmark. Any suggestions would be lovely. It’s for a festival I’m going for it being the afternoon/ night bag and also for going clubbing for many many hours so comfort is key! Thank you all 😁

I’m going to my first rave with a friend and was hoping I could get some outfit help it’s slurpee themed on 7/11 and I know that I want to wear light blues and some pinks/reds for the cherry and blue raspberry flavors

I live in a small city with barely any nightlife hoping to kind of get a rave experience. I wasn't expecting it to be this bad, they did not bother to make the music dance-able and even started playing musical theatre music. If it ended up being like a regular club whatever but it felt more like a cheap grade 7 dance.

I’m 6’3 so I enjoy keeping everybody around me cool, I don’t clack but I swing my fans really hard and always warp the pin or break one of the arms. Just want some durable fan recs that can last me years

Hi,

I'm still relatively new to the rave scene and i know social etiquette with the group is to like hug/have arms around the perimeter to keep us from being separated. But as the arm on the outside are we "noodling" and allowing the pusher to push against the person our arm is around or do we "stiff arm" or put up some more resistance?

This sounds like such a dumb question but I want to know because I caught the nastiest look after "stiff arming" when a dude pushed through and i wanted to know if I've been doing it wrong...

(also when i say "stiff arming" i literally just mean a stiff arm to maintain the space we had originally so the person im holding isnt as squished. (70-80% resistance)