Even what can i do for this there's no solution I'm not rich to offer plastic surgery
The grooming doesn't help for me because of this so what can i do with my face i think i have the most disgusting face card compared to every other men
So I was a restaurant and while I was getting in my car to leave someone stopped me to give me their friends phone number. I never saw her friend but decided to text anyway. After texting back and forth for an hour I ask for a pic of her.
Unfortunately I am not attracted to her and don't want to be rude and hurt her feelings.
I'm in my mid thirties and never had to deal with this situation before because I've always been less attractive one in any given situation.
Update We talked for a little while and found out we have different interests that aren't compatible. I like like video games and astronomy, she likes painting and traveling. So we wished each other the best of luck. Phew! Crisis averted and lesson learned 😅
I hope this doesn’t come off as an attractive person larping because I’m NOT attractive. But anyone else have a low self esteem but a high ego? I feel ugly when I’m around other people because it makes me realize how bad I look when other girls have perfect hair, good skin, and have good looking faces but when I’m alone especially over the holidays I develop an ego and pretend to myself that I’m attractive to myself because I’m not physically in the same room as other people to compare myself to which only leads to my soul being crushed when I go out in public and see attractive people.
yes I get better treatment,yes new friendships are easier for me,yes people are nicer,yes I get free things but guess fucking what I feel absolutely DEAD inside im a horrible person and I feel so much guilt and anxiety daily.If I could trade lives with someone who is ugly but has peace of mind right now I absolutely fucking would.This is not to say the cliche “ looks don’t matter “ bc yes society is kinder to you when you’re pretty but it doesn’t and will never magically fix all your problems ,if your internal world is fucked a pretty face won’t fix that.I understand the struggle,I have been the ugly one in my friendgroup all throughout high school,I didn’t date or was approached by anyone in my teen years but I’d rather have being ugly as my only problem instead of the hell im going through.
I was just waiting at the bus stop minding my own damn business and this couple gets there and start glaring at me so rudely. Like I was a disgusting nuisance that they wanted to go away so their eyes could stop hurting. I obviously wasnt going to go away since I needed to get to work and also i got there first so idk what their problem was. There was a large seating area so multiple people could sit, so its not like I was taking up too much space.
And they wouldn't stop. They just glared at me the entire time until the bus came even though I wasn't even doing anything.
What do you do when people do this? I guess it's better than when people laugh at me and are clearly joking about my looks with their friends, but it's still awkward
Brutal fact is we are much more lonely in all of life than we think. Even in this sub, there is a hierarchy…..
The stats may say this and that, but if you go out enough, especially as Gen Z male, you’ll notice just how tall it seems literally everyone is. Idk man. Even in ethnic areas, or some ages older than you, it seems everyone is legit tall. Like 5”10 at very minimum and girls often 5”6ish.
I know yall could say, oh but the brain only notices the tall ones and how we are overthinking it ect, but let’s be very real here, even if it isn’t much self respect out loud. As part of human nature to not want to ever feel at the bottom, you’ll desperately look around to compare yourself and find someone who is your height or shorter, so as to not be and look as that one rock bottom man. In this case, your brain is actively looking for guys your height or shorter, not bypassing them. If you simply can’t find anyone around your height, then bad news, YOU are the smallest guy around and everyone else is looking at you to feel better about themselves…..
Adding to the facts about the stats lol, maybe Gen Z IS slightly shorter after all by like a few cm compared to Gen X and Older Millennials who are confirmed consistently tallest people. Terrible UPF diets, childhood obesity, unrestrained internet access, chronic stress, pollution, hyper competitive social life and cruelty that comes with it, is very likely the culprits for this very slight, almost negligible decrease in adult height. But again it’s very negligible and being under 5”10 as a young man is just not respectable height (not even counting our own absolute cursed heights). And who cares about older generations being taller or shorter or whatever, if you’re young, your competition and social and dating pool is other young people after all. Over when your height is so bad, some cringemaxxed 40 year old Andrew Tate ass wannabe who actually has the height you need, has a higher chance of bedding your age group or looks match.
