Is it worth it? Would I get an opportunity or its a lost cause?
I heard many companies that come has strict gap year policies
Can someone tell me more about it? How many have gap year policies? How many companies would I be ineligible for?
Is it still worth it to invest so much money in doing it, is off campus my only hope now?
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Please don't ignore! I am in a bad space in life,
so if anyone can share their experience with me, I would be grateful
I am 23 no degree, from a financially struggling family and a toxic father
Honestly don't know what to do to get out of here, I know many career options but not sure which one is realistic to take now
And admissions are closing soon, I only have a few days
If any sister here knows any good career counselors who don't just read from psychometric assessment report but actually consider all your options and situations and help you narrow things down to a realistic roadmap with backups
I would genuinely be grateful and remember this favor 🙏
I am in a bad space mentally and are taking professional help, that's why it's not easy for me to make a decision alone.
Please don't ignore! I am in a bad space in life, stuck with a toxic father and a financially struggling family
so if anyone can share their experience with me, I would be grateful
I am 23 no degree,
Honestly don't know what to do to get out of here, I know many career options but not sure which one is realistic to take now
And admissions are closing soon, I only have a few days
If any sister here knows any good career counselors who don't just read from psychometric assessment report but actually consider all your options and situations and help you narrow things down to a realistic roadmap with backups
I would genuinely be grateful and remember this favor 🙏
I am in a bad space mentally and are taking professional help, that's why it's not easy for me to make a decision alone.
I want to prepare for govt jobs while keeping btech as a backup if they don't work out as govt jobs can be unpredictable
But my maths has been historically weak, can someone tell me if the course load will be manageable as tier 3 colleges have 60% or more attendance as well
After btech, do you guys get any time for other things?
I want to prepare for govt jobs while keeping btech as a backup if they don't work out as govt jobs can be unpredictable
But my maths has been historically weak, can someone tell me if the course load will be manageable as tier 3 colleges have 60% or more attendance as well
After btech, do you guys get any time for other things?
i need clarity, i belong to a poor family, admissions are closing and i still don't know where to invest my next 3-4 years and money on
if you ever hired or know of a good career counselor who doesn't just read from your psychometric report but actually considers all your career options, please do share them over the dms or here, wherever you feel comfortable.
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I am really tired, we don't know what job is safe anymore, what to do and what not to do, what will remain or what will get automated
And these tech CEOs keep bombarding us with Negative and hyped narratives
There's only so much a single human can tolerate, people worship "adaptability"
"You gotta upskill, remain flexible and adapt to Ai bro! Ai is the future!"
But are humans really designed for constant adaptability with no breathing room? Where every week some new sh\*t happens that need to upskill on or keep track of
I am from a poor family
And tbh, I don't want to make six figures, I just a boring job to sustain our household and fill the bellies of me and my family without constantly worrying daily about my job getting automated
Why is that so hard? Why is earning just a respectable income, financial independence, acquiring enough resources to comfortably survive a huge ask now?
I am really tired guys, to some years it was fine, we kept track of ai and tried to upskill, but it has been so many years and things are still not stabilized, there's this constant fear mongering going on "your job is in danger!" Which keeps me up at nights, leaving us perpetually confused on what to do.
Is it really healthy to adapt like that? One after another? To live in survival anxiety of losing your job and panic learning ai tools to pay your bills? It doesn't look that way to me.
I just want a boring job which pays my bills and helps me live in peace, that's all, I don't want this BS.
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I am really tired, we don't know what job is safe anymore, what to do and what not to do, what will remain or what will get automated
And these tech CEOs keep bombarding us with Negative and hyped narratives
There's only so much a single human can tolerate, people worship "adaptability"
"You gotta upskill, remain flexible and adapt to Ai bro! Ai is the future!"
But are humans really designed for constant adaptability with no breathing room? Where every week some new sh\*t happens that need to upskill on or keep track of
I am from a poor family in a poor (third world country)
And tbh, I don't want to make six figures, I just a boring job to sustain our household and fill the bellies of me and my family without constantly worrying daily about my job getting automated
Why is that so hard? Why is earning just a respectable income, financial independence, acquiring enough resources to comfortably survive a huge ask now?
