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Thank you so much to that random bus driver (: 💖

I’m still smiling ear to ear thinking about it, there was a young man driving a the bus today and I was the only one on- Anyways he gave me the warmest smile and looked me in my eyes and started a conversation with me. I 19F rarely speak to anyone in real life, let alone males I just talk to myself on most days

With men they usually make me feel invisible due to my looks, I’ve had bad experiences in school with them but I experienced such a warm interaction with one, one completely different to the bullying and ignoring.

So thank you to that random bus driver in Bristol, I can tell you are a sweet genuine soul you made me feel human for a while (:

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 5 hours ago
▲ 11 r/lonely

Going to the cinema by myself for the first time in 4 years ((:

I’ve already booked my tickets for Toy Story 5 on Sunday I’m so excited! I’ve decided to not let having no friends stop me from doing the things that I want from now on I’m just gonna get myself out there and do things because we don’t have a long time on this planet so let’s make the most of it. I also might go to the museum and the aquarium!!

I’m just tired of waiting around for people, always chasing others . If someone doesn’t want my friendship so be it. It’s not the end of the world, so many things I can do now :D

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 2 days ago

19F- Happy Friday x Pretty lonely. Could use someone to talk to (:

Hiya just wanted to try this out, i’ve been quite lonely for awhile making friends at this age is so hard I feel like I barely manage to have any human interaction so I wanted to see if anyone wanted to get to know each other xx

I’m quite an energetic person with a bubbly personality. I love having conversations and I know how to hold them usually! I do love a yap session, I enjoy voice calling or even FaceTimes, if that’s not possible, I just enjoy texting as well! I really like reading psychological thrillers, I love horror movies, anime and cooking healthy meals as I’m on a weight loss journey (:

I’m mostly just looking for someone who I can talk too often who’s around my age like a long-term friend where we can share daily updates or maybe play a game or something. I really yearn for that kind of connection right now

Ty x

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 3 days ago
▲ 3 r/lonely

Struggling so much with the silence.

I honestly just feel so disconnected from the rest of the world and I feel like I’m confined in this little box because I don’t have any connections I have no friends not even online ones either like I have no one to talk to day in and day out. To think im almost 20 with not a single person. I barely even feel like a woman anymore.

I can’t shake the feeling that everyone hates me and the world wants me to be alone and I kind of see no escape from it.

In an effort to make friends, I’m always kind, I crack jokes I am so capable of being a good friend, but it just doesn’t seem possible for me and don’t get me started on dating. I can’t even picture myself of a boyfriend ever. I can’t even picture someone loving me. I also have autism so I just feel like I’m on a different planet.

But yeah, I just really wish I had a friend or anyone to talk to really, on a daily basis ): I don’t bite. It feels like a curse. I’m starting to feel physically sick because of this loneliness.

I’ve been alone for many years. I do everything alone and I am comfortable in my own company don’t get me wrong but I’m human. That urge to have a connection will always be there.

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 3 days ago
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I just wanna give up and stay a fat loser girl forever

Weird topic for today but I have no friends. I’ve never had a boyfriend and I’m honestly just a lame person. I have hobbies and stuff which I do, but I truly don’t have anyone.

I 19F blame a lot of my “ugliness” and undesirability on being overweight, I know it won’t fix me being FA but I’ll be much healthier. so I’ve been on a weight loss journey for a few months it’s actually been going well, I’ve lost 20kg but the thing is I can’t help this noise in my mind that’s telling me to go back to my old ways where I’d sit on my couch and shove thousands of calories down my gob.

Food is the only thing that fills my void. It’s there for me when nobody else is, it genuinely soothes the way a person couldn’t because I don’t have that kind of support around me. I’m so ugly no one will love me so why keep coping and just keep being a loser potato

Sometimes I just want to give up and accept this is how I am, I was destined to never get as far as the comfort girl best friend for men, I’ll never know what it’s like to be liked and wanted like the pretty girls.

I want a cheesecake.

