r/friendship

hi all! I’m feeling down and I need someone to vent to because I feel like I’m going into a depressive episode…

Basically I 27M started talking with 42F online over a language exchange app…
Later we became friends…. And I started developing feelings…. I later confessed at the time I didn’t know much about her age ….. she looks really good for being 42 anyway…..
Her response was a-bit vague and I thought because of our conversations over the next a-few weeks ( she probably acted normal or more friendly) that i interpreted it as like she were interested so I started saying some awkward stuff… and probably came off way too strong romantically….

But cz she brushed most of my complements off I learned the hard way I was just acting weird….

I started to try and get back the conversations to tge normal vibes and gave more time in between chats…
We usually talk everyday or 2 days…

Her responses became very generic she still responds and asks how am I but that’s it. I almost feel it came from a place of politeness… I feel a-bit hurt to be completely honest of missing out on this friendship.

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Anyone up for chat? Just normal friendly talks. Nothing creepy etc pls.

Just looking for someone to have a chat with.

Have a great day! Enjoy

I'm 22, and my current obsession is one tree hill, rewatching it, currently on season 2.

I also play Roblox, but I don't really know many fun games in it. So if y'all wanna play with me that would be fun, but choose the games yourself lol.

I read books, mainly dark romance but I need more recommendations. Currently I'm on a reading slumber please recommend me a book to get me out of it.

Listen to music, I love the Weeknd. My playlist is mainly male manipulator type shiii

I draw, only anime characters.

I also watch anime, currently I'm watching saik k and rewatching fruits basket and jjk.

Then for kdrama, I'm currently watching phantom lawyer, I'm on ep 2 for like a month now lol.

I'm js bored as you are and I'm js trying to find some ppl to talk, like i do talk i js need someone who can actually talk back. Idrc abt where you are from or what you are or anything, anyone can msg. So yea i js like to talk to random ppl. I like to watch movies, play a few games and talk to ppl (idek if these are considered as a hobbie). I'm actually looking for ppl who would like to tlak more than a day or two but yea it's okay if u js want to talk for the moment. Soo yea if you are interested hit me up. Send a number from 1 to 10 and I will js ask a question to begin. see yaa have a great day.

Js shushh and send a hi already.

I think I am looking for just someone to talk too 30f.

My husband has short term memory loss. It seems to be getting worse. We have an appointment scheduled, but its not until the end of the month. He's a keyholder and has forgotten to lock up the store twice and was told one more write up and he's gone. I've been calling him everyday before he gets off to make sure he's locked up, but today he forgot to shut the open sign off and to turn off equipment. The boss sent out a group text about it so now we are fearing the worst. I can't afford bills on my own we have been barely scraping by as it is. I'm so scared.

I don't want money i just want to rant and maybe advice on getting him on disability? Or any financial aid advice. We live in the US.

I have also been looking for something that pays better but the job market is so bad right now.

can i be vulnerable with you? can i actually get attached and not be disposable for you?? can we be actual friends with real feelings considered?? then welcome to my DM. please don't write hey how are you i will not respond. talk about urself!

Always found this phrase sweet to use. There's so many out there too. Kinda makes it fun to learn about how and where they came from.

This one specifically makes me wonder how long it'll be around since the penny is out of commission now.

Do you have a phrase you like to use?

Hello there, I hope your day is going good. Just about quiet for me with a day off.

From Pakistan, working in an export firm but chilling today and have nothing to do apart from watching Southpark so feel free to hmu :-)

I asked her if she wants to go out at 5pm and she said no, she wants to go at 6:30-7pm. So I have to be home by a set time, but I didn’t tell her because I assumed 2 hours is enough.

I picked her up from her apartment and drove to the restaurant, I didn’t tell her before hand I only have 2 hours, it’s not a fancy sit down and more of a fast food takeout place. So I assumed it would be enough time. It’s for her “birthday”.

When we arrived I told her and got out the car. While walking to the restaurant she got mad and started heating up and telling me no she doesn’t want to go, and that I’m rushing her.

She was already in a bad mood when I picked her up because she said an employee at Tim Hortons was popppng her own pimples before making her drink, and she told her off, yelled at her and then proceeded to bash her to me, calling her a b\* and other words. She sounded angry and rage full.

