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Waited 8 months just for the hot scene between Anne Hathaway and Dakota just to see it probably has been cut.???

And filled with straight sex on repeat 🤮 showering the man with so much love.

And so male centred like it was made for the male gaze. A man always being the one getting loved getting sex from hot women, getting his needs met, getting to be vulnerable while the women were put against each other.

What a waste and why was the need to queerbait😭

Now have to recover from all this and try not to connect this to my reality.

I have noticed most bi women doing things for men they would never do for a woman. They care about them more, feel more intense and are willing to commit. But when it's a woman they can't even imagine themselves committing to one or being in a long term relationship. They don't really show much affection and consistency when they are with a woman, but with a man they wait for their texts and actually feel attached. And are more afraid of loosing them.They aren't rude to them and they actually care for them more and want to be with them I know if it sounds like generalizing but all the bi women I met were that way. When it came to dating I was very cautious because I had bad experiences but the last woman I was with ended up being exactly like that. Used to develop intense feelings towards men but with me she wanted to 'go slow', wasn't consistent in texting, would go for days without talking and finally ghosted . This same pattern i noticed in other bi women. The dating pool is already small. Plus i live in India which is homophobic and it's very difficult to find lesbians especially femme if you are femme. So thought i could be open to dating bi women but I can't help notice the differences and literally wondering if men are loved more and start feeling mad at the fact that I am a woman , it's like I feel that's my only fault. I know I'll be called biphobic but when I have been cheated with men or led on only for the person to want to marry a man, or dumped because it was scary and suffocating to commit to a woman and never have a man, and seen other queer women experience the same any one in my situation would have a doubt. Also those women who cheated literally told me ' I am bi so what will you expect, I will need men' but somehow they could be monogamous with a man. I know most bi women are heteroromantic and it's already scary but now it actually seems hopeless. Men have an advantage most women are straight most bi women will choose them. I am femme4femme so my chances of finding love are actually impossible. I already feel because of my gender it's impossible for a feminine woman to fall in love with me, be there with me through the good and bad times and want to commit to me.

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Something which is feminine ,not masculine or suffocating. I love fruity ones especially strawberry or berries or plums and peaches. A bit floral and very mild musk.

Also any recommendations for something small that can be put in a bag and sprayed later when it fades.

I don't want something overpowering ,so masculine cologne like.

Something which is feminine ,not masculine or suffocating. I love fruity ones especially strawberry or berries or plums and peaches. A bit floral and very mild musk.

Also any recommendations for something small that can be put in a bag and sprayed later when it fades.

I don't want something overpowering ,so masculine cologne like.

Was trying to call someone. Suddenly her contact came up with her pretty picture where she was wearing an off shoulder outfit and she looked so hot. I tried so hard not to look after it. It was one that was already attached to her name profile. Had me again envying the men she was with and who would likely get her, wondering why I would never be with her, yearning a bit. Had a panic attack after that. Then I decided to replace the photo with an image I downloaded from Google titled bad idea and added that instead. So now I not only don't get to see her pic but also see' bad idea. Still I'm struggling to get over what i saw'

I would hear there is a difference when it comes to dating women who are exclusively into women so I am wondering in what way?When it comes to a committed monogamous relationship. Is there more love and affection expressed by a lesbian? When it comes to long term future planning, sex,being in touch ,attachment styles, gentleness.

I dated both. I was just with one lesbian who would make me feel loved, treat me like a kid, keep on kissing me, calling me babyish names, would initiate sex, would want to text, wouldn't like going a day without texting, would be afraid of losing me, would continuously admire me, in person it was like she couldn't take her hands off me, would care when I was bothered, send me my favourite foods, want to cook for me, would play with my hair when I would lie on her lap, would like to pick me up, would cuddle me, and was very good at sex, knew what i liked, she would comfort me when I had panic attacks, immediately calm me down, she would sometimes cry if I wasn't ok and show concern.

