r/asexualdating

Just wondering if anyone has any recommendations.

I'm in the process of trying to work out my own asexuality and stories havevalways been an important part of exploring myself.

Unfortunately this area doesnt seem to be a particularly common plot point...

14F Asexual here! I just have some questions to ask others in the community! Does everyone else struggle finding someone to date? Yeah, I get I'm too young too, bla bla bla, but the few I have dated ended it as soon as they figured out I was Ace and didn't want anything physical. It's soooo annoying, and I was just wondering if anyone else struggles with that! And also, if anyone else faces..... idk, oppression? Is that the word? Because I get told so much that the urges will come soon, but nah dude..... no... I ain't like that! Just wanting advice to see if anyone has been through this!

Hi, I’m a sex-repulsed asexual looking for friends and maybe something more down the line. I don’t want children and I don’t smoke, drink, or do drugs for health reasons.

A little bit about me: I’m an artist in more ways than one. I like to draw (mainly pencil sketching), scrapbook, and take photographs with my camera. I try to go hiking every weekend so I can exercise while working on my photography skills. I enjoy traveling, but don’t get to do it often because I have no vacation time :,)

Some of my other hobbies are listening to music (Built to Spill, Radiohead, Pennywise, Bad Religion, Pool Kids, Green Day, Nirvana) and playing video games (Legend of Zelda, Minecraft, Omori, Terraria, Stardew Valley).

Fun facts about me:
- Most of my clothes are thrifted and I love vintage clothes
- I have a degree in general studies and minors in history and philosophy
- I have a postcard collection documenting nearly every country/cool sight I’ve visited in the last few years

If you think we’d get along, feel free to send me a message. Tell me a little about yourself (name, age, where you’re from, hobbies, little quirks, etc). I’ll likely not respond if you send a simple “hi” or “hello.” I hope to hear from you!

Hello all who read this! I’m a freshly turned 27 year old. I am looking for someone who could be a friend to me first and maybe we develop feelings. I got long hair so if that is something that interests you then that’s good. My favorite color is black and yeah I’m a little bit emo. Currently I reside in the Midwest though I’m not in love with where I live. I’m 5’11 if height matters to you. Most of the time I’m listening to music so if you have recommendations I will give them a shot. As far as I know I’m straight so ideally I’d prefer that you are female or a lady. Age wise somewhere between 24-30. Be aware I am in CST time zone and I wake up around noon so if I don’t respond I’m sleeping. I am a big Pokemon fan so if you are too that means brownie points.

Other things: if you are a hair dresser I’d love that not too religious as it is not something Important to me.

I’m Audhd so if you are as well that would be great.
My main thing is be patient with me I got burned before so I’m not too ready to just jump into something.

Hi! Im a 21 year old male from the UK, Wales specifically looking for a relationship, however im open to friends too if that's what you want to message for!

Im pansexual/ace, I dont feel much attraction but the little I do is split between everyone :p

Im 6ft / 183cm, brown hair, brown eyes, glasses and weigh 82kg (i think 185lbs?)

Im a university student currently studying maths, i also work at my uni as a tutor for lower year students and I help out in research projects.

I love to play games, if im on my own i play things like football manager or some smaller strategy and puzzle games. With friends I'll play anything, roblox, overwatch, dead by daylight etc. I also love simulator games!

I love to watch anime and movies! My favourite anime is probably black clover, but it's a close call between some other things!

I love being outside, I play football a lot and love to go on hikes. Wales has some amazing hiking routes, maybe we can do them together!

I love to try and cook but im kind of hopeless xd. Im learning though so one day I'll cook you the best meal youve ever had!!

Theres a lot more to know about me but its so hard trying to list it off the top of my head!! Absolutely everyone is able to message me, my dms are open to all! If you have any questions or want to talk i look forward to hearing from you!!!

Hi :)

I'm from England looking for other ace people to talk to as its super lonely not knowing anyone else lol - bonus points if we are from a similar area (East of England / East Midlands)

I would definitely consider myself to be more on the introverted side in terms of my personality however many people would infact describe me as a professional yapper and when I'm really invested in something it is hard to get me to shut up. That being said I really do value my down time to recharge my social battery, usually by blasting music until my eardrums are begging for mercy.

