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I feel like I've never seen that. It just seems like a specific form of lesbophobia that people do it to us

I was wondering if there is any dating platform that offers to only select lesbians as in what you look for, im just tired of sliding so many times to left until a lesbian appears :,) wonder how you handle it and if any of you know dating apps who offer it

I think architects are so hot, not physically particularly but very attractive.

Like, yes, talk to me how the colors of the wood will make a better ambiance.

Tell me how this window design is good for decor and illumination.

Explain to me how this layout makes people relaxed and is family oriented.

Hi! Is there any other spaces in the Houston area for wlw other than bars? I don't like to drink in spaces I'm new too especially being solo. Hmm are their other natural ways to meet women besides apps? Don't get me wrong I have used them but being able to meet someone authentically in person has been nagging at me. Hetero people have it easier it seems.

Has anyone else had to deal with a lot of male-centred-ness even from friends and partners?

i’ve been in two relationships in my life, both 3+ years, one with a bi woman and my current one bi/ace. Both have criticised me for being too “man hating” over stuff like not going out of my way to consume media about men and saying i dont particularly want to be friends with men?

I just dont understand why it is an issue… everyone knows I am a lesbian, everyone knows men are unpleasant, me and my current gf know multiple people (all male) that we used to be friends with who are either incels or predators. she said i should care about movies about men because “men are people too”?? both her and my ex have said things like “oh i forgot u only care about movies/shows with lesbians in them 🙄” and like yes? I am a lesbian lol. Why is that an issue?

Even weirder, i have male friends, I have a brother, Im nice to my male coworkers, I get on with my stepdad. I don’t think i’m extreme at all but apparently my views are unpopular even with people I am close to (and even other ssa women??)?

has anyone else had to deal with this?? i just find it so bizarre?

personally i regard it as the sexiest song i've ever heard. does anyone have any suggestions of other songs in that vein? don't have to sound similar, but just a lesbian singing about sex and that general vibe

I've never been to a pride before, and currently this is my first year living in a -free- country, so I really want to attend.

Any tips on London pride? Can I join the parade with a flag or just with a group of friends, or am I supposed to stand and watch at some point? I heard you need to register to be inside the walking crowd but I'm not quite sure how it works.

Is it worth volunteering? Also, maybe someone wants to cooperate and join together?

Ahh, guys, I put this off for so long! I always believed in meeting someone organically, and using an app felt like giving up. Plus, people made it sound like the second you go on, you'll be getting hit with unsolicited photos and stuff. But honestly, it's been really good! I'm chatting with a few lovely ladies, and everyone has been so nice so far 😄 Maybe it's beginner's luck, but I'm okay with that.

If you're hesitating to try online dating, I say give it a try! Even if you don't go on any dates, it's still nice to talk to people

I recently went to a buddy of mines little event at her house. She’s in construction and just finished her house and wanted to throw a party. She had always talked about wanting to create spaces for dykes in a way that we rarely see anymore. So many people came, mostly from union and trade jobs that she’s worked with but I made so many network connections, had great conversations. Everyone was just 100% authentic. Dykes who liked power tools and fishing and hiking and camping and knew how to grill, and how to fix cars and many of which brought their wives and their young children. It was the kind of thing I didn’t realize how much I needed and missed.

But I learned there’s a Big Gay Fishing trip every year where a bunch of lesbians charter a boat and hang out. There’s also Lezapolooza, a big lesbian camping weekend with fun events and skinny dipping . I felt like I was finally finding the hidden places that we have had to make for ourselves. And anyway, I figured I’d share so some of you guys looking for community can check one of them out and meet some really cool people. In a shitty world right now of terrible news, I finally felt some hope.

I’m Going Through It^(TM) right now and could use some cozy comfort reads. I‘ve just finished Legends and Lattes (and sequels) and yearn for more soft, warm stories of women loving other women.

Side thought: Yearning would make the most amazing name for a lesbian bookstore/cafe hybrid.

I absolutely love the LGBTQ community, genuinely, every letter has some amazing people with beautiful souls. Lately, though, I feel like we are being so alienated? So many people in the community talk down on us, mainly some bisexuals and some gay men.

Sometimes it feels like that scene in Modern Family where Cam and Mitchel are talking about how gay men and lesbians can’t relate at all, and the venn diagram is two separate circles (or whatever they said, it’s been a while). I want to feel like I can connect with the rest of the community, and I can with a few people, but… Lately I just feel like I want to find new community with only lesbians.

There are so many angles of it, too. Outright insulting us, trying to change the definition of lesbian and getting mad when we push back, getting mad at our dating preferences (for some reason). There are so many spaces I’m in where I don’t even want to correct people anymore, because I just get trashed.

For example: One time I said that a character is a lesbian (she’s only dated women, shown no interest in men, and the actress said she sees her as a lesbian). People denied it over and over and said I can’t assume, and she could be bisexual. Why do they have to have EVERYTHING??? People would never assume a character who has only ever been with men and shown no interest in women is bisexual. It’s reserved for us 99% of the time.

This is a discussion, I want to hear your experiences too. It’s also kind of half a rant, lol.

I just feel fucking betrayed. Like deeply betrayed and I’m so pissed.

For context, he presented himself as gay. His interest was always in men, so assumed there would never be anything between us. Well, I’m fucking stupid.

