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Hi, I am 20f and my boyfriend is 21m. We have been together for almost a year.

I am a little brown with long wavy hair.

Yesterday when we were on a call, he said he wanted to confess something. He told me the girl he saw in the cake shop was really really cute. He described her, she had short straight hair and pale skin.

Tbh she was completely opposite of me.

I won't lie, I felt a bit sad. He then proceeded to ask me if I could cut my hair short, i said no, I love my long hair.

He then kinda made a point repeatedly that he really has a thing for women with short hair. I said okay good.

Then that was it.

Well, I am just really kinda bummed out ig. I am quite insecure about my looks and him calling that girl who's literally the opposite of me 'adorably cute' made me a little sad.

I get it, there's nothing I can do about this. I just wanted some advice on how to stop comparing myself to her ? I have been really down lately. It's like I am back in class 7th again being sad about how I'll never be pretty enough .

I've been thinking a lot about divorce laws in India recently, and I honestly feel like we need to start talking more about no fault divorce.

From a feminist perspective, it makes a lot of sense to me.

Right now, our legal system usually expects someone to prove fault. That means cruelty, adultery, desertion, or some other legally recognized reason. But relationships are often much more complicated than that. Sometimes a marriage simply stops working. People grow apart. They become incompatible. They want different things out of life. There isn't always one person who is entirely right and another who is entirely wrong.

When the law requires someone to prove fault, it can make an already painful situation even more hostile. Instead of focusing on separating peacefully, people end up building legal cases against each other. It creates an incentive to bring up every mistake, every argument, and sometimes even exaggerate or make allegations that may never have been necessary if both people were simply allowed to acknowledge that the marriage had broken down.

I also think this is important because not every harmful marriage leaves obvious evidence. Emotional abuse, financial control, manipulation, intimidation, and coercion can be incredibly difficult to prove. A woman can know that staying in her marriage is harming her, while still struggling to satisfy the legal standard of proving fault. That disconnect has always bothered me.

A no fault system wouldn't solve every problem, but it could allow the legal process to focus on the questions that actually matter. Things like fair financial settlements, maintenance where needed, child custody, and helping both people move forward instead of spending years arguing over who was more to blame.

There's also the question of personal autonomy. Marriage is an important institution, but I don't think the law should force adults to remain legally married when the relationship has already ended in every meaningful sense. If two people no longer want to build a life together, I don't think proving someone's wrongdoing should be the price of leaving.

People often worry about children when divorce comes up, which is understandable. But growing up around constant conflict, long court battles, and resentment between parents isn't good for children either. Reducing unnecessary hostility can benefit families as a whole.

Another thing I've noticed is that our current system can encourage people to use legal cases as leverage during divorce proceedings. A process that doesn't revolve around assigning blame could reduce some of those incentives and make separation less adversarial.

Our society has changed a lot over the years. Women today are more financially independent, have greater aspirations outside marriage, and are increasingly making their own life choices. It feels reasonable that our divorce laws should also evolve to reflect those realities instead of assuming that every failed marriage must have one guilty party.

This also isn't an entirely new idea. Many countries already recognize no fault divorce, where the focus is less on proving blame and more on resolving the practical consequences of ending a marriage fairly.

At the same time, I don't think no fault divorce should mean removing legal protections. Maintenance, child support, fair division of assets, and safeguards for the economically weaker spouse are all still essential. Those protections matter, especially for women who have sacrificed careers or financial independence during marriage. No fault divorce is simply about recognizing that a marriage can end without requiring one person to legally establish that the other deserves the blame.

To me, that feels like a more humane approach. It acknowledges that relationships are complicated, that leaving a marriage shouldn't require performing your pain for the legal system, and that dignity and fairness should exist even when a relationship comes to an end.

lately i’ve been seeing discharge a while after clitoral simulation (always thought my period cycle is getting messed up but turns out i’m not menstruating)
i’m not sure why it’s happening even when i’m not being too rough or doing it too frequently? i have vaginismus so i’ve only ever used my clit and i have spotted some light bleeding but it would be once a month or two. but now its there after every session ¿
is it something dangerous? i dont feel pain down there unless ive overstimulated it and also it ALWAYS hurts when my partner tries to rub me. wtf do i do. should i see a gynecologist?

