u/AccomplishedPea3256

please someone help me with trying to navigate the reality of divorce. my husband and I have had major issues and deep down I know it’s not right but my mind is hoping for a mistake of him doing the things I had asked to make it work. I wish he would fight for me like I have done our whole marriage. we still live in the same house until at least July 1, I’m completely heartbroken and lost. 25 years together and I can’t imagine not being with him. how did you get through it? Will I be ok?

if you read my last post, my husband and I are in financial trouble due to him not working on and off for 3 years, we agreed for me to sell my condo where my mom lives and put her in an apartment. I also agreed to that. but after telling my mom and my mom being devastated I had a very hard time with that decision it was making me sick. my family is so mad at us because my husband made me get so many loans out. anyways the last 3 months we have fought as I was so sick for doing this and he was so mean the whole time. i went into a depression crying everyday I have never in my life felt this way. he told me to suck it up and my mom should be thankful. i decided that in order for us to stay together I wanted him to go talk to my mom and apologize that we didn’t mean to do this but we will get through it. and to go to counselin, he agreed to counseling but said he will not go kiss my moms a$$, I said I don’t want you to but go talk to her. he will not. he screamed and yelled and called me names and said I’m dying everyone’s life. I have since found out which I’ve known for years my family and friends don’t like him. but I’ve been with him 25 years. I am such a mess that I have to leave my home and now find a rental for me and my mom and dog and car because I now can’t afford to buy anythin, the money from the condo will go to my debt. he has turned mean since all of this, saying he will make me pay for this. then he’s not bad one minute, and then he’s back to bad the next minute. he said he hates me so much and can’t stand to look at me. like I’m just devastated. I don’t know how I’m going to get through this

im currently at a crossroads in my life. my husband and I have been married 20 years together 25. He is em immature and has a bad temper (never or would ever physically abuse me) but when he gets mad he does yell and scream and emotionally abusive. years ago we split and he kept the house and I bought a condo where now my mom lives. the last 3 years he has been in and out of jobs and financially I made the mistake of taking loans out to keep us afloat. Now we have to sell my mom’s place to pay debt off and I will pay for an apartment for her. my husband twists it like she doesn’t need stairs not that he financially screwed us over. the last few months I’m beginning to see things with him that I think I knew just have ignored like I’ve asked to talk to him because of course my mom is having a handled time with moving and he just thinks she should be grateful that I’m still paying for her. he has no sympathy whatsoever. i have had extreme anxiety and crying almost every morning about this and he basically said that I need to snap out of it (it’s been about 1 1/2 months) or I should go stay at my moms. yesterday he said so how long are you going to be like this? I said well I don’t like how you’ve been treating me and he just said good he doesn’t care. I know he does but I just don’t think he has it in him to be emotionally available. deep down I know this isn’t healthy but I’m frozen in fear of leaving. I would go live at the condo with my mom but she has depression so not sure how healthy that is or if I’m emotionally capable to get through this. he’s all I’ve know, my family also doesn’t like him

tl;dr: do I leave or do I stay