r/SuperMorbidlyObese

I love my parents immensely, and I know they love me, but their biggest mistake was failing to instill good eating habits in me. I’m not trying to shuck off responsibility by blaming them. My weight is MY responsibility, and I believe that wholeheartedly, but it’s undeniable that their failure to manage my diet during early childhood is a major contributing factor to my current predicament.

I can’t help but think that so many of my problems, both physical and mental, can be attributed to growing up obese. I was a sensitive kid, and was cognizant from an early age that I was fat. It was the reason I never wanted to do anything physical, whether it be playing sports, or just running around outside. The thought was always going through my head that someone was quietly laughing at me, and I was probably right.

Now that I’m an adult, I can look back and recognize that much of my introverted and shy nature came about as a result of being a stereotypical fat kid. It is, at times, difficult for me not to feel anger towards my Mom and Dad, but I’d never admit it to them. Again, I love them deeply, but I know my life would be so much better if I wasn’t carrying around this baggage.

A couple weeks ago I broke my computer chair. I have another one that's sturdier, but I wasn't using it, because the cushion was uncomfortable. I ordered another cushion to put on top of it and it's serviceable. But now the wheels have bent and it doesn't roll very well. Ordered new ones with a 2000 lbs weight capacity, but they haven't arrived yet.

I really need my computer chair to be decent, because I work from home on the computer all day.

On top of that, the mattress on my bed has a developed a dip in it.

If this isn't the wake up call I need, then I dunno what will do it.

I’ve only ever been in one romantic relationship in my whole life. It only lasted eight months, and the entire time, the guy would talk about how unattractive he found my body. He would talk about how I needed to lose weight and say that if I didn’t lose weight by the time we wanted to have kids, he would want to use a surrogate because he didn’t want to risk having fat kids.

He even tried on several occasions to order appetite suppressants for me after I had already said no, and he tried to give me some for my birthday. I had never been so insulted, especially because he had made such a big deal about not wanting to get me anything because he didn’t have the money. His mom would also comment on my weight and say that his brother and dad would never be able to accept someone who was fat. To make things worse, he would go on about how his extended family and friends wouldn’t like me because I’m fat and that they would probably assume I was dumb because of my weight.

I think the worst part, though, is that even months after I broke up with him, I still feel like he was the only guy in the world willing to give me a chance and look past my weight. I’m 26, and I’ve never been in another relationship. I can’t help but feel like it really is because I’m so fat. The whole time I was dating him, I was trying so hard to diet. I would go the entire day without eating, then go home starving and eat a bunch. It really was a vicious cycle, but at the time, I would’ve done anything to keep myself in a relationship.

I’m really worried that I’ll never find someone who will actually love me and that no one will ever be able to look past my weight. Are there many people here who have successful relationships? I’m hoping to find some encouragement.

Anyone been sent home on oxygen due to obesity to recover and not need oxygen anymore? I knew I was having breathing issues but never thought I’d go home and be required to use it 24/7.

Hey everyone. I'm a 57F & weigh around 350 pounds and don't have a lot of stamina especially with my back. My feet bother me too. Sometimes my hip as well. Anyway, it helps if I sit after walking a few minutes. Then I get up and walk further and sit and repeat. I'm thinking about getting one of those rolling walkers with a seat so I can walk further and rest when I need to. Right now when I go walking I go to places with benches around. But that's limiting for where I can walk. Do they make these for people our size? For those of you that have a Rollator what kind do you have? Do you like it? Thoughts? Thank you.

Hey everyone!

I’m almost to my (first) goal weight of 299lbs, which is so exciting!

I don’t know if anyone else had this struggle, but I used to be terrified of knowing what I weighed because I felt so much shame from it. (Stems from having diets shoved down my throat from my mother since I was like 9.)

So for years, I just didn’t look at the number when I went to the doctor. Recently I was able to face that fear, gradually. I would still cry in the beginning of the process, especially because I didn’t realize I had gotten this far in weight gain. But since starting wegovy in October 2025, I weigh myself weekly.

All that to say, I was curious about how I compare now to years past. I dug up my old doctor reports from each physical. And guys… I weigh less than I did in Jan 2020!!! By about 5 lbs. I’ve literally undone 6 years of weight gain.

I’m flabbergasted because I thought I was much lower back then, mostly because I still feel weaker than I did then. This discovery has motivated me to keep up the progress AND to start incorporating more movement into my life. I’ve been primarily changing my diet because it hurt to move when I started. But I remember going on hikes back then! I can definitely do that again if I start building up the stamina!

Just wanted to share this discovery with people who relate. Hope you’re all having a great day.

I need to replace my mattress and I’m completely stuck on firmness. I’ve always assumed being heavier meant I needed the firmest mattress possible, but the last one was so hard that my back and hips were miserable by morning.

I’m around the 400 lb range and mostly sleep on my side. I need enough support that I’m not sinking into the middle, but I also need some give around my hips and shoulders.

If you’re around my size, what has held up well for you? I’m trying to find the best mattress for back pain without spending another few thousand dollars and realizing the firmness is wrong.