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My boyfriend (38M) and I (32F) had an argument today, and I'm struggling to understand whether I'm being too sensitive or if what he said was genuinely hurtful.

For context, I've always been insecure about my weight. I'm trying to lose it, but it's been difficult. He's generally been very supportive and has reassured me many times that he still finds me sexy and attractive.

Today we were talking about me shopping for our upcoming date, and he said:

«"You're not conventionally beautiful. No one would call you a sexy beauty just by looking at you."»

Then he added:

«"I'm not with you because of your looks or body structure. I'm with you because I know what you offer as a human being."»

That really hurt. When I told him it had deeply affected me, he genuinely seemed confused about why. He later said:

«"Baby, I was referring only to your face, not your body. All I meant was that I find you attractive, beautiful, and sexy despite how you look now or how you'll look in the future."»

When I said it felt like he was calling me ugly in different words, he got angry and said I was twisting his words. He still stands by what he said.

His explanation was that people like Liv Tyler or Emily Ratajkowski are "conventionally good looking," and that he doesn't think I fall into that category. He insists he never called me ugly.

I'm confused.

What does "conventionally attractive" actually mean to most people? I always thought it meant someone whose appearance makes you take a second look. Like somebody preety walking down the street and you feel like noticing.

Also, is it unreasonable to expect your partner to see you as conventionally attractive? I know I'm probably not everyone's type, but I would hope my partner sees me that way. For example, my boyfriend isn't Hrithik Roshan, but I think he's incredibly handsome and sexy. I can't keep my hands off him, and he feels the same way about me physically, which is why his comments have left me feeling so conflicted.

Am I overreacting, or would you also find those comments hurtful?

I really want to vent about this bc I've had similar incidents happen with men when it comes to dating and I need to know if I'm not alone on this.

So last week, I was in a talking stage with this dude where he initiated good morning texts, long emotional phone calls and asked me out on a date. Nothing sexual happened, we were just getting to know each other and I also told him that I'm okay if he changes his mind as long as I get a clear rejection. Just a day before the supposed date, he blocked me everywhere without any reason. We were literally having a normal convo before and he only showed major signs of interest (saying he can't do casual and he really likes talking to me).

Even tho this was a short stint, it triggered a wound I didn't realise, where in my previous relationship, my ex was somewhat similar. He would be really affectionate one day and super grumpy the next, with no fights in between. Just complete change in behaviour, which contributed towards the breakup. And even before him, a guy I was friends with (who seemed to like me), behaved the same way. He kept calling me, comforting me when I was anxious and made playlists for me but suddenly disappeared without any reason.

I'm really tired of dealing with men like these. I don't even date a lot bc my career is mostly my top priority. I only try dating when I feel like I'm in a good mood and have time to engage with somebody. But having this happen to like 3 times over the course of many years, I'm really befuddled.

Why do I keep running into dudes with avoidant tendancies? Is this how it's like for everybody in dating? Since I didn't get proper closure for all these incidents, my brain has a hard time processing all these events in my life. I'm also irritated by the time wasted. I just need to know why this is so weirdly prevalent in my experience 🥲

Hi everyone. I am 23f. All throughout my life,i hv only been desired and not loved. Couple of seniors,juniors,classmates has asked me out and later that turned out to be something sexual so i rejected them all. This has been all throughout school,college. Its like i am always the centre of attention but noone wants to love me.,for eg-i dont hv a shoulder to cry on amd say my problems,i dont hv someone to hug,i want someone to provide me a treat for a day,or give me gifts,or even cuddle without any sexual favours.

Last to last yr,i was with someone ‘without labels’ (i was immature then ofc..that i accepted without hving a label)..this guy never provided with me anything..nothing emotionally,financially. It was just as if he was draining all my resources bt i stayed coz i was alone in a new city for the first time and thought he ‘loved’ me or somewhat had a soft corner!

