u/LarryNStar

like i don't really know how to feel. i said it was fine because i guess it is. my ex isn't necessarily abusive and he's nice to me when i see him so i guess we're in good terms but he's always leaving my messages on "seen" and not responding. he just decided one day, that he'd be in a poly relationship with me and this one guy and i let him, but then i broke up with him because he did NOT care about me. he never wanted to hang out or talk to me at all and would always cancel plans with me.

idk if it's just weird to see my best friend from therapy dating my ex or what. definitely i'm over him romantically, maybe i don't wanna see her get hurt or something, idk??? but only time will tell.

plus, he's really a good guy if he genuinely cares about his partner and doesn't just think he does or wants to avoid hurting someone's feelings. he's also the type, however, to be PDA with his partner, is very proud of his relationship (think gomez and morticia) and ONLY wants to hang out with the partner and barely hangs out with friends.

he's nice to me, i just wish he cared more as a friend and wasn't just a nice guy 😭 but more like a kind guy if u get what i mean??? like he's friendly, he's nice, but not really caring to me since he always leaves me on seen and never thinks of a time to hang out.

i don't really know.

like i don't really know how to feel. i said it was fine because i guess it is. my ex isn't necessarily abusive and he's nice to me when i see him so i guess we're in good terms but he's always leaving my messages on "seen" and not responding. he just decided one day, that he'd be in a poly relationship with me and this one guy and i let him, but then i broke up with him because he did NOT care about me. he never wanted to hang out or talk to me at all and would always cancel plans with me.

idk if it's just weird to see my best friend from therapy dating my ex or what. definitely i'm over him romantically, maybe i don't wanna see her get hurt or something, idk??? but only time will tell.

plus, he's really a good guy if he genuinely cares about his partner and doesn't just think he does or wants to avoid hurting someone's feelings. he's also the type, however, to be PDA with his partner, is very proud of his relationship (think gomez and morticia) and ONLY wants to hang out with the partner and barely hangs out with friends.

he's nice to me, i just wish he cared more as a friend and wasn't just a nice guy 😭 but more like a kind guy if u get what i mean??? like he's friendly, he's nice, but not really caring to me since he always leaves me on seen and never thinks of a time to hang out.

i don't really know.

idk why i just get really strong anime opening vibes from it.

i just wanted to say, THANK you guys for being supportive. i love lgbt subreddits like this because they never blame me for feeling what i've felt or say i must be a horrible person for my lifestyle, my opinions, or just being harassed.

i'll say this is transphobia since my family is pretty transphobic.

i'm kinda hesitant to talk to my grandma who i live with about this because last time i talked about dysphoria at age 13-14 she said something like "i'll always support you my beautiful granddaughter ❤️" and kept calling me a girl and wanting me to look feminine but she also is pretty right-wing.

grandpa is really not supportive. he won't let me do anything like wear more masculine clothes, get a binder at least (since i can't get top surgery at my age or take hormones), and he won't accept me as his grandson and he thinks trans people are like these really goofy people not worthy of respect or love.

i'm sure he loves me, he just wouldn't love who he thinks i've "become".

sometimes i get mad and i swear and it helps me feel better but he's super religious and because he expects me to be all religious and feminine he says i can't swear because religious ppl, especially WOMEN don't swear.

i've seen multiple things on how to "pass" better like wearing a binder to flatten your chest and wear masculine, dad/uncle-type clothes, baseball cap, watch, etc. and have a really muscular body.

i lowkey wish that could be me. i've tried working out, i'm not very muscular and even got made fun of for not being able to lift as heavy as the other people. im getting a binder from my partner soon, thankfully. i can't get uncle type men's clothes or anything that remotely LOOKS masculine either. my dresser/closet is full, and all the stuff in it is feminine and my family would laugh and say no if i asked for more masculine clothing.

i feel im expected to be this really feminine, submissive almost woman, who is just like my grandpa and also obeys anything men say without question.

im tired of being told/hearing that most people are good and that they’ll surprise you and that they actually do care. why was i abandoned and talked bad about then? why do people switch up on me? why is my friend suddenly dry? why was my energetic friend suddenly saying he didn’t care about what made me happy??

everyone i meet acts good to look good but is evil. my one friend, some ppl, my family, and my partners are the only ones i can say for a fact aren’t evil and care about me.

