the struggles of passing irl
a 50 year old coworker of mine keeps making misogynistic jokes and expecting me to back him up on them. i am happy i pass but also horrified what i am expected to allow other guys to do
a 50 year old coworker of mine keeps making misogynistic jokes and expecting me to back him up on them. i am happy i pass but also horrified what i am expected to allow other guys to do
I would often skip showering for days due to having a demanding work schedule. Like 12 hour shifts in a warehouse for 5 days, weeks in a row sometimes. Yes I take better care of myself now. Well hygiene-wise. The fishy smell is OBVIOUS at 72 hours, max. And I'm non-op!
I swear to god, a fucking foghorn sound effect would play in my head when I pulled my underwear down 😭
I was boymoding back then and I can only hope that this wasn't a reason why I got mistaken for FTM. Not that FTMs smell this way, just based on stereotypes.
Anyways. You could argue that I'm just not used to my smell. That back then it was more like being exposed to someone else's BO. No really, it's too strong for even that. My "bad" BO pre-E was mostly rancid cooking oil, some sourdough, and a note of rotten oranges that peaks in the middle. Which was pretty average.
I don't live this way anymore, the issue was that I was a bit younger and didn't quite understand that living more comfortably can make you more productive. Or maybe I just had the sheer force of will. Yeah not anymore.
My current clean smell is flowery/milky and actually fantastic. Hibiscus and fresh milk. My old clean smell was like fresh sourdough plus a neutral to sour musk.
Thanks (or sorry) for reading.
Someone made a very rude comment to me for some reason on a comment I made on Instagram lol. There’s the R slur at the end so I marked it nsfw. It was a post on a little kid giving her mom the finger and her mom finding it hilarious.
So im MtF and I stopped at a gas station to get gas and a snacky so I walk in to the gas station and some guy starts like yelling things at me, (this has never happened before) you know kinda usual cat calls and what not so I flashed a smile and went Inside, as im walking back out he said some more flattering things and in my head I was like hes probably a chaser or something. So he drives away and im there pumping my gas and some guy pulls up behind me and starts like hitting on me, I like kinda laughed abit and am so confused at this point but I was like no thank you im not Interested so he yells out "how much for pussy, cmon sweetie everyone's got a price " omfg ive never felt more gross and yet like reaffirmed?? Like dufuq
Recently got into a debate over a post with a very right wing bible thumper. The post was about sexual development and how gender dysphoria might start in the womb. was an explanation on how sex is formed. It was a positive post to trans existence and I commented on it. So i got reaction to my comment. And after several exchanges the dude pushed that sex is determined at conception. So I replied with a Ben Shapiro inspired Facts dont care about your feelings. The science proves it. I then asked him, if I give you a dozen eggs, which ones will he hens? And here is a classic. His reply: you think and reason just like women do. Woman shouldn’t have gone to school. Even though very insulting it was strangely ewphoric. Still smiling.
I also used the words ‘my wife’ at least twice in our short string of messages. She’s big mad, at least that’s kinda funny.
Recently had to book a bed in hospital for a procedure. Spoke to the lady at admissions desk and gave all my documents all still on my birth gender. She did her stuff and then gave me the documents to check and sign. So I see she booked me into the female ward. Rather than having an issue later I pointed it out. She replied with: Lady you have bigger boobs than me. You are going to the ladies ward. I smiled the rest of the day.
After Valentine's dinner, my boyfriend and I went to 7/11 to get some snacks for a night in. While checking out, I caught the man in line behind us craning his neck to look down at my ass. I saw it in the reflection of the glass door, so he didn't know I could see this happening. Nothing more happened and we went back to our apartment.
I told my boyfriend and he said something along the lines of "oh guys will look at anything, I do too." While I understood, I still wasn't comfortable with how the guy in the store regarded me.
I told my sister about it recently and all she said was "welcome to being a woman."
I'unno, I know that just looking is relatively harmless and this man assumed I couldn't see, but it still rubs me the wrong way that it's so normal to be ogled at all. And then, on the other hand, I can't shake the idea that I've "made it" in some way.
Idk if there's any euphoria in this, but like.. yeah, I have nice boobs, what of it?~
so, my ex "katie" is a pretty bad and mean person. she's pretty bigoted, but she HATES men of all kinds. now, someone could argue that due to her saying stuff like calling me a "horrible man in a woman's body" that she's doing this because i'm trans and therefore if i was cis male she wouldn't treat me this way, but she just says that she hates all men.
ew because she sent me threats, abused me emotionally, bullied me, and didn't take me seriously at all and even CELEBRATED when she thought i died.
euphoria because she's treating me like how she views men and NOT how she views other women.
I mean I guess my voice passes?
I went on a run around my neighborhood today, but it was too hot to work out in my normal workout top. So, I ran under the Sun in my normal long leggings and workout bra but no top. Nothing too revealing. A car drives past me during my run. The passenger window was down. Passenger proceeded to cat call me while driving by. The weird thing was, it was by a woman who appeared to be in her 40s. I really wasn't expecting that. Somehow, it made me feel worse? Like, surely she's had some gross guy do that to her before and should know better, right?
I can't believe this happened. i told him i was trans and he was fine with it. we shared nudes yesterday, and he wanted to do it again today, but i just did not feel like doing it, so he got super mad and started calling me slurs, saying that i was playing hard to get. he did say really nasty, misogynistic things about me, calling me poor for living in a third-world country; obviously, i blocked him, but what surprises me is that he did not misgender me. So at least he saw me as a woman; the experience wasn't cool, but I have definitely had similar experiences where they would misgender me. so maybe in every loss there's a win I guess. (French people can be really rude and raw)