r/NonBinary

Hi all, I have a nibling who, in the last year, came out as nonbinary. For context, they turned 12 last week. They also came out as agender a couple of weeks ago. Which I believe falls under the nonbinary umbrella (pls correct me if I'm wrong. I don't know much about it.)

Their parents are trying to be supportive with "you can be whoever or whatever you want to be" though they still misgender their kiddo. However, it has gotten to the point that being agender and being a therian are all they want to talk about. My sister said that they are so hyperfixated on those two things that they rarely talk about anything else. My sister and the nibling's dad say that those topics have become their kid's entire identity.

As the queer adult in their life, I am as supportive as I can be while living in another state. My nibling was supposed to come stay the night with me this week, but I could never get ahold of their dad and my sister wasn't responding to any of the texts I sent her about it as well. Finally I just called my sister yesterday evening to ask if my nibling could come stay the night. She said that right now neither she, nor the dad want their kid spending time with me because they know I will talk about queer stuff with their kid (their dad literally said I'm grooming them) and they are hoping to get their kid to focus on something else in their life. Apparently they are getting bullied about it at school so it has become a thing my sister and the dad are genuinely worried about. Which I understand as a legitimate worry. It's summer break and they're hoping that the time away from school, and no screen time will help them focus on something that *isn't* being queer or being a therian.

When I told my fiance about the convo with my sister he suggested that when my sister is ready I can drive up and spend the night. He also pointed out that as the queer adult in my nibling's life I can also be the one to help them understand that, yes being queer is a big part of our lives but it doesn't have to be our entire life. My sister said she loves the idea, and that she's really glad that I can someone they can look to for things like being queer.

Anyways, do you all have any suggestions to help me/their parents get my nibling to focus on something that isn't those two things?

like I feel when a person is androgynous they're either beautiful and hot or creepy and freakish. Is it all genetics or is there a method to it?

In recent years:

I began to desire ear piercings and then a nose piercing.

I have fantasized about getting my hair styled at a salon in some type of pixie cut. Just watching the videos is exciting.

Same with bleaching my hair and dyeing it an odd color.

I have become a big fan of Birkenstocks

I do realize that this is a stereotype but some of those things are associated with lesbians.

I have been questioning for some time. I was lurking on the trans subs and apparently AMABs who are trans and still interested in women are lesbians. Never did I ever think that I could fit in this category. Were any of you in the same boat?

Because I’m nonbinary, apparently I can’t be transsexual, despite literally changing my sex. I’ve had transmeds on here justify and mock me getting sexually harassed, and the justification is this: “A stranger asking you your sex isn’t harassment because nonbinary people talk about their AGAB and ASAB all the time.” I don’t. And even if I did, that doesn’t justify people asking me what’s in my pants. Ever.

They want to gatekeep healthcare when we literally seek the same treatments, operations, etc. They call us slurs and “theyfabs.” They echo the sentiments that TERFs express regarding them.

Meanwhile, at least in my life, the cis people I surround myself with are chill as hell. They don’t understand, but they respect—something I can’t even find from people within our own “community.” I hate to bring negativity here, but I’m just so infuriated by this that I’ve been actively avoiding community things and pride events and such. I have queer friends I hang out with of course who DON’T share these hateful opinions… And this may be more of a bigotry spread by people who are terminally online. Idk, does anyone encounter this behavior irl anywhere?

In a time when we all need to come together, I shouldn’t actively not want to due to a few loud bigots but here we are.

One of my bridesmaids is 17 (she/her) masculine presenting nonbinary. I am getting everyone get ready gifts a robe, tumbler, jewelry box, scrunchy, and bracelet. All the groom's men's kits I can find aren't age appropriate smoking, gambling, drinking related. I could use suggestions on what to put in a masculine presenting bridesmaids kit so she doesn't feel left out.

Details of bridesmaid:

Age: 17

Preferred Pronouns: she/her/they

Presenting: Masculine

Hey everyone,
I’m posting here because I’m feeling a bit lost and I really need some wisdom, advice, or just someone to talk to who might understand. I’ve been trying to figure out my identity lately, and it’s taking me to some really specific, deep places that I’m struggling to categorize.
To put it plainly, here is what’s going on in my head:
I like to think I’m trigender. Experiencing three genders feels right to me.

I feel a strong desire for "threes" in my physical/metaphysical form. Specifically, I feel like I should have a third eye, a third nipple, and three genitals.

I envision myself with three different voices and three different shadows.

I’m at a crossroads because the trigender part feels very rooted in the nonbinary community, but the rest of it—the extra anatomy, the multiple shadows, the different voices—feels like it crosses over into straight-up Otherkin/alterhuman territory.
I guess my questions for you all are:
Is this kind of experience still considered being nonbinary, or is it purely an Otherkin thing?

Can those two identities overlap? Like, is it normal for your gender identity to be tied to a form that isn't entirely human?

Has anyone else experienced a deep connection to a specific number (like three) when it comes to both their gender and how they perceive their ideal body/spirit?

I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed trying to find the right language for all of this, and I'd love to hear your perspectives or any advice you have on how to navigate this. Thanks for listening.

Hi! I'm, as you might expect, non-binary. Known this for a good while. The two aesthetics that I find to be most appealing are entire opposites; fully shaved fem, exercise focused on light abs but nothing too extreme (pretty close to where I'm at right now), or trying to become as bulky as possible and letting body/facial hair grow plenty. I don't need like, extreme muscles or anything (though I wouldn't complain), just wanna be physically large (without being overweight.) I'm already very used to dedicating myself to regular exercise and dieting, so I'm certain I could achieve at least something comfortably close.

I... really don't know how to choose between the two. I can't feasibly have both, and any attempt to be "close enough" to either would just make me feel like shit. Any advice on deciding?