r/TooAfraidToAsk

I go out without a bra quite often, especially during the summer or if I'm just running errands. Honestly, I just find it much more comfortable. It's not too much visible, but i can see that people notice it, and ironically, women stare more.

Men stare too, sometimes it's very uncomfortable, yes i understand that people will check it out, i do it too, but i never stare. It's happening even when i am not wearing something revealing. Sometimes it makes me feel like I'm doing something that's still considered socially unacceptable.

I am curious how other people see it. Sometimes it makes me feel like I'm doing something that's still considered socially unacceptable.

Most of the time people portrayed in polyamorous relationships especially in popular/social media are never conventionally attractive. One would think that attractive people would be having lots of sex with other people and therefore would be enthused by a polyamorous open relationship. However it doesn't seem like it's the case.

I basically cannot wear clothes in my crib. Thankfully I live by myself. Will soon have to invest in an AC, a fan isn't enough anymore

I'm a straight female. I remember countless experiences in middle and highschool were a guy took it to far with me or with my friends. Forced exposure/clothing removal because it was funny, shared pictures, secret pictures, spending hours and days "convincing" us to do something we didn't want to do, touching us despite us saying we didn't like it or didn't want to be touched or pushing them off, for some of us, actual forced molestation or rape....

These experiences seem pretty common around women I know. For us it was a learning experience to watch your back, be careful who you trust, be loud about your No's, and learn how to protect yourself.

Sometimes I wonder if guys who did those things out of naivety or saw it at home and didn't know better or never had anyone discuss consent and boundaries with them who later learned those things think back on moments like that and think "they just weren't that into me" or "wow, I really messed up there."

The West currently has the highest living standard, the most people, and the most advance then ever in history, We live longer than ever. Crime rate has gone down, and western city have look better than ever.

I am terrified of flying. I hate it and avoid it as much as possible. If I do go on a trip rather than patting myself on the back for conquering a fear I just feel relieved that the trip is over and hope I don’t have to do it again anytime soon.

I work a typical 9-5. I have an office and a job where I spend most of my time at a desk. I have no guidance on what needs to be done. I am basically my own boss with little to no oversight. I'm a high performer who gets the above and beyond done very quickly.

My question is, when I have weeks at a time where I have nothing to do for 7 out of the 8 hours of the day, what do it do???

I listen to audiobooks, I upskill myself, play games. But I'm exhausted. I feel like I'm just collecting a paycheck. This is fine to some people but I want to be busy, I want to be growing.

I have a very small, smaller than a garden pea, lump on the head of my penis. I feel to anxious to see a doctor but don’t know what to do. It’s been about a month or two, it looks slightly yellow and it’s hard but painless and I’ve had no other problems whatsoever so it doesn’t appear to be anything major. I’m just naturally quite worried about what it might be.

I'm a 24-year-old straight guy with a fairly large chest (around 38DD). I've never really talked about this with anyone because I'm worried about being judged.
Over the past few years, I've realized that wearing a bra actually feels comfortable to me. It's not something I do for attention—I simply find the support and feeling comforting. At the same time, I've also noticed that my chest and nipples are a major erogenous zone for me, and that has left me wondering whether other straight men experience the same thing.
I'm not attracted to men, and this isn't about questioning my sexual orientation. I'm only attracted to women. I'm just trying to understand whether my experiences are more common than I think.
I also have a few practical questions:
Are there other men here with larger chests who wear bras for comfort?

If so, where do you buy them without feeling awkward?

For anyone in India (especially Tamil Nadu), are there stores that will measure and fit a man respectfully?

Are there brands that work well for someone with a fuller chest?

If you're a woman or a bra fitter, do you have any advice for someone who's completely new to choosing the right bra?

I'm asking because I genuinely want advice and to hear other people's experiences. Please be respectful—this isn't a joke or a troll post.

I don't know if its just me but ever since the pandemic, i noticed that people and society at large have become meaner and more vindictive, quick to anger and slow to forgive.

Like on the internet, people used to be a lot more open minded and more welcoming to new users compared to nowadays.

I’m from Germany and as a semi-fat built guy I just think they look cool.
The sport isn’t thaat popular over here but I like the fit of them and think they look quite nice.
If thats okay, what teams jerseys would you recommend.
(Which ones would you strongly advise against if any?)

if it helps I look like Erling Haaland(haircut) and Frenkie de Jong (Face) and had a son that gained 50lbs with the confidence of the ESPN fat kid wink meme.

I need to know if you think she's cheating. 