Being kind to myself does not work. Being mean to myself temporarily worked. I’ve gained 4 inches around my waistline binge eating and I need motivation to get off of my fat ass and loos the weight (again). I’m 20 years old and my whole life. I have never been able to keep the way off. I always go back to food because I have no self-control and it’s absolutely disgusting.i don’t even feel like a woman anymore just a blob

I’ve been severely morbidly obese my entire life. Literally since childhood. My BMI has been 74-76 my entire adulthood. I’m now 34, and I am feeling the effects of my obesity more than ever. I have hypertension, pre-diabetes, joint pain, gastrointestinal issues (suspected IBD), severe iron deficiency anemia, low B12, low vitamin D (even with supplementation), and hidradenitis suppurativa. I am always tired, and I always feel like a lazy piece of sh*t. I’m embarrassed about my weight and I can go on and on about how demoralizing it is to exist in a fat body. I feel like an enormous monster walking around everybody who is of normal weight. Somehow, I still manage to work and take care of myself.

I’m now at a point where I realize I have to lose the weight. I have to get healthier. I have severe health anxiety, and I am afraid of weight loss surgery even though I know the benefits outweigh the risks. I know that my weight will eventually kill me. But I have this insane fear that I’ll die from surgery complications. I’ve seen girls on TikTok with similar BMIs die months to years later due to issues from the bariatric surgery.

I was prescribed Zepbound, but my insurance doesn’t cover it. I’m willing to pay out of pocket for it. I had a good friend lose a substantial amount of weight on Ozempic. He went from the 300s to 170s. He completely changed his diet and works out a ton while on the Ozempic. He recommended I get on GLP1, and he offered to personally train me (he’s working toward becoming a certified personal trainer). I’m also looking to start physical therapy soon for my overall mobility.

I know that regardless of which route I choose, I will have to change my diet and make substantial lifestyle changes. There’s no skirting around it. I’m nervous that at my current BMI, weight loss surgery will be inevitable. Is that true? Can I achieve a healthy BMI with GLP1 and lifestyle changes alone?

Some months back I bought a walking pad in an attempt to start getting my steps in, but it’s too thin for me to use it. I can’t stand on the track without my thighs essentially being glued together. Bit of a devastating blow, and I’m still not moving, as I hate being perceived, so I never go outside, and when I do, it’s late at night and only for a bit because my back is screaming after a bit of walking. I can't figure out any other way to get steps in without pain, and I already have no will, energy, or motivation to do anything but bedrot, so not being able to do something inside is really hindering me. I know everyone's first thought will be to just buy a wider one, but I'm yet to find one that would work.

Hey folks. Starting out today on another round of trying to get healthier. 31 F (transitioning to male), 5’4” and about 450 lbs, which puts me in the 70s for BMI. Autistic and ADHD since those are factors.

I’ve been trying to lose the weight since I was 12. I have tried weight watchers, Food Lovers Fat Loss, and I’ve previously been on Saxenda (a GLP-1 that really wrecked me with constant vomiting and diarrhea even when I was only eating half an apple and a glass of water a day).

My biggest issues right now are struggling with my mobility, and feeling any motivation because I’ve tried before and failed probably a dozen times at this point. But I’ve hit my wall of continuing on the path that I am now. If I stay like this, I’m going to lose my partner, our hopes for our future, and probably my life.

Can anyone please give me any advice or tips or help to get started again? I can’t live like this anymore and I don’t know what to do. Thanks in advance.

Sorry in advance if this isn’t ok to post!!

I’ve been part of this community for a long time now and it’s really helped me through the ups and downs of living with my weight (CW: 143kg/315lb SW: 162kg/360lb). I’m about to start a masters programme in psychology/behavioural science, because I’m lowkey kind of sick of being told about my experience by people who have never even been chubby. I’m already thinking about what my research project should be for the year, but I wanted to throw it out to you guys and see if there’s anything you wish weight loss researchers would focus on or anything you think gets missed? My bugbear is how there never seems to be any understanding of what it’s like to bounce in and out of clothes sizing brackets. Sorry if that’s rambly! I’d really love to know your thoughts!!

TL:DR, 16 years into the journey and heavier than ever. Multiple obesity related illnesses, constant pain (physical & mental), little idea where to go from here.

Not sure there's any answers here, just need to vent a little I guess.

Everyone on my Dads side of the family is big, to the point I've had two cousins appear in TV documentaries. As a result I feel like I've been on a diet, or watching my weight as my Mum would refer to it my entire life.

Definatey learnt bad habits early on from that. There was a good cop bad cop kind of thing going on where my Mum would be strict and my Dad would be handing out snacks.

As I'm sure many of us do I look back at old photos, when I was deeply unhappy with my weight, and wish I looked like that now.

First went to the doctor in 2010 worried about my weight. At first it seemed they were interested. A whole range of blood tests, seemed to be giving a sample every couple of weeks at one point, all sorts of different diets but nothing seemed to work. The only time I did lose any weight was when I went on holiday to the US for 2 weeks and didn't bother worrying about my diet!

