r/SuperMorbidlyObese

Hey everyone,

I'm a 24-year-old guy working in IT sales. My job involves long hours, constant meetings, traveling, and sitting for most of the day. Over the last couple of years, I've gained a lot of weight, and honestly, I'm now in the worst shape I've ever been.

The physical changes have started affecting my confidence. I avoid taking pictures, don't feel good in my clothes, and I've become very self-conscious in social situations. To make it worse, some people have started making jokes and comments about my weight. I try to laugh it off, but deep down it hurts, and I know they're noticing what I'm already insecure about.

The biggest problem is that I find the gym incredibly boring. I've tried joining a few times, but I lose motivation within a week or two. I know consistency is the key, but I just can't seem to stick with it.

I'm tired of feeling this way. I don't just want to lose weight—I want to feel confident, energetic, and proud of myself again.

I'm not looking for shortcuts or miracle diets. I want to hear from people who were genuinely overweight, hated exercising, struggled with motivation, but still managed to transform their lives.

What finally made you stick to it?

How did you stay consistent when motivation disappeared?

If you hated the gym, what worked instead?

What small habits made the biggest difference?

What do you wish someone had told you when you were starting?

I'd really appreciate honest advice, success stories, or even tough love if it's constructive. Right now, I just need to know that this situation isn't permanent and that it's possible to turn things around.

Thanks for reading.

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Hi all, this is for the bigger folk on here. Sorry if this is a little off topic than the usual stuff here. I need a commode that can support my 630lbs. I've bought two off Amazon recently that allegedly could hold 700lbs but they both flex a lot and feel flimsy under me. I can't be worrying about that stuff when I'm trying to toilet.... Does anyone have any tried and true recommendations they can send my way? Thanks so much!

Hey guys. I wanted to know what kind of shoe recommendations you might have. I'm 400+ double wide foot. I used to love wearing crocs but they have been chaffing my feet lately. Looking for something more durable that's made for all day comfort. Walmart shoes are great for a month but (due to my weight) they get warn down, warp, and degrade, causing serious discomfort.

With my weight also comes limited mobility. I am not able to reach my left foot as easily due to asymmetrical fat distribution. Ironic that I can't go on a walk to lose weight because I'm too fat to put on shoes

Hi guys,

My mom has been at an approximate weight of about 330-374 pounds for decades. She has tried everything under the sun, takes some of the weight off then gains it back. Endlessly keeps falling into the restrict-binge cycle.

She is 62 and at this point this is causing her extremely painful issues, her spine is in a very bad state, she has horrible pain from it, on some days can barely move and cries for hours, takes meds for it that are at this point causing kidney issues. She can’t get surgery unless she loses the weight. She also had a minor stroke a few years ago. Of course has high insulin resistance and hashimoto. On some days it’s extremely painful to do anything at all. She uses a walking frame now and it helps.

She is on antidepressants, meds for the hormonal issues and on Mounjaro injections. The injections kill her appetite and then she will just not eat anything all day, then binge in the evening (this is a common pattern but now it’s even worse due to the lack of appetite).

I am a therapist in training and I have encouraged her so much to go to therapy, both gently and in more insistent ways. She says she might, then comes up with excuses, then I help her remove the practical obstacles for it - find the money etc, then she is just like I can’t go.

She doesn’t want to do the stomach reduction surgery because she thinks she will keep eating the same way after it. She makes me feel completely helpless and I am in so much pain watching her suffer all the time and don’t know what to do anymore. She is a wonderful, sensitive, sweet person and it kills me to watch her like this. I have been watching it get progressively worse and worse since I was a child.

Last night she had what we think was an extremely severe panic attack, where she felt like she was dying, and then in the midst of the panic she threw up and lost control of her bowels. My sister was there and handled it well, very calmly and compassionately, but she was incredibly ashamed, had a complete nervous breakdown, saying horrible hateful things about herself. My sister doesn’t live in this country, I live with my fiancé an hour away and visit a few times a month.

This morning she is frying something and sharing it with my dad (who is not helpful at all, emotionally abusive and part of her triggers that lead to overeating, and she absolutely won’t leave him) and they are just acting like nothing happened. They are also making my sister keep it from me so I don’t “get stressed” but the thing is that if I go there and acknowledge it now, it ends with me begging her to go to therapy or do something and she just can’t give me that.