Maybe the guys our heights are most likely shut ins and stay tf away from outside world unless they absolutely have to be and can you blame them? But if you do choose to go outside, your main social hubs (you can’t really use dating apps or online meet-ups, you simply don’t have the height or likely face/neurotypical stats to do so), are the usual place that only tall, handsome, well built young people would dare to constantly populate. Bars, nightclubs, sports clubs, friend group meet ups, even stuff that we already tend to go to like gym or therapy or whatever lmao still have such young privileged fuckers all over.
To add to this…. most of us just don’t even have solidarity in our life circumstances. All the stuff I mentioned, the general vibe isn’t exactly uncommon in young men today (even if they aren’t truly short or ugly), but they do have things that existentially we’ll never have. Idk man. I want to think so, so I feel less lonely and less “broken”, but apparently like less than 3% of men arrive at 30 virgins. In fact, most lose it by 25 if they are unlucky and when the modern media stats say stuff like 63% it means that’s how many are currently single, not necessarily virgin. These dudes apparently at least experienced teen love or something sexual experienced before they reached the early 20 lonely ages. You being KHH virgin at 24 or whatever and short and bullied and lonely, is in fact much more rare than you think.
When people think of a stereotypical messed up lonely loser Gen Z young man who’s at bottom of society, they picture some average height dude, whose surprisingly handsome and physically fit who had a few experiences throughout school and college and is just now having a “bad phase”. They can’t even picture our stats, and it seems even nature itself can’t, as evidenced by the stats on how extremely rare it is. Seems when nature thinks of surplus or loser men, it thinks of the same average height 6.5/10 dude who’s having a dry spell, as the media itself does. We are below even that it seems, we literally social mutations that shouldn’t have happened.
Not many people are us or have those stats. Insanely brutal how lonely and fucked up our situation is. Back in Covid, normis and those same people outside in such places today having times of their lives, were having absolute mental crises (rightfully?) form a mere few weeks or months without social life or sex or whatever, and the media fully validated them. Just to tell us to fix up and get over ourselves, when such conditions have been with us since conception effectively. Again, proves how existentially lonely we are. This IS NOT common nor standard for young men today, even if they objectively having and time. We’re entirely something else and much much rarer for the worse.
Tell me if I’m wrong……
I am literally the ugliest person alive, I have never mey someone who is uglier than me
I hate god for creating me, Ihate my parents for having me
I just wish if I was a bitt just a bit prettier to be accepted by people
I wish I could be anyone else im tjis world ANYONE BUT ME cause I always see that other people have some potential to be better or prettier but for me, whatever I will do I will still remain a FREAK and my whole life is ruined because of this
I jist want one reason one reason to live and if I did not find any, why not ending it all
In Leviticus 21:16-23, God forbid anyone with a disability or ugliness from serving at the altar, for their apparence would insult him and his holy site. What a strange thing to say, isn't it?
I see a lot of people telling their experience about how rude people toward them but I never felt that tbh because most of the times people give me normal reaction or interaction but I still get some rudeness sometimes
I was at college a while ago and a bunch of guys just started throwing stuff at me for no reason, initially I thought it was an accident since one of their friends were nearby and I thought they were aiming for him but it happened several times after that even after their friend had left
I’m so sick of my face and having to be anxious all the time because I’m ugly
I wish people in my life would just be truthful with me because I know I’m ugly. It’s ridiculous, I hate people that lie to just make me feel better, I want the truth even if it hurts
I’m not even really sure how to word this. But i used to be obese, had horrible looking hair and makeup, dressed like a boy, etc. I was just very ugly, gross to look at.
Now, I still definitely don’t look like most pretty girls, but i have lost 100 pounds, learned how to style myself, do my makeup and my hair, etc.
I finally got male attention for the first time ever (i even have a boyfriend now wtf), i get more compliments, people are nicer to me
But, I still feel the exact same way as i did before. I feel like a slob, i feel so disgusting. my skin feels so uncomfortable all of the time. How do you even begin to love yourself when your entire life you’ve been told to do the opposite?
I’m just curious because I scroll through this sub all the time and I feel exactly the same way you guys do, even now that i’ve had a “glow up.”
idk, i’m just rambling now. what do you guys think?