My music taste largely revolves around the 80s to early 2000s, particularly My Chemical Romance at the moment. However it seems at times I have a different answer depending on the day you ask me or even the time of day, so I will very much listen to whatever, whenever and love to find new songs if you have any recommendations :)

I lovee geography and the natural world so I thrive being outdoors on random sidequests with my dog (except for maybe when it's -5 degrees and pouring with rain in the middle of winter) I'd love to get out and about more outside of my local area and see what the rest of the UK has to offer, and hopefully one day the rest of the world as well. If I had to pick anywhere to visit though, it would be Iceland.

I'd consider myself a minor nerd, I'm definitely not the most nerdy person ever but I do love playing random games or learning something new. My favourites (although currently lacking facilities to play them) are certainly Minecraft and the Sims. I also enjoy random games like Waterpark Simulator where I can build and run my own businesses. (if anyone knows where to find emulator pokemon games, or really any old DS games please tell me!!)

I value above all else people who despite having things in common, are still able to be themselves (as can I) and are able to communicate honestly and transparently with each other. In terms of relationships I am mainly looking for something more on the platonic side, however I am okay with light intimacy and love a good hug. One day in the future I would love to have children, this is something I have wanted for a long time and if I was to get in a relationship we would both have to be on the same page about this.

I'd love to meet some new people, so please do drop a message :)

As the title says, I’m 25M from the UK, hoping to finally find an ace girl (22-26). I want to meet someone who I can share myself with, without everything revolving around sex. As I say, I’m from the UK, but I’m open to LDR, though would want to meet irl eventually.

I’m a massive nerd for Marvel and Doctor Who (I’d even share with you my plans for a DW reboot if you were interested😉). I LOVE music of many varieties, albeit mostly metal (my fave bands include Architects, BMTH and Landmvrks), and my vinyl collection is getting out of hand.

I play bass guitar, so if you play an instrument we could totally jam together🤘🏻but I also love going on road trips, whether it’s to somewhere quaint to just bask in nature, or whether it’s exploring a historical building or village.

Obligatory fact about me: I’m 6’5” and am a black belt in karate🥋

DM if interested!

Hey, I’m Alya (I- Lay). I’m 21, which basically puts me in that awkward adulting limbo where I’m technically grown but still figuring out how to… y’know… human without malfunctioning.

I am bisexual, ace, and trying to figure out how to date after not dating for like 4 years…

I live at home right now, which honestly isn’t too bad. College? Ehhhhh… not exactly the vibe. I’m taking a break from that whole scene. My brain works a little differently—I have a developmental disorder, so I’m more like a 17 or 18-year-old at heart. Between that and my auditory processing disorder, I sometimes learn things on the scenic route, but hey, the views are better and I bring elite snacks. It doesn't make me any less smart; it just means I process the world at my own speed.

One of my biggest joys? Cooking. Like, seriously, feed-me-Gordon-Ramsay energy. My dream life is just me in a cute little kitchen, making bomb food, vibing with my dog, and pretending I’m on some Food Network show where I always win. I’m working toward culinary school because I want to be a chef one day—and honestly? I’d be adorable doing it.

When I’m not whipping something up, I’m usually gaming. Since my Minecraft decided to glitch into the abyss, (but now i have fixed it- 3/29/2026) it’s been all about Sims 4 and Ship Inc. That is… when I’m not taking one of my many naps, because yes, I nap like an enchanted forest creature who hibernates for fun.

I love kids—like actually love them—and I even work with them on Sundays. I’m not religious, but my church is super democratic, pride-friendly, and full of good people, so it’s a vibe. I’m not the “mom friend” of the group, but I am the “will help your little cousin build a LEGO spaceship” type.

I also work as a barista, I love to talk about my job and what I do :)

I’m 4’9, and weight stuff has been a serious struggle. Losing weight feels like trying to fight a final boss with a wooden sword sometimes. But I’m doing my best, and that still counts.

Mental health-wise, I deal with anxiety, PTSD, depression, and OCD, so my brain is basically a chaotic group chat that never shuts up. Plus asthma (winter hates me personally) and an autoimmune thing that shows up like, “hey bestie.” But I’m surviving, thriving-ish, and pushing forward anyway.

My love language? Easy. Movie nights, snuggles, falling asleep on call, and long paragraphs that make me feel all warm and gooey inside. I’m soft, okay?? I’m like a cuddly little disaster but with truly elite intentions.

