r/TooAfraidToAsk

I’m a female, I turned 20 a few days ago. To be honest, I feel a bit embarrassed admitting this, but I’m really interested in a guy and would like to talk to him, the thing is, I suspect he’s 17.

Less than a year ago, I broke up with my first boyfriend; he was a year and a half younger than me, and I used to feel awkward or embarrassed whenever people asked his age. For context, in my country, 17- or 18-year-olds are in their final year of high school, whereas I’m already in my second year of uni.

What do you all think about this age gap? Does it seem like a lot? I know maturity is a factor, but obviously, I’d need to get to know him first.

I hear so many stories of men saying after they get married they never get a blowjob. How often does your partner get a blowjob?

I ask since I remember when I was a counselor at a summer camp, one evening I was showering (the place only had few showers), when a female counselor just knocked on the door and said: "Can I join you? All others are taken" So I said "sure" and she walked in naked and we showered together (and nothing more).

I don’t understand why saying “I don’t drink” sometimes turns into a whole conversation where people try to convince you to have one. If someone doesn’t want to drink, it seems like that should be the end of it. Why do people take it so personally?

Going with the definition of sex and gender as separate.*

This won’t make sense really but I’m trying :

If I’m a woman by default because I’m female

And there’s gender roles defining what a woman is/does/behaves/looks

And I don’t meet any of those definitions

Is there anything else making me a woman?

I’m a virgin and I have a really strong sex drive. I think about sex way more than I’d like to, and sometimes the urges feel really distracting and difficult to control.
Since I don’t have any sexual experience, I’m not sure how normal this is or what healthy ways there are to manage it.
For other virgins or people who have dealt with a similar situation: what helped you get better control over your sex drive?

Had amazing work completed on my house but the tradesmen put his toilet paper in the trash can. How do I tell someone without being rude or making assumptions. I would like to have respect for people but I REALLLY dont like cleaning trashcans of shitty toilet paper.

I can't put socks back on after taking them off, even if I only wore them for a very short time. Once they come off my feet, they can't go back on again, am I the only who do this? And what's the point of all this? It's like common rule!!

Usually - without the soft moist wipes, it takes me 10-20 minutes to poop and finish wiping. 14yeo. Js wanna know.

This is my friend from elementary school who said this to me after my daughter died.

“ I mean this with so much love.... You know how hard nannying is? Mothering is harder. More thankless too. I know me telling you this will likely just piss you off, but the freedom you have is what every mother wishes she had. Every single one”

I didn’t respond.

She has since reached out saying “I hope you’re ok”.

I may be going through a divorce, what breaks my heart is my relationship with my in law will be ruined, her aunt, uncle treated me like my real aunt and uncles which all of mines passed away from disease and illness, her parents treated me like their own son... Its all my fault that we're separating and i will feel guilty for the rest of my life.... I really want to keep her family close to me as much as possible. Do you still talk or keep in touch with your in laws?

I mean, what has the mayor of Chicago, Detroit, Los Angeles, Miami, Houston, etc been doing since they were elected? If they’ve done good stuff, why has it not made national headlines like Mamdani has?

CFO passed over for CEO job. within a week he resigns and has a new job at a top company.

Senior exec part of a company that went bankrupt. within a month has a new senior exec job at a large company.

senior exec at a company that I guess is not a good fit. finds a new senior exec job at another company within six months.

I get that a big part of it is networking, but it seems almost impossible for a normal person like me to access this network? is it possible?

I'm a bi guy and have hooked up with quite a lot of guys and gals. The biggest difference that I notice is that guys will always initiate the BJ, slobber on that shit like they're siphoning liquid gold until it comes out and then check if they missed anything. All this with utmost enthusiasm also. For women on the other hand, I have had to ask them for a blowjob 90% of the time and many do it, some just refuse. Most do it without enthusiasm which can be a turn off because it feels like only I'm getting off while they are struggling, so I usually just skip it and go down on them instead.

Is there a reason to this difference?

