r/ugly

I was called a ugly fuck on the street

I was walking back after a night out when two boys approached us and started making conversation. They seemed younger than us, and I didn’t feel particularly involved, which is something I struggle with in most social situations. I always seem to feel overlooked or ignored. Eventually, the conversation fizzled out, and as my friend waited for them to say something, I couldn’t handle the awkwardness or the feeling of being surrounded by a group of around 15 boys I didn’t know. I grabbed my friend’s hand and said goodbye, only for one of them to shout, “Bye, ugly fucks” as we walked away.

My heart dropped. I’ve never felt so humiliated, and I think it hurt so much because it touched insecurities I’ve carried for years. I’m in my second year of university, and I sometimes wonder whether I’ve simply outgrown the nightlife in my area. The scene is small, very local, and I often feel like I don’t fit in. Having olive skin and a larger nose has always made me feel different, but I never expected someone to openly call me ugly in the street, especially when people in my year were around to hear it. I already struggle with feeling overlooked and less attractive than other girls, and that one comment has left me questioning myself in ways I wish I didn’t.

i am so tired of people with the “oh you’re just insecure” or “no one is looking at you the way you think they are” bs.

it’s always attractive or at least perfectly average people saying things like that as it they’re doing you a sympathy service. like no, at a certain point it’s not if i like myself or not, it’s the objective fact that every fucking time i go outside, i get stared and scowled at like im some kind of subspecies. as a kid i’ve had people straight up walk up to me and ask why i looked so ugly. i’ve been treated with hostility and contempt by strangers who i never even interacted with beyond a smile and hello.

at a certain point, it’s irrelevant if im insecure about myself if the world consistently treats me like shit because of something beyond my control. i barely leave the house anymore, it’s actually depressing at this point. normals genuinely don’t get it.

I hate it so damn much calling yourself ugly while posting pics and videos on social media or in a gathering knowing damn well you're the attractive just to get sympathy from everyone and shi thing is people actually give them sympathy

Being is ugly is the worst experience and if someone is ugly and knows that they're ugly they wouldn't be posting themselves like that on damn thirst traps songs

I'm the ugliest one in my group and a single group photo scares the hell out of me and when attractive people who don't even care about camera or never need to spend time changing angles of camera just to get 1 good pic talk like they're ugly it's so infuriating it would've been better if they just accept that they're attractive Infront people instead of acting for sympathy and attention

People say "what if they just don't care about their looks that's why they don't get scared of cameras"

If that was the damn case the attractive person wouldn't calling themselves UGLY on social media because it doesn't effect them

Also going on and saying "no girl/boy ever approached me and asked for my number" that is such a terrible reason and they know it defining beauty if someone asks you or not

It makes me feel even worse and feeling of an outsider grows more

We were arguing in her bedroom and she called me the most hideous thing she has ever laid her eyes on, and how she wishes she never gave birth to me and how she could have “never gave into my dads requests for a child or entertained them.” Well then!

My dad is pretty ugly. Really ugly. Just going to say it as it is, that paired with his horrid attitude has caused him to lose jobs and connections he otherwise would have had just for being a white man. he didn’t have a real partner until he settled for my mother who is 2 years older than him and had adult two children from a previous marriage, while also being a chain smoker. I look exactly like him, unfortunately. He’s also an abusive pos so I have the right to say this

My mother isn’t exactly beautiful either though…lowkey never was. I come from very shitty genetic material, I’ve tried to be optimistic and hopeful but I just can’t deny the reality of it. My dads side of the family is extremely masculine and heavy set naturally, my moms side of the family is basically the same thing…I never had a chance.

My parents are both people who had no business whatsoever having children. Didn’t even bother to save up money for me to go to college despite being in their 40’s when they had me and despite the fact that I’m my father’s only child. The monster couldn’t even get a car for me.

I just hate them both. Despise them.

Do you have friends? How many? And if you do are they real friends or just superficial connections? I am asking this because I can function well in some groups, almost as if I was a normal person, but in other groups nothing happens and I am that one lonely guy who always sits alone (tbh I am not even trying because of the lack of confidence, but I think connections form even if you are passive as long as you are a normal looking person (I am not)). So how is this going for you?