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 4 days ago

19F- I’m so tired of chasing people when all I want to do is be friends ):

It feels with everyone I meet I constantly have to be chasing after them to simply get a response. I loveee talking to people like long term. It’s so hard to make connections these days so I just wanted to try this out, i’ve been quite lonely for awhile I barely manage to have any human interaction so I wanted to see if anyone wanted to get to know each other xx

I’m quite an energetic person with a bubbly personality. I love having conversations and I know how to hold them usually! I do love a yap session, I enjoy voice calling or even FaceTimes, if that’s not possible, I just enjoy texting as well! I really like reading psychological thrillers, I love horror movies, anime and cooking healthy meals as I’m on a weight loss journey (:

I’m mostly just looking for someone who I can talk too often who’s around my age like a long-term friend where we can share daily updates or maybe play a game or something. I really yearn for that kind of connection right now

Ty x

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 6 days ago
▲ 27 r/lonely

When you realise this is forever

Men will come and go, but I will always have the same looks and features that make me undesirable to them. When you are completely bottom of the barrel, you aren’t seen. My height, my bulbous nose, my tiny eyes, my square face. My body shape, It’s always going to be there. It will always be like this. I’ll be forever be invisible and I’ll never know what it’s like to be wanted. Or cherished or held. I’ll watch everyone around me experience what it’s like and I’ll sit in the bench ready to give advice. I think that’s the hardest part the realisation that you know this is you forever you aren’t gonna know what it’s. A future of complete celibacy is scary and sounds lonely but it’s something I’m actively preparing for at 19. I’ll always be the gross porn addict I was meant to be

This is me. The end. Maybe in another life

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 8 days ago

I could never give a man the disservice of having sex with me even if I paid him to.

19F- I’ve been thinking about what I’m going to do about sex when I’m older, it’s not particularly on the top of my list I don’t really care but even if I did I genuinely couldn’t bring myself to even pay a man to take my virginity because of how much a disservice it would be to him to see my body in that way.

Kind of like how a prostitute would be disgusted having sex with a fat gross old man, that’s how I feel. Like a gross pervert. I can’t even picture myself doing that stuff let alone masturbating. I just hate myself that much deep down.

I see sex as a very sacred thing between two people that love each other but love is just not not in the cards for me in this life. I’m not asexual so I’ve been thinking of over options but I realise I just can’t.

Being a virgin forever doesn’t seem too bad

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 12 days ago

19F- Pretty lonely. Could use someone to talk to (:

Hiya just wanted to try this out, i’ve been quite lonely for awhile making friends at this age is so hard I feel like I barely manage to have any human interaction so I wanted to see if anyone wanted to get to know each other xx

I’m quite an energetic person with a bubbly personality. I love having conversations and I know how to hold them usually! I do love a yap session, I enjoy voice calling or even FaceTimes, if that’s not possible, I just enjoy texting as well! I really like reading psychological thrillers, I love horror movies, anime and cooking healthy meals as I’m on a weight loss journey (:

I’m mostly just looking for someone who I can talk too often who’s around my age like a long-term friend where we can share daily updates or maybe play a game or something. I really yearn for that kind of connection right now

Ty x

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 13 days ago

19F- Pretty lonely. Could use someone to talk to (:

Hiya just wanted to try this out, i’ve been quite lonely for awhile making friends at this age is so hard I feel like I barely manage to have any human interaction so I wanted to see if anyone wanted to get to know each other xx

I’m quite an energetic person with a bubbly personality. I love having conversations and I know how to hold them usually! I do love a yap session, I enjoy voice calling or even FaceTimes, if that’s not possible, I just enjoy texting as well! I really like reading psychological thrillers, I love horror movies, anime and cooking healthy meals as I’m on a weight loss journey (:

I’m mostly just looking for someone who I can talk too often who’s around my age like a long-term friend where we can share daily updates or maybe play a game or something. I really yearn for that kind of connection right now

Ty x

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 14 days ago
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I just can’t

19F I honestly just feel so disconnected from the rest of the world and I feel like I’m confined in this little box because I don’t have any connections I have no friends not even online ones either like I have no one to talk to day in and day out. To think im almost 20 with not a single person.

I can’t shake the feeling that everyone hates me and the world wants me to be alone and I kind of see no escape from it.

In an effort to make friends, I’m always kind, I crack jokes I am so capable of being a good friend, but it just doesn’t seem possible for me and don’t get me started on dating. I can’t even picture myself of a boyfriend ever. I can’t even picture someone loving me. That ship sailed a long time ago.

But yeah, I just really wish I had a friend or anyone to talk to really, on a daily basis ): I don’t bite. It feels like a curse. I’m starting to feel physically sick because of this loneliness.

