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Hey ladies
I hope you’re all doing well.
I live in the U.K. London. I think most on here are in the USA?
I saw a friend yesterday and it started me thinking… why am I not believed?
Granted my friend is a little naive and wyt, although from an Eastern European country that is experiencing war.

I told her about my experiences of when I used to live outside London, and wyt women used to try and touch my hair and she was making excuses for them and I was like H no!
“Don’t tell me as a black person anything about it!”
She apologised and we continued on our evening.
However it got me thinking this is not a unique experience for me, I’ve experienced not being believed by black ppl too!
Particularly when I’ve experienced SA.
I have experienced not being believed by Black ppl when I’ve experienced SA and even my sister didn’t want to acknowledge it or accept it., although she hardly knew my ex.

I had a close African friend who didn’t believe me about my ex’s treatment towards me ( he was half white and half Chinese)
until he let the mask slip and she saw it with her own eyes! She apologised and told me she thought that I was the one causing trouble (and inferred that Black ppl do) mind you she had experienced DA from her wyt husband! (Make it make sense).
This is not to mention any other SA or harassment I’ve experienced.
I don’t get it, it’s not like I have a history of telling lies or saying things that are not true, yet the default is unbelief.

It’s always seems to be racism and misogyny where I’m not believed, (misogynoir).
Why is this still happening in 2026? Is it just me?

I grew up reading Maeve Binchy books and how she describes the various adventures of the characters living in Ireland. I live in London but haven’t met many Irish people here, so thought I’d put it out here and hope to meet more people 😊