This may sound like extreme measures but I believe these need to put in effect to assure the safety of the children who are home schooled. This isn’t about qualifications, absolutely nothing to do with curriculum or anything else. There’s loving parents down the road from me who homeschool their child, he’s smart as fuck like 16 and ready for college, but he doesn’t know how to interact with people normally his own age and basically has no concept of social cues from lack of being around other children in a setting like public school. That’s NOT what I’m talking about

I’m talking about the ***MONSTER*** parents who often use home schooling as a way to continue abusing them while also hiding the abuse. There is no oversight. Once a parent chooses to home school their child at the time of where they would be enrolled in public school, 5 years old, and the papers are signed it’s completed. I’ve watched so many horrible true crime cases where the child was home schooled and abused all day by his mother. Multiple videos which multiple different people. It’s sickening. From what I’ve gathered once they’re home schooled no one really asks about them again, and it’s easy for them to be forgotten about when the reality is their being constantly abused at home by their parents and do things like lock them up in dog cages. When this happens, EVERYBODY failed those babies. Everyone.

What is your take on that? I want to have a civil discussion please and thank you. I do feel very, very strongly about this. Even if it is overstepping/invasion of privacy.

I dated this woman (Suzie) 25 years ago. We had high highs and some pretty low lows. A lot of passion. We dated on and off for many years. Our last dating and breakup was in 2018. She decided to break up with me. I said to Suzie, and to myself, you broke my heart for the last time. We lived in the Midwest. Fast forward to 2025, I've lived in Florida for 5 years now and she just moved down about 30 minutes away. We have a drink here and there, just friends. We're each dating different people. In February 2026 I break up with my girlfriend. In March, she tells me she broke up with her boyfriend. In April, we get together for some drinks, I go back to her place, and we kiss and play around a little. No sex.

A couple of weeks ago we're out for a drink and she asks 'why aren't we together'. I told her I turned that switch off after she last broke up w/me in 2018. She says she made a mistake and things are different. She says she wants this to be her 'last first date'. I drop my armor and say ok, let's try. I mean, we did love each other before. A week later we're having phenomenal sex. And since we have history things move fast. Talking about a vacation together, our future, etc.

A few days ago I tell her I was hanging out with my ex gf last night, strictly platonic, as we were best friends for three years and we've each moved on. Suzie then tells me that she has seen her ex bf as well. And since they broke up in March, they see each other about every three weeks and fuck. No feelings, no strings attached.

I'm fucking floored. She can tell I froze up and said it's ok as I needed time to process this information. Now that I've had a couple of days to think, I think she deceived me. She told me we were building a strong foundation when it was built on a misrepresentation. I don't think she 'broke up' with him in March. The way I look at it, Suzie released him of boyfriend obligation and he still had full access to her body. Free and clear. And while she's making future plans with me, he's sitting somewhere waiting for his three week text (or to text her) for a booty call. She was obviously keeping that side door open without telling me.

When I talk to her this weekend I'm sure she's going to tell me that sex with him didn't have any feelings attached. Whereas sex with me does. She's going to tell me that it was just physical and since she and I weren't physical yet, or in a committed relationship together, that she didn't cheat on me. I'm gonna call BULLSHIT.

Yes, technically you didn't cheat on me, but I'm not in a relationship for divining technicalities. I'm in it for the feelings, the vibe, the honesty, the integrity. The putting all your cards on the table and not playing a hand. I let my armor down so I could be vulnerable and let love in. And I feel really fucking hurt.

Am I right to call bullshit? Or am I wrong and she didn't really technically cheat on me and I should just 'get over it'? What would you do? End it, pause it, or continue the relationship which I now think was built on a layer of shifting sand rather than strong concrete?

My 10 month old cat died last night. He'd been getting in the washing machine the last few days. Yesterday morning I did some ironing in the laundry and must have knocked the door shut. My wife couldn't find him when she got home from work. Eventually checked the washing machine, and found him in there. I wasn't home, but she and my son rushed him to the vet but they couldn't do anything. I noticed he wasn't about as I left the house, but figured he was sleeping somewhere.

It was an accident, and I know intellectually it wasn't my fault, but I cannot stop thinking of all the things I could or should have done, and he would still be here. He was such a big personality and his absence is everywhere. We had a very close bond.

I've lost pets before but I am literally not functioning. I've barely eaten, slept, or stopped crying since.

How do I get past it?