See whenever i go out for a food outing or hangout ,i pay for everything ..since my parents say never give the power control of money to anyone since when u hv the access to it. They believe,ppl will go around and badmouth like ‘free ka khake chali gyi’ and what not. So coming back to this guy,this guy never ever paid for anything. It was always me who did. Once he did,and all he gave me was a treat of a cold coffee where i was offering him full fledged meals all the time even when he used to come out of sudden in the restaurant. By this i mean he was frm my college,i used to hangout alone in restaurant and jmost of the times he used to come to the restaurant too and used to sit beside me . Out of courtesy i had to offer him,and whenever the bill came,he used to sort of go outside to make the call. So naturally i had to pay the bill coz the waiter would be waiting and staring,and that was embarrassing. One day i made him enter the restaurant along with some other frnds of mine.. bt i never did, and he got so mad that he didnt carry money and blh blah. Mind u,he is super rich.!He did spend money on his frnds and not me.

Once i was discussing this with my mom,and she said ,if a man cant even provide u with a proper one day meal ,how can he sustain the relationship. I am kinda confused and conflicted here,as bcz i wanna be that indepenedent girl bt i too want to be treated at times,..and not with a ‘miser’.

I was also discussing this with my frnd,and she was like her bf provides her with anything and everything..whatever she wants as gifts,her bf also provides that. And this hasnt been just the case with my frnd. All my classmates and other frnds, proudly say their bfs handle everything and even i saw with my own eyes. These girls never ever do anything except on bdays. I mean doing the bare min yet their bfs are like ‘pyar mei pagal’. Also my frnd made this problematic statement that ‘i am giving him se*,thats enough and thats how all relationships survive’. I mean its controversial ofc bt its the fact even. All these girls are just hving se* and these bfs giving them the best of things.

Tldr:;
I'm 23F and feel like men only desire me physically, not emotionally. In my only situationship, I gave far more than I received, especially financially and emotionally. Seeing friends whose partners happily spoil and care for them makes me wonder if it's wrong to want a partner who occasionally treats, supports, and cherishes me while still valuing my independence.

Long post ahead, TLDR in the end.

Some context on my family and living situations:

My 36(F) parents live with my 39(M) brother and his family at my father’s home (My childhood home). It’s important to mention that this home belongs to my father and he is still earning and the “Head of the family” so to say. My brother, his wife and his two kids (4M & 8M) are living with them.

I’m married and have lived in a different city with my husband for 7 years now. We are a childfree couple by choice. I’m also someone who has lived very sparsely at home for half my life now, owing to college and work, barring vacations or in between jobs. My brother has lived at home longer, overall, after school ended.

Naturally, I feel I’m a bit parentified due to how I was moulded out to be the ‘fierce girl child who does her own thing and travels the world’ lol. I used to feel proud of this branding earlier, but now I see this is a cop out for never being there for me because “She will manage like she always does”.

My brother on the other hand, like a typical Indian man, is the flag-bearer of weaponised incompetence. He, like other men of my family, is also misogynistic and purposefully wanted to marry someone who earns less and is a simpleton, who will ultimately be bound to him because of financial reasons, since he has nothing much else to offer as a person. And that he did.

He got married a couple of years before me. Ever since I found my partner through LM, it’s like I’ve been packed off and away forever. They’ve systematically removed me from big family decisions, happenings and I often come to know of what’s happening at home by accident.

No one from my family turned up for me when I was prepping for my wedding, my husband and I did all the shopping and decision-making by ourselves. Their excuse then was that my brother has a young baby and his wife needs help. Post that, in these 7 years, I’ve had periods of extreme illness, depression, happiness and they’ve turned their back on me through all of them citing that “Brother & SIL need help with the kids”.

It’s also important to state here that they’re very well-off as a unit and we have help lined up for everything - two Nannies on rotation, cook, cleaner, driver, someone to do top jobs. So it’s not like they’re short of hands really.

My parents visit ONLY when there are medical emergencies and stuff since I live in a bigger city with better facilities. As soon as that’s done, they’re back home. They try to pass these trips off as “spending time with me” lol.

Now that we have this broad context, I’ll get to what happened yesterday. They were planning one of their usual “obligation trip” to ours because there is a family function that they need to attend here. My husband and I requested them to extend their 2-day stay be ONE DAY, so that we could all do a 1-day short trip to a beautiful location that is an hour away from us. We really wanted to go along-with my family because we barely get to spend time with them.