The NHS here in the UK works a tier system and you work your way up. Some of it was ridiculously basic. I'd be going to the gym for an hour everyday and then in the evening going to the tier 1 support group and it was 'can you walk to the other side of the room' type stuff. Got all the way up to tier 3 (of 4, with 4 being surgery) when the specialist I met with at the appointment told me 'some people are just big'.

I lost heart at that point tbh. I'd tried every form of exercise there is, repeatedly heard 'the weight will drop off' before nothing happened.

However despite being big all my numbers would come back good, no other health issues, no even pre-diabetic.

Fast forward a few years, and living in a different part of the UK, I hit late 40s and health issues started. First it was high blood pressure, then reflux, headaches, back ache, knee pain, other random pains.

Again entered the NHS tier system, tried all sorts of diets and nothing seemed to work but the health problems kept gradually getting worse. Ended up in A&E with a blood pressure episode and got a couple of 'you should have died'. Finally got referred to an endocrinologist which is the path to surgery.

There's a requirement to spend a year on a tier 4 weightless service, which I completed a couple of months ago. It then turned out the last year of treatment and appointments has disappeared from my records and as far as the NHS are concerned doesn't exist. The advise is to get a new referral from my doctor and go through the whole years long process again.

Of course like many when I read about GLP-1 I thought my saviour had arrived. Took one shot and developed shingles which knocked me out for weeks.

At the moment it feels like weight is creeping up, physical & mental health is getting worse, chronic pain, no family support, and potentially a years long wait, in my 50s, to get anywhere in the NHS system. All feels like it's getting overwhelming with nowhere to turn.

I’m 28 years old and I weigh 181 kg (399 lbs). My relationship with food is completely out of control. I eat when I’m sad, happy, anxious, nervous… basically, almost any emotion makes me want to eat. And the worst part is that I’m thinking about food all the time. I crave cake, lasagna, and other high-calorie foods, even though I know I’ll feel anxious afterward and worry that I’ve harmed my body. Sometimes I’m even afraid to eat because I keep thinking that my body might eventually collapse.

I already have several health problems related to my weight, and it’s really starting to scare me. I’ve tried weight-loss medication, spent quite a lot of money, and didn’t get the results I hoped for. It made me feel like a failure.

Yesterday I had some blood work done, and I’m going back to my endocrinologist this week. I’m also going to see a psychiatrist because I’ve realized that I won’t be able to solve this by treating food alone.

I’m really embarrassed to go back to my doctor without having been able to stick to the treatment. 😔

I’m 27, 5’3” (160ish cm), and 375 lbs (170ish kg). Sorry, I really don’t feel like doing math right now, but I think that’s close enough.

Anyway, I really want to change so I can find my person and move on with my life, but I’m really struggling with starting and with having no support or knowing anyone that can relate to the weight loss experience. I guess I'm just hoping for some tips and hopefully a bit of community.

I’ve been big my entire life. I remember being 265 at 13, and I guess I gained another 100 lbs during high school and have just been sort of stagnant since then. Last year when I got to 360 for the first time, I got a boost of motivation and got down to 330 but gained it all back plus 10-15 lbs that I’ve been battling with since. Now instead of stalling at 360 lbs, I’m stalling at 370 +/- 3 lbs.

Every week I swear I’m going to do it. I fill my fridge with turkey bacon, egg whites, lean ground beef, etc., and then I spend the next 3 days eating family-sized fast food meals. I’m so lost, but I don’t know what I’m doing.

I started earlier this year and then quit and started again. I am trying to do this super slow and ease into it because I don't want to give up again. I have been overweight most of my life and I have tried different things that have fizzled out for most of that. I mean, I have a lot of other issues like not having much time or energy and my skeleton trying to move out. But I am doing this, even though I am starting over again slowly to keep myself from quitting again. I gathered a group of activity to do, am starting with one round and adding more because last time I started at three and kept adding stuff and honestly overwhelmed myself. I have started ordering and picking out those dodads on tiktok to try and the next thing I want is to build up my daily steps after getting a walking pad. Maybe a vibration plate, though I am not sure what that has to offer but I would love to try it for the non-weight-loss things. I have no one to talk to about this so I came here so I wouldn't be alone and it would feel more concrete! :)

There isn’t a time that I don’t remember being heavy,so much so that now I feel if were to lose all the weight I wanted , I still wouldn’t be able to have any real relationship because I will always see myself as heavy, and it get depressing as hell thinking I may die alone because of my weight .

Please. I have gained too much weight. I am depressed now and its clinically diagnosed. Please provide any tips, rules. I will do anything. This body makes me feel like I'm a horrible human. I can't face anyone. It feels absurd to even call myself human. Any assistance is appreciated. I binge eat. No access to therapist or any sort of supplies. All I can do is cut down on food and exercise. At home, that is. I am 17f. I have been gaining weight slowly but surely and now it skyrocketed no I don't have any diseases btw

600 lbs fat guy here, and was wondering what bidet recommendations everyone else might have, especially ones that don’t have a control pad or control dial sticking out of the side of the toilet seat (my fat ass would just cover up such a thing, making the bidet useless).

Thanks in advance for any advice y’all’s might have!