u/ForestSpiritSylwia

*They're technically my landlords but I rent a room from and live with them, we refer to each other as roommates.

My state got hit with a huge storm that has left us without power (and some without water) for a week now. I have two cats, one who I left at home and the other I took to my parent's house because she's double-coated and needs to be able to cool down with a fan or something (my parents have a generator). My roommates have 10 cats and a dog.

I've been spending some days at my friend's over an hour away and some nights on my parent's couch. I still have to go to work so I've been driving my POS car back and forth, which is terrifying for me as I already have driving anxiety and add all the destruction, crazy drivers, and my warped rotors and bad brake pads. Nothing changes the fact that I am on a schedule.

I stop at home to feed and love on my cat every day then go to work.

One of my roommates is unemployed and the other only goes in 2 days a week, if that, and they both aren't on any kind of schedule. They've been staying with family who lives in the same neighborhood less than 2 minutes away.

They keep asking me to feed and care for their animals, and getting angry when I say I don't have time. They haven't cleaned the house at all, changed any litter boxes, there is rotting food in the fridge and cat puke all over the carpets. They have time to do this but they are choosing not to, then getting mad at me for not doing it for them.

I've been helping my parents clear their yard of fallen trees outside of work. They haven't done anything, there are still trees in our yard minus the ones I did clean up (but I'm a 4'9 out of shape female, there's only so much I can do by myself.)

My point is. I've been busy since the storm hit, while they have been avoiding responsibilities and trying to put them on me. When I say I don't have time, I really don't have time to feed 10 cats, clean up their puke, change their litter boxes, etc, when I have a job and am helping my parents.

They have all the time in the world and have been putting their responsibilities off to me and getting angry when I tell them no.

Edit for those of you wondering why I left one of my cats at home and are claiming neglect on my part. First I'd like to say that my cat has his own space. He is old and not active. Please don't act like I'm the one being neglectful when I give my cat his own space where I keep things clean and care for him without having to be around their other cats. Their cats are their responsibility, I am responsible for my own and have been keeping up wirh him minus not being home as much. There's no need for y'all to worry or assume anything on my end. I kept him home because that is where he is comfortable. He has heart issues and I'm not putting him through a road trip when he doesn't need it, he is fine in his space.

My roommates text me little "reminders" every single time I do something wrong. Random little mistakes that I make, that probably most humans make from time to time, apparently warrant messages in the group chat.

The thing is, I usually double, triple, quadruple check to make sure I did what I was supposed to do. On my way out of the door going to work, I'll turn around to make sure I locked the door, I'll stop my car as I'm pulling out of the driveway to check again, sometimes I'll even turn around when I'm already down the road to make certain I locked the door, and I'll still doubt myself. I'll go back out to the kitchen 5 times to make sure I shut the laundry room or freezer. I'll open the bathroom cabinet multiple times to make sure I didn't leave an empty roll. Etc.

What I'm trying to say is that I'm overly cautious if not paranoid about these kinds of things, but I rarely catch myself actually making those mistakes when re-tracing my steps. My roommates, however, are careless and do these things a LOT. I feel like I get blamed for things they did themselves, or get thrown under the bus for things I rarely do but they do regularly.

My roommates are a couple. The boyfriend is lazy, he leaves messes for the girlfriend to pick up, then blames and berates her if she misses something. The girlfriend is CONSTANTLY forgetting to do things and blames it on her self-diagnosed, unmedicated "ADHD"...She has also put us in danger.

They leave the bathroom cabinets open, don't replace the TP roll, forget to flush, leave the front door unlocked, keep lights on, leave windows open, don't put stove knobs away, don't take their clothes out of the dryer, she has left stuff cooking on the stove and gone to take a shower or nap, the list goes on.

I have done SOME of the more harmless things listed above and, without fail, there will be a guaranteed message in the group chat about it, a "reminder" that feels more like a call-out. They've even blamed me for things THEY DID.

A couple of weeks ago I was leaving for work and double-checked to make sure I locked the door. One of my roommates was awake in the livingroom. A few hours later, I got a notification from them tagging me in the group chat with a paragraph claiming I had not only left the door unlocked, but that I didn't even close it all the way. I replied roomie was sitting three feet away from the door when I left and that it would have been noticed hours ago if it had been me. All I got back was a thumbs up, no acknowledgement or apology.

20 minutes ago I went out to the kitchen and glanced over at the front door as I was passing by to see it unlocked. Roommates are awake in their bedroom. Did I knock on their door? No. Did I message the group chat? No. I locked the door and continued what I was doing. It's that simple.

I really don't feel the need to scold someone over something so small, and I don't understand why they do it to me. I understand it from a "please don't do it again" viewpoint, but after a couple years of living here, and witnessing them do all of those things and more quite often, you'd think they'd know I get the memo? It kind of makes me feel more like their child than their roommate.