Something I am learning in my therapy education is that sometimes all you can do is be a witness to someone’s pain and be like a gentle presence with them through it. Which I have been partially doing, but at the same time it feels horrible to give up control and trying to get her to do something, it feels like giving up on her and just watching her suffer every day and waiting for her to slowly kill herself. I am extremely sad and desperate and don’t know what to do anymore. Any advice, thoughts, anything at all would be appreciated. Thank you

I am also really sorry if this is emotionally heavy to read for someone dealing with the same issues as her. I thought this might be an okay place to get any advice at all because I just don’t know what to do anymore

I am a 30, M. 145 Kgs, 170cms

Not just does it hurt emotionally with the fact that we always have to put in extra efforts, be compromising, put on a fake smile always and still be unnoticed most of the times.

But, physically everything hurts. Feet, neck, back...

I have not been able to sleep properly in the past few weeks because in whatever position I try to sleep, my lower back hurts. I just keep adjusting here and there, but its not helping. Especially the right side of the lower back, just above hips.

What should I do to sleep better please?

Finally got my shit together after my first kidney stone at the end of 2024. Was weighed at the hospital and saw that I was 636lbs. It was the heaviest I have ever been. After I was out of the hospital I started on a path to change my life.

Started seeing an amazing doctor that discovered all of my levels were way off. My testosterone was almost non-existent (they treat for anything under 300 and I was at 70).

After a month of starting different meds I felt considerably better and started becoming now active and cared about the food I was putting in my body.

The weight started coming off. I'm now at 383 and although I have a lot more to lose I feel incredible.

I work a job that allows me to have the summers off. And lately, with the heat, I’ve just been in the house in the AC. I had to hire a housekeeper to help me deep clean my apartment for the first time in my adult life. I physically and mentally felt like I couldn’t tackle it. I’m having some shame around that because even though my thin friends use housekeepers, I realize that us SMO individuals can’t do certain things without people judging us more harshly. I normally push through these kinds of things, but my anxiety and depression have taken over. I’ve been having gastrointestinal issues for over a year now that I’ve been getting ongoing testing for. My iron is super low. My B12 and vitamin D were dangerously low. I have to take B12 shots every week. I also have severe anxiety and depression that sometimes causes me to disassociate and panic. I’m in therapy (psychotherapy), but that only helps to a certain extent.

I currently weigh 465 pounds and I’m a 5”5 F. I get up and literally only think about what I’m going to eat. Working allows me to focus on other things, so I don’t necessarily eat as much when I am working. But when I’m off…I feel like it’s the only thing I have to look forward today.

This is what I ate just today:
Activia peach yogurt
Petit Pot rice pudding
Trader Joe’s chicken burrito bowl
Trader Joe’s frozen spaghetti meal w/ a Breadstick
Potbelly Skinny Turkey sandwich
Potbelly Skinny Chicken Club sandwich
Bag of Voodoo chips
Half of a sugar cookie
Starbucks ham & cheese croissant
Grande Mango Dragonfruit Refresher
One package of Maruchan chicken ramen

This is such a disgusting amount of food for one woman to eat. I feel shame, but I also wrote it down so I can actually be honest with myself about how much I actually eat in one day.

I (35f 148kg/326lbs) haven’t lost any weight in over two months. I take tirzepatide 7.5mg. I’ve been in deficit the whole time (I count calories religiously). My step count is about 6k+ per day and I do pilates for an hour at least twice per week. I really don’t know what to do

Hey everyone. Just learned I'm going to be babysitting my six-year-old cousin for a few hours this afternoon at my place. Thing is I only have one toilet and it has my giant Big John toilet seat on it. Have you ever had a little kid be able to use this toilet seat? I want her to be comfortable so what else could I do for her? I just don't want her to fall in or be freaked out by it. Thank you.

I know it's a unicorn-type ask, but I'm really struggling and need to do SOMETHING. I have a bachelor's degree and am pursuing a master's, but really want to get into the workforce. My size (650lbs) makes it so that working remotely is my only option at the moment. Does anyone know of any opportunities out there for someone in my position?

Pretty slowly (managed 2.5km in that time) but feeling damn proud of myself. Who knew someone my size could actually run?

(Tw bulimia mentioned) I don’t really know how to start this but long story short I’ve been trying to loose weight since I was like 12
The only thing that actually helped me loose weight was starving myself and then when I did have to eat like if I was with friends I would make myself throw up and ofc that worked but it destroyed my mental health and has sent me in a massive downward spiral
I gained about 20kgs due to an antipsychotic I was required to go on for a while in 2024 (quetiapine) it was absolutely awful and thankfully I am off that now.
I find myself binging when I get home from work, and eating socially on the weekends (my friends are all quite slim but either they have fast metabolisms or a few of them have ED’s and starve themselves during the week to “make space” for the weekend It’s gotten to a point where I KNOW I need to loose weight. Getting in the car with others and my half of the car literally weighs down, being scared to go on swings, not having the airplane tray table fitting
And more recently, the literal seatbelt on the plane is just getting to the point where it’s almost too small for me and I’m way too mortified to ask for a seatbelt extender.
I have a weird family situation and to keep it short, I am pretty much fully independent. I only need help getting transportation as I can’t drive but in terms of what I cook for dinner or what I buy at the grocery store that’s all up to me.

