(35 F) I want to meet someone but at the same time, I don’t want to have to leave my house. Also, I have a hard time letting people in. I’m ready to meet someone that can meet my crazy but also not direct that crazy at me… I feel like I should just stay single but at the same time I get so lonely and bored with everyday life. It would be nice to have an adult to drag me out of the house on occasion.
I can’t even be friends with the socially outcasted nerds
For reference I’m white and come from a privileged background. I never thought I was that bad looking but I can’t really even make friends and I wonder if it’s due to my looks? I need answers
I am looking for ideas, straightforward. The characteristics these ideas I’m looking for have to have these requirements (then of course what you share cannot follow them, but if you’d like to give me some suggestions, this is what is compatible with my situation💗):
- no friends
- no vacation outside
- no family
- no going far from my home
what I have: just me, my cat, my house in the city, my late grandmother’s countryside house, a beach near home, a terrace.
plus: I’m not really comfortable walking or going outside with a car since I need to keep my brain busy with some tupe of activity. I’m currently an art student and I’m studying for next exams and be creative sometimes here and there, but I would like to get inspired by some of you guys’ ideas, if you don’t mind sharing!😃 I’d love that, honestly! So, whatever you choose to do, I’m grateful that you read till this point. so have a nice day, you beautiful!!💗
I’m still smiling ear to ear thinking about it, there was a young man driving a the bus today and I was the only one on- Anyways he gave me the warmest smile and looked me in my eyes and started a conversation with me. I 19F rarely speak to anyone in real life, let alone males I just talk to myself on most days
With men they usually make me feel invisible due to my looks, I’ve had bad experiences in school with them but I experienced such a warm interaction with one, one completely different to the bullying and ignoring.
So thank you to that random bus driver in Bristol, I can tell you are a sweet genuine soul you made me feel human for a while (:
I've been thinking about this a lot lately.
Over the past few months, I've met some genuinely kind people online. Some conversations lasted a while, others slowly faded away, and it made me realize how difficult it can be to build lasting friendships as adults.
When we're younger, making friends seems to happen naturally. After 40, though, people are busy with work, family, or life in general. Finding someone who genuinely wants to build a real friendship feels surprisingly rare.
I still believe meaningful friendships can happen at any age. Sometimes, though, it feels like many of us are quietly hoping for the same thing but don't know how to reach out...
Has anyone else felt this way? Sometimes I feel like it only happens to a few of us..
Sending a warm hello to everyone here who's feeling lonely 😊
Last year I briefly went out with this one woman. Wasn't for very long, but I thought the chemistry was insanely good, like already talking about long term life alignment and such. One moment with her was particularly locked in my brain for a while since I honestly thought it was the happiest I've ever been in my whole life. Then one day she told me that her dad was very sick - potentially terminally - so she wanted to move home. It was too soon into dating to move across the globe, so we stopped seeing each other.
As much as it hurt, the silver lining was that it was just bad luck that kept us from furthering the relationship. At least I could keep those positive memories. And maybe it proved I wasn't completely unlovable after all.
For some reason, I thought to Google her name today. Not only did I find a post from her husband, but also for whatever reason he included some dates about the start of their relationship. She was talking with him the whole time. In fact, one of the days we only got to talk for a couple minutes was apparently because she spent five hours on the road that day just to go see him.
I don't know if the sick dad was an outright lie or not, but she clearly didn't end things to move back home. I know people date around in early courtship, but it still stings like a motherfucker. The memory that at least once in my life I actually had someone really into me was one of the few truly happy thoughts I had left in my mind, but I guess it was just an illusion.
It's been too long get a good friend or someone to talk to and i wanna change.. so I'm open for any chat any topic anything just want fill that empty inbox and place ;(
I like music like really! Cooking! Artistic stuffs, games, anime I'm open minded we can talk anything you wanna 🙌🏻
I've been looking for a genuine friend on reddit since 1-2 years and have tried all the possible subreddits available but they all are filled with people who just want to be there for a little while. I don't feel comfortable talking to anyone in real life and that's why I was too dependent on apps like reddit, ig, snapchat and what not but nowhere I could get that one single person who is still with me, talking, and having a real friendship to this day. this isn't just loneliness. I now have fully understood that it's some kind of curse I've been given to suffer from. but somewhere in me still have a faith in having someone forever.
Hey everyone, I'm 31M, and I've been suffering from depression for a while now, for almost five years, to be honest. Over the last five years, I've slowly started detaching myself from life and from people close to me. I wish I could be better, but honestly, sometimes I wonder if I even want to feel better. I've been in a relationship in the last five years, and it ended in tragedy when she broke up with me. What hurts me more is realising that I've only been in it to feel less lonely in life. Mind you, I loved her, and I thought she would be the one I would spend the rest of my life with. But I only realised after it ended that I had to work on myself; but then again, one thing after another started hitting me in life, and after a while I started to lose hope that my life would get better. I started sexting strangers on the internet just to distract myself from whatever I was going through. I never made any attempt to actually meet people, because I don't want to waste anyone's time. I'm not proud of it, but I just wanted to escape from reality. After a while, I forgot what it meant to be happy anymore. I do have very few friends, but everyone is busy in their own lives, either married or busy with other priorities that people my age focus on. Besides, I've never been the one to open up about my feelings to someone I know. The only good thing about my life right now is my work, and I've started to mess that up as well. I don't know if it's because I love it or if that is just another distraction.
