r/asexualdating

I'm not really sure where to start. I'm curious if I could ever find a man to share my life with.
I only discovered that I was asexual in the last few years. I always thought there was something medically wrong so I've spent my entire adult life trying to make relationships work with hypersexual men.
I am not sex repulsed but I think my experiences have made me sex averse. I believe there to be potential for favorability with the right person but it's not important to me to get to that point either. I apologize, I do not know all of the terms and abbreviations under the umbrella of asexuality.
I do have aesthetic attraction unfortunately. Everything logical within me is disappointed in myself for this but alas, it is me.
I am also neurodivergent. I don't know the terms for what I am in this regard either. I can't keep up with all the labels and letters lol. I have adhd and some mild sensory preferences. None of this is so severe that it can not be masked when needed. Most people have no idea I live with the quirks that I do.
I would love to find a man who is looking for or interested in a somewhat traditional straight monogamous relationship.
I work very hard but I do dream of a day that I might be able to slow down and focus more on traditional domestic duties. I was born to be a wife and it's definitely where I thrive. But I also acknowledge the time that we live in and understand that it's often necessary to have 2 incomes. I've been working full time my entire adult life and more often than not have been the primary earner in my relationships. (Not because I earn all that much but because I have a habit of choosing partners poorly).
I tend to step up and problem solve and I think this leads others to feel comfortable relaxing and offering less effort. I'm working on better communicating my expectations, limits and needs.
I live in the New England area of the USA. I have a 10 year old son that I coparent with his father. No drama. But this does keep me anchored to this area for a time.

As the title says, I’m looking for my forever person! I love traveling to go to musicals on Broadway :) I’m also open to seeing local theater as well

I’m Brandi but you can call me Bee/B. I’m 26, female and I’m panromantic aegosexual :) I’m a huge supporter of the arts and love supporting theater whether that be local or on Broadway. I want to make more friends online and close to me as well! I currently reside in the DFW area!

I’m disabled and have a chronic illness called neuromyelitis optica that most people don’t know about. It’s a big reason I want to move somewhere that has public transportation and is walkable but my main goal is NYC!

I’m also open to a QPR if we click and that’s something someone would like :)

I DO NOT WANT KIDS. I have known that since I was 13. I want to live my Dual Income No Kids Life.
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The nose ring is fake and I haven’t had blonde hair in years but this is pretty much what I look like.

A small boy from Uganda continent Africa (EastAfrica) Kampala the capital city.

I've considered this for a while, I hope this goes well.

What am I looking for? A woman, aged 23-35 who is searching for a partner for life.

I've been searching for my person for a while and have success, but I want something built on a dep emotional bond. I enjoy sex with partners after a deep connection, but I value love over sex and view them differently, I am completely okay with the complete absence of sex. Physical appearance is not important; I only ask that you're healthy within your own control.

About Me

• My name is Darian
• I own my own house in Ohio, I have a full-time job, and I have an electric car.
• I am very left leaning, and I am very open about speaking against injustice.
• I am demisexual, I need a deep emotional connection before any sexual desire at all
• I am ADHD and Bipolar, I've been taking medication for about a year and going to therapy (I do very well on my medication)

I have taken a lot of time and effort to become who I am and I'm very happy with my life, I'd like to share that with someone. I enjoy reading, science, walks, spending time with family, creating skits, making people laugh, doing new things, travelling, trying new foods. etc. etc.

I want someone who wants to take the time to know me, talking on the phone and putting emotional connection first, and if distance is a problem I will make time to visit occasionally.

What kind of person am I looking for?

• Woman (23-35) Demisexual/Asexual
• Left leaning, open to volunteering/dating someone who runs for office
• Someone who enjoys their life currently and is looking for a partner
• Physically healthy (within your control)
• Preferences: Intelligent, Kind, Clingy (not codependent), Job/Career, likes Romance, Prefers talking on discord or on the phone

I want to have long phone calls, eventually meet in person, deep conversations. I want something lifelong that is meaningful. I really despise modern dating and think that finding someone who values each other is the most important thing, and modern dating never does that. I've tried dating and while I do not have issues finding a partner, I find it's very sexual and depresses me.

I guess to phrase it as neatly as possible -- I want to find someone to love for the rest of my life, most importantly for who they are. I want to stay through any hardships, even if her legs or mind gives out.

(sorry, some of this repeated)

(Quick side note before we begin, you may notice I do not emote much in photos, this is because I do not find my face looks right when expressing an emotion. Thus, I choose not to. I also rarely take photos of my face, I much prefer showing off my outfits.)

