r/ugly

You can lose weight, get in shape, try to get a flattering haircut, but your face is still ugly. I see so many people "glow up" simply from losing weight. They always had good looking features, those features were just covered up. If you're already skinny, but ugly, there is literally no fucking hope. You're simply and plainly ugly and that's it.

People ALWAYS look at the face first. Men want a pretty face, and they will take the pretty chubby girl, over the skinny horse faced woman. Genetics can royally screw people over. That shit just isn't fair.

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I have eyes. I can see. I'm not stupid. Im not a baby. I don't vent to people because I hate hearing that shit like what the fuck is the point. Why convince me that I'm not ugly.

The title. I just finished watching the finale of *The Boys* yesterday (I know it’s random, but I liked it), and the ending—more specifically, the show’s final scene—got me thinking about what life is really like and how some people’s final moments play out.

For those who haven’t watched it yet, >!in the end, Starlight (Annie) gets pregnant with Hughie’s child and they end up together (it’s literally the very last scene of the entire show). !<

This has made me realize something more realistic.

Some of us go through hard times, some even more than others, but whenever we go through it, people always say that “it’ll get better” or “you’ll find happiness later” or something like that, and it’s not always true. Some people never even get a happy life, let alone a happy ending. Some people just live doing the good/right thing and get bad outcomes, while many bad people spend their whole lives harming others, manipulating, and destroying, and yet they still get a good/nice life. This world is not fair.

I know that we can find happiness in life if we work for it, but we also need to accept the truth that not everyone can do it and that there are a bunch of people put there who died without having a decent life.

I have to deal with people at work and cant get a better job for now, reddit is the only platform i can socialize on while on my phone and people have been so unkind to me on here. i am an emotionally sensitive guy with an ugly and also very severe resting hostile face, my eyes are beady and jagged so smiling doesnt help much. i just need abit of kindness, people to talk to, any advice if willing.

I spend most of my days alone and isolated and it feels psychologically tormenting

I’ve gotten so used to people given me dirty looks of disgust and ignoring me even when I initiate convo and it’s just gotten to a point where I don’t even knew what to do at this point

It feels like when youre ugly you can’t even talk about your day with anyone because no one wants to talk to you

So what do you do to cure the loneliness and get your social needs met ?

Maybe I'm a bit reaching here, but I feel like the whole Odyssey casting outrage shows just how much more people care about looks than the message. They compare it to Troy, all while crying about "wokeness", completely ignoring that Troy was like 3h of "men=bad". Either they haven't watched it, or just didn't care because there's so many beautiful people there.

"Ew I look ugly" 🔁 translating 🔁 I don't look like a 10 right now

"I'm so fat" 🔁 translating 🔁 I don't look like a size 0

I genuinely hate ts because you know damn well you're not ugly

I always want to get into acting. No luck at all, not even for 1 line. At one point I realized it was my looks since acting teachers would ignore me and friends I made wouldn't cast me into anything. Back then I used to think its my foreign accent but no, if you are beautiful, they will cast you even if you are unable to speak English.

I grew up in Europe. When I was a kid, I had a friend who was a child actor on a TV series. I was jealous. I kept asking my family to take me to agencies. No agency showed interest in me. He still gets parts and yeah he had a lot of fangirls.​​

I had another friend. She wasn't actress but she was always dating. She was rarely single and she was like 15-16. Out​ of curiosity, I tried to find out what happened to her, I don't live in Europe anymore. I was shocked to see that she is an actress! Done some TV stuff and she is performing at a theater. I was shocked because she was never really into that.

I asked Chatgpt. It told me that those old friends of mine are conventionally attractive and photogenic and its unfair to compare myself to them. Here what it said about them:

"Your friends appear to have more of: natural photogenic ease facial relaxation approachable warmth and “camera harmony.”

Your face has: stronger angles more emotional tension less softness in expression heavier seriousness around the eyes and less natural camera openness. That makes you less: instant-commercial-photogenic."

I think that even though I have an attractive face, I can relate to a lot of posts here. Even more than on r/short.

Every time I see a post from a 5'6'' dude complaining about his struggles, I can’t help thinking about how different my life would be if I were his height.

