r/ForeverAlone

Even people half my age have more experience in sex and relationships. It makes me feel like the biggest loser in the world.

I'll never experience love. That thought hits me like a truck. I'll never start my own family. I'll never have a daughter. I'm going to die alone. I'm going to end my bloodline. I'll never get to experience a hug. It stings my heart when I see people around me living my dream. Even evil people. Every human deserves to be loved. I don't. I have no choice but to accept it and I will.

You don't even know this girl, so basically a stranger, and for some reason you try to meet up and hang out in person? Man, that sounds so awkward to a rizzless chud like me. This is why I can't go further than a talking stage on dating apps.

I think I'm pretty awesome. I'm funny, caring, helpful, understanding, honest. The problem is actually meeting someone so they can find that out.

I have never felt lonlier in my life. I have more friends than I have time for but it's not enough. It feels like I'm trying to hold water in a strainer. It fills me up but leaves just as fast. I miss the feeling of meeting a new person, learning about them and their interests. Thinking about them all day while you're at work and getting excited to talk to them at night. I haven't felt that in a very long time and I miss it very much

My problem is my crippling social anxiety that leaves me unable to talk to strangers (which is weird considering my job is to talk to strangers all day) and not just women. If I see a man wearing a cool tshirt or something similar I just can't make the words come out. I try to meet people online because it's easier for me to talk to them that way first. Then I won't be anxious to talk in person. It's just that initial meeting that I struggle with. But in the 6 years I've been trying I've met only 2 people in person. Everyone else that's interested in me is thousands of miles away.

All my friends irl are dudes and we just play DND. I have no car so it's hard for me to go social places and even if I did I'd just sit there wishing I could talk to someone but unable to do anything.

I have a lot of love to give and I have no where for it to go and it doesn't feel good bottled up and I don't know how to ease the pressure. The cat has gotten tired of constant pets and cuddles lol.

I just want to come home and cook someone dinner and relax and cuddle while we watch TV together or play a game, smoke a bowl and go to bed. I'm very low maintenance haha.

And like, I miss being able to look at a pretty girl. I see them constantly while I'm out but obviously I can't stare at them and not even in like a creepy way. I like looking at a beautiful girl. Pictures don't count. I can't see little things like how the creases on her face move while she smiles looking at her phone in a picture. Or i just want look at someone and take in their beauty. Can't do that on the bus with strangers haha.

I don't know what to do to change my situation. I'm talking to different Drs about the anxiety and I still swipe on apps and post both nsfw stuff and normal stuff trying to find literally anyone interested in me.

I'll just keep doing that and continuing to have unwavering faith that it'll all work out. I just hope it works out sooner than later.

Thanks for anyone who made it all the way. Long days and pleasant nights to you my friend 💥

It has been three years since I gave up on trying to fix myself and chase relationships. And honestly? Life has been pretty good.

I finally accepted something I spent years fighting. I am ugly and no amount of self improvement was ever going to change how people treated me because of it. Girls called me ugly to my face in school. They would make a scene if they had to sit next to me. In university one joked that I looked like a rapist. I was even reported for sexual harassment once even though I barely spoke to any women there. At work the female staff bullied me and I got unfair performance reviews. Eventually I went self employed because I just could not handle being around people anymore.

For the longest time I believed that if I just improved enough, if I got fitter, lost the weight, fixed my hair, dressed better, worked on my personality, and perfected my hygiene, people would finally see me differently. None of it worked.

So I stopped. I accepted my place. Some people really are just meant to walk through life alone. Once I dropped all the societal pressure, the constant need to date, to succeed, to be liked, everything got lighter.

I do not fantasize about women anymore. I have accepted that romantic love is not in the cards for me and that is okay. With acceptance came real relief. The deep loneliness only hits once or twice a month now instead of every single day.

I do not feel pressure to grind for money, impress anyone, or fit in. I work just enough to sustain myself, spend most of my time in nature, read books, and play online chess. I have genuinely learned to enjoy this quieter life.

It is not the life I wanted when I was younger but it is peaceful. And for the first time it feels like mine.

so I meet this girl on ig we used to talk daily and text and we still do but different timezone she lives in nj and I live in another continent so I had crush on her I used to talk daily but this few days she seem like different person and timezone yeah makes sense she got job in Starbucks and now she gonna date another guy which makes sad even tho I'm happy for her 😔 I just love her so much I don't wanna lose her she said we can still talk on phone calls and texts but I feel distanced 😭

my life would be the opposite of what it is now if only the chemicals in my brain were slightly different. my personality is definitely the single biggest reason why i havent been successful romantically or socially. people ramble on and on about how they like shy quiet girls yet reality doesnt reflect this at all. shyness has been absolutely nothing but a handicap for me. i fear that even if i did get with someone they’d probably die from boredom, resurrect and then leave me for a girl who is more outgoing. and the worst part is that i can fix literally everything else about myself except this

Like if you do not have any flashy traits such as top student in school, exceptional talent, etc. then you are basically cooked, it doesn't matter how kind you are, or if you are capable of functioning socially, because no girls are gonna give a shit about you if you do not posses talents.

