It’s not like I didn’t know how fast fashion is destroying the planet. But I happened to watch Dhruv’s video on it recently and it made me feel really guilty about all the mindless shopping I’ve done over the years.
This has been bugging me for a while and I’ve finally decided that I don’t want to keep shopping just to keep up with trends. I want to buy less, but buy good quality clothes that actually last.

I was cleaning my wardrobe last week and found atleast 10-12 pieces of clothes that honestly felt like plastic. I felt really bad looking at all the unnecessary stuff I had bought.

I’ve already been trying to stop this for the last 5-6 months and I want to be more mindful about it going forward.

So, to all the ladies who have stopped or reduced rampant consumerism for this reason, where do you shop from? What materials do you look for? How do you make sure you still feel beautiful and well dressed without constantly buying clothes that are bad for the planet?
Would love to know your recommendations and tips ❤️

Basically what are cheap/low cost things that help you look good? It can be a diet/food, makeup, skincare, procedure, clothes etc

I am low on money and still wanna look good, rich and put together. Hence please help your girl out

i am 23 yo, (almost 23.5) have no degree yet, only 12th pass

academic gap of 3 years

10th 72%

12th 67% (PCM Stream)

i am running late and need to do something, i am not looking for "it's not too late to do anything advise"

it's hard to understand how it feels unless you are in that situation

i do not lack intelligence or hardwork, what i lack is a direction, i am envious of people who are moving towards something.

parents can afford up to 1 lakh per year for next four years for my education (which is enough for a tier 3 btech college in my city)

what would you do if you were in my position?

which degree would you pick?

which careers would you go into?

my long term goal is to just build a stable career path for myself in a field which is tolerable (not soul sucking)

decent money, not high end luxury

7-8 hours of sleep

and that's it for now

but there are hundreds of ways which can lead there so i am very confused on which one to choose, people are doing bcom + cma, llb + cs. digital marketimng, Bank PO, btech cs, nursing, merchant navy so many things

and i am wasting my time, just being confused

some years ago i was thinking of bca

then i tried IIT madras BS data sciecen online degree

then i thought of prrparing for clat

then i tried learning digital marketing

but i just did them for a while and dropped them, for different reasons, idk what's the reason,

if i miss admission this year as well then my academic gap will be of four years and i would turn 24

how to finally find a direction suited for me? i have genuinely pondered this question for so long but no answers.

has anyone else started later than others, had a non-linear path and stilld built a successful career for themselves?

i am tired of being directionless and confused, my family isn't doing great financially, education is a luxury, i cannot keep wasting time and resources.

does anyone has any advise for me?

i dont' have to earn too quickly now, but i do want to build towards a direction.

things i am considering:

teaching (english and other subjects)

bba + something else

bca

btech cs

govt exams

digital marketing

and so on

i am also open to any other option besides these, such as b pharma, Ngm, bcom etc

i just want three things:

a consistent direction

should be tolerable

decent money (not luxury)

thank you seniors!

TL;DR

I am 23, have only completed 12th (PCM), and have a 3 to 4 year academic gap. I got 72% in 10th and 67% in 12th. My family can afford around ₹1 lakh per year for the next 4 years for my education, so I cannot afford to keep wasting time or money.

I don't lack intelligence or willingness to work. My biggest problem is that I have no clear direction. I feel envious of people who are steadily working toward something while I keep jumping between options.

Over the past few years, I have considered BCA, IIT Madras BS Data Science, CLAT, digital marketing, and other paths, but I eventually dropped each one.

I am now considering options like BTech CS, BCA, BBA, BCom + professional qualifications, teaching, government exams, digital marketing, BPharm, nursing, and more. The number of options is making me even more confused.

I don't need to become rich. I want a stable career, decent income, tolerable work, reasonable work-life balance, and 7 to 8 hours of sleep.

My biggest concern is wasting another year, increasing my academic gap, turning 24 without starting a degree, and putting more financial pressure on my family.