I’m not denying his struggles, but I just can’t relate.

What is a good job for an autistic, ugly, socially anxious person? Please dont say dishwasher or kitchen or warehouse job lol. Fuck those jobs.

The way that it works is that frat parties have a high "female to male ratio," sometimes as high as 5 to 1, so there are a lot of women there. The goal of these frat parties is "keep the men out, so only the best ones are allowed to enter, and get as many women in as we can to inflate the numbers."

However, the rules are that if I want to enter, I must have gotten my name written on the list beforehand.

But it's not easy to just "know some frat guy" who will let you in.

So, every weekend, I get to hear about all of these parties going on that I can't even "put myself out there" for because the door is closed on my face because I don't have my "name on the list."

Every weekend, I get to see these large friend groups of women walking together to and from some frat party that they can just walk right into while I'm not allowed to get in.

The funniest thing about men constantly complaining that women only want the “top 10% of men” is that men themselves are probably even MORE concentrated in who they desire. Men will spend hours online acting like women invented shallow attraction while their entire sexuality revolves around a tiny percentage of women they consider exceptionally attractive.

Just look at male behavior instead of listening to male self-reporting. Look at who men follow on Instagram. Look at which girls blow up online. Look at the women getting millions of likes, comments, donations, subscribers, and obsessive attention from men. Look at the porn men consume. Look at the women men send to their friends. Look at the girls men suddenly become nervous, generous, attentive, funny, and emotionally available around. Men do not distribute attraction evenly at all.

Most men are not fantasizing about average women. They are fantasizing about extremely attractive women with pretty faces, tiny waists, nice bodies, polished aesthetics, sex appeal, confidence, and hyper-feminine energy. Even men who claim they “prefer natural women” usually mean naturally beautiful women who still perfectly fit beauty standards. Men say one thing, but their behavior says something completely different.

And honestly, I think a lot of men DESIRE high-maintenance women far more than they admit. They love glamorous women, beautiful women, socially desired women, “Instagram girls,” women with expensive aesthetics. The problem is that a lot of men also feel intimidated by those women because they associate them with a level of status, money, confidence, charisma, or attractiveness that they themselves don’t feel they have.

So instead of saying “I want this type of woman but I don’t think I can attract her,” they moralize it instead. Suddenly she’s “too high maintenance,” “too materialistic,” “attention-seeking,” “not relationship material,” etc. Meanwhile he still follows 400 women who look exactly like her and consumes content centered around women like that daily.

Male online spaces are FULL of this contradiction too. You constantly see men asking how to get hotter women specifically. Not how to become emotionally healthier. Not how to build meaningful relationships. It’s always “how do I pull girls out of my league,” “how do rich guys get beautiful women,” “how do I become attractive to hot women,” “how do I get Instagram-type girls,” etc. Men absolutely care about status through women and female attractiveness. They just don’t like hearing female attraction described in the same blunt way male attraction usually is.

That’s why I don’t buy the narrative that men are somehow less shallow or less selective than women. Men are extremely selective visually. Probably more than women in many ways. The difference is that male selectiveness has always been normalized, while female selectiveness gets treated like some societal problem.

I honestly think a lot of men were comfortable with attraction being hierarchical when women were the ones being ranked, evaluated, and chased. But now that women openly evaluate men too, suddenly everyone wants to pretend attraction should be completely egalitarian and morally pure.

Yes, personality can make a person stay, but they won’t even approach you or be interested in you if you look like a troll. Being good looking can help you get a job, advance your career, make friends, and people will generally treat you better. So, it doesn’t matter how nice you are if you are ugly. I used to think being a good person mattered more, but witnessing women making fun of my appearance at a hospital has shown me looks mean everything in this world.

I work in clinical pharmacology and mainly conduct research and do advisory work. I feel like maybe neuropharmacology would have been more interesting but at the same time probably more work.

My dream job was to be a model (LOL) but since my face/body wasn’t up to scratch I studied and worked on my brain and was always interested in biology and medicine. What job does everyone else do? Is it your dream job? If not what is? How did you fall into it? Was your job/career influenced by you being ugly?