u/DragLower8677

Don't mind me, I'm just being bored and nosy.

Anyways, I'll go first:

Best: Was also the worst because he broke my little heart afterwards but we're basically needs so we had a nerdy date about our nerdy interests (trains) and then we talked and walked the equivalent of 17 miles because we were having so much fun talking and exploring our surroundings.

Worst: I had just gotten my first weave and he decided to pet my hair like I was a dog (didn't even ask if he could touch my hair, by the way).​

I would like start walking in heels full-time.

Now, I cannot walk in heels to save my live, especially not stilettos. But that's what I eventually want to graduate to wearing.

Currently, I'm stating off with slowly with (3 to 4 inch) chunky block heels but I want to know if there are any tips and/or tricks for [eventually] making the transition from block heels to stiletto heels as well as going up in height (please and thank you).

I have never seen a white person falling over themself to make Black people or celebrities an honorary part of the community the same way that some Black people do with white people and celebrities.

Even if it's in jest, it needs to stop. If there is a white person who supports and contributes to civil rights causes, the Black community, and does the oh-so noble job of not being racist, there is already a term for what they are: an ally. There is no need to do all of this hoopla and act like someone is the second coming just because they did what all other non-Black people should do and treat Black people with basic respect.

....With each other.

I'm tired of blowing up my group chat and I just needed to vent.

I don't know how people so grown can be so stupid. Pray for me.

I'm a late 18 and it's not much but it's honest work. I can't tell anyone I know but I'd still like to be celebrate with someone(s).

​​P.S.: Please don't take the meme seriously, I just included it because I thought it was funny.

Edit: I'd also love to hear from other ladies what we're investing in nowadays!

Edit 2: Thank you so much for all the love and advice, ladies! I will be looking into the S&P 500​ as well as opening a high-yield savings account (actually have an appointment later this week at the bank so we'll see how it goes).

Also, just wanted to encourage all of y'all—but especially the younger Black girls in here—to be proud of wherever you are on your financial journey!

Look, I get it, they'll never truly care or comprehend, etc.

But I just find it mind-boggling how you can sit there until you're blue in the face and explain all the ways in which slavery, racism, white supremacy, and literally everything else still has horrific effects that are still prevalent in today's society and a white person will struggle to imagine how you could even think like that.

But let Fido go an hour without food and suddenly we need to overhaul the Constitution to include animal rights, arrest everyone who's ever breathed at the damn dog wrong, and raise $100k for the dog's therapy.

Please, I'm tired.

I made this post a couple days ago but it was removed due to incorrect flaring. However, I'd still like to keep the conversation going.

So again, real, serious question: Why do you want those things? Like, is there a specific feeling that you guys get when imagining those things?

I'm not trying to be snarky—I genuinely want to understand because I don't feel the desire for those things.​

Also, for the married women and the women in serious relationships: does it ever cross your mind that your partner could very much just wake up and leave you [and your children] one day? Again, not trying to be rude but that's something that I've always wondered myself about marriage.

Edit: This is NOT a post meant to call one way of living and choices right or wrong nor judge people who are married, want to get married, have kids, or want kids.

The lady isn't perfect—she's collaborated with Chris Brown, let's just get that out of the way—but for God's sake, people criticize her more for playing dress up and living her life than they do for that.

From that "sexy video" she posted a couple years back till now, all I've ever seen is people just antagonizing her for...existing?

And I know that's (unfortunately) just how life is for Black women (especially in Hollywood) but, in my opinion, Chloe just receives an abnormal amount of hate for things that her peers—hell, even​ her sister—would get away with.

I'm not saying that you have to be nasty to them but some elders are just very old and very, very stupid and/or ignorant.

Also being older does not mean anything. I will treat you with respect because you are a human being deserving of respect but if you're old enough to open your big mouth then you are old enough to get cussed out as well.

But why though?

I can understand if it's because going outside in a bonnet exposes it to a lot of germs which you would then bring back into your bed.

But let's say that you have two separate bonnets, one for outside and one for inside. Is it not just the same thing as wearing a hat?

And to the crowd that says that it looks tacky: why not just style it as a part of the outfit? It doesn't have to look out of place; maybe you just don't know how to put that shit on

Edit: Okay, so I'm seeing that a lot of ladies are likening it to wearing pajamas outside (which isn't a bad thing if that's how you choose to view it). But now I'm curious...Do y'all put durags/wave caps for men in the same category?

NOT IN A CREEPY WAY!

I think of it as continously seeing a stranger. The world is so big and the internet is even bigger (in my opinion) so I find it cool that sometimes I run into someone whose username I recognize from this subreddit.

I'm not talking about being a size 8 or 9...This question is for my 10+ girlies: Where do you shop for cute—key word CUTE—shoes (namely heels)?

I'm so tired of wearing granny shoes (no offense to all the grandmas out there. Y'all rock it, it's just not for me). I wanna wear cute shoes too.

We are quite literally never even remotely close pages in the same book. If I'm mad, she's happy. If I'm happy, she's mad. If I want to get takeout, she wants to cook at home.

(The above were sarcastic understatements. We disagree on a much more fundamental level).

I'm young so I know that's probably part of the "issue" and that, like anything, with age and more experience it will [probably] get better. ​

But I was under the impression that after a couple times that things would at least start to feel a bit enjoyable. But no, I feel nothing or pain. PIV sucks, getting eaten out feels like what I imagine a dog drinking from its water bowl feels like, and anything with my breasts just feels like its sensory play for my partner.

Even mastrubation just feels like I'm going through the motions.

Obviously, it's not supposed to feel like this but is there anything that helped you ladies actually enjoy sex and adjacent activities?

It's HOT and every time I step out I end up looking like James Brown. Do you ladies have any tips and tricks (please and thank you)?