r/friendship

Hello all!! I hoping this reaches the right people. 😊 I am looking for friends, and hoping to find a very close, if not best friend!!
I little about me is I’m a 30 year old girl, I live in the upper Midwest. I work full time and when I am not working I am outside in the woods, or at the creek/river! 😊 I enjoy rock hunting and finding other cool things. I also enjoy videos games, reading, writing, drawing (terribly). I enjoy dark humor, all humor. I enjoy laughing and making people smile. 😊 I hope I hear from some of you. Please take care and thanks for reading!!

Here's a little more context since I removed some to grab your attention (sorry) I am in high school and have been recently getting to know someone after a deep conversation we had previously. We were chilling on a call, playing a game, and it all felt pretty bland/awkward, but I hang out with his group at lunch so I figured I knew him pretty well. During a longer stretch of silence, I decided to blurt out a series of satirical jokes, giggling to myself because of the cool comedian I am, and was met with straight radio silence. That's to be expected, so I kept going, pushing for a reaction, and that's when he said, "I can tell why a lot of people hate you now". I asked hey who said that, just to be met with silence. Though this wasn't that deep of a comment, I'm deeply insecure about myself because of how little many people genuinely like me. All of my friends disappeared after high school started, and I now just say hi in the hallways. So, I pushed for an answer, still half jokingly, hoping to let down his guard and he continued his silence, and muttered I was just joking man. I excused myself and returned to the call a couple of minutes later.

So this begs the question: why does nobody like me?

I don't fit in with the people around me, not getting their humour, and them not getting mine. I used to be deeply extroverted, but all these rejections have made me shell up and afraid to open up to real relationships. All my life I have been treated as the "Floater friend", always there, never chosen. I don't feel loved.

There was a time in my life when I had many friends, always hanging out, and for the most part, the hangouts were fun. All of that stopped when I stopped texting first. Months went by, and not a single text. One of my friends once suggested, "We should hang out more", and I wondered why he never asked if he enjoyed my company so much. That was the same friend I practically begged to go to the amusement park with, offering the ride, the entry ticket, the food. Am I that unlovable?

I'm tolerated but not wanted

The reason my friend's comment hurt so much is that I realized recently that there is a bit of truth in every single joke, which is why this stuck out to me. Hard.

Any advice? If nobody likes me, is that a me problem?

TL;DR: I’m a high school student who’s always felt like the “floater friend”, included, but never really chosen. I used to be very extroverted, but years of rejection have made me insecure and afraid to open up. Recently, while on a call with someone I was getting closer to, I made a bunch of jokes that didn’t land. He eventually said, “I can tell why a lot of people hate you now,” then refused to explain and brushed it off as a joke. It hit me much harder than it probably should have because it seemed to confirm something I’ve secretly believed for years.

looking for someone around my age or older idm as long as ur respectful. wanting to just yap and gossip ig that would be nice. my name’s lia, i’m from ireland, i’m 16, 17 next year and currently completing my last year of school. i have depression, anxiety and a possible personality disorder so please be aware of those! i have a few friends at school but i don’t talk to them much it’s usually just when we get home we would text which is why i’m looking for more online friends to yap with.

i’d like someone preferably with things in common so if you live in the uk or ire so we’re same timezone that would be great. i love dogs, planes, minecraft, art, roblox and music. ty if u read this and feel free to dm! just to add i don’t send pics of me unless on 👻 so please dont ask here!

Looking for some cool people to talk to 😭😂 Black, Southern, or just got good vibes — come say hey! I’m trying to meet some new people, make some friends, and have some good conversations. 🫶🏾

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Hi, I'm 19F from Lucknow.

I'm honestly just bored and looking for some genuine friends to talk to normally. If you're just here for timepass or flirting, please don't DM.

I'm looking for friends around my age - 19 to 21 only. People older than that, please don't text me.

I love chill conversations, memes, music, and just random yapping. If you're genuine and can actually hold a conversation long-term, feel free to DM.

