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I mean, wtfffff.

Okay Story time.

A few days ago I started talking to a girl here. We barely talked though, it was pretty rare. Today she asked for my pic. Honestly, I was convinced she was a guy. I said no at first, but then she suddenly sent her photo and deleted it right after. That made me lean towards believing she actually was a girl. To be extra sure, she sent a selfie too, and yeah, confirmed. She's a girl.

I didn't mind sending my pic since she'd already sent hers, it would've felt unfair not to.

So I asked for her Insta ID and we moved the conversation there. I didn't have any pics in my gallery since I have a new phone and I'm not really into clicking pictures, so I told her to check my highlights, I had one added there. She said okay. Then she went quiet for a bit, so I asked, "Are you gonna say anything?"

She replied, "No, I have to go study." I said okay.

Like... no reaction at all. I know I'm decent, but a little reaction would've been nice.

Then I check Instagram just now and she's blocked me. (I knew getting blocked was probably coming, just didn't expect it this fast.)

Cue the overthinking, because I am a professional overthinker. Two possible reasons:

1st: I'm just not good-looking enough.

2nd(and this is the one I actually believe):- from her photos, she read as masc. And I'm masc-leaning too (though I haven't been able to present fully masc yet because of family stuff). So maybe she first thought I was femme?

The funny part is, the moment I realized she was masc, I was genuinely happy, because I've been wanting masc friends, for fashion advice, general guidance, that kind of thing. But apparently that's not how this works?

And this isn't a one-off. This has happened with other people too. The second they pick up from our conversation that I'm masc-leaning, they just stop responding, start ignoring me.

Like, what is it you people want? Femmes surrounding you on every side? I know most people come here looking for partners/dating, but I didn't flirt with her or anything, I was talking in a pretty decent, respectful way.

Making friends isn't a crime. I'm genuinely here trying to be part of a community, to meet people, to make connections. (Honestly I'm not here for a relationship. For me, online relationships or LDR are literally my worst nightmare.)

Is it only masc people who behave like this, or do femmes also internalize this and want to surround themselves with only masc people, keeping other identities out?

Sorry if this comes across as rude or like I'm overreacting, but Really, I genuinely do not understand the logic here.

Watching posts in reddit like " had good time w my gf " blah blah

I'm really happy 🙂‍↔️🎀 you guys ran into eachother

Not like most of us trying to find someone and keep failing

If you guys have any tips please drop it 🤡

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Why does casual flirting seem to get taken so seriously here sometimes?

I mean, we're here to chat, have fun, meet people, and maybe flirt a little, right? Obviously there's a difference between being genuinely creepy and just being playful.

But casually calling someone “babe” or teasing a little suddenly feels like a crime sometimes 😂

Maybe I'm just misunderstanding the vibe here, but honestly it’s starting to kill the mood for me.🤷🏻‍♀️

Don't expect someone to be so enthusiastic or more open after a one day chat or somthing

Think practically it's like your a complete stranger (in a good way) just with few information abt me

Don't ask pics or number or somthing like that if they are not comfy ,it's because they might be a private person

Ik there's alot of scammers but don't assume everyone !

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So, i don't know why I'm writing this maybe I'm a bit bored anyways, i don't think i would ever date a women because i can never really come out to my family i just don't see a point in dating if it's not going anywhere why would I get emotionally attached to someone knowing it won't last. Though i must say i really want to be with a women but i guess it is what it is and i'll just have to deal with it. But I love this sub reddit and living vicariously through all of your experience.

To love someone, you have to be brave,

brave enough to confess or brave enough to watch them love someone else.

As fate would mock me,

it has made me a craven, so all that I'm left doing is clinging to the hope that one day you would come and kiss me with a soul-cleaving confession even as you merely yearn for someone else.

Oh, might any soul spare me a fragment of bravery out of pity or else let her longing for that other soul be fulfilled—

Let them kiss before my very eyes, so that I may carve this monstrous soul-slaughtering hopes from within me until nothing of it breathes.

I have been thinking about it for quite a while. It’s been almost 2 years since I moved here and tbh it is v difficult to make queer friends. Lots of time goes into just making someone comfortable, which is okay but can be exhausting sometimes.

I was thinking if I create a group, would women be willing to join it. The main motto of the group is to hangout. Make friends. Have hobbies together. Shopping. Book club. House party etc etc.

The verification process would be straightforward. A call to ensure if the other person is real and a woman.

The platform is not decided yet. If this post gets enough traction, i will take a vote to finalise the platform.

Edit: pls dm with introduction if you’re interested. Once there are at least 5 women, I will create a reddit group and take it forward after discussing.

Edit 2: so there’s existing groups. Can find in the comment section

35F, lesbian, femme, single, senior leadership at an MNC. I’m very femme, usually in a suit at work, and apparently give off such strong “straight woman” vibes that nobody would ever guess I’m a lesbian!
For context, my first girlfriend left me for a guy and got married. I stayed single for a few years, then met my second girlfriend. We were together for 10 years, and I was about to ask her to marry me when I found out she’d cheated on me. I’ve been happily single ever since and honestly have zero interest in dating.
Now, a 21F joined my team 6 months ago (she doesn’t report to me). She’s very femme, so I have no idea if she’s even into women.
She constantly compliments my perfume, clothes and accessories, finds excuses to come to my desk, and I catch her looking at me a lot. She also told me I make her feel “very comfortable,” despite us barely talking.
At this point, the combination of the compliments, the excuses to come over, and the very frequent glances is starting to feel less like ordinary coworker friendliness and more like she might actually have a little crush on me.
Or maybe I’m wildly overestimating my own charm and she’s simply being friendly. Who knows.
Also, I’m basically old enough to be her grandmother, and I have absolutely ZERO interest in her. Even if I were her age and interested, workplace romance is a hard no for me.
If she does eventually make it obvious, what’s the best way to handle it professionally without embarrassing her or making things awkward?

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I wonder where you are tonight.
Perhaps you’re somewhere laughing with your friends,
lost in your thoughts,
or staring at the same moon without knowing
that someone, somewhere, is quietly wishing for a connection that feels real.
No grand promises.
No perfect beginnings.
Just two strangers crossing paths,
and somehow becoming a little less lonely
because they found each other. 🌙❤️

Yo I'm 18 and really have this question to every indian queer ppl like I'm pretty sure that I'm good at few things and there's alot of ppl cute ,sweet, beautiful blah blah blah and idk i have a ability to be on the spot light I have good communication skills i could probably gain a good name among em and if there's a girl i kinda like idk how to talk and i really fuck uppp everythinggggg and sometimes I think that i should try and sometimes like i shouldn't i don't wanna tell that i like girls or somthing and few reddit posts really gave me a thought of that ppl are okk with everything but it's only in a good circle and where would I even find that ?? How do even approach