I want to know how people in similar situations found direction and built successful careers despite starting late or having a nonlinear path, and how I can finally choose one path and commit to it.

I am so scared of this girl named N@#\!*. She has been haunting me since ages.

So, the story goes back to when I was in 3rd standard. This girl used to sit beside me and was a HUGE bully and always jealous of me. She always bullied me because I was an easy target, and since she sat right beside me, she would constantly take my pencils, tear my notebooks and books, and even write my name with a pen all over my books. She was also the class monitor, so she had the privilege of making me stand outside the classroom whenever she wanted.

On top of that, my mom would scold me about losing my pencils and ruining my things, so things were getting seriously out of hand.

One day, I finally spilled everything to the only girl I used to talk to in class. She gave me an idea. So what did I do? I took her water bottle and put pencil and eraser shavings in it. I even collected dust from the classroom floor, and mixed everything into her bottle.

And then… she drank the whole thing.

After she finished, I even checked the bottle to make sure there was absolutely nothing left inside. I was secretly SO happy,proud and satisfied with myself.

The next day, her parents came to school because she had developed a serious stomach infection. And madam gave me a nice beating.

I wanted to apologise to her, but she left the school the very next day because her dad had been transferred. I was honestly relieved.

Fast-forward to 11th standard: I changed schools, even moved to another city, and somehow I saw her there. She was just staring at me, and I got genuinely scared. I asked some of my friends about her, and they told me she had actually become a really nice person.

Then, when I moved to Jaipur for further studies, I started seeing her EVERYWHERE at the railway station, in malls, around college… I always wanted to say sorry to her, but I never had the courage.

And today, back in my hometown, I saw her AGAIN.

And just now I was checking my instagram.

AND SHE WAS IN MY RECOMMENDATIONS.

I think she might have actually gotten seriously ill or injured because of what I did, which IS why i am so scared I never got the chance to find out what happened because she left the school the very next day. And now every time I see her staring at me, I feel like she remembers everything and is about to eat me alive.

Did you left home and stayed in a rented place in another city even when you were working from home . what are the pros and cons ? thinking to leave because of toxic mother

I’m 20F and my best friend is 19F. She started college this year, while I started a year earlier.
During my first year, college was insanely hectic and I was going through a really difficult time mentally. Despite that, I always made an effort to maintain our friendship. There were times when she specifically needed me, and even when I was going through intensive therapy and was honestly struggling to function, I still made a point of reaching out to her and being there for her.
There was even a period where I was so physically unwell that I was basically crippled and struggling to function, but I still made sure to send her a message because I knew she needed me. I remember once literally going for a 4 AM run just so I could meet her. Whenever I had an opportunity to see her, I took it.
This week, however, I was having probably the worst week I’ve had in college and I desperately needed her. We live around 30 minutes away from each other, so I asked if we could hang out. She told me she already had a list of things she had planned.
What hurt even more was that when I asked when we’d be able to meet next, she said December would be the next time she could. The problem is that I’ll be out of the country by then, so realistically, I don’t even know when we’ll actually get to see each other again.
I completely understand that she has her own life and plans, and I don’t expect her to drop everything for me. But I can’t lie, it really hurt. Especially because I’ve made a point of showing up for her even when I was struggling myself. I think a part of me expected that when I genuinely needed her, she would make some effort to be there too.
Another thing that confuses me is how we handle venting. Whenever she vents to me about her family, I listen, give her advice and opinions, and try to stay within whatever boundaries she has. But when I vent about my family, she usually says she “isn’t into commenting.” I understand not wanting to overstep, but sometimes it leaves me feeling like I’m putting more emotional effort into the friendship than she is.
I don’t want to be the kind of friend who keeps score and thinks, “I did this for you, so you have to do this for me.” I know people show care differently. But at the same time, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want some reciprocity, especially when I’ve repeatedly made an effort to be there for her during some of my worst moments.
So am I expecting too much from her? Or is there actually an imbalance in this friendship?
I genuinely don’t know if I’m being unreasonable, or if I’m just hurt because this was the one week where I really needed my best friend.