Yes - I know there is a specific subreddit dedicated to this but its not super active, and I'm wondering how many FA's specifically daydream to this extent, since most of us lack any sort of meaningful relationships.

Its embarrassing to say, but I spend time daydreaming not just about dating, but dating celebrities, being famous/a celebrity, living an extravagant lifestyle, inserting myself into characters on tv shows/movies I watch, having conversations. Sometimes I even say things outloud without realizing it. I know... Its cringe times a million....

I'm in introvert, and can go a few days without leaving my apt. In addition to major depression disorder/anxiety I have chronic fatigue, and while I'm not necessarily bedridden 24/7 I spend a lot of time laying down just exhausted. Icing on the cake? I've been unemployed for over a year, so plenty of time on my hands.

Do any of you maladaptive daydream? Whats the craziest thing you've dreamt of or gotten so into?

I find myself craving the experience of a relationship as I get older, especially as my connections with people have basically become non-existent at this point in time. I know I don't deserve that whatsoever, and would likely mess it all up if I was actually given a chance, but I can't help my primal need to want it so badly.

I genuinely don't have anyone, outside my parents, but even they are distancing themselves from me gradually. I go days without talking to anyone at this point. I struggle to get out of bed most mornings. I know I should get help, but I don't have the resources to do so, nor the energy.

Anyone else in a position like this in their life? I turned 27 last week, and it's really messing with my head more than past birthdays. I'm not sure why, but I suspect it's because being 30 now feels achievable, instead of some age I figured I'd never actually reach.

The single silver lining in all of this is at least I'm not attached to someone and dragging them down with me.

Something I’ve been thinking about is whether or not people have went their entire lives without finding someone throughout history. Like was there a cowboy in 1870 who would go wrangle some cattle then sit in bed that night pissed he can’t find someone? I feel like I’m phrasing this question poorly.

So I was talking to a woman I met online who was local to me and we hit it off pretty well. We talked for about 4 days or so and sent probably hundreds of messages to each other. We moved the conversation to facebook, and off the dating app. We had a date planned for Friday which is in a couple days and she expressed a lot of interest in meeting me. I was supposed to pick her up and everything was thought out meticulously. Well today her messages seemed further and further apart which had me concerned. She told me before that lack of communication was a big thing that ended her previous relationship and she wanted me to discuss any issues right away and talk about them. Well I noticed she unmatched me on the dating app as well today too so I asked her if she was still feeling it, and that I wanted to know if I should back off. I was being honest and communicating the way she wanted. So, she gets back to me finally and tells me she was asleep, which makes sense because she works overnights. She also said she deleted her dating app because she found what she was looking for and she sent me some heart emojis which really put me at ease about the situation. I told my self that I was worried about nothing. Then I replied “really? Who?” In an attempt to be cute. To which she reads the message and proceeds to block my profile. I was devastated and it’s still pretty fresh as this just happened maybe an hour or 2 ago. Did I miss something here? I was never disrespectful toward her, the conversation was light and flirty from both sides. She was sending me cute selfies and I sent her some too in which she called me hot. We are both in our 30’s too with children. We are too grown to be acting like this. I got my hopes up and she spoon fed me the illusion of something genuine only to pull the rug out with no explanation even though she claimed she wanted communication. Was I too naive? I’m pretty down about it and figured I could get some perspective here. I’ve been single for several months now and my last “relationship” only lasted a month in which I was dumped in a similar fashion. No explanation just ghosted. Thanks in advance and thanks for reading.

If not, would you be willing to try?

Was binge watching 90day finace clips on youtube (yes, i like trash tv shows) and it got me wondering whether i should give dating overseas a try.

I'm too ugly to attract someone face-to-face, and using datingapps within my country doesn't seem like an option.

Would like to hear from fellow FAs.

I’m writing this at 4 AM with a heart full of things I’ve never really been able to say out loud.

My life has become painfully quiet and repetitive. I wake up, work from home, stare at screens all day, then go back to bed. In my free time, I just sit by the window looking out into the garden behind my house. Lately, a fox keeps showing up at night. Sometimes I see it sitting there alone, just staring into the dark before disappearing again. For some reason, I feel connected to it. Maybe loneliness recognizes loneliness.

Every morning I check my camera alerts and see it was there again around midnight while I was asleep. It’s strange how something so small can make me feel less alone for a few minutes.

A few hours ago, I visited her grave again.

I still talk to her like she can hear me. I bring her the flowers she loved most. The sight of her name carved into that stone never leaves my mind. No matter where I am or what I’m doing, it’s there. Always there.

