u/Inspector_Spoonman

I truly believe this will be the reason I’m unable to ever find a girlfriend. I’m not super attractive, I’m not super ugly. I’d describe myself as a little below average, but nothing that personality can’t make up for.

I haven’t pursued that many women, about 7 (I’m 23). One of them ended up being a pretty terrible person, the other didn’t work out due to differing views. The others were just flat out rejections. Most of the women who have liked me in my life (2/3) have done so for extremely gross and superficial reasons (fetishization) and it has left me incredibly demoralized.

Some of these rejections were said in a pretty hurtful manner, and while I understand I shouldn’t be affected by this, it’s easier said than done. I didn’t do anything to deserve it, they just felt the need to let me know that I wasn’t good enough for them.

I think I’m done. If an amazing opportunity comes up naturally, of course I’ll take it, but I doubt it will. No one ever seems to have romantic interest in me, they just want to be my friend. Worst part is they wonder why I’ve never been in a relationship, isn’t the reason obvious? It’s the same reason that they wanted to be friends and nothing more.

I guess I’d like to hear some of your stories, and hear what others have to think. I hope you’re all having or have had a good day.

Look, I hear the slander for pineapple on pizza often, but I seriously don’t get it. In no way is it not in the top five toppings. What you’re gonna get a meat lovers and have zero vegetables? You’re gonna get a vegetarian and wallow in pity from lack of meat? Embrace pineapple supremacy and allow that little burst of sweet, tangy deliciousness to usher you off to a better place.

I just can’t really believe it. I’ve never been in an actual relationship, and on top of that I’ve only kissed one person which to this day I kind of regret. My personality has never been the problem, but unfortunately I am ugly and my friends are genuinely all very attractive.

Whenever I would go out with them I would simply get zero attention. Women I was talking with would see my friends and I could just tell it was over after that. All my friends girlfriends have always wondered how I’ve never been in a relationship, but to me the reason is quite obvious.

I don’t approach women much, I’m a pretty introverted guy. On top of that I’m ugly and balding at 23. I’ve had extremely bad luck with people in the past, mostly concerning really mean rejections. Now at work today what happens? My coworker asked me why I don’t have a girlfriend and then she proceeded to say “you’re not awful looking” like really…… Why of all things would you say that? And then weeks before that she asks me if I’ve ever thought of plastic surgery? Like why the fuck do I have to be so offensive to the eyes…….

I don’t know what to do anymore guys. I feel like it’s a lost cause for me.

I’m just done with life man. It’s been nothing but bullshit the whole time. Grew up and live in an abusive household, failed out of college. Now I’m a failure to launch and all my friends are growing up and getting busy.

They’re all good looking, charming, and have girlfriends. Even when they don’t they aren’t single for more than half a year. I can’t go back to school currently and I can’t even join the damn military now because I’m instantly rejected due to my ideation. The trades don’t want me and my country is going in to a recession. Now I’m stuck working a dead end job.

Only kissed one girl and now I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’ll be a single virgin forever. I’m really ugly and I’m not tall. I’m also balding. The only thing that’s saved me so far has been my personality but that isn’t enough. Ive been rejected heartlessly too many times.

I hate being a man. I hate that I’m expected to be the one to ask someone out. It’ll never happen again and for that reason I’ll be forever single. No woman will ever approach me, I’m not good looking enough for that. I just wish I was born attractive. No I don’t think women have it easier in dating either, we just have different struggles. I hate my struggles because it’s all I’ve known or ever will know.

I know I need therapy to fix this, I know I need to reach out for help, I know I need to keep trying. I simply can’t do it. I heard a statistic a year or so back about a man every minute dying to suicide. I feel bad for everyone that has felt that was what they needed to do, but at the same time, I get so happy when I think that one day I’ll be part of that man a minute.

Oh my god like it’s actually insane. I get when you’re learning stuff you will make mistakes. Everybody knows that’s a part of learning. Eventually you’re supposed to learn from them right? Well not me. I’ve been learning for four years now and keep making the same completely stupid mistakes. I am fully convinced I’ll never be good at anything worthwhile. I need to pick up birdwatching or puzzles as a hobby. Something simple that my brain can understand. No point in torturing myself for the rest of my life fighting an uphill battle for a goal I’ll never accomplish.

I’m 24 years old so I’m getting to that age where a lot of people I know distantly are having kids. In my close friend circle there are also a few that I know who have been in stable relationships for years. As for me well there’s really nothing. I work a shitty job, have no college education. I don’t have hobbies anymore because I suck at them too much to do them. I know I have things to offer outside of just money but it doesn’t matter.

I’m not willing to have kids if I’m not financially stable and because of my lack of college education it’s just not going to happen. The trades aren’t an option either. Already tried that but have just been constantly ghosted. To add to this I’ve never dated so I’m just fucking behind in everything.

Even if I wanted to go back to college I’d need to wait at least two years so I’d be 26 and then I go through do my four years and I’m already 30 with a mountain of student debt. Then what? Search for a job in the current state my country is in? Just not feasible. Life sucks.

Im sure other people feel this way but I can’t stop thinking about it. Every time I go outside or see an animal I just think about how much better it would be to be them instead. I hate the level of cognition that evolution has decided to “gift” humans. Almost everything that is making me depressed is out of my control and it’s genuinely going to be almost impossible to get out. I’m sick of crying all the time and I’m sick of faking smiles. I’m sick of making people laugh and I’m sick of my life.