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I decided to do my mom’s hair yesterday because I was bored lol + she said she had been struggling recently with making her twist outs look as good as they used to.

Y’all I cannot do hair AT ALL (I’ve never even done this on my own hair) but it was 15 days after Juneteenth so I felt like the ancestors were telling me to go for it and free her coils and kinks from 24/7 frizz.

IT TURNED OUT SO GOOD. We’ve never done wash and gos before (I (somewhat affectionately) call them “wash and nos” because if I simply washed my hair then left it alone it would be a dry, single strand knot mess after a while) but this semi (?) wash and confirmed our so so good. I’m so happy with it and she is too although she wishes it was a bit longer like how her stretched twist outs usually are but I think it’s so cute on her!

(TL;DR) Anyway enough yapping but here’s what I did:

✨ Aztec clay mask with apple cider vinegar (first time using this - was a bit nervous because she’s high porosity and I bought it for my build/ip prone low porosity hair but I think it helped a little with devotion. Make sure you don’t use a metal spoon like I did. Also mist your hair with water as needed when putting this in).
✨ Shampoo (I always do this 3 times, scratching or stimulating my scalp each time and detangling my hair on the last time)
✨ Conditioner
✨ Deep conditioner (with a plastic cap on and/or under the dryer (using a conditioner then deep conditioner is probably unnecessary and in the wrong order but whatever))
*If you are low porosity or just prone to flaky products in general, STOP here and mix the products on your hand to make sure they all work together and don’t clump up.*
✨ Leave in conditioner (Ors Olive Oil Rice Water and Electrolytes)
✨ Mousse (Design Essentials Almond and Avocado, but I’m gonna try this with The Doux Mousse since that works great for my hair as well)
✨ Comb (used a shower comb)
✨ Curling gel/cream (Aunt Jackie’s Don’t Shrink)
✨ Comb through again (I used the EZ Detangler Brush (my all time fav - I’ve had it for years. My mom doesn’t really like it that much on her hair but it helps with definition) vertically, under the hair as well as horizontally to really get that definition)
✨ Twist (small sections, I like to gently tug on the hair to make sure I’m twisting every inch as I go so I can make sure it’s as stretched as possible (kinda hard to explain, hope this made sense) then curl the ends around my finger)
✨Sit under dryer for 30mins (on high heat or if you’re high porosity) to 1hr (on low heat or if you’re low porosity)
✨ If you’re ready to go, skip to the last step, if not go to the next step
✨ If the “go” in wash in go is a no, go to bed bookie, let those twist sitttt
✨ Take out gently, fluff, and shake (if flat)

And viola! Hope this works for you 4C girlies, I’m so excited and can’t wait to try this on my own hair. We were doing this entire process from 3:30pm to 10:30pm 🥴 so definitely going to perfect this style and try to make it go quicker next time - the twisting took the most amount of time but I was also tired and twisting slowly so there’s that. If anyone has some tips for maintenance lmk. I’m hoping this will last at least 3 days in her hair (I will update the post later). 💜

ETA: I know this isn’t a “true” wash and go, but honestly I didn’t know what to call it 💀 I referred to it as a “semi (?) wash and go” but I also twisted it for sections/getting the hair out the way + a little bit of length + she was going to sleep. I’m going to try this on my own hair without twisting to see how it comes out. It did take 7 hours but that was because I was moving slowly, was winging it + we were playing around the whole time hahaha.

lnsta: chasingbrilliance

I had been watching The Pink Pill since I was a teenager, I’m 26 now and I just came to a realization. The pink pill and her content was made for black femcels.

At first it started out innocently. She would make content on how to be a high value black woman, and that appealed to me as a teenager. Then she started putting in messages such as being open-minded when it comes to dating, considering white men and not excluding them from your dating pool. Then she started bashing black men and talking about the ways black men are the worst. Then she started talking about solely dating white men.

This did a number on my young brain. I’m so happy I’m past this now and I’ve woken up to the truth. Did anyone else watch her?

Edit: Didn’t she cheat on her white husband with a Hispanic man?

