r/TwoXIndia_Over25

Hi ladies,
I really, direly need insight because a lot of decisions I make is based on -‘do i deserve this’ and this time I can’t make up my mind- it has been 4 months since I started thinking about this and I can’t make up my mind at all.
I earn 1.3L in hand a month- no EMIs, save 30-40k a month and spend about 40k.
I drive an unbelievably comical distance everyday to work (130km round trip), the reason being child-rearing logistics
Somedays I carpool with friends.
I currently have a 6 year old petrol vehicle which is a base variant and has zero star rating and is less comfortable compared to other (espresso- maruti suzuki)
I see my peers driving bigger, better cars.
I wish to buy an EV, which costs 15 lakhs and has a 5 star safety rating

Points favouring buying the electric car

1. Save on petrol
2. Perceived safety
3. Feel better about myself

Point against buying the car

1. I may leave this job in the next 2 years
   2.I will be paying 25,000 in emi’s every month
2. I feel guilty for giving away my car which is just 6 years old

All my friends have differing opinions and I don’t want to ask AI.

Please help, what do you think. What else should I take into consideration- TIA

Tldr- girl driving 130km to work every day fights with herself over buying new expensive car

Background- Hi guys I prepared for govt exams(upsc) for most of my 20s. My academic background is in Food Science and I have a great academic record. I did work at a place(nutrition domain) for a few months but had to leave it. I tried giving some other exams but that did not work out.
I am really struggling with finding jobs that suit me- location, salary and job role wise. I am not keen on working in production(interned and did not like it), fresher salaries are as low as 15,000 to 20,000. I live in a small town and moving out and renting itself is so much. I also have a few opportunities to do a funded full time PhD. But being unemployed for 3-5 years again scares me. Plus teaching jobs in this domain are limited and I can’t uproot my life to move to do a different corner of the country given that more often than not we are seeing guest faculty recruitment only. Hence academia scares me.

All this has also affected my mental health.
I feel over qualified for certain jobs, and under experienced for most jobs.

Preferred location- Delhi NCR, Chandigarh tricity, any other north Indian cities or Remote
Open to working in Food industries, Hotels, Catering businesses, Food Supply Chain, e- commerce or related industry

Help I need:
-Does anyone here who runs a food based business want to hire me for QA/Food Safety related role. I am currently getting certified in this area.
- Can anyone offer me any reference?
- Should I consider PhD(given the risks)?
- Should I try to work in a customer support role to earn money (tbh they are paying better than some technical roles), what skills would I need? Any HR here who is hiring or has any leads? (I have good communication skills- Hindi, English and computer proficiency. My previous role was customer facing)

tl;dr: Struggling to find jobs in the food tech sector after preparing for govt exams. Need job leads and advice.

Hello ladies,

This is your safe space to vent. No judgement just pour all your wretched feelings below. Shout in this void. Let the world know just how much it can fuck right off into eternity.

Love,

Mod Team!

yes I used chat gpt to correct those grammer cuz i have social anxiety

I'm 25F, and two years ago I got cheated on me. It shattered something in me that hasn't healed. Since then, I haven't wanted to meet anyone or think about marriage at all. I'm still trying to process what happened, and I don't feel ready — maybe I never will be, and that's my choice to make.

But my family doesn't see it that way. Every time I walk into my own house, I get side-eyed, whispered about, and pulled into conversations about "settling down." My relatives bring it up constantly, like it's the only thing that matters about me. I've tried explaining how I feel, tried saying no gently, tried saying no firmly. None of it has worked.

What's worse is that ever since I started openly opposing the marriage talks, things have gotten physical. I've been hit in my own home, by my own family, for refusing something I don't want for myself. The one place that's supposed to feel safe doesn't anymore.

I don't know how to make them understand that my "no" isn't rebellion, it's self-preservation. I don't know how to protect my boundaries when the people crossing them are the ones who raised me. I don't know how to heal from betrayal while also being forced to consider marrying a stranger.

Has anyone else been through this? How did you get your family to actually hear you, and how did you stay safe while doing it?

I am 29 and this question is asked of me almost every other day

Hyderabad has grown so much over the years, and life feels busier than ever.

I'm curious to know—how do you manage stress and maintain a healthy work-life balance in this fast-paced city?

Whether you're a homemaker, a working professional, or juggling both family and career, what habits, routines, or activities help you stay balanced and avoid burnout?

hey guys,

so i got a job. i got a pretty good job right after completing my graduation with a package of 6 lpa. for that, i have to relocate to gurgaon in a couple of days.

the thing is, i was the only one in my family who was very emotionally attached to my parents. my family has also been a little toxic and chaotic. because of that, i started dealing with and healing myself from a very young age. i always wanted to move out and experience life on my own. i tried a few times, but during college i couldn’t.

finally, i got this opportunity.

earlier, i had a lot of arguments with my parents because they were completely against me moving. they wanted me to stay in the same city and do a job here. but apart from the exposure and career growth, i genuinely wanted to move out and live a little.

now, as the day is getting closer, i’m feeling really weird.

today i went shopping with my mom, and while we were walking, she tripped over a stone and fell on the road. thankfully nothing serious happened just a few minor scratches on her knees but that incident hit me really hard. i literally started crying in the middle of the market. by the time i came back home, all the excitement i had about finally living freely was gone.

i also have an elder brother. since class 10, he’s been living away from home in hostels, and now he’s working in hyderabad. maybe that’s why my parents are already used to him being away, but this is completely new for me.

i don’t know why i’m suddenly feeling this way. for years, i wanted this moment so badly, and now that it’s finally here, i feel guilty, scared, and emotional all at once.

i couldn’t really share this with anyone i know, so i decided to post it here instead.

has anyone else felt like this before moving out for the first time? does this feeling go away? i’d really appreciate hearing your experiences or advice.

