r/NonBinary

I have a lot of confusing thoughts on this. I'm 24 AMAB and I feel comfortable being and feeling like I man, but sometimes I wake up and I wished I was a woman? But it's not like I'm a transwoman, I actually love being a man, it's just that if I could I'd be a man and a woman at the same time.

It's just a weird feeling I have and I don't even know the words for it. For what I've seen being non-binary is feeling like neither a man nor a woman so I don't really know if that's what I am. Is being bigender a thing?

EDIT: Also, what is confusing to me is what can I do with these feelings. Because if I was a transwoman I could try transitioning, which means hormones, etc. But by being non-binary/bigender, I don't know what to do to feel more like myself.

So, my 13 year old told me last night they were NB. I am scared to death, not because I don’t support them, but we live in an extremely conservative area, and due to a job commitment can’t move for a while, nor do they want to move because they have friends here. It’s important to note they haven’t came out to their friends yet, and I am honestly not sure how their friends will respond when they do.

I want to be supportive, but I also want to protect their safety. What do I say or do to ensure I do this correctly? I was thinking about telling them for now, whatever they want to wear at home is ok, but to avoid publicly wearing anything until they are older or we get somewhere more progressive. Is that an awful, unsupportive thing to say?

It’s important to note, they look much older than their 13 years. They can and will be mistaken for an adult. They already have been, and that will absolutely make them a target. They also have been fairly sheltered in life, because we are in such a backwards area and they have always been more progressive than the locals. So, I am not sure they understand the full weight of how dangerous the situation can be here.

Please help me say and do the right thing to ensure they are safe.

TIA

Hello all! I wanted to know if anyone has experience and would be willing to share about coming to terms with being nonbinary but still presenting very feminine. 

I love being femme. I love skirts and dresses, makeup, long colorful hair, jewelry, etc etc. I started using she/they, then they/she, and now mostly they/them. I’ve never felt connected to being a “woman” and feel like I’m just… me. I’m not a man or woman. I’m just Emery. But because I like presenting femme, I feel like I’m not “allowed” to identify as nonbinary. I know logically that this isn’t true, and it’s not something I would ever feel/say towards another human being, but internally it’s quite a struggle. Can anyone share their experiences and how they worked through this/similar struggles? How did you come to accept yourself and your identity?

Any advice is appreciated!

So I am a non-binary transfeminine my name is Rain and I go by they/she, is it actually okay for me to just continue wearing my jeans and nerds shirts because I am slowly transitioning socially yet I don't feel comfortable in women clothing the only kind of women clothing I actually do like is booty shorts, knee highs and those arm cuffs. That's pretty much all I am comfortable with I do also still want to somewhat be neutral looking even though I will always look more masculine. 😣

I know it's not every binary trans person, but it really feels like so many people see non-binary identities as being a halfway point to discovering their trans identity, when NON-BINARY PEOPLE ARE TRANS BY DEFAULT unless they specifically choose not to identify that way.

This has happened to me in person too, and I had to correct someone because I am non-binary and fully identify as trans. She literally said "I used to be non-binary but now I'm trans" when she could have said, "I used to identify as non-binary but now I know I'm a woman."

It just feels really invalidating, but what am I supposed to say whenever we're supposed to be celebrating someone's identity? Like "hey, I know you're excited, but the way you worded that actually invalidates all of the non-binary trans people that exist"

A lovely Enby friend told me this joke yesterday and I giggled for ages, they had paused because they were not sure if it was okay to make an Enby themed joke even when they were one (out of four of us at the table, three were NB).

Do you know any fun jokes?

"How do non binary assassins kill people?"

"They slash them!"

GONNA ASK ME MOM FOR A BINDER TODAY, PLEASE HYPE ME UP 😭🙏

(Also, anyone got any tips for asking?- 😭)