Hi all. I’ve posted before about my struggles with sugar and soda addiction. It was better for a while, and now it’s back with a vengeance. How do you all keep yourselves motivated? Most of my friends tell me they take care of themselves for their kids or for a partner. I have neither, and it’s so easy for me to binge. I know we all struggle. What keeps you going?
Hi. im 673lbs, 5’7 and 27
I really hate to say this but unfortunately I think I am becoming close to being bedbound and would love any tips on how to stay active.
I haven’t been able to leave my house in close to a year, but recently I’ve noticed I can barely stand longer than a 40 seconds without immense pain. If i push myself then i can’t get out of bed for a while. I spend all day in my bed and unfortunately I rely on my boyfriend to help me walk, use the toilet and shower etc. I need to book a doctors appointment but I’m honestly so ashamed I dont know how i let myself become like this. I didn’t think I was above 450 until a few days ago. Is there any hope for me? Has anyone fully recovered from this? I know it sounds so stupid but mentally I think I’ve given up already. I really do want to get better but I am in so much pain all of the time and food is the only relief. I know it’s also making me worse but it’s so hard. Please does anyone have any tips for mobility?
I am trying so hard to lose weight, I have been eating way less than before and eating healthy since I do moderate exercise. Step on the scale was so happy. Then step on it again and keep going back and forth with my original weight. I feel so disgusted on how big I am.
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I just can't do this. I couldn't imagine counting calories for like the rest of my life and weighing every morsel of food that I put in my mouth.
I feel so depressed because I was walking around the store today and my hips had this tight to achy feeling so I know I've been gaining weight despite me not weighing myself. I'm not going to say exactly how much I weigh because I don't want to attract a lot of trolls but I'm not sure how I can get disciplined with myself and my eating habits.
I want so badly but I can't stop eating McDonald's and ordering off door. His harming my health and my budget deleting the app doesn't help either. I just don't know what to do with myself. I hate to say this I feel like I'm destined to be on my 600 lb life and about 2 or 3 years give or take five. I am so scared of eating myself into a disability. But I feel like there's nothing I can actually really do.
Like can someone please share stories about how they were losing control or were in my similar situation and they used calorie counting as a way to get back control of their life when it comes to their weight and eating habits. I really love cooking homemade Japanese food but I trade that in for a burger in a day. Though it makes me sad because cooking Japanese food is something that really makes me happy and brings me joy. I think I'll always be super morally obese. I just don't see any way that I can change it
Mods- I apologize for such a negative post. If this isnt suitable for this subreddit please let me know where I may post this
I've come here before because of an injury that made me have to resign from my job + discussions on how healthcare workers see us. I find myself so torn. Being in spaces where nurses talk absolute shit about bariatric patients while also being SMO is weighing on me. The assumptions that we're too fat to work (not true. I went through nursing school at >400lbs and many people larger than me work), we're unbearable and did this all to ourselves. I don't want sympathy but it's so weird watching nurses talk about bariatric patients while then asking for sympathy for drug/alcohol addiction.
My license expires in 12 days and I'm seeing my doctor again for a shot that gave me some of my life back from the nerve pain. I don't think I'm meant to be in healthcare. I'm too much a bleeding heart and knowing how my coworkers likely see me really makes my anxiety worse.
Only posting here because you all understand the SMO component.
How do you handle skin tags on your vulva if you get them? Mine are getting pretty bad and I can't stop messing with them. I have a very fatty region with extra skin and a lot of rubbing
Hi, posting under a throwaway for.. well... the shame I feel at my current situation in life.
I'm currently sitting at 474 lbs and have recently started a "meal plan" out of desperation to lose anything. Each meal is 500-600cals per, and I have 2 per day - except for Saturdays which is like a mixture of steamed veggies and air fried meats, and I do snack intermittently every day on like, cheeses, pickles, yogurt, pretzels, deli meats, etc. but only in moderation.
I'm not going hungry but I am definitely trying my hardest to keep my diet tight and be good.
The problem that I'm running into is that despite trying to diet so hard, I don't seem to be losing much of anything... and I've gotten to such a high weight now that I can't even go on walks or spend time with friends anymore... I feel like a prisoner in my body and even just the simple joys of life hurt all the time.