While they initially said yes to the plan, my husband got a feeling that they’re not really keen, and there’s no point tripping like that. So we asked them again that they can let us know if they’re not as keen.

My mother tried to dilly-dally and even “jokingly” asked if my husband doesn’t have to get back to his office that day (He is a really busy corporate professional), and if I have no other work to do. My father then took over and said they really want to but they’ll have to “discuss with your brother once”.

It’s always like this. They always seek some sort of “permission” from him to spend even a day extra with me. Because “Oh they have kids and it’s hard to manage”. Btw my brother and his family don’t really care about asking them when they plan something. They just do what they have to. My brother also says my parents don’t “help them much” which is just usual Indian-man-thanklessness because hello!!?? They pay for shit, live with you, care for your children 24x7, but apparently they don’t do much.

I’m tired of being just the nurse whenever they come for their medical stuff. My home isn’t a hotel or a hospice. Just because I don’t act like an incompetent child doesn’t mean I don’t need emotional support and presence from my parents.

I’ve discussed this all in therapy and stuff. I know all of the coping mechanisms. But it still hurts because biology. How can you not seek connection from parents, especially when it’s given freely to one sibling?

Does anyone else face this sort of gender discrimination from their own parents?

*TLDR - Parents refuse to spend time with me without it being a medical emergency or some ‘need’ like that. They spend all their time, energy and resources on brother and his family. They “consult” with him if I ask for even a day extra with them at mine. I’m super annoyed and heartbroken.*

Okay so, 15(F) here. I have a friend (also 15(F)) who's stuck in this really toxic relationship. The guy is about 4 years older than her and has already graduated school. I'm really worried for her and have no idea what to do.

Okay so for context, me and her were in class one day and were talking about stuff and like studying and life in general when the conversation shifted to relationships and her bf. When I asked her how were things with him, she looked kind of uncomfortable and said everything was like usual, and then talked to me about how he manhandles her and even drinks and smokes (as a person who just graduated 12th grade.) Now, I know a lot teens at those ages do things like this but in our friend circle because, well..its not a good thing to be a drunkard and a smoker. She even told me how he abused his mom drunk and even came to her doorstep to do the same to her. He even used to do marijuana back when he was our age.

I got worried and told her that everything he did is not okay, however, she defended him saying that he was not in his senses when he did that. And he had even bought her a 4000rs. Headset secretly and when she had asked him where he got the money for it, he shushed her saying that 'it can't be spoken about.' Although he did say that he gets around 10000rs every month from whatever he's doing. Not to mention, he has a history of cheating on people and had caught a liking to her while being with someone else. I had once asked her whether she was okay with his past and she said that people change. But imo, people can't change for another person. They can't force themselves to be someone else unless they really want to change. And people can't change for someone else. The only reason a person can change is for themselves. And no matter how many times I tried to explain it to her she kept on defending him. She says she's so helplessly in love with him that she doesn't even mind the fact that he's cheated on people before.

I kind of suspect that he's getting all that money by selling marijuana and if he is, then she would definitely get into a lot of trouble.

This guy had been with another one of my friends before and he had literally insulted her and broken up with her on her birthday. And she got together with him even after knowing he did that with our friend.

Right now, he's shifted to Bangalore for college and the two of them had decided to maintain long distance.

Sometimes, I look at her and feel this urge to just do something to save her from a man like that. But then I can't help but think about how she still decided to be with him even after knowing his history. Another one of my friend told her that you can't help who you fall for, but I just can't seem to find the logic of this situation. How do you still like someone even as a person *after* knowing that they cheated on people before and might even do the same to you? Because you have to have felt some kind of dislike towards that person. Because for me, liars are a absolute big no, even in platonic relationships. So I just can't seem to get a hang of it.

Anyhow, I need something serious advice on this situation because I really adore this friend of mine. She's a really sweet girl with a really clean heart and I don't want anything to happen to her. I keep telling her that boards are just eight months away and to focus on her career because she wants to take science in the future and she needs to acquire a seat for herself, if she wants to remain in our school but all my efforts have gone in vain. So please, reddit, help me.