I am really tired guys, to some years it was fine, we kept track of ai and tried to upskill, but it has been so many years and things are still not stabilized, there's this constant fear mongering going on "your job is in danger!" Which keeps me up at nights, leaving us perpetually confused on what to do.
Is it really healthy to adapt like that? One after another? To live in survival anxiety of losing your job and panic learning ai tools to pay your bills? It doesn't look that way to me.
I just want a boring job which pays my bills and helps me live in peace, that's all, I don't want this BS.
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I am really tired, we don't know what job is safe anymore, what to do and what not to do, what will remain or what will get automated
And these tech CEOs keep bombarding us with Negative and hyped narratives
There's only so much a single human can tolerate, people worship "adaptability"
"You gotta upskill, remain flexible and adapt to Ai bro! Ai is the future!"
But are humans really designed for constant adaptability with no breathing room? Where every week some new sh\*t happens that need to upskill on or keep track of
I am from a poor family in a poor (third world country)
And tbh, I don't want to make six figures, I just a boring job to sustain our household and fill the bellies of me and my family without constantly worrying daily about my job getting automated
Why is that so hard? Why is earning just a respectable income, financial independence, acquiring enough resources to comfortably survive a huge ask now?
I am really tired guys, to some years it was fine, we kept track of ai and tried to upskill, but it has been so many years and things are still not stabilized, there's this constant fear mongering going on "your job is in danger!" Which keeps me up at nights, leaving us perpetually confused on what to do.
Is it really healthy to adapt like that? One after another? To live in survival anxiety of losing your job and panic learning ai tools to pay your bills? It doesn't look that way to me.
I just want a boring job which pays my bills and helps me live in peace, that's all, I don't want this BS.
I am really tired, we don't know what job is safe anymore, what to do and what not to do, what will remain or what will get automated
And these tech CEOs keep bombarding us with Negative and hyped narratives
There's only so much a single human can tolerate, people worship "adaptability"
"You gotta upskill, remain flexible and adapt to Ai bro! Ai is the future!"
But are humans really designed for constant adaptability with no breathing room? Where every week some new sh*t happens that need to upskill on or keep track of
I am from a poor family in a poor (third world country)
And tbh, I don't want to make six figures, I just a boring job to sustain our household and fill the bellies of me and my family without constantly worrying daily about my job getting automated
Why is that so hard? Why is earning just a respectable income, financial independence, acquiring enough resources to comfortably survive a huge ask now?
I am really tired guys, to some years it was fine, we kept track of ai and tried to upskill, but it has been so many years and things are still not stabilized, there's this constant fear mongering going on "your job is in danger!" Which keeps me up at nights, leaving us perpetually confused on what to do.
Is it really healthy to adapt like that? One after another? To live in survival anxiety of losing your job and panic learning ai tools to pay your bills? It doesn't look that way to me.
I just want a boring job which pays my bills and helps me live in peace, that's all, I don't want this BS.
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GNM > post basic bsc nursing > abroad
B Pharma > Pharma D/M Pharma
Electrical engineering > test > merchant navy (before 30 yo)
Btech Cs > tech Job / technical HR roles (interested in this)
BCA/BBa > digital marketing >> MBA at MICA
CLAT > corporate law
Or any degree > NLSAT
BCA > MCA/Msc CS > Job
B design> M design
BCA as backup >> prepare for govt exams alongside
BBA > Company secretary
Bcom in distance from ignou + CMA preparation from coaching seriously
Integrated BA bed/ Bsc bed of four years
\>>>Ba in English+ B ed >> English educator
Bba >> mba >> PhD in management>> Ugc net >> college professor
Which one would be better?