I have a habit of turning everything into a gender discourse and while I am aware that I am not wrong, I do not want to think about men at all.

I was discussing mountain climbing with a friend, and suddenly I turned it into how the sport is essentially male-centric and how climbing while menstruating is not a feat for women but a reminder of the privileges men have. I mean, men have the option of not having to choose whether they would like to be on pills to stop menstruating and face the health repercussions later on, or change tampons at 7000 meters, surrounded by snow, without proper water or toilet facilities.

Another instance is how I am beginning to center the entire Lindsay Clancy trial on how the dads only acknowledge how wonderful of a mother their wives are, than share equal child rearing responsibilities. I acknowledge how dangerous postpartum stress is, but somehow my mind wants to hold the dad to be an equal stress enabler and perpetrator for not taking up 70 percent of the responsibilities while the mother was recovering and breastfeeding.

The third instance revolves around how I think it's so easy for men to work out at gyms compared to women. I mean, smh men form a community and there are so many times I am the only woman working out, and somehow even the youngest of kids and the oldest of men have unwarranted opinion on your form. Why can't they just stay in their lane?

I can list on hundreds of instances, but you get it.

The thing is, I feel like I think about men a lot, even if I am disliking them and I don't want to think about them. Perhaps, AT ALL.

How do I reach that point in my head where I am not thinking about them?

I recently bought the underneat stick on bra after seeing a couple of videos online. They were also more affordable than other stick on bras; and provided the strapless + backless combo that I was looking for.

But honestly these are not it. Its August & not even peak summer but the bra is NOT sweat proof by any stretch of imagination! Literally wore it out today & I’m STRUGGLING! Having to push it back in place every few minutes.

NOT WORTH IT!

I got married through AM about a month ago. We got introduced 2 years ago through mutual family friends. We hit it off quite well and bonded so well that people used to speculate that it was a love marriage.

Before, During and even after 1 month of our marriage, I felt super loved by my husband. Like that guy adored me. And I was so much in love with him.

2 days ago, I somehow found out that my husband's family took 30 L in dowry from us.

For my family, it's a huge amount. I knew that my parents were giving something like 5-7L that I somehow couldn't talk them out of but they insisted it was for us to buy stuff for our future home. My In-laws also talked about giving us stuff. So, I decided to let it go.

Now, I find out that everyone basically lied to me and on top of that, MY HUSBAND KNEW EVERYTHING.

For 2 days, I can't process what I'm feeling. I feel sad, betrayed and disgusted even looking at my husband. I can't bring myself to talk to him.

He keeps asking me what's wrong. Bringing me stuff I like. Trying to make me laugh. But I just have this idk how do I describe it, hollow type of feeling. I don't want to talk to him. I have already fought with my parents about the lie but I can't bring myself to talk to my husband. Something has just changed. IDK what to do.

25F, an only child, and I find adulthood difficult sometimes. It's not that I want someone to control my life, but I miss having someone to lean on during tough times. Any advice on how to cope with this?
I’m single and have a few friends. How do I feel content with myself so I don't look for support even in the lowest phases?
PS: I've been through the worst phases all alone, so I'm a little resilient. I can do things alone, but sometimes I'm just tired of handling it all by myself :)

Looking for easy everyday recipes, high protein stuff, healthier versions of normal food, snacks/desserts etc. Vegetarian would be a plus.

I feel like every “healthy recipe” account I find is either boring af or uses 25 ingredients I’ve never heard of

Who do you guys follow?

So I have been seeing a guy for a few weeks now and we really definitely like each other but gods I hate that he is so good, smooth and confident at flirting, expressing his desires and talking abt sex.

And me? I get equally speechless. It's like I do have replies inside my mind but I just can't get them out of my tongue ughhhhh mfjdkhevdjfbfhdj!