We been married over 10 years. I am 46 and she's 48. About 5 years ago we split up for like a month. Gave each other permission to see someone else. With that permission, I did, for like 2 months, but decided I needed to put the family back together for everyone, or at least do my part and try. 

So 5 years later it's been up and down. Mostly down I'd say. Now this is not my imagination. I swear to God I am blamed for every single thing on earth. NOTHING is her fault. When relationship stuff comes up, for example, like us not talking for a week, it's my fault and she says she did nothing wrong even though she also didn't say anything. I bring up the fact that two people are involved, NOPE, always my fault 100%. 

When things are better I will sometimes do basic stuff like give a hug or maybe even a quick kiss or sit next to her on the couch. 

Hug= pushed away and told “alright alright, I'm busy!" 

Kiss= pull back with a disgusted look on face 

I say I love you= never said in return

I ask if I can talk about something important= “I don't have 30 seconds!" 

I ask literally any questions about our relationship and get complete silence. She looks at her phone while I talk. I ask nicely if she could please put her phone down and pay attention because it's important. NOPE. 

I ask things like “do you care?", “hello?", “can I get a response please?". I get “what?!" Like she has no idea what I'm asking for. 

Yeah so anyway. Like 8 years ago I found a chat she had online with some random guy. It never went Anywhere but she told she guy she was single with 1 kid, and she has two kids. I showed it to her, she apologized, wasn't an issue after that. 

I am kind of naturally paranoid, and have sometimes thought she was cheating but never found any evidence and realized it's just my own mind. 

Last night everything was great, it was like we were actually married again, I thought.  I asked her to sit next to me, “I'm fine right here". Ok, I let it go. The day before it was her birthday and I made sure me and our younger son made a big deal out of it. So last night again, we are sitting on a bench and everything is great. I say “happy 4 th of July! I love you!" And gave her a real quick kiss. She had the disgusted look on her face. I waited for her to say I love you but she didn't. So I jokingly said it again, nothing. One more time, nothing. I said “really" she said “yeah really!". Oooooook.  About 15 min later I asked “so what's the problem, why do you not like me? It's like you can't stand me at all" 

No response. I kept asking. No response. Finally she said “I don't know". Clearly no thought put into it at all. 

That was it. I decided right there she doesn't care about this at all. So I asked “are you seeing somebody else?". She looked surprised and said “did you see me with someone else?!" I said “no, but just because I don't physically see it doesn't mean it's not happening". She said “I bet you the one that's cheating". I am not. 

I said “I can't hug you. I can't kiss you. I can't touch you in any way at all without you acting like it's the worst thing in the world. I thought things were getting better. Weren't they?”

No response. 

So, I am thinking if I have any reason to believe she's seeing someone else. She's been coming home late more often. Not that much but more often. I get the feeling she is just stringing me along until lease time comes up and then she's out. 

Oh, and last night I finally did get an answer as to why she can't stand me, after I asked and begged for like 15 minutes for ANY response. I think it's a BS answer given to justify her hidden actions. 

She said “well 5 years ago you got with that girl. You think I'm just gonna get over it?!" 

This has never been mentioned before. At that time she is well aware we split up and had said go ahead and see other people. I reminded her of that. I also reminded her that if this was a problem I sure would have liked to have known about it. I have only asked what the problem is like 100 times and never heard this before. 

Then there was some BS about " you always say that's it, I'm done, and cut off the conversation”

I asked for a single example of that, there was no response. I said I don't do that, in fact I'm the one who tries to start the conversations and am given total silence every single time. It is simply not true. 

So now we aren't talking. I tried to talk. Begged to talk. It's pointless. 

What do you guys think is going on? Another guy? Are we finished?

I have been stumbling upon these videos on Instagram, where a guy wearing meta glasses walks up to a girl and tries to ask for her number. I am pretty sure she did not know she was being recorded. Plus, this was in China, so there is no way the girl knows her video has been posted online for millions of netizens to see. The creator stated that he does not call the girls back or add them back on Instagram, meaning he only uses them for content creation. Can the girls sue him if they found of their videos have been posted ? Will there be any legal action against them ?

Generally this is the consensus I have observed from my friends and my own relationship. However, when they do receive them it seems to mean a lot.

Examples:

1. My male friends tend to get giddy when I give them a compliment and they seem to never forget it. 2. I remember when my bf and I started dating I told him he smells really good and his response was that I made his entire month.

About our relationship: We were together for a couple of months, but we were well acquainted for over a year. He came to see me once, but we made plans to see each other again this month for my birthday.