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With ai, CS has gone to dogs, I wish I did a bio course instead, it would be low paying but at least more stable
With ai, CS has gone to dogs, I wish I did a bio course instead, it would be low paying but at least more stable
Myquals
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my career and life so far has been a confused mess
suffered from bullying, social anxiety and a toxic family enviornment
couldn't focus on studies and academics suffered.
repeated 10th (re-did the whole class again because school wasn't allowing me pcm stream)
scored 72% in 2020
suffered next two years coping with stem subjects as my basics and foundation was weak, along with anxeity disorder and adhd issues
when i entered 10+2, covid happened
repeated 10+2 from a dummy school (wasted one more year)
this time scored 67% in 2023
i was 20 yo when i was done with school
thought of doing bca in pune but out of nowhere financial issues started in family
worked odd jobs to support family, taught english and school subjects to little kids
joined IIT madras bs degree online because it was afforadable with fee waiver, attempted qualifier three times, skipped first one, attempted second and third times seriously (passed in all subjects like computational thinking, english, statistics but failed in maths both times)
i did understand maths, tha reason for failing was more like my mind avoiding studying maths and inconsistency.
dropped the degree
came to know about clat, law appealed to me a lot, started preparing seriously, slowly as months passed doubts started appearing, NLUs were super expensive and corp law was reserved for top elite NLUs, rest of them were bad ROI and went into litigation and UPSC
as exam approached, financial situation worsened to the point, that we were barely surviving and getting by, (i couldn't buy eyedrops for my burning eyes, while my mom couldn't go to doc for her toochahe)
she couldnt pay clat exam fees at the time and kept delaying so dropped that too
now 2026 started, wasted three more years from 2020 to 2023
mental health worsened further and i started taking therapy and anxiety medication, antidepressants and sleeping aids
now i am 23 and we now have some limited funds to send me to college
and i honestly don't recognise myself anymore, i don't know what's happening anymore, admissions are closing tommorow and i still don't know what to do or what not to do
i took career counseling twice, one three years ago, one now, both didn't help much
we have lied to all my relatives that i have done my graduation all my past peers think the same, including those living in the same society
even online or offline i live with this shame, yes peopel say "age doesnt matter and shit" but for someone going through that, you don't know how it feels, if i do a four year qualification, i will be 27 when i graduate.
and it's not that i don't know career paths, i know too many, from company sectrartoy, to actuary, ETO in merchant navy, and everything in -between
but this much information has only made me more confused, every path looks technically possible but idk what's mine, i don't lack hardwork or sinceirty but a direction
i am afraid of wasting the limited funds of my parents by investing in a degree i hate, because i cannot afford to drop out at any cost, cannot add one more gap, cannot afford more aimlessness and wastage of time
i dont eevn date or show my face to relatives cuz of my fcked up career, it's shame that i keep hidden
idk why i a writing this, but any second opinion or experienced perspective would be very helpful
also i acknowledge i may have adhd, i have a pattern of starting and dropping things without finishing them. i see unlimited possibilties and so many career paths which makes me confused in which direction to go
and the advent of AI has just made it worse, because we don't know what's going to happen to the job market in the coming years.
does anyone know of any career counseling services which actually works?
what would you do if you were in my position?
feel free to give me a harsh reality check, i acknolegede that partially it was my fault as well that things has come to this point.
my career and life so far has been a confused mess
suffered from bullying, social anxiety and a toxic family enviornment
couldn't focus on studies and academics suffered.
repeated 10th (re-did the whole class again because school wasn't allowing me pcm stream)
scored 72% in 2020
suffered next two years coping with stem subjects as my basics and foundation was weak, along with anxeity disorder and adhd issues
when i entered 10+2, covid happened
repeated 10+2 from a dummy school (wasted one more year)
this time scored 67% in 2023
i was 20 yo when i was done with school
thought of doing bca in pune but out of nowhere financial issues started in family
worked odd jobs to support family, taught english and school subjects to little kids
joined IIT madras bs degree online because it was afforadable with fee waiver, attempted qualifier three times, skipped first one, attempted second and third times seriously (passed in all subjects like computational thinking, english, statistics but failed in maths both times)
i did understand maths, tha reason for failing was more like my mind avoiding studying maths and inconsistency.