I proceed to walk to the restaurant , and she Then goes off on how I’m ignoring her, because I turned my back to her. I said there’s enough time to order and eat and for me to drop her so let’s just go order, she said no, she feels rushed then made up lies she alway feels rushed by me and I’m always fidgeting (false, I always go to eat with her, pick her up and eat and drop her off) sometimes I don’t stay out for 5-6 hours because I prefer 2-3 hours to hangout.

When she wanted to leave early last time because of period pain I didn’t care.
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I continued to try and convince her to come in and order but she refused.

Then she got more heated and said “YOU ALWAYS DO THIS IM NOT GOING INSIDE WITH YOU AND IM LEAVING”. I came inside and sat down because she was scaring me and the people inside were looking at me like “wtf” (because I had the door open while she was going off. Now she’s left and walked away to god knows where and I have no desire to message her or apologize.

I mean who spends more than 1 hour eating anyways?!? The other times I never rushed or anything and stayed as long as she wanted and even drove her to other places to get desert and the grocery store.

Sigh. Am I in the wrong? I don’t want to talk to her tbh. Idk

TLDR: she left me at restaurant because I said i have 2 hours

heya, i’m a 28 yr old queer, autistic girly living in missouri and im realizing that i have only one friend 😪

making friends isnt the easiest thing for me but maybe these convo starters/facts about me will help get it goin:

• i love cats
• im not excited for summer
• i like thrifting
• crocheting
• cooking/baking
• gaming (PC and ps5)
• going to festivals
• legos
• i like smoking 🍃
• i am a gemini
• i love watching movies

please do not message me if you are not willing to put effort into the convo

i am looking for a platonic relationship only!!!

if you’ve read this far let’s play two truths and a lie!

1. i use to live in colorado
2. i have almost died 4 times
3. i’ve been on tv before

looking for mainly female friends that are easy going and like to have conversations that truly includes effort.

i love art, baking, playing nintendo games, barely getting into roblox (thanks to my sis in law lol), i do occasionally drink and currently a new mom. i may be getting into dnd very soon as well. i’m into horror and crime documentaries, but also love goofy things too—this includes anime.

if you’re also a mom, new or not, that’s a big bonus as i kinda wanna share my experiences/questions/answers.

Hi, my name is Bel and I’m from Singapore! I’ve recently been wanting to expand my social circle, so I’m hoping to find like-minded people here!

My hobbies include reading, crocheting, listening to podcasts (specifically true crime), going to the gym, and writing!

I’m also a huge cat person and am a single mum to three cats. 😂

Please drop me a message if you’d like to be friends!

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Spill tea, tell me what you like, tell me bout yourself, literally anything at all. I just want an interesting conversation for one, and long term ones at that. I'm a great listener so if you wanna vent go ahead, if you have shy questions feel free to ask, wanna talk about history sure ask away, bad day? Let's see if I can cheer you up. Just don't be boring, be as talkative as you can be, introduce yourself too, hope to chat sooooon just dm me! 😁

Hi everyone,

I’m Shannon, looking for some new pals. I want proper good friendships, ones where we can randomly call each other and FaceTime. I want to be able to have frequent communication, sending reels and memes, someone I can be my full sarcastic self with.

I love horror movies, football (in my element watching the World Cup) - I love Disney, drawing, art in general, diamond painting, photography, gardening.
I’ve just recently finished university, waiting on my results for a bachelors in health and social care :) I am also trying to kickstart/dip my toes in world of being an artist.

I care deeply about people, I love meaningful connections and I feel like I’m just lacking those at the moment.

I am agoraphobic so meeting up in person is out of the question for now, but I’m working on myself and doing really well so it’s a possibility in the future :)

I have a partner and I’m very happy and content with him, he’s changed my life, so please be respectful of that. I will block anyone that tries to flirt or anything more than a platonic friendship. Saying that, I would prefer to talk to women, I don’t mind receiving messages off men, as long as they’re respectful.

