being fetishized and attacked from every side is exhausting
I already knew we’re fetishized as lesbians, but I don’t think I realized the full extent until recently (this sub has been a big help, I’m so grateful for it). It seems like everyone is fetishizing us and also attacking us at once…
Straight men constantly fetishize lesbians, of course, but I even see some gay men spout the same predatory nonsense (it’s crazy that they aren’t even into women but they still find a way to be predatory towards butches and studs?). And then you have straight women making out with each other for the pleasure of men, or on the other end saying they wish they were us and they think it would be so much easier to be a lesbian. I think the worst part has been realizing that even other women who are attracted to women are NOT our allies. They either play into men’s dyke breaking fantasies, or get mad when we don’t want to date them.
It makes me feel gross. So many people who claim to love us and be on the same side become extremely hostile the moment we don’t want to fuck them, or talk about men, or meet their boyfriends, or be their third, whatever. There’s very few non-lesbians who actually defend us, and it feels like we’re such a small minority that we can’t properly stand up for ourselves. Anyway, just wanted to rant somewhere where I won’t be banned or berated for acknowledging how predatory people are towards us.