I also suffer from edema and retain a lot of water weight, and recently had a doctor give me an assortment of medication for that so I dropped like 10 lbs of water weight fairly quickly from it, but then seemed to gain back 5 from seemingly nothing and hasn't really budged since.
My left and right legs were decently swollen but have come down a fair amount from that treatment... but my doctors are just at a loss overall.
They can't figure out what the hell is wrong with me and why I can't lose weight... either that or they just don't care... but I don't understand how weight loss works because no matter what I do I swear it just doesn't seem like my body plays by the rules.
If "calories in calories out" is supposed to be the way to do it, then I can't be hitting anywhere close to the 3000-something calories I supposedly need to maintain this weight... and honestly even at my worst I can't imagine I was ever hitting that. By my count most days I'm hitting 1400-1800.
Sorry for rambling, just trying to give out all the information that comes to mind for this, but I don't understand it and it's very frustrating. Is there something I'm doing horribly wrong and don't know it?
I was thinking maybe my whole body is just retaining tons of water somehow and my "actual" weight is way lower so my caloric thresholds are way lower as well? But I truly don't know if that's a thing, I'm just rationalizing out of desperation and sadness.
I've only been on this new diet for 2 weeks but I still feel like I should have seen *something* from my calorie deficit by now... but I don't know. I'm clueless. Maybe it takes longer.
I'm hoping someone here has some ideas on what to do... it feels like I'm just cursed to be this size for the rest of my life.
I asked for time off of work, packed, and was planning to go to Santa Barbara this weekend (a 3.5 hr drive away), but cancelled the hotel reservation last minute due to anxiety. Part of it was the typical nerves one gets when going somewhere new, but another part of it was my weight and lack of stamina. I have no current heart or mobility problems, but get so out of breath doing typical, everyday things (like walking the short distance from my car to my destination). And the hotel I booked didn't have elevators, so I was getting too in my head about having to lug my multiple bags and heavy stuff up the stairs and becoming out of breath in the process, as well as walking to the beach and nearby restaurants etc. I can only really walk for 4-7 minutes at a time before needing a break.
I feel so trapped (in more ways than one). I'm very bored and have a strong desire to get out of the house and travel and experience new things, but my social anxiety and fears about walking are holding me back. I do plan on talking with my therapist about it this week, but I'm wondering if anyone else has relevant advice.
I'm losing weight slowly but realizing that my arthritis and overall pain is interfering with life more than I have been willing to admit. I hardly ever leave the house just because even with a rollater, the pain while walking and later in my arms and hands is awful
So, I'm looking into getting a mobility scooter. Although I weigh about 310 I want one with a capacity of about 400 so I never have to worry about carrying things, etc. I would like a wide and comfortable seat that swivels and room to rest my feet.
I will have it in a trailer behind a van so I don't need it to be lightweight. And it would go very short distances such as restaurants and grocery stores and sometimes through large hospitals or theatres or maybe to the park with grandkids.
I'm hoping to stay at around $2000 but am flexible.
Can anyone give me their recommendations? Thank you!
I was recently made aware that my penis has some kind of smell coming from it. It was compared to BV in women. What are my options? I literally have no idea what to do and it's so embarrassing.
Please tell me where to get really comfy and breathable summer clothing. Also looking for swim attire. I am a 4 to 5X. Or even link a specific item. I work in a place that’s 80° all the time and I’m dying from the heat! I need thin pants or shorts and breathable T-shirts and what not. Bonus for stretchy material for my tops and bottoms. I usually get my T-shirts from JunoActive because they have stretch to them and they’re made very well. But they’re expensive! Any place else I should be looking? Thank you!
Does anyone else experience intense fear and stress when they have to leave the house? I barely leave the house anymore unless I absolutely have to as I've had really nasty comments when I've been in public. I constantly feel like I'm on the lookout for the next person who is going to humiliate me, every laugh I think is at my expense. I worry about the physical side too, like falling and people filming.