dropped the degree
came to know about clat, law appealed to me a lot, started preparing seriously, slowly as months passed doubts started appearing, NLUs were super expensive and corp law was reserved for top elite NLUs, rest of them were bad ROI and went into litigation and UPSC
as exam approached, financial situation worsened to the point, that we were barely surviving and getting by, (i couldn't buy eyedrops for my burning eyes, while my mom couldn't go to doc for her toochahe)
she couldnt pay clat exam fees at the time and kept delaying so dropped that too
now 2026 started, wasted three more years from 2020 to 2023
mental health worsened further and i started taking therapy and anxiety medication, antidepressants and sleeping aids
now i am 23 and we now have some limited funds to send me to college
and i honestly don't recognise myself anymore, i don't know what's happening anymore, admissions are closing tommorow and i still don't know what to do or what not to do
i took career counseling twice, one three years ago, one now, both didn't help much
we have lied to all my relatives that i have done my graduation all my past peers think the same, including those living in the same society
even online or offline i live with this shame, yes peopel say "age doesnt matter and shit" but for someone going through that, you don't know how it feels, if i do a four year qualification, i will be 27 when i graduate.
and it's not that i don't know career paths, i know too many, from company sectrartoy, to actuary, ETO in merchant navy, and everything in -between
but this much information has only made me more confused, every path looks technically possible but idk what's mine, i don't lack hardwork or sinceirty but a direction
i am afraid of wasting the limited funds of my parents by investing in a degree i hate, because i cannot afford to drop out at any cost, cannot add one more gap, cannot afford more aimlessness and wastage of time
i dont eevn date or show my face to relatives cuz of my fcked up career, it's shame that i keep hidden
idk why i a writing this, but any second opinion or experienced perspective would be very helpful
also i acknowledge i may have adhd, i have a pattern of starting and dropping things without finishing them. i see unlimited possibilties and so many career paths which makes me confused in which direction to go
and the advent of AI has just made it worse, because we don't know what's going to happen to the job market in the coming years.
does anyone know of any career counseling services which actually works?
what would you do if you were in my position?
feel free to give me a harsh reality check, i acknolegede that partially it was my fault as well that things has come to this point.
I heard I won't be eligible for many companies because they have strict gap policies (for example, TCS doesn't allow for more than 24 months of gap)
I have three years after 10+2
Also I appeared for improvement in 10th and re-did 12th from 10+2 (COVID)
So my tenth marksheet says 2020 and 10+2 says 2023
And I will graduate btech cs by 27.
I know my situation is non linear, I want to know about the company's placements policy and how they work and stuff
Myquals
I heard I won't be eligible for many companies because they have strict gap policies (for example, TCS doesn't allow for more than 24 months of gap)
Also I appeared for improvement in 10th and re-did 12th from 10+2
So my tenth marksheet says 2020 and 10+2 says 2023
And I will graduate btech cs by 27.
I heard I won't be eligible for many companies because they have strict gap policies (for example, TCS doesn't allow for more than 24 months of gap)
And I will graduate btech cs by 27.
I am 23, without a bachelor's degree
Have three years gap after 10+2
If I do btech cs, I will be 27 when I get into workforce
If I do bca/bba, I would be 26
I am interested in digital marketing so that was my plan to start earning
But imo, it feels too late, ideally I would like to start a bit earlier, and also would I face discrimination if I start so late at 27 for my first job?
Would a btech from tier 3 be worth it or should I just take a easy and start digital marketing?
I have no clue about how corporates work so asking working professionals here
Seeing posts in these subs makes me feel as if all people here are so rich and from big cities, most of them doing fancy degrees and going abroad and going to elite schools
But as an average girl, with a lower middle class background, I find it hard to relate, so are there any like me here? Those who didn't have much resources but still carved out a path to good education and financial independence for themselves?
Would love to know about your stories.