I am 19 . Why do Indian marriages scare me ?
So i am 19 and i have a bf since 4 years we both love each other so much and he genuinely cares for me like in his actions he literally put efforts to make me feel good .I always had a dream of marriage . i know people may say that girl get a job first ik that .. but uts just something that i have always dreamt of living in the same house with my bf spending life together.
But now i am very scared of marriage in general idk how did it happen but my dream is shattering . Letme tell u some instances that has recently happened due to which im very scared!
So i thought living with mil is the problem
- My neighbour aunty’s daughter got married last year lets call her R . It was an arrange marriage . Both R and her husband are working they live in gurgaon and her inlaws live in another city . Recently R discovers that her husband drinks and he also shifted apartment after their marriage to his female friends society so that he can be closer to them . Now it may sound nothing to some people but we belong to jain community drinking and all this is something which is never accepted or seen or praised in our community(some might do but yea im talking generally) . No they have fought so many times about this but he never leaves . The problem is he never told this before marriage this is only revealed after . So she is trapped too . She complained about this to his mother his mother says this is normal in today’s world then why the fuck didnt u tell earlier ? She is miserable now she listens to so much weight . She weighs 37 kg now .
I am very scared . I am just focusing on my career but i am really scared what if i end up like this . I love my bf the most . Ik abt his family they are good . Both our families knows about our relationship but i am scared
Please tell me
Koi khush bhi reh skta h kya shadi krke iss dunia me ?
Ya bs career bnao or marjao kyuki casual to na hoga mujse kbhi
Also nowadays, i am also scared of men like I can’t think about them in good way idk how to explain it but i am very scared of men and marriage
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