u/AccomplishedBag5443

So in the fall of 2025, this dude, whom I had probably known for eight months at the time this first occurrence happened, had recently broken up with his lover, about a few days prior to everything happening. 

In early fall of 2025, over a four-day span, he and I hung out four days in a row (thank goodness for the journaling, since I know the events). The first night, he, I, my roommate, and his friend all hung out and played some video games before switching to watching a show later in the night – at some point, he got slightly high – at some point, he leaned his head against me, so I offered to throw a pillow between us. Then, at some point, I offered to scratch his back, which he gladly accepted and liked. He spent the night on our couch, and the other friend left. The next night, all the same people were there. We were watching Weapons when I told him it was ok if he leaned his head on my shoulder cuz he was in the middle of his friends on the couch. Idk where or why this happened, but eventually he saw or touched my hands and said: “You have soft hands.” Eventually, his friend left, and I opened up more to him about my sexuality and a past high school situation, which caused his body weight to shift more towards my direction. At some point in that second night, he wanted to leave, so I walked him out of the building and told him to text me when he got back (which he did). This is about two nights later – just him and I come to my dorm to watch sports and we’re both atp leaning against each other, at some point his hand grazes my leg, rubs it for a little, but then stays there on my thigh, and towards the end of the game as my roommate comes back and we are both leaning towards each other, he bolts up and shouts “are you seeing this game?” To my roommate, whom I'm still very confused about, even to the present day. 

I think this was the day after the last day, but I just asked him what was between us and whether this was typical, since he had just broken up with someone. He told me he didn’t mean anything about it and that I needed to communicate better. He later told me he wished he had gone to a concert with me (we had a hiccup in our friendship because I asked this question) after he broke up with his lover.

OK, so present time – we recently went to a concert together, and I felt like buying him a shirt since his extra ticket went to waste. As we were waiting for the opener, we were both stimming a lot, and I asked what the artist had just signed on your forehead, and it led to a small discussion about how if he got the artist's signature, he would have gotten it tattooed on his forearm, or eventually he lifted his shirt to show me when on his stomach (this isn't too normal of him to just lift his shirt up). After the concert was over, I drove him back. He was about to leave when I told him to wait. He closed the door, looked at me, and I grabbed the thing I had for him. I hope we can get dinner together in the next few days, and we'll see if the plans go through. There was just a lot of feelings from texting him, and at the concert, where he was just more open around me, and I had that same feeling I had in the fall of 2025, where it felt like he was talking to me a bit more because I shared an indirect interest in him.

So over the past few days, since the concert and before it, he and I have been texting each other a little more than I was texting him. He’s been more active with sending me reels or information about music we both like, which is what I typically do to him. It feels more reciprocated. There are a lot of other factors, like how I have tickets to a big artist in the next few months, which makes me wonder: is he staying in touch with me more because he wants to be my second to that concert, or is it just nothing? I haven’t really been reading into this situation much or feeding my own thoughts, but my roommate thinks it's something again. What do you guys think?