r/AskIndianWomen

Every year we host our NRI relatives (they self-invite) and they treat our place as a vacation home. Sure, no problem in hosting them but then they come here, they think it’s okay to live at someone place for 10 days, compare how their kids are doing well(which is fine) and give unsolicited advice on how us kids should lead our lives. They always compare how good the culture is in US for example kids start working at the age of 18 and shit on Indian culture about how their parents help them even after 18. I get it, US is better in many ways but I am not trying to be reminded of what I could do better from a stranger who doesn’t even know me. Why do they act so preachy?

I was just really really curious about what women feel about making onlyfans or like mildly sexual content, the reason is that i think if I was a woman and I would see these instagram influencers or other creators on OF making hefty amounts and still being faceless and anonymous, i would really think about it. Like look at the economics of it.

1. Low effort content

2. Possible pleasure

3. A wide horny indian men audience

4. Fuck ton of money (I'm talking like more than 95 % of ppl in india)

5. Probably anonymity

Cons could be

1. Morally bad for some women

2. Risk of identity reveal

3. Risk of probably not making it big ( I think most women who work out wouldn't have this problem)

4. Hateful comments ( like YouTubers k bhi hote hi h)

I would really wanna know what do women in my country feel about this topic, coz I really wanna listen to some of their opinions on this

Coz man if I was a woman, you probably would find me on feet finder or something.

One of my friend get married to her boyfriend after being in a relationship for 6 years and its been 1.5 years they are going through divorce because the man cheated on her when she was hospitalized.

My mother was married at the age of 18 . Few yrs ago I got to know the reason behind her early marriage.When she was 17 she used to like a boy and was looking at the photo of that guy and my mama found her looking at that pic and slapped her .So they got her married.She told my father about this before marriage.I feel so sorry for my mother that she had to go through this bcz of this till now she doesn't like visiting her family much.She was made to do lot of work in her childhood and lived in a joint family so had a very traumatic childhood. My sister get to know this through a cousin sister (her mom likes telling her everything).She told me this. My sister used it against her in a fight I know my sister was very angry but still. My mother was scolding her bcz she found about her bf ( my sister was 16-17 something at that time) . My sister told her she too used to have a bf naa and she will told this to my grandmother and she will throw her out of the house. I still can't get it out my head my mother was crying like hell and called my father then he consoled her.This time when I visited my nani , I asked her why she married my mother this early ?? she told me my mother was 'chanchal' so they get her married early if they hadn't she might have ruined their name.I still can't process this all

Stayfree ultra thin dry touch xl pads have been discontinued

Ik it's not one of the safest pads but it's the one i used on my heavy flow days for 10 years .....and now they are not on most malls or pharmacies and they are available online for some months until their stock runs out

They are changing to a different name and packaging but that would take time to be here in India also in store offline

I'm so anxious because these were my no thought go to pads

PLEASE RECOMMEND SIMILAR PADS LIKE STAYFREE ULTRA THIN DRY TOUCH XL PADS

1.They should have that plastic lining ..or dry cover .( Ik that's not good but it's the only thing that doesn't make it feel wet and gooey down there )

Many pads say they have dry cover like sofy pads but it's a cotton cover that feels bad

2. Possibly thin but now a necessary thing but just have the same feel as the stayfree one

I'm only looking for that type of dry cover and that size please please help me find it

It's soo important to meee

In a recent conversation with a friend, he mentioned that his sister recently got her marriage fixed in an arranged marriage setup. He is from a reasonably influential family and so he mentioned that matches they considered seriously were only those they got through 'connections'.

Now here is the part that surprised me. He said that even before the couple were allowed to meet each other, the parents negotiated like it was some of business deal. The girl's parents were very clear in that they didn't want to the girl to ever 'have' to work. As in, she can take up employment at a later point in time if she prefers, but must never be obligated to. Essentially requiring the guy to provide financially. While I understand that this could be a preference, having the parents make these decisions for her seems a bit absurd. If that was indeed the girl's preference, wouldn't this be a topic that would better be discussed between the couple themselves before deciding to marry?

Considering that her family is quite influential, I thought the parents might be open enough to accept any man of her choice. But the way my friend described it, it really sounded like it would bring shame to their family if she were to work after marriage. Has it now become some sort of status symbol for the women at home to be unemployed?

I’ve been single for quite some time now, and recently something happened that got me thinking.
I was sitting with one of my school friends, just talking about life, and she randomly asked me about my dating life. After hearing me out, she said, “I think something is wrong with you.” It wasn’t said in a rude way, but it definitely made me think.

For the last year or so, I’ve gone on dates with a few girls. Usually it starts through DMs, the conversations are good, we meet up, have food or drinks, spend a nice day together, and honestly, I enjoy it. The dates themselves are usually fun.
The thing I don’t understand is what happens afterward.