My Mom is resenting me a lot as I am yet unmarried at 32. I have noticed this as soon as I hit 30s.
She questions every choice of mine.
I am in a very high paying job and it also demands lot of my time.
She knows I work long hours still taunts me for not helping on house work.
She compares me with my married cousins who are handling kids and job knowingly that their jobs are not that demanding. Both of them full time house help BTW

I have suggested hiring full time house help but she is not okay with as there is not lot of “work” to deal with and house help will not be doing good job

Today I was just suggesting cutting my hair short since it’s right now at buttocks length and had become thinner due to various factors.

Somehow our argument landed in me not marrying because I am lazy to not take “responsibility” of husband and kids.

Mind you I am already handling everything financially and mostly shopping to health care and everything apart from house chores. And I know I would be responsible for her even if I had to get married. So yeah it would be double the responsibility.

Honestly I don’t want to really take additional responsibility and that’s my choice. Why cannot they understand it.

So, my boyfriend is obsessed with football. He has been that way ever since he was a kid, he talks about it very passionately. I must admit, before meeting my boyfriend, I never cared about football or any sports for that matter. But his love for it made me want to pay attention to this year's World Cup because I wanted to include myself in it and be able to engage in conversations about it with him.

Now, I pride myself in being quite well informed about global politics and cultural norms so it wasn't quite difficult for me to get a hang of it. Even if I'm not yet very well-versed regarding the technicalities of the game, I have a substantial idea of the teams and the players and the countries that they belong to.

So, this happened last week. We were talking on the phone. He was casually telling me about the match that he was watching at that moment. And I just said, in a juvenile manner perhaps, that I know "this team" is going to win. Now, obviously I have no clue which team is going to win because you can't predict these things. But you know how you tell a nervous person that they're going to pass the exam or get the job; even though there's no way for you to tell if they actually will. I said it in that exact same way.

And he started being passive aggressive towards me. He started asking me how I knew that that particular team was going to win. What credentials did I have to make such predictions? He said I was too dumb to make these predictions just by looking at the names of two countries because he assumed that I knew nothing about the teams and the players. When I told him that I did know about the teams, he began quizzing me on them. The argument continued for longer where he said that he didn't like people who talked about things they didn't know anything about.

I don't know what happened but it escalated into something so huge and I had no way of stopping it. It just left a bad taste in my mouth. I feel like he was unnecessarily rude to me which he can be very much, whenever we have an argument. Maybe, I stupidly included myself in something he didn't want to share though he did ask me to watch a match with him the week before last.

Does anyone else feel no matter how nice your boyfriend it just feels disgusting when they ask for nudes.

Idk why but I have such a violent reaction against it when I could just say no to it. Even if i refuse my boyfriend he will always be supportive no matter what, but something in me breaks every-time I’m asked.

As extreme as it sounds, I feel raped and used whenever he asks for it. It makes me want to just tear off everything sexual about me so that no one can EVER ask for anything like that ever again. I hate hate being a women at times like this.

And from the past year, I just cannot cope with doing anything sexual idk why. I don’t have any SA history nor has my boyfriend made me feel this way.

How do i cope with something like this? What’s wrong with me :( ?

Have managed to clear one stage of an important exam and am onto the next stage in a few week, chunks of syllabus are left and I AM CONSTANTLY SLEEPY.

Coffee seems to have no effect. Just chugged a black and I am still yawning like a baby about to drool. Ladies who pull all nighters how do you do it?

I know right answer is "don't ruin the guy's life."

I been on dating and arranged marriage apps for years. I myself am a chubby girl who is at best average in looks.

The guys I am attracted to, don't return the same response. The guys I am not attracted to, are attracted to me. Both guys have good personalities, the former I prefer don't find me attractive.

I really wanna be attracted to guys who are attracted to me, for once I love it be mutual. I hate my mind, like why do I always pine for guys out of my range.

Recently I got matched with a guy, talked to him, he is intelligent, kind, he has everything. But the only factor that is stopping me is physical attraction.

