Women of Reddit: I genuinely need your perspective ?
I’ve been single for quite some time now, and recently something happened that got me thinking.
I was sitting with one of my school friends, just talking about life, and she randomly asked me about my dating life. After hearing me out, she said, “I think something is wrong with you.” It wasn’t said in a rude way, but it definitely made me think.
For the last year or so, I’ve gone on dates with a few girls. Usually it starts through DMs, the conversations are good, we meet up, have food or drinks, spend a nice day together, and honestly, I enjoy it. The dates themselves are usually fun.
The thing I don’t understand is what happens afterward.
Almost every time, I lose interest right after the date. Not because the date was bad or because the girl did something wrong. In fact, a lot of the time they’ll text me saying they had a great time and would like to meet again.(nothing physical)
And that’s where I get confused. I just don’t feel like continuing the conversation. I don’t feel excited to text back, plan another date, or take things further. The interest just disappears.
I’m genuinely trying to understand why this keeps happening. I enjoy meeting people and spending time with them, but for some reason I never feel like pursuing anything beyond that. I don’t know if I’m expecting some instant spark, if I’m scared of getting attached, or if there’s something else I’m not seeing.
Has anyone else experienced this?
Before anyone else points this out I’ve used chat gpt for this