Almost every time, I lose interest right after the date. Not because the date was bad or because the girl did something wrong. In fact, a lot of the time they’ll text me saying they had a great time and would like to meet again.(nothing physical)

And that’s where I get confused. I just don’t feel like continuing the conversation. I don’t feel excited to text back, plan another date, or take things further. The interest just disappears.

I’m genuinely trying to understand why this keeps happening. I enjoy meeting people and spending time with them, but for some reason I never feel like pursuing anything beyond that. I don’t know if I’m expecting some instant spark, if I’m scared of getting attached, or if there’s something else I’m not seeing.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Before anyone else points this out I’ve used chat gpt for this

In past few years I have only seen people around me grow and their insta feed just kills something in me. I feel left behind specially given how I was the golden child ( thats such a scam). I see the girls who are doing it all they have friends, look stunning got into top colleges got into foreign uni's and are living the life, travelling from their own money.

I really wonder where I went wrong? I don't hate anyone I don't wish any harm but wtf did I do to go through this?? I just see people who were far behind me doing so much better. I am so much behind and no matter what I do I don't know if I can be at that level ever. Specially when someone form close relatives achieves something idk I don't want to feel like this, I am not a bad person I swear I don't wish any harm.

My bmi is 24.2 , I intent to lose 10 kgs in the next 6 months and build muscles. Found some videos on YouTube. I’m looking for a good equipment set I can buy off amazon . Please drop the ones you guys use .
I’m 18 only on birth control etc which makes it weirder
Is it possible to lose weight?
How realistic is that ?

I have realized that in cricket, whenever somebody is retiring or it’s their last game, fans from both countries playing & even fans who aren’t from either country, give a standing ovation or at least clap at the end. Even the players on the ground give the retiring person warmth and a proper send-off with true respect.

But this last match between Norway and Brazil really took me by surprise. I was expecting the players to do something on the ground for Neymar, or in general in any match where it’s publicly known that it’s a player’s last game. Only the Brazilian crowd cheered for Neymar, while the other side was just happy they qualified. And honestly, the players were disrespectful the goalkeeper had no reason to push him when they had already won. At that point, the match is over, just come back to sportsmanship.

It was honestly extremelyyyyyy underwhelming.
Someone who is such a great player was ending his international career and this is what happened.

And this is why I love cricket (eventhough I don't watch it as much as I do football) the respect players get from fellow players and fans, no matter which country they’re from. It feels like it’s done for the love of the sport.

Makes me wonder if football is actually more about the love for your club or country rather than the sport itself.

So its my birthday in 3 days and I’m getting all the things done. Today was my nails’ turn and i had called a freelancer at my home. We had a normal conversation while she did my nails and then my mom went in.

I had asked for rhinestones in my nail art to which she told my mom “aap nahi rakh paoge. Ye ghar ka kaam nahi karti hai na ye rakh legi” (you wont be able to keep stones as you do household work, she’ll keep it as she doesn’t).

My mom asked her how do you know that she doesn’t do household? To which she said i get that vibe from her.

And my mom was telling this to my dad. I dont know how to feel about this. Like i met her for the first time and didn’t talk about anything that would give such vibes. Why would she say that?

Asking because my nerves are absolutely shot with anxiety. I keep worrying about being pregnant

It is not logically possible. I used condoms. I did it two days before my expected period (closed fertile window) and got my actual period the morning after and it lasted the whole 5 days. I got it 4 days late next month too but that one was a little weird as it only lasted 4 days and was mostly spotting except for one night of heavy bleeding. No other symptoms.

I am experiencing some nausea and bloating which can be explained away by literally anything (i don't have the healthiest gut) but even though I know its logically not possible that i am pregnant, i keep worrying that I'm somehow different. Maybe its a cryptic pregnancy.

Idk what to do or where to get help. I won't be able to get a pregnancy test for another week at least and idk how i can help myself.

Can someone tell me how to work my way through this? Ik I'm being irrational but i don't exactly have help so if someone who has been in this situation can tell me how to cope, I'd be grateful.

Thanks in advance.

Relationship of 7 years. I went on a workshop a course workshop where a male friend my bf didn't approve of was present. ( Approves of no platonic friendship with a male) I tried to hide normal conversations also because he went to school only till 12th and has no concept of female male friendship beyond anything sexual. He has no femalw friends as such so even sending memes, sending a normal voice note explaining a study topic, going out to have samosa chai outside college when we are literally posted together in a hospital is crossing boundaries

. Wih another friend, days before my freshers in which I had to do a couple walk with him, I got to know that he likes me obviously I couldn't back out so he labelled me a cheater. This is april 2022. This workshop thing, I went there and found out he was there, that time (sep 2025) he had been accusing me of talking to him all the time which I don't I swear on my mom and when I met him there obviously we talked we clicked a selfie and photos of each other. I came home and he asked me who clicked these photos. I said aise hi random people but idk what got into my friend's head he made his ig public and posted a story where my hand was visible and since then he has been accusing me of lying

Now, this isn't the first time. Every man I have ever talked to, I had to bear injuries. He was physically abusive. Very much earlier but not now. I have been truthful about my conversations to him but he always uses this like "go talk to your senior. He'll give you notes", " go cry on your friends shoulder", "go have chai samosa" and very rudely. He has talked shit multiple times about my mom post which even I started saying such things

I told his sister about his verbal, physical abuse but he got to know that too and he again blackmailed saying he'll tell my father. Idk what to say. I forgave him but every 2 days he brings these things up that I hid. How can I be truthful when Im scared for my life. Why doesn't he understand. Why would I hide such harmless things if not for his habit of taunting me and doubting my character and slut shaming me.