(I wish i wasn’t so negative, maybe more ppl are good than i think and the circumstances are unfortunate rather than it being a personal attack against me)

has anyone else experienced someone you wanted to be friends with because they seem so nice and you literally see them being nice to everyone EXCEPT you where they’re sarcastic, cold, rude, or downright cruel??

there are these really nice people who i wanna talk to more but they’re best friends with this apparently “sweet” girl. all her friends are super sweet and i used to date this girl, but she’s abrupt, cold, and shoves me. she is very sweet but only to people like her, and said we couldn’t be friends because we did’t instantly form a bond on the first day.

she is super energetic and all “OMG HI CAN I HUG YOU 🤗 I WILL TOTALLY BUY YOU STARBUCKS COFFEE AND FOOD OMG I LOVE YOU BESTIE” but very exclusionary and rude to me i feel, but my brain still likes her as a friend :(

i was thinking "transphobe", "chaser", or "transphobic chaser", but idk if there's an actual term that encompasses this behavior.

this was a while ago when i was young(er) and foolish, and i've since stopped talking to people IMMEDIATELY after they start asking for sexual favors.

- naming a body part/insecurity that obviously would cause dysphoria like "you look so feminine for a guy" or "you have a big chest for a guy" (but phrased more vulgar)

- dating a trans guy and wanting him to do feminine stuff (all this happened to me, i was in a talking stage with a guy who would never tell me any info about himself and was hesitant to even do anything with me, but would be overtly sexual and want me to shave my legs and appear feminine and stuff)

- talking to a trans guy and wanting him to play out your fantasies of "seeing" him as a guy but wanting him to wear dresses, makeup, and go by "she/her" pronouns and eventually call him your "girlfriend".

im apparently a bad person who deserves to be harassed and doesn’t love my partner or friends and should “f off” and do bad stuff to myself. the first part was the jerks on reddit sometimes. the second part is everyone ive met mostly except for the good ones.

my friends online say im a good person tho and shouldn’t f off and crap.

they're kinda like a mix of the "popular" girls and the queer kids. they like things that can be considered "niche", they're creative, like art, fashionable, kinda gossipy, either basic or really pretty with like low-cut tops and streaks of color in their hair. they're always laughing about something and goofing off. some of these girls are the "gifted" kids who are in like every advanced class and are liked by many for this. however, i will stay away from them cuz a lot of them are rude to me. they're gossips but they also tend to have spoken to me when i was vulnerable and needed a friend but left me unless it's convenient for them and they don't rly treat me like a real person.

idk if they're considered alt or not, cuz most of the alt girls i know are well-known but not popular and actually pretty cool and accepting of others.

so, im definitely panromantic/biromantic. i probably have a slight preference at least for women but right now im only interested in 2 ppl. however, i would date anyone regardless of how they identified.

i thought i was asexual for so long and i might still be due to seemingly not being as freaky as other people and rarely thinking about it/feeling it. buuuut there are some exceptions to the "rule", and those 2 ppl have both been men/non-women

1 person was very freaky (nonbinary transmasc ftm) and i wanted to try it with him. plus, he was hot. long story short, turned out he just liked how i looked and kinda left me (emotionally, not literally) for someone else and decided he didn't love me.

2nd person (cis guy) wasn't all that freaky but i wanted intimacy out of love and to start a family with him.

im hesitant though because is it homophobic to call myself a panromantic gay guy? i heard some girl got harassed by other lesbians for calling herself a biromantic lesbian (meaning she liked only girls intimately and romantically, more than one gender.) plus, people would argue that im not gay if i like girls, even though sexually i would call myself gay.

lynn is this girl in my grade and my school i dated at the beginning of the year and she started out pretty nice. she's a year younger than me with genius levels of intelligence. she's pretty, funny, and well-known and liked by many. due to her funny personality, she has a lot of friends and is kind of a smartie gamer girl. i have her tiktok username from when we dated and needed to communicate and she's always online but i'm scared to start up a convo.