We knew each other for years, like a decade, and he was literally my best friend. Like I saw him as like akin to a platonic soulmate, like someone who I’d forever want in my life. I never felt uneasy. I often never make friends with men because they can never keep it platonic unless they’re gay. And rn I’m going through a horrible time with my very dysfunctional and homophobic family, so basically I gave up on trying to have a relationship with them. My ex and I broke up not too long ago and most of my early college friends and I drifted apart just simply from diverging paths. So really, my only friend and confidant was him. I tried dating again and making new friends, but with all the family BS on my plate, I got drained quickly so I put it all on the back burner.

We hung out and had a really good time. We got a bit drunk and while I was thinking in my head “wow, I am having so much fun with my best friend. I never want this to end” he was having other thoughts. After the hangout, he messaged me and said he kept having thoughts of kissing me and then said he maybe is attracted to me.

I’ve told him countless of times I DO NOT like men. The idea of being with one in any way non-platonic makes me want to actually jump off a cliff. And that men showing interest in me is deeply unsettling. I told him how I hate how my family and coworkers and even a few friends have pushed or still push men onto me, asking me which ones I find attractive and that I should sleep with men to “see how it is” because I could be bisexual or some other bullshit. Hell, even my ex did that shit to me even though she was a supposed “lesbian”.

And he seemed like the only one who actually understood. Apparently not.

It just sucks because he’s literally the only person who I trusted and now it’s shattered sort of. Like I feel icky now, and I don’t feel comfortable and I feel deeply anxious and unsettled. I don’t see why he had to tell me that, as if I’d suddenly change my mind when I’ve been so adamant that I don’t like men.

And it hurts how every time I open up and trust people, they shatter it again and again. I’m starting to wonder if maybe I should just quit people entirely for a few months or even a year and just be happy by myself.

Edit: He also keeps saying it’s because he was drunk, but like… I never had those thoughts come out of nowhere unless I truly deeply desired them while sober. Idk I feel like it’s an excuse but maybe I’m overreacting.

Hello Lesbians! I just wanted to put this out there. Hang in there, ladies! I am 37 and after waiting/ being single for 11 years I finally found my person. She is out there I promise! Stay strong and do you.

(english isnt my first language) Im so sick of how people mostly men doubt lesbians especially when ur a teen everytime i talk to men or women on this app they ask stupid questions like when ur hOrny you dont think of smth inside you like wtf!? Ive got this question 5 times (the people i talk to are arab so like the country it self is homophobic) but they are atheists so ur telling me you left a whole religion but taking lesbians or any sexuality serious is hard? Mostly men who ask stupid and question and it always ends whit "i think its impossible ur a lesbian you probably are delusional and you hate men thats why you think ur a lesbian" do yall deal whit this too?!

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Hypothetically.

Let’s say your girlfriend invites you on the annual family camping trip. Yall got together shortly after the last one. She’s previously mentioned (when you first started dating) that her ex “friend with benefits” would accompany her on this trip but that they were no longer a thing. Let’s say when yall started dating, she said she doesn’t like to stay friends with ex’s.
As months go by, planning for the trip begins. You mention not being comfortable with her ex fling coming. She says it’s unlikely she will, as she’s dating girlfriend’s cousin now.

Few more months pass. Trip is almost here, yall are discussing it while spending the day together at the lake. Your girlfriend is looking through photos from the previous trips and asks if it’s weird that she hasn’t deleted photos of/with her ex’s. Your girlfriend brings up the ex fling and *facetimes* her, introduces you to her, asks if she’s coming on the camping trip, then updates her about her life.

Hypothetically, of course. Would you go the fuck off?

So we started dating a year ago, together 8 months. We are mid 20s, fully committed monogamous relationship. We started meeting 1 time per week or every 10 days and I told her that we only live 25 minutes away (in the same city) and eventually I would like to meet more. That’s cool we started meeting 2-3 times per week and eventually spending 4 days together which is I think normal. For me the deeper you fall in love the more you want to spend time with your SO and slowly testing out living together situations, merging your life together etc. Now in the past few months we both had stressful situations and I wanted to lean on her, find comfort in her and just have that connection and peace provided by your partner. She was pulling away when I offered the same comfort and support for her. We are back meeting 1-2 times a week or not even seeing each other for 2 weeks. And it’s because she makes plans with her friends or alone and just informs me about them when she is leaving the house. Like “yeah I’m gonna go away for 3 days “ and the next message is “sorry I’m already going out but it’s actually 1-2 weeks we can see each other after or call if you want”.
I’m not trying to be controlling. Go out, do whatever I’m fully supportive of you having your own life - but I think this still should be better communicated?

I constantly hear that’s she loves me and so happy and grateful for this relationship and how everyone thinks we are the blueprint of a healthy couple.

Still even if she gets back after a week or so I’m not the first person she wants to call. She plans hangouts with her friends, family and in a few days me.

When we are together her friends (roommates) constantly interrupt us and she is the first to jump and do whatever they ask for. During our quality time.

When we are not together she sends me messages about how our future should look like. I DONT WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT, I WANT TO BUILD IT - but for that we would actually need to be together.

I’m not feeling connected, when she goes away it’s like she doesn’t even exist. It’s like she is a fever dream.

I know that the only resolution is to talk to her and have a conversation but I’m just afraid. As I said she is currently going through something and I feel like a POS for wanting more attention. But at the same time I’m going through something too and I need my partner.

And even if I ask for time it’s changed because I asked for it. I WANT HER TO WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH ME.