And one more thing - if anyone is feeling low, sad, or just needs someone to listen without any judgment and wants to get things off their chest, my DMs are open. No pressure at all, we can just talk.

No creepy DMs please.

my name is kass, and i currently live in the us. i am russian plus japanese/korean, i grew up in russia til 6 hehe. ooh and i can speak some of those languages :D

i broke my leg a couple weeks ago so i haven’t been at school or left the house much :/ just kind of boring rn not being able to talk to my friends as much :/

i love film photography, medieval history, reading, art, nature, going to the gym, camping, hiking, listening to music, and watching movies. to name a few things. i have a lot of interests/hobbies tho so i don’t wanna mention toomuch stuff lol

i also love horror movies! i love fulci movies especially. the saw series is probs my fav movies tho :p oh and wes anderson movies are great too! ik it’s not horror but i love the colors and cinematography

music: ptv, panic!, fiona apple, lana del rey, the smiths, ethel cain, bladee, korn, soundgarden, radiohead, hole, specimen, fall out boy, deftones, sublime, the cure, the beastie boys and soooooo much more lol. i mostly listen to alt stuff, but have a pretty broad range. i also love listening to new stuff too hehe :3

oh also just wanted to add :p i’m not much of a gamer. i used to play stuff like resident evil, fallout nv/3, dead by daylight, sims, animal crossing. but just dont really anymore loool. so if you’re looking for a gaming buddy i am not the one :/

(I think I really need a miracle to find someone to get along with, really....)

Finding a bestie Is my dream... I would love to finally say "Goodbye" to my loneliness and start smiling, again. Not with someone random, but with someone who wants what I want...

(I'm a REAL PERSON! Bots are taking over Reddit but I'm not one of them so don't accuse me of being someone/something I'm not)

I want you to read everything because my expectations aren't the same as other people's expectations. I also want you to know what to expect because even though we're all here to spend time with others, not everyone needs new friends. Some people want to find someone to play games with & It's just an example. 👇🏻

(This post Is for people who live In Europe because I would love to meet my new friends In real life, In the future)

I made this account In 2021 and even though I'm really active on Reddit, I can't make new friends... Not everyone on Reddit Is toxic or rude but there's ALWAYS something missing because I don't feel any emotional connection... I would love to change my life & finally wake up excited to text someone I really, really like 🙁 But... Life Isn't easy and I'm not sure If there's still a chance for me to find someone with exactly the same expectations as mine, someone who wants to meet someone new...

• I'm DEFINITELY NOT Interested In small talk! I had to use capital letters because I don't like low-effort messages and I don't even want to read them. Repetitive questions like "How are you?", "What are you up to?" or "What are your plans for the weekend?" aren't enough to start a conversation with me.. Don't get me wrong - Questions like these can be an Interesting addition to conversations about something else, but whenever people ask me the three most common questions In the world - my answer's the same because my life Is quite monotonous and I don't really know what people expect to hear 🙁 I also don't like abbreviations. Abbreviations are shortened forms of words or phrases. Why? I just don't like them because I see no reason to use shortened forms of words that are already short enough, you know? Abbreviations are common among minors and bored adults but I'm neither a minor, nor a bored adult. I want to see emotional maturity, warmth and kindness In conversations with others.

• I don't need to see your list of hobbies to know If you're someone I would get along with! You can tell me what you're Interested In but.. Believe It or not - I'm not like others and even If you're Interested In something I'm not - we can still be friends! What matters to me Is what you're like (If you're honest, talkative, kind, understanding and If your outlook on life Is similar to mine)

• I don't want to talk to minors and people way older than me. Why? I don't want to talk to minors because I'm an adult & I don't want to talk to anyone over fifty for example. Emotional maturity doesn't necessarily come with age so you can send me a message even If you're 20 (It's just an example) but please, don't contact me If you want to remind me that I'm older than you. I want you to feel comfortable & I want to feel comfortable myself. When I read messages like "Hi, I'm younger but I hope you don't mind" I always say to myself "If my age bothers you, you should've contacted someone else" I absolutely don't mind talking to people younger than me If they know how to communicate with others 🌸

• PLEASE, Don't use AI to talk to me! I Can't stand AI generated messages! If I wanted to read AI generated messages, I wouldn't be here! I read AI generated messages and comments all the time and I'm sick of It!