I’m 18F, and I used to have lovely natural hair like it used to be so big up until a round a month ago.

For context, I had my hair in back to back braids for around 5 years. And my hair is naturally big. The picture I showed was my hair around March. And I loved it, I received so many compliments so decided to give the braids a break.

Unfortunately, I didn’t understand how to style it well and would blow dry every day for school without heat protectant.. which seemed to be working for me my hair was still long and nice. I noticed that the afros weren’t as giant but it didn’t bother me bc I wasn’t doing it correctly.

One day, I blow dried my hair and went out with my friends and didn’t plait it when I got back and let it shrink (it kept shrinking crazily around that time) and threw a bonnet on for the week (it was during exams and I was depressed)z

When I came to wash it I noticed, after I blow dried it was smaller, a lot smaller. And I started using a heat protectant ( IC fantasia, heat protector foam) and I felt like it was drying my hair and causing more breakage).

My hair feels and looks completely different, it doesn’t blow dry the same anymore, lacks thickness and SHRINKS LIKE CRAZY and I’m so so sad bc I really loved my hair and now I’m using half wigs and putting it in mini twists underneath. I don’t want to go back to braids bc everyone says I look so much better with my curls. 😖😖

Please help me I was literally crying about this bc I don’t know what happened.

The last slide is my hair now, shrinkage has occurred whilst it’s in mini twists and I’ve taken them out just to examine.

this girl was my fashion inspo forever, especially for plus size artsy girl fashion. just went to check her instagram after a long time and it’s gone, as with her tiktok! anyone used to follow her and know if she’s offline or has a new account?

Thomas Jefferson and Benjamin Franklin co-authored the line: "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal..."

Yet equality remains an elusive ideal 250 years after they wrote it down. And, America, I think we should still make that a reality.

I hope it's self-evident that black people really are just looking for equality and not revenge--to paraphrase the immortal words of Kimberly Jones. Look at all the race massacres in the last 250 years and you'll see that we have a clean record. (Except for that one time when Nat Turner had to bust a move.)

In the next 250 years, we will continue to demand and fight for equal opportunity, equal justice, and equal treatment for all. Even it feels like "reverse discrimination" to some of your citizens.

But.

It.

Ain't.

Wanted to show off a couple of my past hat creations✨

The long hair is a wig. The short is my natural hair . Not sure if I get extensions or just keep at it with my short hair also

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I'LL START

- K-pop ,I'M SORRY Every comeback look like a group project that got an A+ and I still don't hear what y'all hearing

- Grown adults in full kawaii fits Sometimes I be like... are we going to the mall or kindergarten pickup???

- Interracial Couple YouTube channels where the ENTIRE personality is "I'm Black, he's white 😱😱😱" or "Guess where we're from!!" BABY... Y'ALL ARE JUST DATING 😭 It be acting like the relationship was approved by Congress

Go argue about what y'all eating for dinner like the rest of us

- Anybody who willingly orders Arby's... I'M SORRY BUT I AUTOMATICALLY THINK YOU STINK. DON'T ASK ME FOR EVIDENCE. I DON'T HAVE ANY MY SPIRIT JUST TOLD ME

- Blue wigs. Pink wigs. Lime green wigs. Every time I see one I think, "Damn... Sonic the Hedgehog got another victim."

- Reddit accounts where the ENTIRE post history is selfies. Every subreddit. Every week. Friend... ARE YOU HERE TO DISCUSS THE TOPIC OR ARE WE HOLDING A PHOTOSHOOT???

YOUR TURN

LET ME SEE THE OPINIONS Y'ALL KEEP IN THE DRAFTS

I’ve seen people online saying things like “she’s all of us” or calling her the only hero in the photo, and while I understand the sentiment behind it, it’s yet another example of black women being forced to occupy a “heroic” position in society without a choice in the matter. I’m tired of us having to be on the frontlines and having to be strong all the time. It reminds me of that tweet by some famous white author about how “black women are going to save the world” or something like that. I don’t want to save the world, I just want to exist in peace. Anyway I hope the woman in this photo is ok, my heart aches for her.