Now, I am markedly atrocious at marketing myself so do offer some grace for coming across very formal or awkward. I learned the entire english language, and by god I will use the entire english language. I also like lists so hopefully that will help.

What I am looking for
* A difficult thing to describe as I've only ever been in one relationship and only ever had one crush, the two of which did not happen to overlap which is a long story. Mostly I want someone who shares my passion for creating and wants to share in general. The only person I've ever had a crush on was this girl I knew for two years who slowly came to trust me with things she didn't show others and was able to rely on my intelligence and sense of duty while also being able to just share information about where we live and such.
* I think, in other words, I'm looking for someone that will be my best friend and rely on me. Someone who can go from discussing their ideas for a project they're working on to simply talking about the rivers near their home or their discomfort with something said in the group chat they can't bring up with anyone else.

Statistics
* Height: 173 cm (5 foot 8 inches)
* Weight: ~63.5 kg (~140 lbs)
* Gender: Agender feminine-leaning
* Orientation: demiromantic asexual with a preference for androgyny to femininity in a partner
* Occupation: Library Associate at a parish library in my state, but have a physics degree.

Personality
* A difficult thing to describe, I like to think of myself as a confident and intelligent person with a quick wit and sense of humor ranging from sarcastic to absurdist. Though I often seem to bounce between a more energetic and boisterous personality and a downtrodden and cynical one. I generally like to get reactions out of people and will often go too far to get one.
* If it helps, some of the characters I heavily relate to are Lace from Silksong, Franziska von Karma from Ace Attorney, and Leonardo da Vinci from Fate Grand Order (Can you tell I suffer from 'insufferable bitch disease"? /j)

Fun Facts
* I am an aspiring polymath, in that I wish to become moderately good at many things and hobbies. Of course, one cannot declare themself a polymath so I must keep practicing.

Interests
* Gaming: I play many kinds of games, but my favorites of all time are Portal 2 and Rimworld, the latter of which I have over 2,000 hours in and the former of which I sang the credits song to as a way to train my voice.
* Reading: namely sci-fi but I do branch out into fantasy and other genres. Though never romance, I have a strong distaste for pure romance plots. To the point they actually disgust me. (Shockingly I am heavily romance favorable despite this)
* Writing: I have aspirations of becoming a writer some day. If my willpower ever cooperates enough for me to finish a project. I personally tend to write sci-fi, but as with my reading, I do dabble with fantasy.
* Drawing: I enjoy drawing on occasion, especially to brainstorm an idea or character. I actually have several of them posted on this account, but am always willing to show off more.
* Tabletop RPGs: I like to run TTRPGs when I have the ability to focus and produce maps and stories. I love coming up with lore and improvising things at the table so people think the world is incredibly thought out and not an elaborate improv bit with one or two cool things I planned out.
* Cosplay: A hobby I love with my whole heart is cosplay, even if my own hands aren't the best at it. The last three photos are of me in cosplay; the first is my Lucia Lotus from Punishing Gray Raven cosplay, and the second two are of my Leonardo Da Vinci from Fate Grand Order cosplay that I've been using since 2018. I initially purchased it from a shop and have made some tailoring and upgrades in the years since.
* Music: I don't dabble as much in creating it as I used to, but I love all kinds of music. Genuinely. There is perhaps only one genre I cannot stand and that's rap/spoken word music, otherwise I listen to anything. And I do mean anything, from Country to Metal to Noise Music to fucking Slurmcore and far worse.
* Learning: Not so much a hobby as a lifestyle, but I chose to include it. I love learning new things and then demonstrating my intelligence to people. Genuinely, I have been itching for reasons to do complex math since I graduated college and stopped working in a lab.

Potential drawbacks.
* At the risk of sounding like I'm defined by my disorders; I do have several that significantly impact my life and the way I engage with the world. I have OCD, Bipolar Disorder, and Autism; and strongly suspect ADHD of some variety.
* I am also like an exotic bird, in that I thrive in a rather narrow range and will repeat things to entertain myself at seeming random. Some find my vocal stims endearing.
* I have also been told that I am somewhat of a tsundere, in that my first reaction to having a crush was to start trying to stamp it down and resist it, and tend to get defensive and hotheaded when slighted.

Im 22 i love female fashion yet i am not that great with fashion.

I really wanna get into drawing.. i love going out places, i really wanna get into skii'ing. I also play games.