I hate it so much and I miss seeing friends and family because of it. A therapist said to wear headphones when in public but it doesn't stop me worrying that I will have just missed the comments and laughing, plus for some reason wearing headphones makes me so out of breath (don't understand that part at all!! I even had that when I was slim).
Disclaimer: I am not trying to fear monger!! I'm just letting yall know my experience and I guess give a very cautionary tale to others who might have a similar history to me!
I started taking semaglutide 3 weeks ago and about a week and a half ago I started realizing I was feeling like I did 3 or 4 years ago aka extremely unstable mentally and hallucinating. It felt like I was completely unmedicated for my psych issues.
I have severe OCD that, when unmedicated, is paired with psychotic symptoms that has put me in a multi month long psychosis before. So it took a very long time (about 5 years) to get me on the perfect med combo to have me stable again.
I (and my doctors) was well aware that GLP-1s slow stomach emptying but due to the nature of my meds, we didn't think there'd be any real issues with any sort of interactions since there's not really any documented studies surrounding the use of psych meds while on a GLP-1.
So I was just convinced that maybe the stress of work was finally getting to me but then the hallucinations started and I had an "oh fuck" realization that maybe it was the semaglutide affecting how I absorb my meds.
Im finally able to talk to someone on my mental health team and we came to the realization that due to the slow stomach emptying, the semaglutide was putting me at a very high risk of mental relapse and possibly psychosis. So I was very heavily advised to avoid GLP-1s and potentially anything else that could affect the way my stomach breaks down meds (such as bariatric surgery).
So since I'm sure that I'm not the only one here on some sort of psych meds and has a long history of severe mental illness, I thought maybe this post could help at least one person. It really fucking sucks not being able to use these weight loss aids but when already dealing with severe mental health issues, I don't see it as worth it to possibly trigger another bought of psychosis.
I just wanted to share my experience! Again, not looking to fear monger, just hopefully this can give some insight about the possible risks that aren't yet well known since GLP-1s are still fairly new. They can be an amazing tool, I lost 20lbs almost immediately while taking it, but I think it's very important to let others know about the possible side affects outside of just the well known GI issues.
Stay safe and listen to your body 💛
I'm getting frustrated because every mattress I've tried starts great but quickly sags, leaving me with backpain. I sleep on my side and back so I really need something that's comfortable and stays supportive for long term.
One mattress I looked up is Titan Plus Luxe because it supposedly has stronger coils, denser foam, and better edge support which sounds like it's really it. I've also checked out Big Fig and Helix Plus and now I'm kinda stuck which one's really better. Haha
Pls help?
M28, 299.9lb from about 480lb. I've been putting off writing a bit of sadposting for long enough that I accidentally hit a benchmark. So instead of that I guess I'm writing a celebratory post today, with moping coming a bit later again.
So yeah, I feel much better, none of my clothes fit anymore, yadda yadda. Insulin is well below diabeetus threat levels, it's way easier to do stuff. Things can get better and all that jazz. I wish you a good day, and ideally a good tomorrow as well.
I used to be active in this group more a year ago when I was trying to become a teacher. I went from working at home, out of breath walking to my bathroom, to becoming a teacher and albeit not the most active one, still getting 6k+ most days during the week, and sometimes 8-10k.
I fell off a bit and gained some weight back and went up to 378. My highest had been 412. Today I weighed in at 349.
I also decided to go for the first long walk in literal years. What started as trying to do 10 minutes, quickly had me realize I could easily do 22.5 and walk 8/10 of a mile. I was on speed 2 & 2.5 on my treadmill. I didn't even know I could do that. I'm so so happy right now.
My goal is under 330 for when school starts again in August. It's amazing I can actually move now. I got up from the ground today without holding onto anything or even using my hands. Like I just lifted myself up. Freaking wild.
I could cry.
Don't give up if you're struggling. It's worth it once you can start making progress. I promise.
Not looking for medical advice but your experiences as a SMO or ex-SMO person.
Basically, I am incredibly moody and irritable. Then a few hours later I might be alright but still quite snappy. However, I have periods of depression and then I've been ok, more depression and then ok, etc. This has been going on for many years - since 2012 time I believe. In 2012, I was 12/13 years old.
