r/Needafriend

Hey everyone, I just really need to vent and hopefully get some advice because I’m feeling so drained and lonely.

Lately, it feels like every single time I try to just make a good, regular guy friend, they always end up wanting to date me, be my boyfriend, or push for some weirdly intimate situation. I just want a buddy to hang out with, joke around with, and talk to without any romantic or sexual pressure.

Most recently, I was getting to know a guy I thought was super chill. I explicitly set boundaries and asked if he could handle just being platonic. He claimed he wanted to treat me "like one of the guys," but then he started throwing out hints about wanting to kiss me, making passive-aggressive comments, and even text-asking me to sit in the bathroom with him while he showered under the guise of "having panic attacks." When I firmly held my ground about strictly being friends, he completely shut down, went silent, and left me on read.

It drives me absolutely crazy because it feels like a lot of guys use the "chill friend" routine as a fake foot in the door, and the second they realize they aren't getting a relationship or a prize out of me, they drop out of my life. It makes me feel like I'm not valued as an actual human being or a friend—only as a potential partner.

I really want to have male perspective and male friends in my life, especially since I'm training for a team-oriented career, but this whole process is so exhausting.

Does anyone have tips on how to handle this? Where do you go to find actual, genuine guy friends who already respect women as platonic peers? What are early green flags that a guy actually just wants to be friends and doesn't have a hidden agenda? Thanks in advance.

hiiiia! im up late watching videos and I beg someone to talk to me. I'm pretty lonely so it would be nice to speak to someone about anything to keep me company. I'm always up for hearing about people's lives or talking about mine. send a video I should watch too and I'll send one back. if not ask me any question and I'll try answer it as honestly as I can.

I feel like 99% of dm would be from fat dirty cheesy creeps looking for sexual content. Am I wrong? is the 1% THAT good?

Hey, I’ve been going through a really difficult time. A lot of my friends are either too busy for me or have left me because they felt that the trauma I’m currently going through was an inconvenience to them. That makes me feel bad because what I’m going through isn’t my fault. Anyway, I’m honestly tired of superficial friendships. I won’t vent to you 24/7, and I’ll give you space when you need it. All I want is a friendship where I don’t have to hide what I’m going through or my pain behind a smile anymore. I also want a friendship where we’re both genuinely interested in what the other has to say.

Besides that, I really like horror movies, making art, listening to music (specifically post-punk), talking about the metal and goth subcultures, and collecting random stuff! I find comfort and joy in the dolls, cassettes, and vinyl records that I collect. I also enjoy reading weird books and comics once in a while, whenever I have the time.

Also, we don’t have to talk all the time. All I'm looking for is a friendship where I can be myself.

Missing the hubs!! Been outta state working for a while don’t know when he’ll get back. No friends here locally!

So it’s around 9pm here and I wanna make a new friendship since I got ghosted by someone I talked to for like a day and a half!

Make sure to dm me if you can

I've had really overwhelming couple of weeks but don't have friends to burden it with. Apparently, my partner is not interested in listening either. Is there anyone free to chat so I can get this off my chest? You can tell me a bit about yourself too so it's not entirely one sided.

i just thought i'd post here too. hi i am cat. i am autistic sorry if i am slow to understand! please be from the US, that way our timezone difference isn't crazy and it's easy to chat!

i like my little pony and other cartoons, writing, reading, games, and just creative medias in general. if you're a creative person or like gaming totally message me!

send me a little intro (your age and name and interests) and i'll reply. if you just say "hey" i probably won't respond sorry 😭

i like older friends :)

Hey everyone!

I’m 24F from India, and I thought I’d give this a shot because I’d love to meet some new people and have some random conversations.
A little about me…I’m into drawing, music, movies, travelling, mountains, and anything creative.

I’m into Punjabi, Malayalam, Bollywood and English music, and I’m definitely a sucker for feel-good movies and rom-coms. I can talk about pretty much anything though…from music and movies to travel, hobbies, life, completely random thoughts, or just sending each other dumb memes.

I’m not really looking for anything specific, just hoping to meet some nice, genuine people online and see if we click. Different time zones, different countries, different interests…all welcome.

So yeah, if you feel like chatting, feel free to drop me a message! Tell me a little about yourself too. :)

Hi!