I’ve been alone for many years. I do everything alone and I am comfortable in my own company don’t get me wrong but I’m human. That urge to have a connection will always be there.

Why is it always late at night when these feelings pop up

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 20 days ago
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19F How do I act like a normal woman so guys will like me

I’m asking for the opinion on strangers online since it’s embarrassing to ask anyone in real life about this lol but I Was diagnosed with autism at 9, I’m super awkward and anxious, quiet, I don’t get out much and don’t speak to people because I simply am on my own most of the time. That’s how I’ve lived my life, never received any sort of male attention and I feel disconnected from the whole experience.

As I’m 20 in a few months my lack of experience is starting to bother me, I have no experience with dating My automatic response to interacting with a male is hide and make myself as small as possible, use terms like man, dude and bro and subconsciously make him know that I’m aware I’m not attractive and worthy of dating so I don’t seem hopeless and desperate.

My personal hygiene is top notch, I think I have good fashion sense and I have my own hobbies and do well in school. I just don’t know how to act. My true personality is not an option as I’m quite energetic, too hype about things and talk a lot. I avoid eye contact like the plague and slouch a lot.

How would a normal woman act to attract you and make you interested in getting to know each other more? Like what makes you enjoy spending time with a certain woman in your life. I’d love to hear your opinions in preparation of a date assuming if I’d ever get one in the first place

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 21 days ago

Fantasy

My dream is to have a man take both of his hands and hold my face, kiss me on the forehead and have him finally choose me. No more being the autistic girl best friend, the one who gets left behind and ignored after pouring your heart out to men who saw me as nothing more than a sister. No more being a stepping stone for guys who go off to find their true soulmate or an advice giver. Finally chosen to have my turn at love. Finally being seen for who I am and being wanted.. My turn.

It would feel like chains being cut off from an endless cycle of pain and loneliness. It would probably be so unreal

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 22 days ago
▲ 34 r/lonely

Men would rather die than be with me

19F here, throughout my years I’ve had many male best friends that I’ve met online, they were great and kind. The reason why I’m using past tense is because every time I confess my feelings they disappear. I’m always told that I’d make a great girlfriend, and that I’m wifey material and that AnY gUy WoUlD bE LuCkY tO hAvE yOu. Sometimes I’ve just wanted to crack and just say “date me then.” Then they go ahead and lie and call me pretty it’s so infuriating. Not only that but they also send reels and tik toks of beautiful girls, like they’re directly playing in my face..

I wouldn’t mind never being loved, I just wish I had a genuine friendship where the guy doesn’t have to make me feel like crap. I feel like this breadcrumbing, “leading on the ugly girl” dynamic is the closest I can get to feeling something. It’s happened so many times. Hell I’m even in one right now.

I pour my heart out, I make them feel heard, I’m so considerate, kind and attentive. It’s never enough. Looks are the root of everything and they all want stacies.

I just wish I could be looked at, with admiration and yearning, like someone wants to truly be with me.

I’ll be forever trapped in this loop of being an ego boost and place holder for men. This is my life now. The closest I’ll ever get to romance until they find a girl who’s truly worthy or when they get bored. And it’s not manipulation because deep down I know exactly what they’re doing I just let it happen and eat it up because it’s what I can afford and I’m lonely.

That’s all

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 25 days ago
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Anyone else feel like the people that talk to you feels like they’re doing charity work?

I 19f genuinely feel like anyone who speaks to me or engages in conversation with me either in real life or online it’s like they’re doing it out of pity and they’re doing me a favour rather than them actually wanting my presence and seeing me as good company.

That’s all I feel constantly. I feel like I’m babied all the time because of my loneliness, even by people who don’t know I have no friends. Maybe they can sense it somehow.

when I get spoken to it kind of makes me feel like I’m inferior and they’re trying to make themselves feel better by talking to me. It’s a very uncomfortable, isolating feeling knowing that no one will ever simply want you around.