I fell in love with him within a month and a half of us dating. He was very consistent, respectful, caring, and more. All of the sudden, he switched up on me completely and turned into a person who I never thought he could be.

We were also in an age-gap relationship. I am in my early 20s, he is in his early 30s.
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I want to start off by saying that I do not have concrete proof that he has been unfaithful to me, but there were signs that I just couldn’t ignore. I’ll mention some of them.

The first sign was when he and I first started dating, he said to me out of nowhere that he needs me to be around as often as possible. He needs me to keep him occupied by being on the phone with him. He stated that he needed that from me because when he is by himself for too long, his mind starts to wander. And then he said next thing you know, he may text another woman.

When he said that to me, I asked him what is the point of us being together if that’s what he’s going to do. He expressed what I thought was regret and apologized for what he said, and he told me that he did not mean it like that. I feel that I should’ve left him right then and there, but I was not thinking straight.

I have been single for a long time, and I thought that this man was my person (from the ways things were moving so smoothly) so I was subconsciously letting things slide such as that conversation.

The second sign was that he would often project by constantly asking me if there was another man. He wasn’t okay with me going out because he didn’t like the idea of other men seeing me while he didn’t have access to me. Whenever I went out, it would be with family or female friends, but he would still ask if another man was there.

The third and final sign was that I allowed him to see my phone unprovoked. He never asked to see my phone—I simply showed it to him. But after a while, I didn’t feel comfortable anymore because I felt like I had given him all of me, yet I wasn’t getting that same openness from him. So I calmly asked to see his phone. I wanted him to share his screen, but he became aggressive with me. He went off on me and accused me of tricking him into showing me his phone by doing it first.

I didn’t realize it at the time, but he was projecting, and the reason he was projecting was because he was guilty. He could see that I was hurting. He could see that I was uncomfortable, and he could see that I deeply needed reassurance. But instead of comforting me and giving me what I needed to have peace, he responded with laughter and mockery. Then he threatened to end the relationship because I didn’t trust him. He turned it around on me. That was when I knew for sure that there was something going on.

If I were to tell you that I do not miss him and that I do not want to hear his voice again, I would be blatantly lying to you. I want to hear him lie to me one more time and tell me that he loves me. I want him to lie and tell me that he’s in love with me. I want him to lie and tell me that he cares about me and that I mean everything to him. I want him to hold me again while whispering lies to me about how much I mean to him. He made me feel desired when he came to see me, but it was all fake on his end.

The last thing I’ll mention is that he grew very impatient in such a short span of time. He wanted us to be intimate. He wanted to sleep with me. But I was holding off because I wanted to wait until marriage, and he also knew that he was supposed to wait until marriage. (We are Christians). But he couldn’t take it anymore, and that’s what I believe led him to cheat on me IF that’s what was going on.

So where I am right now is grieving. I am hurting, and the pain comes to me in waves because I deeply desire to be married. I deeply desire to have children. I deeply desire to be loved by a man—to be loved, desired, cared for, and cherished.

I wanted to share my story and seek help—not only on how I can move forward, but also to see if anybody can relate to my story. I am desperately seeking for community.

TL;DR: I need to hear opinions on whether or not I was being cheated on by my long distance boyfriend. I broke up with him before coming here. I just want to make sure I made the right decision.

Thank you all.

So I have always been straight and been through so many ups and downs over the years with girls.

But when I was 13 until 14 there was a boy in my year and I was madly in love with him. We became friends and I would hold him from behind and stuff and he became affectionate towards me as well. He had amazing features he looked like a girl. Even my other friends at the time would joke that I blatantly liked this boy.

Now 20 plus years on the other night I was in some emotional pain and I had taken a shot of steroids before bed. In the early hours I was dreaming about him back then.

I'm a girl and I don't really have friends. I have one female best friend, but apart from that, my boyfriend is the only person I talk to and feel completely comfortable with.

Whenever we have a fight and stop talking for a few days, I feel extremely empty because I have no one else to talk to. During those times, I install friendship/chat apps and talk to random strangers. I don't flirt or cheat my only intention is to feel less lonely.

I actually find it easier to talk to strangers because I've had bad experiences with fake friends, gossip, and betrayal.

Is this wrong? If you were my boyfriend, would this make you uncomfortable, even if there was no romantic intention?

!!!

Or do I need to remind him ,tell him ?

My boyfriend and I were both curious, so we decided together to try inserting just the tip. We are both virgins. He was wearing a condom the entire time. We didn't continue, and there was no full penetration. Would I still be considered a virgin?