u/eternallyhungover

Relationship of 7 years. I went on a workshop a course workshop where a male friend my bf didn't approve of was present. ( Approves of no platonic friendship with a male) I tried to hide normal conversations also because he went to school only till 12th and has no concept of female male friendship beyond anything sexual. He has no femalw friends as such so even sending memes, sending a normal voice note explaining a study topic, going out to have samosa chai outside college when we are literally posted together in a hospital is crossing boundaries

. Wih another friend, days before my freshers in which I had to do a couple walk with him, I got to know that he likes me obviously I couldn't back out so he labelled me a cheater. This is april 2022. This workshop thing, I went there and found out he was there, that time (sep 2025) he had been accusing me of talking to him all the time which I don't I swear on my mom and when I met him there obviously we talked we clicked a selfie and photos of each other. I came home and he asked me who clicked these photos. I said aise hi random people but idk what got into my friend's head he made his ig public and posted a story where my hand was visible and since then he has been accusing me of lying

Now, this isn't the first time. Every man I have ever talked to, I had to bear injuries. He was physically abusive. Very much earlier but not now. I have been truthful about my conversations to him but he always uses this like "go talk to your senior. He'll give you notes", " go cry on your friends shoulder", "go have chai samosa" and very rudely. He has talked shit multiple times about my mom post which even I started saying such things

I told his sister about his verbal, physical abuse but he got to know that too and he again blackmailed saying he'll tell my father. Idk what to say. I forgave him but every 2 days he brings these things up that I hid. How can I be truthful when Im scared for my life. Why doesn't he understand. Why would I hide such harmless things if not for his habit of taunting me and doubting my character and slut shaming me.

He always says like mother like daughter because he knows about my mom's affair and has used this multiple times like "go take your mom with you, his (the friend who was there at workshop) father must also be free.

I just want to know did I do so wrong by hiding that he brings this up to this date?

Just a few hours back I told him in reply that I hid because you are abusive

He said "you deserve it, you should've gotten some more (beatings, injuries. I sent him a pdf of photos of all injuries I got by his abuse)

Relationship of 7 years. I went on a workshop a course workshop where a male friend my bf didn't approve of was present. ( Approves of no platonic friendship with a male) I tried to hide normal conversations also because bf went to school only till 12th and has no concept of female male friendship beyond anything sexual. He has no femalw friends as such so even sending memes, sending a normal voice note explaining a study topic, going out to have samosa chai outside college when we are literally posted together in a hospital is crossing boundaries

. Wih another friend, days before my freshers in which I had to do a couple walk with him, I got to know that he likes me obviously I couldn't back out so my bf labelled me a cheater. This is april 2022. This workshop thing, I went there and found out the friend was there, that time (sep 2025) bf had been accusing me of talking to him all the time which I don't. I swear on my mom and when I met him there obviously we talked we clicked a selfie and photos of each other. I came home and bf asked me who clicked these photos. I said aise hi random people but idk what got into my friend's head he made his ig public and posted a story where my hand was visible and since then he has been accusing me of lying

Now, this isn't the first time. Every man I have ever talked to, I had to bear injuries. He was physically abusive. Very much earlier but not now. I have been truthful about my conversations to him but he always uses this like "go talk to your senior. He'll give you notes", " go cry on your friends shoulder", "go have chai samosa" and very rudely. He has talked shit multiple times about my mom post which even I started saying such things

I told his sister about his verbal, physical abuse but he got to know that too and he again blackmailed saying he'll tell my father. Idk what to say. I forgave him but every 2 days he brings these things up that I hid. How can I be truthful when Im scared for my life. Why doesn't he understand. Why would I hide such harmless things if not for his habit of taunting me and doubting my character and slut shaming me.

He always says like mother like daughter because he knows about my mom's affair and has used this multiple times like "go take your mom with you, his (the friend who was there at workshop) father must also be free.

I just want to know did I do so wrong by hiding that he brings this up to this date?

Just a few hours back I told him in reply that I hid because you are abusive

He said "you deserve it, you should've gotten some more (beatings, injuries. I sent him a pdf of photos of all injuries I got by his abuse)

I'm in a dilemma for the past few weeks. Ever since I was a young teenager, I'm 23 now, I have dreamt of love..to love and be loved. I got into 2 short term school relationships which ended in a couple of months and then came the longest relationship of my life..it started in school and is still going on..(and off). It is a toxic one. I know and I'm still in it and that's a different story but the thing is how much I've changed. In the start I could not wait to marry, to have a life with him, do the mundane tasks but something happened in March this year which made me lose faith in this relationship..I decided to leave this man. Emotionally if not physically and ever since then I find it impossible to feel love. I have lost my ability to love which I felt so dearly. I wanted to experience partnership but I guess it's all gone.

I feel nauseous at the idea of marrying.. I'm beginning to see alot of my classmates from school getting married and it makes me I'll that how will I ever marry..I have been controlled in this relationship and have seen my mother suffer domestic abuse and I CANNOT , CANNOT marry. It makes me puke when someone remotely mentions my marriage and I'm not even kidding.

I feel I can't bear another man telling me anything

Ever since that thing in March happened, I have become this ruthless bitch. I can't hear anyone telling me anything. You tell me do X. I would do anything but X..I hate it. I want my lover era back. I don't want to be this

I am searching for swimming pool near NIT..I have heard the aravalli one is there but I've never been there..has anyone been there? Can you tell me are there any charges? Or any classes? Is it safe for women?

23F in relationship with 24M for past 7years. It is a turbulent one. I can't and won't go into the details but he has been very toxic, physically and emotionally abusive, slapped me over talking to male Friends, taunted me for talking to seniors for help, enjoying or going anywhere with friends, time and again has taunted me that I'm exactly like my mother who he knows cheated on my dad. Broken up 10 times and everytime he begs. He begs that he won't repeat. I have been taunted and called the R word for going to a conference where a guy he doesn't approve of was present, for having chai samosa with a friend, for obviously hiding mundane stuff like this after that incident and what not.

He has logged into my google account, went through my chats and photos when I was drunk passed out. As for the intimacy part I now realised how my denial of sex always makes him grumpy and I end up having sex because he wants to. 2nd March the last time he choked me and scratched me I sent all details and photos to his sister but he manipulated me how I told a third person about our issues and created a fake story of how thsi created a rift between is sister, mother and him and how I tarnished his image infront of them, and how he'll send my nudes and chats and other stuff to my father (he claimed he was just angry and he'd never do it)

He's always paranoid of how I'm hiding stuff from him. Called me R word multiple times. He's always behind my mother and family. Idk why he always talks in "tum". Yesterday we were having a conversation regarding money and we disagreed on something and he said "dekha h kabhi tumne.- (have you guys ever seen)...(I won't complete the sentence but tu and tum is very different) When I questioned him on this he said by tum he meant me and I said no i know him enough. I instantly blocked him from everywhere because last time 7 days back I gave him chance and agreed that one mistake and it's gone.

Again his tactics he said some really mean things about my familys financial condition like really mean and I said one thing to counter and he just cut the call. He's gone. Just left .no sorry nothing. I don't know how to process it

7 days back I had made my mind to move on. He begged so much. I asked him is anything different this time? He said yes I'll never repeat it but again this happened he told me that I'm such a bad girlfriend who is on the verge of leaving. I don't know I'm so tired. I'm so so so so tired..I have to wake up. In 3 hrs for a long long day the hospital (iam a doctor). I don't know how I'll do it. Impart some wisdom please.