Do you think it should become more normalized and accessible to the average person? Or are you against it? Most people on this sub seem to agree that it's the only way out if you're truly ugly, but it becoming more widespread would just make the beauty standards even more unnatainable to someone who can't afford it/doesn't want it. What do you think?

EDIT : Grammar.

I've accepted that I'm going to be treated poorly in general interactions and I have to create an incredible work ethic because I'm the last person someone will get away with lagging ,but I still try to be fit, eat well, find nice fragrances and form fitting semi stylish clothing or things that represent my taste. Why do I feel undeserving of having nice things? I mean how many of us go into I'm ugly anyway, why try?

I'm sick of my friends telling me that it's always my personality as to why I find it so hard interacting with people normally, or other things, but there are times when I haven't even said a word yet I can already look on their faces that they're feeling an ick on me simply by just looking at my face.

Like yeah, like the time I was PHYSICALLY bullied that I was beaten senseless for not being attractive that they never even know who I am, yet the audacity to jump to the conclusions it's my personality as to what led me to that situation.

JUST SAY IT STRAIGHT UP I'M UGLY, I'M USED TO BEING CALLED THAT, THERE'S NO REASON TO NOT SAY IT ATP, JESUS CHRIST

i am so tired of people with the “oh you’re just insecure” or “no one is looking at you the way you think they are” bs.

it’s always attractive or at least perfectly average people saying things like that as it they’re doing you a sympathy service. like no, at a certain point it’s not if i like myself or not, it’s the objective fact that every fucking time i go outside, i get stared and scowled at like im some kind of subspecies. as a kid i’ve had people straight up walk up to me and ask why i looked so ugly. i’ve been treated with hostility and contempt by strangers who i never even interacted with beyond a smile and hello.

at a certain point, it’s irrelevant if im insecure about myself if the world consistently treats me like shit because of something beyond my control. i barely leave the house anymore, it’s actually depressing at this point. normals genuinely don’t get it.

It's so sad because I look at old pictures of myself when I didn't know I was ugly and get a physical reaction from how insanely ugly I look in that picture compared to everyone around me. It looks like there is something terribly wrong with my face. I cannot believe I looked like that for so long (and still do no matter how freaking hard I try). But it actually breaks my heart to even think like that because that's just a kid in those pictures. Just a little kid who had no reason to be unhappy with her life back then.

And now that I know I am ugly (just personally but also from other people) it sucks so bad because nothing I do will ever look truly good because of my features. For context I have quite a flat wide nose, I have a very flat nose bridge and wide nasal base which is the worst type of nose you can have imo. I can't put makeup on because it literally makes no difference. Makeup is designed to enhance already good features. I don't have that. I can't even smile without my face morphing into the ugliest thing and I have to physically put so much effort into getting a decent picture to absolutely no avail. And people get frustrated when I don't wanna take pictures but its for them because they are gonna look fine anyways. I just hate it so much. I wish I was at least average looking. But it's so frickin bad I hate looking at people. Sometimes people start laughing for no reason looking at my face and then quickly apologize or I can see them hold back a smi​le and the worst part is I get it. Because even I feel disbelief when I look in the mirror. It's mortifying and I feel like a narcissist whenever I try to put a lot of effort into my appearance but that's because it always looks so freaking bad no matter what I try.

I'm young and I don't need people telling me to just try and enjoy my life, find people who treat you well regardless,etc.i know that. I'm just really struggling with the idea of being unlucky enough to be this ugly and being surrounded by people who aren't.

I've been ugly my entire life, and by no means I claim that I look attractive now, I'm not a narcissist but I've improved on how I look and I noticed a huge change in people's behaviour towards me. Back then people used to be extremely racist, mocking me for my skin tone and how ugly I used to look, but now I rarely even get racist comments or stereotypes, almost like no one even bothered in the first place. People didn't start treating me better since my glowup but they haven't been treating me like absolute shit like I dealt in my childhood, it felt good that at least now I get treated like everyone else, a regular guy. But now that I think about it, even racism is rooted based on how ugly or beautiful a person looks, I hate this world. (sorry for the long rant)