If you’ve made it this far, send me a 🍓 emoji. :)

Looking forward to hearing from you!

hello - my name is Lily! 🌸

I’m from England 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 (so BST time zone). I’m looking to make some new friends to chat (reddit only).

I’m pretty easygoing, but love hiking, baking and photography — currently on summer break from university ☀️

today’s the england v mexico world cup match, so hoping england wins 🙈🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 have you been watching the world cup? ⚽️🏆

open to chatting with anyone, regardless of age

feel free to send me a message :)

P.S. — I won’t respond if you don’t include your age & gender (country and name welcome but optional)

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Hii, I'm Mia. I'm from the UK and i really wanna yap with other UK peeps, seems we're just outnumbered here lol. If you're from elsewhere tho, still send a message, I'd love to chat.

I love adventures, anything chocolate and I definitely believe meeting new people should be fun and exciting, not a two way interview, plus if youre a good friend and we click, i definitely make it known

If you wanna message, lemme know your age, gender and where ya from. If we click, we can definitely try to talk long term 💕

I matched with someone on bumble bff, and she reached out to me on IG.

She was nice at first and responsive which is a nice change of pace. However over the last few days I've found myself getting more and more irritated when she asks me, multiple times a day, how I'm doing, and when I don't open the message cos I'm out and about, (I'm on holiday, which I've mentioned to her) she had deleted the message and messaged me again the exact same question hours later.

She has asked me at least twice what my favourite season is. I'm trying to be polite and engage in something else, like asking her about her hobbies but it often comes back to, what are you doing.

How would you, politely handle this. And maybe ask her to pull back a bit or how I can engage with her on more interesting questions.

She seems lovely but which is why I don't want to be harsh.

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Hey! I’m 22(Ines) and from Armenia 🇦🇲

Into running, aviation, Erasmus projects, mentoring, and meeting people from different countries. I love random late-night conversations, travel stories, and making international friends before my next trips around Europe.;

Also obsessed with dogs, airport vibes, and finding new places to run in every city 🏃🏻‍♀️✈️

Looking for people to chat with, exchange cultures, memes, music, or maybe even meet someday during travels :)

Start with ASL

P.s. i am traveling around Czech rn :)

Receiving a message from someone In the same situation as mine and with the same expectations as mine - would be the best surprise ever... I'm still waiting for that person to light up my life 😔

I wish I had enough faith to believe someone's out there for me but... I no longer do.

I'm begging you, If you don't want to read my post or If after reading my post, you just know you wouldn't get along with me, don't send me a message... I don't think opposites attract and I don't want to talk to people who think "she's not someone I want to be friends with but I can talk to her" 🙁

Hello! If you really want to send me a message, read my post, please! I want to talk to people from European countries because I live In Europe & I would love to meet my new friends In real life (In the future, obviously) 🌸

I want you to read everything because my expectations aren't the same as other people's expectations. I also want you to know what to expect because even though we're all here to spend time with others, not everyone needs new friends. Some people want to find someone to play games with & It's just an example.

I made this account In 2021 and even though I'm really active on Reddit, I can't make new friends... Not everyone on Reddit Is toxic or rude but there's ALWAYS something missing because I don't feel any emotional connection... I would love to change my life & finally wake up excited to text someone I really, really like 🙁 But... Life Isn't easy and I'm not sure If there's still a chance for me to find someone with exactly the same expectations as mine, someone who wants to meet someone new...

• I'm DEFINITELY NOT Interested In small talk! I had to use capital letters because I don't like low-effort messages and I don't even want to read them. Repetitive questions like "How are you?", "What are you up to?" or "What are your plans for the weekend?" aren't enough to start a conversation with me.. Don't get me wrong - Questions like these can be an Interesting addition to conversations about something else, but whenever people ask me the three most common questions In the world - my answer's the same because my life Is quite monotonous and I don't really know what people expect to hear 🙁 I also don't like abbreviations. Abbreviations are shortened forms of words or phrases. Why? I just don't like them because I see no reason to use shortened forms of words that are already short enough, you know? Abbreviations are common among minors and bored adults but I'm neither a minor, nor a bored adult. I want to see emotional maturity, warmth and kindness In conversations with others.