Just to clarify, I’ve been overweight since I was probably like 6 years old? It got sooooo much worse when my parents divorced as when I would be at my dad’s house I would have to make my own dinner which would just be a bunch of junk food. My siblings and even my mother who was quite obese have all lost the weight and now it’s just fatty me fending for myself having no idea where to start

Not sure if this is useful information but I do have PCOS/PMOS, ADHD and Autism

Thank you to anyone and everyone who has taken the time to read this I really appreciate
it!

I’ve been trying to find shoes I like and find comfy for awhile. I was a big fan of sketchers but they changed to slip ins and I don’t like slip ins at all. I bought countless pairs of sketchers as a brand loyalist and disappointment every time.

On a whim I bought a pair of womens Brooks Ghost Max 3’s just to try. I am two days in and I am in love with them… so much so I bought two more pair.

1 pair for when I go out
1 pair to wear in the house
1 pair for vacation later on this year.

I just 🙏 they never convert to only slipins because I may have just found my shoe for life.

I apologize if this post is inappropriate here. I went from bmi50+ to currently bmi23. I was mostly homebound for nearly a decade.

For the past two or three years I've been in a funk, sort of teetering between idling, and self destructive spirals.

It isn't my weight. My entire life my weight was always the culprit. It isn't the problem anymore. What do I do now? I don't want anything. The only thing I care about is seeing the scale go down since it's the only thing I've ever been able to change.

How do I live?

Hey everyone,

I'm on 12.5 mg of Mounjaro. I noticed yesterday evening but especially this afternoon that my appetite seems to have increased. I had to have a second portion of my lunch less than 2 hours after I'd already eaten a portion. I gained 1 lb this past week instead of losing at least 1-3 lbs like I normally do while I've been on this drug.

Has anyone experienced a random increase in appetite like this? I'm trying not to spiral, but I can't help noticing that I'm around the amount of pounds lost where my weight has plateaued in the past when trying to lose weight with diet alone. Please tell me this is just a phase? 😕

I went out in public over the weekend with my flabby, jiggly, sagging arms exposed for the first time in 5 or 6 years. I’m happy to report that no one pointed and laughed, no one followed me to my vehicle heckling me, no one broke out into a stand up comedy routine, and no one gasped in horror. It was only Lowes garden center, but the world continued spinning. I’m not exactly sure what I always thought would happen, but it was rather uneventful.

I just can't do it. I'm tired of paying copays to have my visits devolve into "Losing weight blah blah; See our bariatric team". No! I'm in so much fucking pain because of a fall. I've been this weight for 6 years. I had no back pain, no hip pain, no nerve pain before my fall.

I don't need to sit with doctors who are going to tell me what I already know: My lifespan is going to be greatly shortened if I don't change something now. They'll likely suggest gastric bypass (the health system I'm in are old doctors. It's the same reason I can't get an ortho to consider removing my herniated disk). I don't need to sit in a 1-1.5 hour consultation to tell them that I'm the most stereotypical fat person on earth: I walk very little, I eat a lot, I don't exercise. Wow. Done in 3 seconds.

The reality is my mental health will never be good enough for me to lose and sustain weight loss. As long as I live long enough for my mom to pass, I'll be fine. Whatever happens after that happens. I'll save myself time and money and just quit going to the doctor's all together.

ich beschäftige mich seit einiger zeit mit dem thema abnehmen und habe schon einiges ausprobiert. ernährung umgestellt, mehr bewegung und verschiedene programme getestet. ich habe zwar fortschritte gemacht, aber deutlich langsamer als ich gehofft hatte. deshalb informiere ich mich gerade über die möglichkeit, die abnehmspritze über eine online sprechstunde verschreiben zu lassen. allerdings gibt es mittlerweile so viele anbieter, dass ich überhaupt nicht einschätzen kann, welche seriös sind und welche man lieber meiden sollte.

I've been working really hard on my eating behaviors, and I'm happy to be down from 333 pounds a month ago to 329 pounds when I weighed myself today. I'm too poor for the weight loss medication, so I've just been doing things the old fashioned way. Cutting sugar and flour and getting more exercise. I've been trying to lose weight for more than a year, but this is the first month that I actually went down on the scale.

It's not a crazy amount of weight loss, but it's still something I feel good about.