At this rate I feel like I will be forever be alone cause I am aiming too high. I never cared about money stuff or status stuff. But guys never liked me back when I find them attractive. And it makes sense cause I am not a beautiful girl. (please don't say I am beautiful, I know I a 5/10 at best).

People who are in long time in relationships, if the other person despite not attractive physically, would you come to love them when they are compatible and treat you nicely. will my mind change. I never been in relationship, so I am asking here, will it change??

or should I just stay single for rest of my life, cause mutual attraction is not in my life. I'm already 30, I tried, I never get approached or even considered by guys who I find attractive. This is just frying my mind. Does everyone has the luck and blessing to be in passionate and secure love??? or everyone around me just adjust to some factors cause you can't have everything??? And how do you have sex if you aren't attracted???

Married ladies of this sub... is this normal?

I'm genuinely curious to know if this is common or if I'm just struggling to adjust.

Do your in-laws visit and stay with you for 7to10 days almost every month? If yes, how do you manage your personal space and routine?

In my case, during their stay, my MIL occupies the kitchen around 75% of the time and does things entirely her way. Every night she'll ask me what I want for the next day's menu, but the choices are usually limited to the options she has already decided. If I suggest something different, there's almost always a reason why it can't be made "that combination won't taste good," "this vegetable will spoil," etc. Eventually I end up choosing from her list rather than cooking what I actually feel like eating.

She has also insisted that I bring certain utensils from my MIL to our newly shifted home that I don't really want, saying things like, "Try cooking in this, you'll definitely like it." Individually these may seem like small things, but when they happen repeatedly, they start feeling exhausting.

Other than this, she's actually a sweet person & sometimes considers abt my feelings.but My FIL, however, is a completely different story. The entire household seems to function according to his preferences. My MIL willingly avoids cooking, eating, or even doing things that he doesn't like. His opinion almost always becomes the final decision.

What bothers me is the difference in boundaries. When I visit their house, I never try to change how things are done because I believe it's their home and their rules. Even if I don't like something, I adjust. But when they come to our home, I don't feel the same respect is given to me. The kitchen especially doesn't feel like my space anymore. My preferences, sentiments, and even certain religious practices don't seem to matter much during their stay.

I'm currently pregnant, and these things affect me emotionally much more than they used to. I get irritated so easily these days, and I keep worrying whether being stressed or sad during pregnancy could negatively affect my baby's mental well-being or personality. I know stress isn't ideal, but I don't know how much of it actually impacts the baby.

My husband is a single chikd & does talk to my MIL occasionally abt these whenever he notices I'm uncomfortable, but there are many things I stop him from bringing up because I don't want to hurt my in-laws or make them feel unwelcome.

For context, ours is a love marriage between two different communities from two completely different cities, so our food habits, traditions, and cultural expectations are very different.

Looking back, I also feel like many major decisions around our wedding and married life happened according to my FIL's wishes like our wedding menu, guest count, food items, rituals, wedding outfits, and even decisions related to setting up our new home. He's the kind of person who won't easily accept someone else's opinion. If he wants something, he'll keep repeating the same point over and over until everyone gives in. On the other hand, I get mentally exhausted after explaining myself a few times and eventually agree just to avoid conflict.

Recently, my MIL has probably sensed that I don't enjoy her cooking style, so she lets me cook a few dishes occasionally. But interestingly, those dishes are usually eaten only by me, while my in-laws avoid them. At the same time, whenever she cooks something, she expects me to taste it and encourages me to eat it, even if I'm not in the mood. Again, it's a small thing by itself, but when it keeps happening repeatedly, it starts feeling emotionally draining.

The reason I feel guilty about bringing up boundaries is because, whenever they visit our house, they often spend their own money buying vegetables and groceries, even though I've never asked or expected them to. Sometimes they leave the groceries behind when they go back, but by the time they visit again, some of those items have spoiled or been infested with bugs, and I have no choice but to throw them away.

