r/AskLGBT

Can cis people have presentational dysphoria? I personally feel comfortable in my gender as a cis man (bit dissatisfied with it but still comfortable) and I label myself a femboy, but I’m not exactly all that fem irl, and it makes me upset and uncomfortable, I wanna be a pretty femboy, but I don’t have the fem part down that much, I’ve got clothes that while aren’t outright womens clothes would still be considered fem, but my actual appearance is more masc-leaning androgynous, and I don’t like that, I want more traditionally feminine traits, larger thighs, butt and hips, slim, wouldn’t even mind small breasts, but I still wanna be male, I just want to look very VERY feminine, would this be presentational dysphoria?

I (14) have already told all of my close friends that I am pan and gender apathetic. All but one, that one being a very openly homophobic friend. (yes I have already considered dripping him and it is not off the table). I would like any advice any of you can give for my situation. Thanks in advance to anyone who answer.

So like I said before. Im jealous of lesbians. But I kinda wanna add a bit more to my query. Not only am I jealous cause I wish I had a GF who was like them but, im not to...happy with lesbians. Its no offence to them but ive meet a couple in my days (only like 1 or 2 have been cool) but sometimes theyre mean to me of just...rude. like theyre better then me or something. Ive talked and they said "im a lesbian" ill say oh cool. Then they say "yeah its cool heh." And they look all smug and stuff and when I tell them im straight they like, sneer a little. Like what did I do?...then theyre sometimes mean like they have to act mean or butch just cause and why? Can someone help me understand if I just met mean people or am I doing something wrong?

A while on r/TopCharacterTropes there was a post about how some shows would use the fact that a character was gay or LGBT in general as a "plot twist" of sorts,

Some examples given were the end of Paranorman where Neil's brother mentioned that he has a boyfriend much to Courtney's horror and the Loud House where the Valentines episode ended with the twist that the "Sam" Luna kept talking about was actually the blonde girl, not the brown haired dude that everyone thought it was.

Anyway, the post called it "questionable" as some called it homophobic as it implies that being gay is supposed to be a "shock" to the viewers how I personally believe its not too bad unless the show paints being gay in a negative light (which the paranorman one slighly did with Courtney's disguted reaction but not really).

What do you think about it?

For those of you who are a top in their relationship and don’t particularly enjoy anal penetration will you bottom for your partner occasionally if that is something they enjoy?

Sorry if this isn’t the right sub for this! But I’m teaching a class at this nonprofit that mostly consists of queer youth (13-18). I’ve taught other classes here for a while now, and when we do introductions I like to incorporate a fun Icebreaker. I know not everyone likes them, but I think if you think pick a really good one it can be a hit.

The icebreaker doesn’t have to be specifically queer related but I’m running out of ideas… I’ve done ones like, ‘If you had to describe you with three items, what would they be?’ ‘If you could choose to be an animal for a day, what would you choose and why?’, and one of my most recent, ‘If someone could summon you in a cauldron with three things, what would they be?’.

Would soooo appreciate any help or thoughts! Thanks in advance.