• I don't need to see your list of hobbies to know If you're someone I would get along with! You can tell me what you're Interested In but.. Believe It or not - I'm not like others and even If you're Interested In something I'm not - we can still be friends! What matters to me Is what you're like (If you're honest, talkative, kind, understanding and If your outlook on life Is similar to mine)

• I don't want to talk to minors and people way older than me. Why? I don't want to talk to minors because I'm an adult & I don't want to talk to anyone over fifty for example. Emotional maturity doesn't necessarily come with age so you can send me a message even If you're 20 (It's just an example) but please, don't contact me If you want to remind me that I'm older than you. I want you to feel comfortable & I want to feel comfortable myself. When I read messages like "Hi, I'm younger but I hope you don't mind" I always say to myself "If my age bothers you, you should've contacted someone else" I absolutely don't mind talking to people younger than me If they know how to communicate with others 🌸

• PLEASE, Don't use AI to talk to me! I Can't stand AI generated messages! If I wanted to read AI generated messages, I wouldn't be here! I read AI generated messages and comments all the time and I'm sick of It!

• I don't want to get any messages from people whose accounts are NSFW! Please, respect my decision! It's none of my business If you're here to find someone to flirt with or If you're an Internet exhibitionist but I don't want to see you with no clothes on - If you want to be my friend & I don't want to know what you want to do with other women In bed. If you are on Reddit to flirt with others, be on Reddit to flirt with others but... don't make an alternative account to hide who you really are just to send me a message. Pretending to be someone you're not - Isn't good for anyone

• I'm not a fan of sarcasm! I do - have a sense of humor but I'm not someone who makes fun of everyone and everything... Jokes about disabilities, death, religion or someone's financial status - are unacceptable to me!

• I also want to meet people who don't mind listening to negative stories and sharing them with others. My life's not easy so If you want to be In my life, you should be prepared for a realistic or even pessimistic outlook on life. I'm definitely not an optimist and I know I wouldn't get along with optimistic people who always tell others "Just believe In yourself and everything's gonna be OK" or something. We don't always get what we want & and It's completely normal to lose hope "for a better tomorrow" after many failed attempts. Not everything's as easy as It seems to be so If all you want to say to someone who needs emotional support Is "Don't complain" or "Find a therapist" Please.. don't send me a message. Not all sad people need therapists and let's be honest - Would a therapist replace a true friend? Absolutely not! Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on! I also don't mind listening to sad stories (even If they're repetitive) because I know what It's like when no one wants to listen to you...

• I would love to meet people who also don't have anyone, you know? There's absolutely nothing wrong with having friends and not being single but I'm single and I don't have anyone special In my life... It's just easier for me to get along with others If there's some common ground. I just feel better talking to people who know what It's like to be completely alone & let's be honest - People who have friends or partners, have less time for others...(which Is completely understandable) and I? I don't want to feel like an option, again. I'm not here to meet as many people as possible because I choose quality over quantity 🌸

• If your comment history Is full of comments "If you want to talk, hit me up" don't send me a message. I don't want to be rude but If It doesn't make any difference to you who you want to chat with - I'm definitely not for you. I want you to be my friend because of who I am! (If after reading my post you think you'd get along with me) I don't need emotional support from someone who doesn't even want to read my post.

• I want to talk to people who love and use emojis 🤭😊 Why? Emojis help us express our emotions even If others can't see our faces. Two emojis "😊" and "😔" are completely enough. You're probably surprised but.. text messages without emojis are really emotionless...I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea" as it sounds dismissively. First impression Is everything to me! I want to see your kindness even In a text message

Ps. I don't like kids and I don't want to ever become a parent. I just thought everyone should know that just In case. I don't want any unpleasant conversations with anyone. Not everyone wants to be friends with people who don't want kids so.. It's better to be honest. 🌸

Ps.2 I don't reply to messages I'm not Interested In even If they're long! I'm not on Reddit to pretend anything and I'm not here to be everyone's best friend. Some people lie & make empty promises to get attention. I? I'm quite selective because I know what I want.

Ps.3 I admire sensitive people who are not ashamed of crying In front of others! Crying Is not a weakness! It's not a weakness even If you're a guy 🧡