It feels wrong and undeserving of me to want a human connection, especially with how out of place I am. It’s like I’m wearing a mask and I keep switching out my masks to see which one will make someone stay

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 27 days ago

19F, Depressed, lonely and rainy Saturday ):

Hi all, I’ve been super lonely for most of my uni life, it’s been very isolating because it seems like everyone else already has their cliques and I just go day hay day in silence so I wanted to see if anyone wanted to get to know each other xx

I’m quite an energetic person with a bubbly personality. I love having conversations and I know how to hold them usually! I do love a yap session, I enjoy voice calling or even FaceTimes, if that’s not possible, I just enjoy texting as well! I really like reading psychological thrillers, I love horror movies, anime and cooking healthy meals as I’m on a weight loss journey (:

I’m mostly just looking for someone who I can talk too often who’s around my age like a long-term friend where we can share daily updates or maybe play a game or something. I really yearn for that kind of connection right now

Ty x

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 29 days ago
▲ 12 r/lonely

That’s it

My name is Anya, I’m 19 and to be fully honest from ages 12-19 I’ve been 100% alone. Constantly in my own head, every weekend alone, every single day alone, even online I’m alone. It’s just radio silence all the time. I think I’ve finally reached my breaking point.

I have seen no improvement whatsoever, I’ve made no connections with people who genuinely wanna be around me and have conversations. They always end up disappearing from my life like I’m a placeholder. I’m in university depressed as hell just trying to get by, I try to stay busy but distractions can only do so much.

I don’t think I want to be here anymore. I have come to this conclusion after years and years of pain and this heavy feeling of rejection from the world. I don’t blame the world, I blame myself and my inability to fit in.

Every night I go to bed I imagine how peaceful it would be to not wake up again.Who would’ve thought loneliness could affect me this much.

“You have your whole life ahead of you” that’s exactly what I’m afraid of. I don’t want anymore of this, I feel like I’m living for nothing and would be better off passing

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 1 month ago
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Please tell me how you guys just accept it. How do I stop torturing myself?

Hi all, so I 19F just wanted to ask for some advice on how to finally accept that I am going to live my life alone and how I can stop torturing myself because the thing with me is is that I am infatuated with the idea of love and having a partner and maybe getting married or having my own kids. I really do want my own kids but I've known from when I was 13 that that's just not something that's possible for me.

However I'm practically invisible to men. No man has ever or spoken to me. None are even interested in me. I'm kind of just pushed to the side, kind of disregarded and I've grown to accept that but what I've really found it hard to accept is that This is simply how life is going to be for me. I'm going to be a forever alone, and it really hits deep. I love love. It makes me happy to think about. I like to write poems. I like to fantasize, but it's pure torture because at the end of the day when I go to bed I start crying myself to sleep because I know that's something that will never come true for me.

I just want to know how you guys do it. How you're able to just move on with accepting that you'll never have that romance in your life. And I don't want to hear that I'm young, you never know what’s going to happen, Or that I'll find love eventually, because that's just not true. It's just not true. Like, I am completely at the bottom of the barrel when it comes to women. So, I already know what my fate is going to be, I’m no longer in denial but I need to find acceptance.

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 1 month ago
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I would’ve been such a great girlfriend to him

I’m 19F a below average woman and we met on reddit like 7 months ago. He 23M makes me feel so seen, and heard.. I can tell he’s not into me and sees me more like a sister but He treats me like a human being something I have never experienced from guys. I am so incredibly grateful to him for not judging me and seeing me for who I am despite my looks. I feel so strongly for this man, he talks to me everyday without fail, texts first before I even get the chance to, I know I don’t deserve him though, being near him is enough.

I could be everything for him and more, I’d always be there for him, I’d bake him sweet treats, go on walks together, play Minecraft and snuggle in each other’s arms. He’s perfect in every single way..

It’s tragic- I’ve never had a boyfriend and fall fast and easy. It’s gonna be hard to get over it and accept that I’ll never be his

Maybe in another life.

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 1 month ago

I would’ve been such a great girlfriend to him

I’m 19F a below average woman and we met on reddit like 7 months ago. He 23M makes me feel so seen, and heard.. I can tell he’s not into me and sees me more like a sister but He treats me like a human being something I have never experienced from guys. I am so incredibly grateful to him for not judging me and seeing me for who I am despite my looks. I feel so strongly for this man, he talks to me everyday without fail, texts first before I even get the chance to, I know I don’t deserve him though, being near him is enough.

I could be everything for him and more, I’d always be there for him, I’d bake him sweet treats, go on walks together, play Minecraft and snuggle in each other’s arms. He’s perfect in every single way..

It’s tragic- I’ve never had a boyfriend and fall fast and easy. It’s gonna be hard to get over it and accept that I’ll never be his

Maybe in another life. Forever alone

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u/Quiet-Plum-2958 — 1 month ago