That part really weighs on me because I'm someone who almost never wastes food. In fact, I avoid wasting food 90% of the time. But when they're here, my MIL cooks in extremely large quantities, and almost every day we either end up throwing food away or stuffing leftovers into the fridge. That habit genuinely frustrates me because I hate seeing perfectly good food go to waste. They've also never asked my husband to reimburse them for the groceries they buy. On top of that, they often give me expensive gifts for my birthdays and anniversaries, sometimes even gold jewellery. I've never asked for any of it, and to be honest, I've never even been someone who particularly likes gold. They give those gifts purely out of love. Because of all this, I end up feeling guilty about having conversations regarding boundaries. It makes me feel like I'd be hurting people who are genuinely trying to show their love and care, even though the boundaries I want to set are about maintaining our home in a way that works for us not about rejecting their affection. Am I overreacting because of pregnancy hormones, or is this genuinely difficult to deal with? I'd really like to hear how others maintain boundaries with frequent in-law visits while still keeping the relationship respectful.

Relationship of 7 years. I went on a workshop a course workshop where a male friend my bf didn't approve of was present. ( Approves of no platonic friendship with a male) I tried to hide normal conversations also because bf went to school only till 12th and has no concept of female male friendship beyond anything sexual. He has no femalw friends as such so even sending memes, sending a normal voice note explaining a study topic, going out to have samosa chai outside college when we are literally posted together in a hospital is crossing boundaries

. Wih another friend, days before my freshers in which I had to do a couple walk with him, I got to know that he likes me obviously I couldn't back out so my bf labelled me a cheater. This is april 2022. This workshop thing, I went there and found out the friend was there, that time (sep 2025) bf had been accusing me of talking to him all the time which I don't. I swear on my mom and when I met him there obviously we talked we clicked a selfie and photos of each other. I came home and bf asked me who clicked these photos. I said aise hi random people but idk what got into my friend's head he made his ig public and posted a story where my hand was visible and since then he has been accusing me of lying

Now, this isn't the first time. Every man I have ever talked to, I had to bear injuries. He was physically abusive. Very much earlier but not now. I have been truthful about my conversations to him but he always uses this like "go talk to your senior. He'll give you notes", " go cry on your friends shoulder", "go have chai samosa" and very rudely. He has talked shit multiple times about my mom post which even I started saying such things

I told his sister about his verbal, physical abuse but he got to know that too and he again blackmailed saying he'll tell my father. Idk what to say. I forgave him but every 2 days he brings these things up that I hid. How can I be truthful when Im scared for my life. Why doesn't he understand. Why would I hide such harmless things if not for his habit of taunting me and doubting my character and slut shaming me.

He always says like mother like daughter because he knows about my mom's affair and has used this multiple times like "go take your mom with you, his (the friend who was there at workshop) father must also be free.

I just want to know did I do so wrong by hiding that he brings this up to this date?

Just a few hours back I told him in reply that I hid because you are abusive

He said "you deserve it, you should've gotten some more (beatings, injuries. I sent him a pdf of photos of all injuries I got by his abuse)

Okay so I am a single girl child to over protective parents & they literally didn't teach me anything!! I don't even know places in my city, which route to take to reach where & all...

Last week I went out with friends for the first time & i was surprised how much more street smart they were compared to me... like they knew which auto to take, which bus...which metro & then there was me just following them like a child 😭. Then they dropped me home like i am a two year old.

It's so embarrassing how do people actually learn this skills? All kids my age already seems to know everything & then there is am.... i am feeling so mad at my parents....

hi all💗

i'm looking for suggestions on where i can find cute and pretty backpacks for office. i have injury trauma and i can't carry the shoulder bags lol, but i'd love to buy a cute and pretty backpack that's spacious enough for a laptop, a lunchbox and a cup and some random things because i love romanticising office🥰

please do drop reviews and suggestions, thank you✨

Girls, can you share some healthcare supplements like vitamins or minerals you take regularly, and have seen a positive impact.

I would prefer suggestions which have minimal side effects and have been used for a while by you.

rain is actually pissing me off so bad yaar 😭 i come to office everyday and one little drizzle and my undies stay wet and sticky all damn day. it feels gross and uncomfortable af especially with the humidity. i wear boyshorts cos of my broader hips but they take forever to dry and by lunch im just suffering.

anyone have good recos for fast drying breathable undies that actually work for this mess? preferably cotton or quick dry ones that dont feel like a wet diaper by 11am. links if possible pls im desperate here