Hi all! I was talking to my sister the other day and she is planning to move closer to me. I was telling her how she can look for roommates anywhere from 23-27 as they would be mature and responsible. She's 23 btw and I'm 28. She instantly told me "no people your age are so old I don't want to even entertain them" or something on those lines. I felt taken aback. Is 28 considered old now?
Hi! I come from a pretty progressive family and we’re all in the US. My parents haven’t pressured me into marriage or anything but I had a timeline for myself and I am unable to meet it in terms of finding a partner. I often deal with this grief and share it with my parents. My younger sister who is 23 has a long term partner and I don’t. I have tried a lot but I did not find anyone. My dad and I had a fight about this today and really was disappointed in how he thought about this. I told him I do not think I want to do an arranged marriage as the idea does not appeal to me. I want to find someone on my own and he promptly said then, keep waiting as it may never happen and you’re getting older. According to societal norms, 28 is old in arranged marriage. I was really hurt by this and told him I do not want to talk to him about this anymore and will not be considering arranged marriage. I’m dealing with the frustration of not being able to find someone and this kind of talk doesn’t help either. To women, who found their partners later in life, how did you deal with the fear of being alone?
By “singles tax,” I mean the financial premium associated with maintaining a one-person household: housing, utilities, furnishings and other fixed costs must be covered by one person, while a two-adult household can share them. This isn’t a literal tax or a claim that single people cannot afford their lifestyles—it’s the well-established economic concept of reduced economies of scale in one-person households.
For reference, BLS research explains that a two-person household needs more income than one person, but not twice as much, precisely because of shared consumption. U.S. Consumer Expenditure Survey data show that one-person consumer units spent an average of $48,794 in 2024. An official UK analysis likewise found that working-age adults living alone spent 92% of disposable income, versus 83% for two-adult households.
Hi guys! I have a married friend that I met at DnD night and turns out we went to the same college and we connected over that. He is married and I am obviously wary of that. Last time we hung out after the game night, he told me just generally that his wife is not a responsible spender and he really struggles with this in his marriage at times even though his wife earns more than him. It reeked of insecurity to me and I kind of decided that I should define strict boundaries around this friendship so that it doesn’t go into over sharing and blurred boundaries. Recently, he invited me to a 1:1 board game night bc none of our other friends are available. I am really tempted to go with the thought that we won’t divulge in to personal lives much. Is it a good idea to go? Also, I don’t think the onus to carry this friendship should be solely on me. Further, how can I know what is ok and not ok in this friendship? How do I define that for myself?
Hi all, I have a younger sister (23F) and I am 28F. She and her bf are moving into the same city as me and she asked me to live with her as her bf will also be living with a roommate. Now, as a single older sibling, I dont want to be reminded of how single I am as they intend on spending most of their time together in our house and she plans on having him over 3-4 nights a week. How do I politely decline this offer? I am also jealous of her having someone so it does get to me and is incredibly hard for me to be around them so if you have any advice around managing jealousy and grief around not having a life you thought you would have, please let me know.
Normally I am not a jealous older sibling, like I am happy for her. But I just don’t know how to shake this feeling.
Backstory: I (28F) grew up in a pretty egalitarian South Asian family, but as the oldest daughter, I was raised to be more responsible and held to a higher standard. Dating was discouraged growing up, but I dated in college but nothing stuck. I accepted that but its been tough.
Now my parents have done a 180 and asked if I liked anyone. I didn’t, and still don’t. They’ve tried looking into matches, but don’t like anyone they have found so far.
Recently, I found out my younger sister (23F) has been seeing someone for sometime. I’m truly happy for her, she’s amazing, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t feel a pang of sadness. No one’s ever liked me like that. There’s a real possibility she might get married before me. I don’t want to make it about me, but in our culture if she does get married first there will be a lot of talk about how there is something wrong with me. And I don’t know how to navigate that besides going to cry in the bathroom every once in a while.
I don’t want to date just to feel validated or compete with my sister — I want to work on liking myself first.
I’m looking for advice on two things:
Any insight or thoughts would mean a lot.
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Hi all! One of my close buddies on my birthday referred to me with they/them and he knows my pronouns. This happened when i wasn’t around. I’m a cis woman who goes by she/her and has referred to myself using those since forever. One of my other friends texted me saying that this said friend was misgendering me while I wasn’t around so I politely asked her if she corrected him and she said she didn’t because she didnt want a lecture from him (???). I found that so strange but keeping that aside, should I text my friend about my pronouns or let him know in person or it doesn’t matter?
Hey everyone, I was having a conversation with my sister today and she has been dating her bf for 2 years while I have been single for over 7 years. I am the older sibling if that matters and didn’t have much luck with finding someone I wanted to be with long term. She found someone in college. Well, the conversation was about how dating works nowadays and how it’s just luck. I told her I think it’s a matter of luck finding someone who you align with. She, on the other hand told me that it’s picking the best out of the ones you see. I told her that that doesn’t mean if I want someone, I just pick about anyone. It depends on a reasonable set of criteria. That criteria might have been different for her, it could be different for me and then in addition to that, it’s luck finding that person. She didn’t like what I said I guess so she told me that at some point, I can’t be endlessly searching and looking and will have to do with the best I can get in that moment until someone better comes along. My mind went to why not be single instead of just doing with whoever? Anyway, my question is, women who are in relationships, did you just go with the best out of the option you saw because time was running out? Is that the strategy to date?
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Hello folks! I just moved from being an ML engineer into a pm role within the same company but completely different division and product. I am really struggling of course but before this move, I was applying to any and all opportunities for data science, PM and MLEs and had no luck. I kind of fell into this role because internally, they were interested in using a technical perspective and I went thru the rounds and got hired. However, I severely underestimated the role itself and it is very difficult. Plus I keep reading about the fact that there are not enough growth and jobs out there but I saw that was the case as a DS ML person as well. I am adept at tech and using AI everyday as a PM, can also code, etc. but worried if this was a mistake? I was escaping a bad manager who never promoted me in my ML role. Can any other POs with similar backgrounds chime in as to how it’s going or any resources? Additionally, should I go back to engineering if the market is saturated here eventually?
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Hi girls! I just pivoted from SWE and became a PM in a different department so not only the field is new but the work is new and I feel so much pressure. I feel like I need to be working more hours just to catch up and I really regret moving out of SWE. Women who are in these roles, how do you manage your stress and time? Are there any tools you use to make your life easier? As a swe, I was not an excellent coder but was cruising by with Cursor so I do use cursor with my PM role to automate ticket writing etc. help a girl out!
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Hi guys! I was an ML engineer and moved over to become a platform pm which means I need to know the technical architecture and have internal stakeholders. I am getting up to speed with the new job but I feel a little bit stressed out because of how different this role is than engineering. Engineering seemed a lot more chill but I moved to avoid a toxic boss and no growth opportunities in my previous role. I want to know people who have been here or just starting out, how can I manage my time and resources well without stressing out?