When it came to bi women my experiences weren't good. As in theg ended up cheating with men and were like I am bi, what you expect. When it came to sex personally I didn't really enjoy it compared to the others. The others led me on but said they can only see themselves with a man long term. The fifth one I was with seemed into me, reassured me she won't get back to men then ghosted. She would be inconsistent when it came to texting, she would keep focusing on going slow.

I felt maybe it's the individual at the same time I can't help comparing these experiences and wondering if it is connected to identity ? I don't want to generalise and I know I'll come across as 'biphobic' but these real life experiences i can't just forget and i would naturally be confused.

Those who prefer are called biphobic often. But have come across straight men who prefer straight women, they don't get criticised , the same with gay men who prefer a gay man.

I have also heard there is a difference when it comes to women who exclusively love women, and i am wondering if there is, and if so then in what way?

I myself am a lesbian

At a cafe, romantic Bollywood songs are playing . I am sitting alone the next table is a couple on a date ( or married ) very pretty lady in a saree, amazing slim figure, lovely voice and with that man 😓

All a queer woman can do is yearn from a distance .

Drooling over tall, slim women in sarees ,with long wavy hair, sharp collarbones, long earrings, pretty eyes🥹

Watching Musafir cafe. I kept drooling over Sudha, especially seeing her figure in those sarees. Plus the way she loved him, looked at him tenderly, would miss him, reassure him and communicate with him , I don't know why i just started wanting these and wishing it happened in my past relationship / situationship..I just can't help wishing i was in Chander's place. I literally am trying to control crying, I am shaking and my heart is bearing faster, I just get relieved when one series is ending. I just keep longing to be in his place, that was exactly the kind of love I crave for and I got the opposite. I don't know how I'll survive this. I know it sounds dramatic and I don't know why it's affecting me so much. Plus I have to finish watching as i have to work on it. I just want a pretty woman to look at me lovingly, miss me, I just want to feel her soft hands, and soft lips. Men can just easily get it plus they can marry the one they love. And it's so easy to find someone. I am into femme women and I'm femme and just want a lesbian so that's literally impossible. It gets depressing seeing it and knowing I may not get it. I have never actually been loved , just been love bombed probably and ghosted which gets triggering when I see this it's like no one will miss me and I am just not enough. I am a hopeless romantic and do anything for the person I am in love with. I just wish i didn't keep craving this. The last person I was with just ghosted me and said she is uncomfortable with my texts and now seeing those scenes I don't know why I was comparing and it's the opposite like I feel no one will wait for my texts, wait to see me, think about me but it's literally the opposite.

That would happen with me with any hetero romance, even Odessey. I don't want to want love but can't help. I see a feminine, slim, toned woman with wavy hair, pretty eyes and soft skin i can't help but yearn. I don't know how to get over this. The loneliness and yearning and jealousy is unbearable.

Priya_dupare.

Started randomly texting me all kinds of sexual stuff. Claims to be a man but who wants to be a woman and found me from a lesbian sub.

I am very feminine presenting and according to patriarchal conditioning it's linked with liking men. I want to signal that I'm for the girls. So I'm looking for a bracelet with lesbian flag colours. A fine type. I thought of something metal so I won't need to remove it. I know someone who makes it from one lesbian subreddit but they live abroad. Any idea where I can get something like that?

I am in my late 20s, have just been with one woman. There are very few chances of me finding a partner. I can't do casual, as I feel attached soon , am monogamous and want a romantic love storyI have a high libido.And feel frustrated a lot. Also the only time I got intimacy was when I was with my ex which lasted about 6 months, and we broke up 2 years back. Plus I'm femme4femme and les4les which all the more makes it harder and I've always only been into women older than me. And I have heard that when women reach 40 their sex drive reduces a lot. So the thought of me being alone plus never getting sex makes me anxious. I don't want to sound like a pervert so sex obsessed person, I am not I keep wishing i was asexual but I can't help it. I often avoid hetero romance shows because I get frustrated and start yearning.