He always says like mother like daughter because he knows about my mom's affair and has used this multiple times like "go take your mom with you, his (the friend who was there at workshop) father must also be free.

I just want to know did I do so wrong by hiding that he brings this up to this date?

Just a few hours back I told him in reply that I hid because you are abusive

He said "you deserve it, you should've gotten some more (beatings, injuries. I sent him a pdf of photos of all injuries I got by his abuse)

I would love to know examples of "how" because that has been my most challenging aspect.

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17f My mother told me that I should die early just cause me and my brother were thinking of ordering some food and ofc it's not the first time she abused me my entire childhood called me the R word and what not specially when my father was not around

She physically, emotionally, mentally ruined my childhood and my early teen were super tough as I grew up to be very insecure and she has been sick from a while now and I made breakfast for her today, I do everytime she asks then served Her food in evening also took care of her super well

when she was sick and I do every possible thing I can to take care of her but the abuse never go away she's always abusive i understand she is going to mentally also but why is it only for me she loves my brother and is always super nice to him no matter what but when it comes to me she hates me abuse me

Idk I do whatever you should for your parents in all our relatives they think I am some sort of monster because of the image she has set always talking down on me I'm so tired living in this home just completed 12th wanted to go to college but my dad doesn't support me financially or emotionally I just don't know what to do it's so hard living in this house and watching her treat me like absolute shit it was so worse when I was young she sexualised me sooo much as a kid always called me the R word physically abused me soo much

I really don't know what to do if you guys have any genuine advice please tell me would mean alot 🙏

I'm writing for the first time on this app. So the thing is recently I saw a nude video on a Reddit page (that has a lot of followers), and I think the video is of my friend.

We're not that close friends; it's just that we know each other and used to talk casually sometimes. So recently we haven't talked. I've left her texts on seen because I didn't feel like talking and to be honest, the last 2 time she texted were just asking for money so this time I didn't feel like replying to her, and I also unfollowed her on both Instagram accounts.

But now after I saw the nude video (I'm not sure it's her) I don't know whether I should tell her or not. There's an awkward moment because the last text was her asking for a favour that I ignored.

She lives in Noida I live in Delhi. I don't know how she will react if it's her video (I hope it's not hers). Then I searched the video on Google Lens, and it's also on a few websites.

I don't know what to do.... I don't know much about her current life if she's dating someone or not, how she will react if I tell her that I found it on Reddit, or if she will blame me for it I don't know. I'm scared about how she'll react or how her bf(if she has any) or friend will react towards me. I don't know much about her, I'm overthinking about the consequences, what if it backfires on me.....But also I feel the right thing is to confront her.

Edit : that subreddit posts leaked viral videos of people and so fckin many people follow that page.

Came across a post where a guy narrates an incident of "betrayal" and being called a creepy stalker by his online reddit friend of 4 months.

Events:

- They shared personal details about their city and college

- She later admitted to having lied about the college, (which he had already discovered by some unnamed method btw) and he told her how hurt he was

- Later she said she hadn't been honest about her city either. He then proceeded to use whatever information she had given him in previous conversations and used to to track down her real hometown

- Initially, she said it's fine and later made a post calling him out before blocking

- He made a post to highlight the unfairness of the situation

Now tell me, for your own safety, had you hidden these personal details and discovered a random stranger from somewhere had managed to reverse engineer your life, would it not be a terrifying moment?

How much has society failed these men that they don't realise what a terrifying scenario this is for anyone?

So i haven't got my periods its been more than 2 months ive pcod so should i visit gynac or wait few days

I (20m) am karate black belt and ive been training mma rigorously for about 6 years now. Now that im finally good enough to be a proper instructor for beginners, ive noticed that 10 out of my 12 students are boys, and the whole mma gym is full of men. This just breaks my heart cuz even basic training like knowing how to and where to land a clean punch can get you out of most situations or help you not panic at least. Obviously you won't be able to take down 6'2 trained athletes like me or anyone with a weapon, but even then it drastically improves your chances of safety. I thought the whole gym environment is maybe not welcoming for women so i tried to look for places where women train women in mumbai and sadly couldn't find any. I think knowing how to fight regardless of your gender is a basic life skill that everyone should practice yet why dont more women train in our country, especially looking are the poor women safety in the country?