Here I am right now, drinking alone, writing this post because I just want to vent out, maybe. This post isn't to gain any sympathy. Anyone who's been depressed for long knows this.
One thing that stayed in mind the last few is this: "I really want to chase happiness, but how could I, when I don't even know what it is?"
First time posting here. This more of a rant/vent than anything.
I’ve somehow managed to get into a lonely life. I’m married and it’s okay marriage but like everyone else in my life we have little to no common interests and values. I don’t have many friends. I work from home. My bestest friend is my dog.
I also find the people in my life don’t make effort with me the way I do for them. Like checking in on them, buying gifts, making time for them.
I’m just so lonely.
the only people i [barely] connect with are those weirdos, loners, and the outcasts (dont worry i consider myself one too). they all have obvious and diagnosed conditions from autism to bpd to mdd etc. hell, i even attended a couple of munches (kinky people meetups).
100% of the time, it melts my mind when i see them interact with others normally and with chemistry. I thought my interactions with them 1 on 1 were pretty decent until i see them interact with others that i really see how ridiculous my social level is. i just think "what the actual fuck?" as i stare blankly as they blissfully interact with each other.......and im stuck as the observer third wheel......again.......like always.
i say this a nuerotyp. goes to show differences in neurology(is this the right term? physiology maybe?) doesnt guarantee anyone to not have chemistry with normies
Hi I’m 25f.. Just going through a rough time 💔. I don’t have friends and recently lost my job due to my mental illness. I am working with a therapist and trying to grow as a person. I feel so isolated. Anyway I’m just rambling but does anyone want to just text or be online friends? 20+. Anyone reading this I hope you have a beautiful day 🫶
I'm a 34-year-old woman, married with kids, and lately I've been realizing just how lonely I feel.
I spend most of my days at home taking care of my family. I do have a degree and at one point I owned my own business but currently I don't work outside the house, I don't go to school, and I don't belong to a church or any groups, so meeting new people feels almost impossible. I have a few friends, but they're people I've known forever, and sometimes I feel like I've outgrown certain relationships or just want deeper connections.
I keep myself busy. I work out, go on walks, read books, and I'm trying to become a better version of myself. In many ways, I'm changing and growing, but sometimes that growth feels lonely because I don't have many people to share it with.
I look around and see other women with careers, close friendships, hobbies, and a strong sense of purpose, and I wonder if something is wrong with me for still trying to figure out who I am at 34. Some days I feel content, and other days I feel stuck, like I'm living the same routine over and over again.
Has anyone else felt this way in their 30s? Did you eventually find your people, your purpose, or a way to feel less lonely?
Hey everyone! I’m feeling a bit bored today I’d love to connect with some new, genuine friends.
I’m a great listener and open to chatting about literally anything. Whether you want to vent about your day, share your favorite hobbies, debate random shower thoughts, or just exchange memes, I’m down.
Drop me a DM or comment below if you’d like to chat! Please just be kind and genuine. 😊
It’s hard to feel this way. I want to find my person so badly. Everyone I’ve trusted so far has been wrong for me. I still try because I want to have hope, but at what point is it a fools errand? Everyone around me has found their person… family and friends. I can’t help but feel like I’ve somehow done something to deserve being alone, even though I try very hard to be a good person. I can’t imagine what I may have done to incur this kind of karma but alas, I’m here holding this heavy feeling that I’ll just always be a little empty. I want babies. I want a family. I want a community. I’m running out of time and I can’t face that I may just never have those things. How am I supposed to survive this?
I'm 22, and lately the loneliness has been hitting me hard. I don't really have anyone to talk to. I don't have close friends, I've never had a girlfriend, and most days it feels like I'm going through everything alone.
I've started regretting a lot of the decisions I've made because I feel like they've led me here. Seeing other people my age hanging out with friends, dating, or just having someone they can call makes me wonder what I did wrong.
I'm not looking for pity. I just wanted to get this off my chest and maybe hear from people who've been in a similar situation.
Thanks for reading.
I have come to realize that people around me are not really around me.
When I am feeling lonely and send a message to someone who I think is my friend and it takes them hours to reply (always) and they disappeared for hours before replying again and this happened again and again to more than one "friend", it made me wonder it I am such a bad person that I don't deserve any friends?
Why is no one ever truly caring for me?
Why is no one truly my friend?
Being an only child, I have no siblings unlike others who can talk to their sister or brother.
My mother is a traditional Asian mum who does not believe in being a friend of her daughter.
My father is a cheater and abused me when I was young.
I have 2 ex boyfriends who all cheated on me.
Do I not deserve any love in this world?
Why is it so hard to just find one person to be my friend and truly care for me.
Would be nice if we could filter out posts based on age. I’m looking to connect with people who 30 years old and older
Not the end of the world, but anyone else feeling a bit lonely?
After multiple gap years I finally applied to university (just finished my first year), and I enjoyed studying. It gave some routine to my life, some reason to take care of myself but I'm filled with loneliness. I have no family other than my mother but she doesn't want to be in contact with me. No friends.
I tried to make friends. I joined after uni activities, sat next to others, tried to talk to people and get to know them but I haven't been successful. The chat doesn't process to anything, after the course the communication just ends. I tried to chat with few people after each course but they were really uninterested and barely answered anything.
Idk I just feel like I'm not worth to be friends with. I'm awkward and ugly. There is nothing that stands out, no reason to be friends with. I have no connections to offer, no looks, nothing. Even though I try to keep myself busy with hobbies it feels like there is nothing people want. Like I can't offer anything.