Men can just easily get loved and at times they just have to exist for it. And the bar is also so low they are appreciated for the bare minimum. Men just easily marry their crush and get to spend the rest of their lives with them. They can easily get a pretty, hot and feminine woman who loves them and wants to be with them forever. They don't go a moment without feeling unloved. Like every moment of theirs they are given attention, taken care of and feel loved. Apart from the sexual aspect.

They don't really feel sexually frustrated and touch and love starved.

Their dating pool is big like 95% of the women are straight and even the queer women mostly choose them.

In public if they see a woman they are attracted to they can just approach them and start a love story.

They can actually have a child 50/50 with them and the person they love. Sexually also they get to experience feelings women can't or be that close to her.

They get someone who is really attractive and exclusively attracted to their gender And all lesbians get is yearning the rest of their lives, not knowing if they will find love. Worse when they are attracted to the hyper feminine type of women.

Have come across female teachers in school to be nicer towards the boys. When a boy was caught coping one teacher smiled at him but yelled at a girl who did the same. Happened more than once. The same way she made a girl redo a test, while a boy had written way less and again she just laughed and allowed him to go freely. I read on reddit about one person who got a once in a lifetime opportunity to meet the prime minister, and it was a female who was on the list but the teacher pushed for him to get.

Among families, I have seen and heard of mothers being more affectionate towards sons, saying they need more affection than girls and that having a boy gives a feeling of true love and a girl is usually responsibility and the love they feel for a son doesn't compare ( a lot of these words are from what i have seen on Instagram from boy moms, child therapists, parenting coaches )

In some cases have seen the father behave in a more gentle way towards a daughter while they are strict with their son

When it comes to the famous mother in law daughter in law rivalry , it's hardly between a mother in law and son in law or father in law and son in law. It's usually the mothers who are shown as being possessive towards the sons and seeing the daughter in law as a threat.

Have even been told it's very natural for people to be nicer automatically towards the opposite gender , for example when it comes to a female driving instructor yelling more at a woman than a man, and female bosses behaving horribly towards female employees and not helping them while they are nice towards male employees.

Have also seen among female friends a lot of their friendships break over a guy, in some situations even if a guy has done wrong they defend them and put the woman down even if it's a friend or family member

Is it like how they say in the ads?

Looking for a henna which is very effective. Brownish colour, which doesn't make the hair rough. Actually which makes the hair smooth and reduces dandruff. Which makes the hair smell good would be nice.

If y'all know can you tell me how long I need to keep it for it to be effective and to get the colour?

I want to reduce dandruff and I wish I could colour my hair but it will be rough so henna would be a good option I feel. ( I don't want my hair to turn orange)

I do not know why I do not have any interest in mlm shows and even feel uncomfortable. Even when it comes to reading books. I've tried to stop it but can't. It's not homophobia. But just some discomfort I always felt. Even in person when I hear my gay male friends talking about their crushes or partners ( most of them share graphic details as well) i sometimes link it to gay men easily getting love and also accepted and representation in the media. And people saying things like gay relationships last longest and lesbians less as it's two women so there won't be love. But even apart from that i just don't have any interest in watching romantic shows like hearstopper or those cute love stories. A lot of my queer friends love it and irl love shipping couples even then I don't show interest when they talk about how cute a gay couple is or when they ship some of our friends among gay men. I have had bad experiences with gay men as well like the misogyny and way too often seen differences between them and lesbians like even in the dating groups there are few queer women and it's mostly the gay men flirting with each other.

Also actor was rated as sexiest man alive and he is gay my first thought was why it's not that way for a lesbian.

Please don't judge me I do not know why i feel that way. When it's a lesbian romance. however i just melt and will watch anything boring just to see a wlw scene. But when it comes to mlm i always felt nothing or discomfort from the beginning.