• I don't want to get any messages from people whose accounts are NSFW! Please, respect my decision! It's none of my business If you're here to find someone to flirt with or If you're an Internet exhibitionist but I don't want to see you with no clothes on - If you want to be my friend & I don't want to know what you want to do with other women In bed. If you are on Reddit to flirt with others, be on Reddit to flirt with others but... don't make an alternative account to hide who you really are just to send me a message. Pretending to be someone you're not - Isn't good for anyone

• I'm not a fan of sarcasm! I do - have a sense of humor but I'm not someone who makes fun of everyone and everything... Jokes about disabilities, death, religion or someone's financial status - are unacceptable to me!

• I also want to meet people who don't mind listening to negative stories and sharing them with others. My life's not easy so If you want to be In my life, you should be prepared for a realistic or even pessimistic outlook on life. I'm definitely not an optimist and I know I wouldn't get along with optimistic people who always tell others "Just believe In yourself and everything's gonna be OK" or something. We don't always get what we want & and It's completely normal to lose hope "for a better tomorrow" after many failed attempts. Not everything's as easy as It seems to be so If all you want to say to someone who needs emotional support Is "Don't complain" or "Find a therapist" Please.. don't send me a message. Not all sad people need therapists and let's be honest - Would a therapist replace a true friend? Absolutely not! Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on! I also don't mind listening to sad stories (even If they're repetitive) because I know what It's like when no one wants to listen to you...

• I would love to meet people who also don't have anyone, you know? There's absolutely nothing wrong with having friends and not being single but I'm single and I don't have anyone special In my life... It's just easier for me to get along with others If there's some common ground. I just feel better talking to people who know what It's like to be completely alone & let's be honest - People who have friends or partners, have less time for others...(which Is completely understandable) and I? I don't want to feel like an option, again. I'm not here to meet as many people as possible because I choose quality over quantity 🌸

• If your comment history Is full of comments "If you want to talk, hit me up" don't send me a message. I don't want to be rude but If It doesn't make any difference to you who you want to chat with - I'm definitely not for you. I want you to be my friend because of who I am! (If after reading my post you think you'd get along with me) I don't need emotional support from someone who doesn't even want to read my post.

• I want to talk to people who love and use emojis 🤭😊 Why? Emojis help us express our emotions even If others can't see our faces. Two emojis "😊" and "😔" are completely enough. You're probably surprised but.. text messages without emojis are really emotionless... I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea" as it sounds dismissively! First impression Is everything to me! I want to see your kindness even In a text message

Ps. I don't like kids and I don't want to ever become a parent. I just thought everyone should know that just In case. I don't want any unpleasant conversations with anyone. Not everyone wants to be friends with people who don't want kids so.. It's better to be honest. 🌸

Ps.2 I don't reply to messages I'm not Interested In even If they're long! I'm not on Reddit to pretend anything and I'm not here to be everyone's best friend. Some people lie & make empty promises to get attention. I? I'm quite selective because I know what I want.

Ps.3 I admire sensitive people who are not ashamed of crying In front of others! Crying Is not a weakness! It's not a weakness even If you're a guy 🧡

Please, If you want to talk send me a private message.

so my friend J is best friends with my crush B, and i’m still reconnecting with J tbh, but he’s literally like the only person i know that at least knows some stuff abt B. I feel like this could test my trust with J but that’s lowkey risky. idk what to do im stuck in this dilemma. what yall think i should do?

Heyy I'm a 33m teacher in Visalia, California just got home from work hoping to meet someone to talk on the phone i am down to talk about anything just need a friend