i've tried little things like "nice hair" or "i love your shirt" but she just says "thanks!" and nothing else.

she only really talks to me when she needs to or when it's convenient, like the time she had no friends in her english class and i was the most likely person who'd say yes because i'm seen as kind and also one of the ones she knew most (even though we weren't close).

also, when we dated she'd flirt with other guys (but she didn't consider it cheating because she wasn't kissing them or asking them out, she'd just say "can i kiss you?" and such) and was rude to my friend for being socially awkward yet trying to talk to everyone and make friends.

she didn't do much for me nor did she flirt, say i love you, anything.

and she always abruptly ends the conversation. i've always wanted to be her friend because she's funny, pretty, all that stuff, but idk. she seems kinda closed off with me and in english class on friday, someone kept shoving my back. i turned around, and she was the closest person behind me and just shoved past me. not even an "excuse me" or a "thank you".

but i wanna talk to her because despite my fear, despite all that, i still see her as a really cool person.

lynn is this girl in my grade and my school i dated at the beginning of the year and she started out pretty nice. she's a year younger than me with genius levels of intelligence. she's pretty, funny, and well-known and liked by many. due to her funny personality, she has a lot of friends and is kind of a smartie gamer girl. i have her tiktok username from when we dated and needed to communicate and she's always online but i'm scared to start up a convo.

i've tried little things like "nice hair" or "i love your shirt" but she just says "thanks!" and nothing else.

she only really talks to me when she needs to or when it's convenient, like the time she had no friends in her english class and i was the most likely person who'd say yes because i'm seen as kind and also one of the ones she knew most (even though we weren't close).

also, when we dated she'd flirt with other guys (but she didn't consider it cheating because she wasn't kissing them or asking them out, she'd just say "can i kiss you?" and such) and was rude to my friend for being socially awkward yet trying to talk to everyone and make friends.

she didn't do much for me nor did she flirt, say i love you, anything.

and she always abruptly ends the conversation. i've always wanted to be her friend because she's funny, pretty, all that stuff, but idk. she seems kinda closed off with me and in english class on friday, someone kept shoving my back. i turned around, and she was the closest person behind me and just shoved past me. not even an "excuse me" or a "thank you".

but i wanna talk to her because despite my fear, despite all that, i still see her as a really cool person.

- Straightforward and to the point. I'm not one to sugarcoat or even know very well HOW to sugarcoat. If I'm attracted to someone I'm close with, I won't try to flirt or beat around the bush. I will just outright tell them I'm attracted to them and wonder if they feel the same way and would like to try dating.

- Seemingly distant and "hates people". People often don't notice me because I don't talk much. I'm kind of distant, and I don't seem to like people all that much even if I truly do. I have glanced at people due to social anxiety and not being able to give longer than a glance but people thought I was mad at them.

- I tend not to look on the past and distract myself because it'd make me nostalgic and sad and I can be impulsive. Sometimes, I wanna do things that stimulate me but I'm usually not a huge risk-taker. Sometimes, I give into my cravings.

- Not all that expressive. I tend to get embarrassed expressing strong feelings so I just express them in private by myself or write it down. I always look serious in-person and don't really genuinely smile unless it's a friendly one to be polite.

- Tries to be objective and look for an answer based on evidence that is primarily agreed upon.

- I can be uncreative. My ideas sit in my brain until I suddenly get a spark and it all comes out at once.

- Like some people I know, who are very expressive and gush over celebrity and fictional crushes and will be very emotional on how attractive they are, I might say "I see it!" (I see how they're attractive) and I might say "I personally kinda have a crush on _____" but I won't be very gushy about it.

- I am highly empathetic and believe the needs of many outweigh the needs of the few. I believe in justice, logic, but also empathy and emotion. I try my best to help others and comfort them in their time of need, but I also get sad when not many people return this action.

- Compared to characters like Prince Escalus (Romeo and Juliet)

- Always polite (or tries) and friendly but not very smiley or anything, as mentioned.