At the end of the day, I just wanna cook delicious food, hang out with my dog, be around people who feel safe, and build a life that actually fits me

(I also have a how to date me manual)

hii, I'm jasmine! I'm from Dundee and only looking for someone in the uk. while I would like a relationship, I'm not looking to jump into anything right away and want to start off as friends and hopefully become more than that. also not looking for any type of hookup/fwbs. if we date, i do want to meet up after a few months and eventually close the distance :)

I'm autistic and introverted, I am also trans, I'm 2 months on hrt. probably demisexual but i'm not too sure about that (can elaborate in dms if you want!), you not wanting anything sexual is NOT a deal breaker for me. as a disclaimer I do struggle with anxiety

in terms of interests/hobbies, I'm into game dev, programming, bouldering, cooking, baking, gaming and anime. I also love cute things, animals, food, and cafes! I also find maths, science, psychology, and similar subjects interesting, and I like to talk about them, though I'm not particular knowledgable in those fields

i really want someone who i can text all sorts of stuff and talk about our days and send dumb reels to, i'd also really like to play games and watch stuff together! bonus points if you will yap to me about something your passionate/obsessed about

as for what I'm looking in you, I'm not picky about appearance/physical stuff, I want you to share some of my hobbies but the most important thing to me is we have a similar personality, so introverted/quiet, enjoy learning stuff/nerding out, kind. Bonus points if you're autistic but that's not required :) Don't want anything non-monogamous, don't want kids, and obviously you must be left leaning politically. Not really comfortable dating someone with bpd because of past experiences

I'd love for you to send me a dm now! please include your age, gender, rough location, and a bit about yourself, such as your interests or what you do for work/school! don't be afraid to dm even if this post is old!

My last relationship ended about one and a half years ago, after taking some time healing I'm putting myself out there again and seeing what's potentially out there. I've spent some time in other spaces too but they don't seem quite familiar with asexuality which is why I'm more comfortable putting myself out here. I'm looking to build a monogamous relationship with another woman as I'm homoromantic.

I would consider myself androgynous, I'm about 178cm in height, average weight with long brown hair and blue eyes. I have a very soothing androgynous voice too, I've been told that many times. I develop attraction based upon your personality: feeling close, comfortable and safe with you. I can very much be a flirt too when I feel comfortable. I showcase myself best in one-on-one conversations or small groups, the bigger the group the more quiet I get due to me being softspoken and not heard as easily then. I'm introverted, sometimes I need a little bit of time to recharge but once I recharge I can very much be a yapper. I like being aware of what's going on in the world, learning about things I'm not as educated about even if I won't use that knowledge ever. I also enjoy teaching people whatever I can, in the past it's been languages, culture or videogame related; only when people want to of course! In my spare time I enjoy working out (cycling and lifting weights) and gaming on pc. I also try to travel once a year too! At other times I enjoy watching content on youtube, sometimes watch some twitch streams and occassionally watch a movie or show (although mostly with friends). I would consider myself to be sex averse right now but I feel like my normal stance is sex neutral.

In terms of future plans, I have a preference in staying in Europe but would be open to moving elsewhere as long as it is supportive of same-sex marriage and equal rights for LGBT.

Ok. Being single can be really comfortable. Starting something new can be a hassle. But hopefully the hassle is worth it in the long run. So I'll be quick, and you can decide for yourself!

**Pros:**

* zero drama, no mysterious exes sending “u up?” texts at 2 a.m.

* mostly retired means I have plenty of time to engage in my crazy flavor of the month hobbies. like learning card tricks or becoming a good bowler.

* Loyal as hell. once I’m in, I’m in. Expect consistency, effort, and actual follow-through.

* equal parts dad joke and quick wit; you’ll laugh, groan, or both.

* you’ll feel heard, even when you’re just venting about your coworker named Dana.

* Cuddling MVP award-winning performance in “staying up too late and pretending we’re watching the show.”

* Culinary adventurer I’ll try any recipe once; even if my base instinct is to eat like an 8 year old.

* Conversation stamina can talk from “hey” to sunrise without running out of things to say.

* Nerd-friendly Simpsons references, bad B-movies, board games, and chaotic trivia nights welcome.

**Cons:**

* Will absolutely eat the last handful of popcorn and pretend I didn’t.

* Has a deep, possibly unhealthy attachment to reality TV marathons.

* Occasionally answers rhetorical questions with detailed PowerPoint-level explanations.

* Could wake up one morning absolutely convinced I should adopt a Komodo Dragon.

* Will quote 90s cartoons out loud in public without warning.

* Might go through an intense spurt of obsession with obscure, not useful hobbies, and forget all about them 3 months later.

* Will criticize your breakfast food choices.

* Tends to turn “just one episode” into six.

* My cat is in charge of the household, and we both know it.