People say life moves on, but mine stopped the day I lost her.

I’m 29 now. Maybe I’ll live another 30 or 40 years, maybe I won’t. But honestly, life feels incredibly short when the person you wanted to spend it with is gone....... I don’t drink or take drugs. She never liked any of that. I stay sober because remembering her clearly is all I have left of her.

I haven’t allowed myself to love again or even try to start over. Part of me wants to believe there’s still life ahead of me, maybe even happiness someday. But another part of me believes no one could ever be her. And I know it’s unfair to compare people before even knowing them.....but grief changes the way you see the world.

Sometimes I still ask her questions in my head.

Why did you leave so soon?

Why didn’t you teach me how to live without you?

Why did you make me feel so loved if you were going to disappear from this world so early?

I hope there’s something after this life. I hope souls meet again somewhere beyond all of this pain. Because God knows how deeply I loved her and still do.

These days, I feel more comfortable with darkness than daylight. I used to be terrified of the dark as a child. Now I sit outside in it willingly. Sometimes at 3 AM, while it’s raining, I’ll sit alone in a park near my house just because it reminds me of her.

I remember how she used to make me stop the car during heavy rain because she wanted to stand outside and feel every drop. She loved moments like that. Now when it rains, I sit there alone trying to feel close to her again somehow.

The truth is, I don’t really have anyone to say these things to. Nobody around me truly knows what’s in my heart. It’s just me, the silence, the night, and memories that refuse to leave.

Maybe this post will disappear into the internet like everything else.

Maybe nobody will understand it.

But tonight, I just needed someone....even strangers.... to hear me.

A couple months ago, I was ghosted by a woman. Her dating app profile showed that she’s looking for a long term relationship, she was 26 yrs old, worked at law firm, and we spoke about metal music and 2000s JRPGs. About a few days in, we were chatting about the relationships and dating culture, I asked what are her standards and expectations for a serious relationship. I asked just to see if our values and wants from a relationship were aligned… and she ghosted me and my text bubbles went from blue to green, so I was also blocked.

Usually, I would beat myself over it and mentally replay everything that happened to overanalyze what went wrong. But this time, it was a sigh of exhaustion and disappointment.

I don’t know how to describe or articulate this feeling, it’s becoming harder to find the incentive or motivation to pursue women if they don’t show enthusiasm and desire over a short period of time. What I mean is that I don’t want to pursue women who has a “passing interest.” I want someone who desires and wants me off-rip. Once, you experience what it’s like to be loved, desired, and prioritized in a woman’s life and lose it… you change the way how you view and approach dating. It’s hard to lower my standards and to justify jumping through hoops and hurdles.

name: tayla.

country: australia.

interests: roleplaying and old british tv only (70s/80s sitcoms and comedians — these are big comfort things for me and go hand in hand), rock & metal music, all animals, nature, daily walks, colouring in, diamond painting (check the subreddit please), arts & crafts, some history, and casual ipad games.

boundaries: no flirting or pet names (babe, hun, etc), no relationships, no nsfw. please don’t ghost, delete your account or randomly block, and please genuinely share my interests. i don’t work or study (not through not trying), so please don’t ask me about jobs or education.

what i’m looking for: a kind, caring person aged 20–32 to talk to daily who’s happy to roleplay with me (even if you’re new — i can teach). i have mental health issues, i’m sensitive, and making friends is hard for me, but i’m trying my best, so please be understanding. i also have insomnia, so i’m online a lot. if you message me, please include your name, age, country, and interests, as it’s hard for me to reply to just “hi”.

i’m mostly looking for someone willing to roleplay with me who actually wants to, looks forward to it, suggests ideas for the plots and won’t abandon me. it’s something that helps me cope when it goes well and means a lot to me, and it would mean a lot to find someone who feels the same way about that. yes i have tried all the roleplaying places with no luck.

i don’t want to wait days or so for a reply, like most people online, because it’s hard enough making online friends. so please don’t reach out if you’re “too busy” to message (i try to be understanding that life comes first but still), are going to be rude and waste my time and all that bad stuff.

People who say hobbies/career, etc; will make you feel better are right to a degree, but not for people in our situation. Before Esteem, and self-actualizaton is Love and belonging. A lot of the people I see on here haven't really gotten that love or belonging from friends/family and so we lead towards someone else (partner) filling that void.

Without that, your esteem goes down and growing to be someone even better than your current self isn't really something to care about as much. Once you have that sense of love, hobbies like a sport, you'll eventually start to getting better with over time with, you'll become more confident, and finally happier.

I'm sure there's outliers to this logic, but for me it does feel a bit relevent. Just thought I'd share in case others had similar thoughts.

What if everyone here just started dating each other?

Video games? Books? Movies? Shows? Music?

That’s what I’ve used to keep myself afloat.

I used them as a way to experience romance vicariously.

But what do you do? And how do you use it?