I have been ESFJ before, then INTP due to my "unemotional/logical" beliefs, then ENTP, then ENFP, last time I took a Jungian function test I was Te-Ni ENTJ.

Então faço uma aula de espanhol na escola. Na aula ouvimos músicas populares q alguém ouviria no rádio, tipo músicas do ano 2025 ou mais novas. Não faço nenhuma aula de português mas sei falar pq tinha uma amiga BR em 2023. Alguém conhece alguma música na língua portuguesa q é popular de 2025 ou 2026?

Talvez possa ser alguém como Bad Bunny mas em português?

so, i really hate to do this. my grandpa has done so much for me and i feel like i owe him for that but i sometimes don't feel happy around him, especially cuz of how he is. a lot of people who know him say he's a good guy or that he's just old-fashioned, or even that it's ok because he loves me, but idk how to feel ngl.

i have planned on maybe transitioning, at least getting top surgery or going on T when im older or maybe even wearing a binder and presenting as masc, idk. i also planned on potentially moving out with this guy i know (we're good friends) who really supports me but idk either. i, more likely, will probably move in with my gf if we're still together and even if we're just friends because i know we'll stay friends as we have since middle school.

i'd also love to stay in my state where both my friend AND my gf live. my family said i could always live here because i wouldn't have to worry about finding a place to live that way. however, they also potentially plan on moving to a pretty bigoted state when im an adult.

anyway, i've tried talking to teachers since i was feeling dysphoria, well, since i was 8 actually but didn't have the name for it. when i finally realized, i was 13 and i feel the exact same way a few years later even tho someone i know (an adult) was willing to bet that by 2025-2026, i'd be a girl and it was all a phase.

i remember a teacher described it as "wanting to be a boy", and kinda got frustrated when i vented about my grandpa, saying he was just old-fashioned and that since i was given food, water, shelter, and love and wasn't beaten or bullied, i was fine and shouldn't say anything.

im not being directly harassed or bullied, it's true. but he does want me to kinda be this feminine, obedient girl who exclusively likes and dates boys and doesn't like bi boys (technically all boys i date would be gay or bi as im a guy). also, he wants me to kinda be like him and be kinda bigoted, rude, and constantly talks about how annoying people who don't share his views are and how trans and gay people are weird and i should dislike them too.

so i know this guy (he's also my crush but... 🤭, i won't try anything if it turns out my gf isn't poly tho, she's still deciding) and i wanna hang out with him at least platonically but there's a MAJOR problem.

not only do they disagree on many stances, but grandpa probably wouldn't respect/like his parents because they don't speak any english. sure, the guy i'm hanging out with could translate, but like, idk. my grandpa doesn't know any spanish 💔

basically she like was super dry all of a sudden, and i asked if i was annoying her, she said no (like they all say to be "nice") but i asked her to hang out and she said "um no why do u wanna hang out with me? i dont wanna hang out w anyone" and combined w the fact that she's just super dry and doesn't talk to me or treat me like a PERSON, its been too much.

plus she hangs out with the popular kids it seems but like yk the popular girls who are super fashionable and gossipy but they don't like conservatives so they seem nice but they really aren't?

and my platonic partner prob doesn't see me as lesser but im scared he does because he's found new friends and is too busy to hang out anymore

and my mom thinks that girl is just using me, like befriending me when it's convenient. plus, not only is she kinda rude and she makes me insecure/feel unwanted but like she's one of those performative progressives imo who preaches about equal rights and how every minority should be respected but will also treat others like they're not human while being like "everyone is human and deserves rights!1!1!1!1"

what’s the point. they decide they don’t need me anymore because they meet new ppl and i suddenly mean nothing to them. i can count the people who respect me on two hands probably… no more.

is it because im shy??? this girl said she would always be here for me but makes me so insecure because she’s dry as shit, acts like im an annoyance, barely speaks to me, and is just kinda making me insecure… then i feel bad for feeling that way about her

so i (m15) feel like a bad person because i tried to befriend a girl (f14) who shoved me today to try and get through. now, i no longer want to communicate with her. people were saying i was being a bad person though for saying hi and being creepy, and i honestly don't know how, so i'm kinda upset that people would think that.