It's usually women but some guys do it too. I don't understand people who play along. It's such an obvious attempt at more attention and ego boosting (I'm not referring to any BDD-type content because we all know the difference). People are either (1) being nice for whatever reason (2) are idiots who genuinely walked right into it.
I wouldn't be caught dead in a picture let alone a selfie. Over the past 10 years I've kept only one photo because it's with my mom and sister; it's also taken from a good distance away. Fuck these people with their "Teehee I know I'm cute but I want to hear it 1000 more times". I don't wish harm on anyone, but I would also have zero empathy should they suddenly be disfigured.
Those people are fucked in the head. Actually ugly people don't need confirmation - we know we're ugly and we know we'll just get shit on for posting. A lot of us avoid mirrors and photos because they're such stark and lingering reminders of how we look. They don't know what they don't know. Maybe they know but don't care because they'll do anything for more compliments.
I still wear masks regularly because I look so much better that way.
Before anyone asks NO i do NOT hate him, NO i do not wish harm on him before anyone runs to the comments with those. This is not a post to bash him.
He’s so gorgeous and i hate that so much. Theres times i can’t stop staring at him in an admirable way and i clearly see what girls see in him. He’s by far the best looking person ive ever seen and yes, as a twin this sounds fucking insane to say but i wish I looked like him. I don’t. (Yes, we’re identical twins not fraternal) I’m bottom scraps of the barrel hideous compared to him due to my deformities on both my face and body. My brother looks as if he’s a movie star and i look like a failed lab experiment. I look like a more fucked up version of Thomas Crooks the guy who attempted to kill Donald Trump in 2024 and my brother looks eerily similar to someone like Roger Taylor in the early days of Queen. It makes me wonder and even hate so much what the fuck even happened in the Gene pool. I had the most fucked up luck in the history of, well, probably ever.
I was staying at a hotel in Las Vegas. We were having fun in the pool, playing with a float. I felt happy for a change. I was laughing/smiling and feeling carefree. Just then, I noticed two men, both white, in their thirties, standing at the edge of the pool, both of them smirking at me with that awful look people like me have come to instantly recognise as that look that tells you you're too ugly to be enjoying yourself. My mood changed after that. I became upset, anxious and on guard. Ruined the day, and years later, I still remember it.
It is not the first time I've been out in public where I've felt targeted simply for looking like i'm enjoying myself, as if i dont have a right to because of how i look.
considering you also get targeted when you're not looking so happy or enjoying yourself, life kind of sucks
I was in junior high. a friend of mine who had moved about 60 miles away around two years before phoned me, inviting me to her birthday party, and also to spend the weekend with her. She hadn't seen me in that whole 2 years. I missed her. I was looking forward to seeing her. I thought we'd have a lot of fun and get to catch up.
As soon as she opened her door and saw me, her face dropped. She was awkward and avoided me. She had a ton of new friends buzzing around her. I didnt know any of them, obviously, and they were all having a great time together. They looked like they were in the popular crowd. I was entirely left out the entire evening. Nobody spoke to me, not even my friend.
During the night, as we slept in sleeping bags on her floor, a couple of the girls pranked me. They poured some water over my middle, so it would look like i wet the bed. i knew because i had woken up from the noise, and pretended to be asleep. Hilarious, right?
Then all her friends left, and it was just my "friend" and me. I thought maybe she'd be nicer with her friends gone. She wasn't. She treated me badly, and made fun of how i looked. It hurt.
Sunday afternoon came, and her mother drove me home. My "friend" didn't come. Her mom said nothing to me the whole way back.
I never heard from my "friend" again. Decades on, it still hurts when I think about it.
How many of you good looking people find this funny? Hope I've made you feel better about yourselves. That's why I'm here, after all.
To the mods here, I HOPE this is not against the rules or something. Also, how is she ugly? I don't know if she lacks confidence or she is just seeking for attention but seriously? Is this the new ugly now? I'm a guy that can't even look in a mirror because of my chopped face and strabismus and yet, there are CLEARLY attractive people that are considering themselves ugly. I doubt she's not getting complimented and asked out. Meanwhile I've never got any compliment as an ugly guy. Only insults and weird looks from both sexes. I would love to be a woman and look like her but I didn't pull the lucky card when I was born.