If you’re still reading this, you're definitely the kind of person i want to talk to! My list of standards are low. don't be in a relationship, (especially not secretly with someone, that keeps happening) including recently separated or divorced. Be willing to spend some time together, either with text voice or video chats. Live on my side of the planet!

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Hi everyone, i never really use reddit ( i didn't even know i had an account and don't know how to change my username haha) I am 23M from the uk and looking to meet some aces that are local!

I like to read, go on walks, play chess and learn new things (all the nerdy introvert stuff) i do sometimes go to pub quizzes, I am in a few asexual groups on facebook but had no luck!

I wish i could say more about me other than i'm quite, sensible, silly. as being asexual i am mostly sex adverse, I don't really think about it, dont need or want it in a relationship but i would love to meet other people like me!

Let's have a chat! <3

Hola, alguien de argentina, buenos aires? Soy un chico trans Ace de 23 años. Me gusta leer, las series animadas, los juegos de RPG. Hablemos dos horas de The owl house, game of throne, statdew valley o de los egipcios (que cultura tan rica) o de cualquier cosa. Me gusta hablar de todo y no me importa que tengas una opinión diferente, me gusta debatir y conocer otros puntos de vista.

Hey! I’m a 23-year-old guy, and I’m just looking to meet someone new and have some genuine conversations.

I’d especially like to talk to a girl around my age and hopefully build a good friendship over time. Nothing weird or sexual, and no pressure at all — just casual conversations, getting to know each other, sharing random thoughts, talking about life, hobbies, movies, music, or whatever we happen to enjoy.

I’m pretty easygoing and believe good friendships start with simple, comfortable conversations. If you’re also looking for someone to chat with and make a new friend, feel free to comment or message me.

No expectations — just hoping to meet a nice person. :)

This is just a rant because I don't have anyone to talk to.

I've been ace for as long as I remember, but I've just discovered the term about 6 years ago. I'm a 29M middle child, I'm somewhat timid and an introvert. Sometimes I long for that connection, for that person that I could love and be loved back, that spark in life. Don't get me wrong, I'm perfectly happy by myself. I do love my own companionship. But sometimes I get myself wondering how life could be if I had someone to share life's moments, both happy and sad.

My older brother is happily living with his girlfriend, my younger brother is going to marry in November. And I've never dated anyone. Every now and then my parents ask me when I'll bring someone home, and even though I know I'll probably never bring someone, I just shrug and say: any day now. I was feeling alone after talking to someone for a few months only to realise that they did not want anything serious. I mean, why bother to talk to someone if you don't want anything serious? But it is ok, that's life. So I downloaded a dating app.

I met this woman. She is smart, she is beautiful, she is loved by her family, she is an extrovert, she likes to talk more than to listen, she is independent, and she called me cute so many times I started to think she was delusional. But above all, she is allo. I know, I was in the wrong not stating from the beginning that I'm ace, but I really wanted to see how is the dating scene again after so many years. I was a jerk.

I'm not aro, I do like romance, but it takes time for me to get comfortable getting physical like hugs or holding hands. Again, I was in the wrong not stating this to her. I was a jerk.

By the end of our date at the café, we walked to the train station. We were just talking about life, movies, college, music, books. It was a nice and easy conversation. I was starting to warm up to her. But then she wanted to hold hands. I'm not the best at picking up clues, so this could be her being more direct. I was warming up, but not warmed still. I held her hand for a few seconds, realised that I was not warmed, and let go. We resumed our walking towards the train station.

When we got there we sat and waited for her train to come. While we waited we continued to talk. Her train arrived, but she didn't board it, she just said: let's continue to talk, I'm really enjoying it. I felt the same, it wasa pleasant conversation. Another train came and went, and another. The. We ran out of topics and she laid her head against my shoulder. I froze, I was not ready for it. I tensed and she sensed it. She gave me some space. And then something happened; she said that she was going to take the next train and tried to kiss me.

I was not ready for holding hands. I was definitely nowhere near ready for a kiss. So I turned my head and hugged her instead. It was a very uncomfortable hug. So the train arrived and I felt an obligation to at least give her a good hug and so I did. She boarded the train and she sent me a text message: it was really fun, I really liked it and I'm excited about our second date.

I was speechless. How could she say she was excited about a second date? I don't know. Should I tell her I'm ace? Probably. Will I go on a second date? Maybe. Would I be able to kiss her? No. Will she get disappointed when I don't? Probably yes.

Anyways, that's my rant. If you read the whole thing I thank you. If you only read a part of it I thank you all the same. Always remember: life is beautiful.