I am a 30 year old female from Virginia. Id really love to find some good female friends (or male). I enjoy traveling (just did a big road trip from TX to Cali) beautiful 😍 , music, concerts (into collecting vinyls and cassettes - mostly older music, 80s classic rock, new wave. Etc. ) I love cooking, grilling, baking, trying new recipes, everything homemade as possible. Outdoors, ATVs, beach, Florida 🥰. Anyone with similar interests id love to chat with!

I hate to say this but I feel a little pathetic about my crush so I'm trying to act dignified but boredom got the better of me , and also my parents are being jerks so that's that , it just feels so lonely and dark rn and I couldn't be brave enough to speak to people I know, so maybe strangers would be better help? Idk but it just felt brave putting myself out there and also hey don't hesitate to tell me funny stories as long as they're sfw

Looking for a female friend for a casual, fun connection. I want something low-stress but with a little spark/spiciness to it.

Definitely not looking for anything complicated or heavy right now—just a cool person to talk to, hang out with, and keep things exciting.

If you're looking for the same vibe, slide into my DMs.

A quick plot twist: currently in treatment for drug addiction, alongside a history that includes some distribution felonies. So im come with a little baggage, tattoos and a high speed lifestyle. Consider that chapter fully closed, with all energy now directed toward recovery, personal growth, and moving forward.

I don’t have a lot of friends, I work a lot and it makes it hard but I am down to connect with others, I am in a relationship, I’m a tomboy for sure, I play Xbox so I’m down to game, I like reggae, i like YouTube, I like to be outside, I like bmx, I also like snowboarding but I don’t know a whole lot about it. I’m easy going and chill, im just looking to connect with others as finding friends in person is hard.

Basically I’m trying to (copy) this assignment which is boringggggg, and I keep getting distracted, so I need someone to just talk to me while I finish this thing up, nothing special just pure yapping, I don’t need to use much brain while copying this so I can talk for long, since it’s a longgg assignment. So yeah, anyone up for talking and has much time? Idk if I’m the most interesting person out there but eh just you know I’m not good at consoling people, and nothing inappropriate please (I have way too much on my plate rather than dealing with reddit degenerates sorry). Anyways I’d like someone closer to my age for relevance and it’s even better if you have much to talk about specifically, also considering I’m a stranger so it’s not like I’ll judge, you wanna rant about your day week month year, go ahead, I won’t tell you even if I judge (hehe). I’m coffee high, and my ADHD is bad bad bad, so yeah if you can deal with this yap away. Drop an intro and something you might wanna yap about, any (hi) etc will be ignored since I’m wayyyyy too tired to start a full blown chat only to loose interest. No dry stuff please and voice chat for people who are confused about what I mean by yapping.

Anyone up for a chat? I’m bored but also want to let things go off my chest lmao

honestly, i’ve been feeling pretty lonely lately and i miss having someone i can just talk to. someone i can text about my day, tell random little things to, call when i’m off work, or keep company while we’re both doing our own thing.

i’m a mom of 3, an english major in school full time, and i just started working as an oil technician around 50-60 hours a week, so my life is pretty busy between work, school, and mom stuff. but even with all that going on, i still find myself wishing i had someone to talk to at the end of the day.

i’m socially awkward and a little shy at first, but i really do want to connect with people. i feel like making friends as an adult is so hard, especially when it seems like people are interested in talking for a little while and then just disappear. i know life gets busy, and i don’t expect someone to be available 24/7, but i’d love a friendship where we actually make an effort to keep in touch and get to know each other.

i like gaming, reading, horror and fantasy, metal, thrifting, bookstores, iced lattes, and rambling about whatever random thing i’m currently hyperfixated on lol.

i just want a friend i can be myself around. someone who wants to hear about the little things, who will tell me about their day too, and who doesn’t make me feel like i’m bothering them by reaching out. i want the kind of friendship where we can go from strangers to being part of each other’s everyday lives.

if you’re lonely too, or just looking for someone genuine to talk to, i’d really love to hear from you.

I wanted this so bad and now I sit in my kitchen at night wondering who to tell about my day. It's not sad exactly, just quiet. I like cooking, cross stitch, and old sitcoms. Want a text friend for the quiet evenings.