I’m in my late 20s and I’m terrified to get married or meet rishtas because of all the nightmare in law stories. I’ve seen stories where mil will steal gold, dil will be a second class citizen and unpaid servant, etc. I also have had an experience of shaadi talks with my ex and family which broke due to the same toxic in law culture. My family is very kind and modern and treat both sons and daughters the same. This extends to my brothers wife as well. She’s treated as a daughter. So I am not equipped emotionally to deal with toxic in-laws and marriage situations. Can you please share positive stories so I know there is more out there than just my life being over the minute I choose marriage?

Asked chat to tighten it up cause I was rambling

Hi,
My sister, my cousin, and I have been discussing something that’s been weighing on us for a while, and we’re trying to understand whether we are being unreasonable or simply unaware of our actual legal rights.

We come from a joint family with ancestral property involved. There are 5 of us in the next generation (2 boys and 3 girls). The general understanding we’ve grown up with is that property is primarily meant for the sons, and daughters are not considered equal heirs in practice, even though we are part of the same family.

At the same time, we’ve seen very different financial outcomes among male cousins in the wider family. One cousin sold his share of ancestral land, used it to build two successful businesses abroad, and bought a house. Another cousin has a stable job in India but also receives around ₹2 lakh/month as passive income from land holdings, without actively working for it. These examples make it hard not to question the imbalance in how family assets translate into opportunity.

In contrast, the three of us (all women in the family) have not received similar support or access to family assets. Whenever we bring up inheritance or our share, the response is often that we are being “greedy” or trying to take “bread away from our brothers.” They literally try to shame us- and act shocked by our “greed”.

When we ask what about our share, we’re told that daughters “belong to their pati’s house” and that we will eventually have access to our pati’s property instead. But for us, that logic feels disconnected—because we are not married yet, and we are talking about birthright in our own family’s ancestral property, not hypothetical future situations.
In one recent instance, after this topic was raised seriously within the family, property records/ownership were changed in a way that moved assets to other relatives, which made us feel even more uncertain about where we stand legally.

On a personal note, this situation also affects future decisions in my life. I have a partner I intend to marry, but he comes from a similar background where land, inheritance, and “family reputation” matter a lot. If I were to pursue this legally, I worry it could affect how his family perceives me, since similar biases around daughters and property exist in many land-owning families.

We are not trying to destroy family relationships. But every time we raise this, it turns into accusations of greed, as if asking for our share is equivalent to taking something away from our brothers.

From our perspective, we are simply asking: if there is ancestral property, where is our rightful share in it?

Has anyone here thought of this, because I don’t see anyone talk about property rights on “feminist discourse” everyone has online

Basically the title. I’m in my late 30s and I’m pretty saturated/ unhappy with my current job and toxic work environment (I live in the States). I know India isn’t a great option to move to now but I don’t have much choice as most countries have tightened their work visas (I also don’t work in a niche field so it is even harder to find roles in other countries). Is there anyone who recently moved back to India for work?

I also want to take a break from work for a short while before rejoining the job market so if anyone has done the same, your inputs would be helpful.

WFH for almost 5 years has turned me into a complete cavewoman. I live in pyjamas, throw my hair up, and have basically stopped grooming myself unless I have to go out. When I do get ready, I feel amazing, but I don’t have that everyday “put together” confidence anymore. Fellow WFH people, what small habits made you feel fresh, feminine, and like a person again?

I'm 26 and trying to break into digital marketing after years of gvt exam prep. I enrolled in an online digital marketing course because as a fresher, breaking into the industry felt nearly impossible. I recently got shortlisted for an interview with a US based marketing agency. However, it's a remote role with US shift. They're offering 30k/month for a 3-6 month internship and if converted, around 4.5-6 LPA. I'm so conflicted.

One part of me really wants to do well in the interview, get selected and finally start my career. The job market is rough, especially for freshers. Most internships I'm seeing pay just 10-15k/month in metro cities which is barely enough to survive on. and I cannot keep depending on my parents financially at 26.

But the other part of me is almost hoping I mess up the interview because...it's a night shift.

I've literally been an early morning person my entire life. I naturally wake up between 4-6 am. I go to the gym regularly and I like having a routine. The thought of flipping my entire body clock upside down honestly scares me. But I might have to consider this opportunity given I'm not really in a position to be too picky.

People who work 10pm-7am:

• How do you manage your sleep, especially if you have been a morning person all your life?
• Do you still have a social life?
• Can you consistently work out?
• Does your body eventually adjust?
• Do you feel healthy after a few months?

My current thought process is that maybe I should do it for 6 months, gain experience and then switch to a day shift role. But I'm also worried that once I'm in my health will take a hit - honestly health is the only part I'm concerned about. I was recently diagnosed with alopecia and I'm worried that working night shifts could worsen it or potentially trigger other autoimmune issues. Would you take this opportunity if you were in my shoes? Especially considering the current job market? I'd really love to hear from women who've actually worked night shifts - what was your experience like, and would you do it again?

My Insta feed was full of these relaxing korean spa videos…tbh, I really wanna try it. Checked online…I think yes madam has a Korean packages.

Has anyone tried it yet? And what is the real difference than those regular spa sessions?

PS: looking for salon at home services only at this point.