When I was a child (about 9 years old) I would have bad intrusive thoughts and the psychiatrist said it may be bipolar. However, then he concluded it was OCD. He missed the fact that I had ASD though.
I'm kind of going a tangent, but does being SMO affect your mood really badly? I'm sick of being SMO, but at the same time it's like I now know no difference. I am considering having surgery but I once went through a time where I one meal a day and lost a lot of weight because I forced myself to barely eat.
My GP has referred me to a hormone clinic for females in London. There's about a years wait. I also have no thyroid anymore because I had thyroid cancer.
What's your mental health like as a SMO person?
I booked a holiday with a friend of mine who at the time was supportive and excited to be going on the trip with me. I’m still working on getting better after falling and I am handicapped due to my fall now. My partner and my friends don’t necessarily see me as handicapped just fat and lazy.
Yesterday she (friend) finally spoke her mind about me and informed me I better make plans of my own because I won’t be able to keep up with her and she isn’t waiting for me.
This really low, broke my heart because I didn’t choose this. She’s the same size as me and just one accident away from being in the same situation. Like I truly just slipped and fell wrong and here we are.
She said it off handed because I asked her to go downstairs to grab something from the freezer (I can’t do stairs easily) so I just said yeah ok at the time but now that I have slept on it… it really just hurts. Our other friends already cancelled due to finances about a month ago so it was only her and I and we’ve paid it off.
I’m thinking about cancelling and losing my security deposit and flight costs. and just letting her enjoy her holiday because I guess her original assumption was I would be with our other friends.
Just really hurts knowing how she really feels about me and concretes some thoughts I have had regarding our friendship as of late.
It’s not like I don’t try. I feel like it’s all pointless. I haven’t talked to my partner about it yet. He wasn’t going as it was a “girls trip” but I don’t want to go now. Which he’ll question and probably get pissed off about what she said.
Just disappointed and don’t know how I can improve I’m doing what I can 😮💨 ☹️
💫 Update Thanks for everyone who posted. 💫
To again clarify I do not need anyone to take care of me. I have a handicap but it does not = unable to care for self… I just have some mobility issues that slow me down due to injuries and on occasion can put a damper on the day.
Spoke with my husband this morning after brekkie. He was pissed off he also disclosed that her partner had said some back handed compliments to him regarding me but he didn’t know how to bring it up. That’s a whole different thing. It did open up communication for him to elaborate his feelings about my issues which we haven’t really done. We are good. As assumed he doesn’t consider me handicapped but also the lazy commentary he doesn’t consider that either.
At any rate texted my “friend” to let her know I thought it would be best for me to cancel and that she should instead take her partner as they would likely have a great time. Have not heard back.
So Monday we will try to figure out if we can just get him changed to my spot.
It was a cruise so I doubt there will be much of an issue I don’t expect my deposit back but we are still in cancellation phase that I will get some of my money returned.
My husband said we can take a trip to Canada later this fall as a couples retreat. During the time that the cruise was to occur.
We likely won’t be hosting them for dinner parties anytime soon. It’s a 20+ year friendship so I doubt we will cut ties entirely. She hasn’t got back to me as of yet but I kind of feel like she would rather take her newish (6 months) boyfriend instead and this will likely make her happier.
So I guess win/win. 🤷♀️
Today I saw someone who probably weighed as much as I did at my highest weight, and I was tempted to go up to her and talk. My shyness kept me from approaching, but I still feel closer to people who weigh more than 200 lbs, than I do to folks who weigh 140 lbs or less.
On the other hand, I went out walking 4 miles today for fun because the weather was beautiful, and I will run an 8K race tomorrow. People looking at me wouldn't guess I feel like a morbidly obese person.
All right guys I know that I’ve posted a couple times on this thread, but I’m currently down 325 pounds, sitting at 230 right now (555-560lbs last January). I’m officially doing something that was on my bucket list and running a 5K tomorrow and I’m in my head about my fitness level but I’ve been able to consistently run but I’ve tweaked my knee a little bit and it’s really discouraged me. I’ve determined I’m still going tomorrow, but it would be nice to have some people hype me up. lol figured I’d throw it out there!