He says it's the first time he is seeing someone this reserved and I hate it. I wish so hardddd that I had been brought up in not so religious family and had as much experience in all of this as he did. But nooo ofc I had to be a typical nerd ughhhh. On top of it I also have body insecurities so yeah there's that.

Yeah yeah it might look cute to him but ik it's gonna get frustrating! It's not like I am uncomfortable with him... It's just I just can't flirt or say all the lovey dovey and sexual stuff. I manage it well on texts but when it comes to real life, I'm a ZEROOOOO. Any tips how u overcome this?

My mom (60 years old) lives alone, as my dad passed away ten years ago. My sister and I live in other states because of our jobs. Recently, my mom keeps forgetting that she has left the stove on while cooking and this has caused small fires. The most recent fire caused the chimney to melt.
We bought her an Echo so that Alexa can help remind her etc. but my mom seldom uses it. What to do in this situation? I am scared that this might cause bigger accidents in the future.
Is anyone facing the same issue? If yes, how to help in this situation?

My college starts next month and I need a bra that’s comfortable enough to basically feel like I’m not wearing one, but also doesn’t show through tight tops. I don’t wear one at home, so I’m dreading normal bras

I was thinking about getting a lounge bra. My mom thinks I should spend ₹1.2k on a Jockey lounge bra, but that feels kinda expensive to me.

Any recommendations? Also, should I consider another type of bra instead? Im 32b/32c, so I don’t think I need something super supportive.

When I was about to start college my parents just gave me this whole talk about not interacting much with guys, don't share your number with them, don't go for outings with them

Like am I supposed to just not talk to 80 percent of the college? ( yes I'm into engineering) . What kinda backward thinking is that. How am I supposed to know their perspectives, their povs etc?

As a woman , I had so many bad experiences that I have turned into a sceptic and in general such a pessimistic person. I want to change my outlook on life.

Is there an act of kindness from somone that you'll always remember?

I am 24. I feel alone with no one left. Not that I was ever happy with family but now I feel lonely with no one physically around me.

I feel like a ghost when I am home all day for multiple days.

Anyone experienced in this?

Hi! I come from a pretty progressive family and we’re all in the US. My parents haven’t pressured me into marriage or anything but I had a timeline for myself and I am unable to meet it in terms of finding a partner. I often deal with this grief and share it with my parents. My younger sister who is 23 has a long term partner and I don’t. I have tried a lot but I did not find anyone. My dad and I had a fight about this today and really was disappointed in how he thought about this. I told him I do not think I want to do an arranged marriage as the idea does not appeal to me. I want to find someone on my own and he promptly said then, keep waiting as it may never happen and you’re getting older. According to societal norms, 28 is old in arranged marriage. I was really hurt by this and told him I do not want to talk to him about this anymore and will not be considering arranged marriage. I’m dealing with the frustration of not being able to find someone and this kind of talk doesn’t help either. To women, who found their partners later in life, how did you deal with the fear of being alone?

I recently moved to new place and I have this house help for cleaning. It’s just been little over than a month. One day she didn’t come for work saying she is sick. Next day she came and said she can’t work anymore because she doesn’t have the time. On probing some more she confided in me that her husband gets drunk and beats her. I could see her eye all blue. Here comes the worse part - this girl is only 21 years old. She was married off at the age of 14 to the man in mid thirties. She has three kids aged 6,4 and 1 year old. She told me her family doesn’t want her to leave because ofcourse who will take care of kids. Not surprised to know that.

Now thing is today again she didn’t come for work which is very unlike her because she would come even when it’s raining cats and dogs. I see an early morning message on my phone from unknown number (I am assuming her husband) she is unwell and will not come for work. Since then I have called her multiple times and every time her husband picks up and makes some excuse that she is hospital and what not but wouldn’t let me talk to her. I am really worried about her safety and don’t know what can I do. I don’t know where she lives. And I feel very nervous about waiting till tomorrow. What do I do to ensure that she is okay? I have this feeling that he has again beaten her up.