u/Human-Guest1883

I mean, wtfffff.

Okay Story time.

A few days ago I started talking to a girl here. We barely talked though, it was pretty rare. Today she asked for my pic. Honestly, I was convinced she was a guy. I said no at first, but then she suddenly sent her photo and deleted it right after. That made me lean towards believing she actually was a girl. To be extra sure, she sent a selfie too, and yeah, confirmed. She's a girl.

I didn't mind sending my pic since she'd already sent hers, it would've felt unfair not to.

So I asked for her Insta ID and we moved the conversation there. I didn't have any pics in my gallery since I have a new phone and I'm not really into clicking pictures, so I told her to check my highlights, I had one added there. She said okay. Then she went quiet for a bit, so I asked, "Are you gonna say anything?"

She replied, "No, I have to go study." I said okay.

Like... no reaction at all. I know I'm decent, but a little reaction would've been nice.

Then I check Instagram just now and she's blocked me. (I knew getting blocked was probably coming, just didn't expect it this fast.)

Cue the overthinking, because I am a professional overthinker. Two possible reasons:

1st: I'm just not good-looking enough.

2nd(and this is the one I actually believe):- from her photos, she read as masc. And I'm masc-leaning too (though I haven't been able to present fully masc yet because of family stuff). So maybe she first thought I was femme?

The funny part is, the moment I realized she was masc, I was genuinely happy, because I've been wanting masc friends, for fashion advice, general guidance, that kind of thing. But apparently that's not how this works?

And this isn't a one-off. This has happened with other people too. The second they pick up from our conversation that I'm masc-leaning, they just stop responding, start ignoring me.

Like, what is it you people want? Femmes surrounding you on every side? I know most people come here looking for partners/dating, but I didn't flirt with her or anything, I was talking in a pretty decent, respectful way.

Making friends isn't a crime. I'm genuinely here trying to be part of a community, to meet people, to make connections. (Honestly I'm not here for a relationship. For me, online relationships or LDR are literally my worst nightmare.)

Is it only masc people who behave like this, or do femmes also internalize this and want to surround themselves with only masc people, keeping other identities out?

Sorry if this comes across as rude or like I'm overreacting, but Really, I genuinely do not understand the logic here.

Why is it so damn quiet here?

WHERE ARE THE DRUMS? THE NAGADAS? THE FIREWORKS? SOMEONE GET THE DJ💃💃

Another day has passed and none of us got a girlfriend. Honestly...What a beautiful achievement. You all must be celebrating. I’m celebrating too, obviously.

I’m very happy...so happy. In fact, I don’t think I’ve ever been this happy. May we continue to spend our days like this. Single. Free. Thriving. Absolutely loving life.

LONG LIVE THE SINGLE LIFE🗣️

(I can’t do this anymore. I don’t want to be single. This “I’m happy being single” bullshit is getting harder to maintain.....🙂🤌🙏)

I'm not sure if this question fits this sub, but I came across it and genuinely wanted to ask... I've been worried about this for quite a few days now, so please help.

I'm the eldest daughter in my family. I have a younger sister (1.5 years younger than me) and a younger brother (10 years younger).

I never want to get married. My mother wants me to marry first, even if it's a few years from now, before my sister does. I've told her clearly that if my sister finds the right person, her marriage should happen first. But my mother believes that if my sister gets married before me, it could cause problems in my sister's married life... things like difficulties with children or an unstable marriage. This is a strong belief in our family and community... that if a younger sibling marries before the elder one, some kind of misfortune follows. My mother has personal examples from her own family that reinforce this belief for her. I genuinely don't want to marry. But I also don't want my decision to negatively affect my sister's life or her marriage prospects.

Is there any Vedic astrological solution, pooja, or ritual for this kind of situation.. something that could address the concern without me having to marry?

Any guidance would help. Thank you.

Imagine this: you are at a wedding, and the bride gets up from the mandap mid-ceremony and says, "I don't want to marry this guy. I'm in love with someone else." And then she turns around and introduces her partner... A GIRL

Now give your reaction, but the twist is.. you have to stay in character. Pick a character and reply as them...

For example

Me as the groom's sister:- Sad my brother's wedding fell apart? Yes. But these two baddies just gave me hope for my own future love story...👽🥰

My que is same as title..

My sister said,"jab tak tum bagwaan ko nhi manungi tab tak tum apni jindagi mein kamayab nhi ho skati." (You cannot succeed in life until you believe in God.)

So, my sister, my cousin, and I were just chatting casually...the topic of God and existence just came up.

So.. I'll try to be honest about it. I’m not a theist in the conventional sense...like the people who perform rituals and prayers; I’m not like that. And I don't consider myself an atheist either. But my mom and sister think I am one...I don't know... I do question the concept of God. I really like Hindu cosmology and the stories; I have an interest in reading the Gita and the Vedas. But not because I believe in God...simply because I find it all interesting. And honestly, I also wonder sometimes...what if the gods we know are actually alien beings?

(I know that sounds silly, but I'm a fiction writer, so I tend to think on slightly unusual wavelengths. It's just a thought that lingers.)

I feel a connection to figures like Krishna, Goddess Kali, and Lord Shiva. It’s not out of fear that they’ll punish me if I do something wrong, or because I view them as omnipotent beings capable of anything. No.

It’s more about their teachings, their self-control, and so on.

I don't believe that..even if God does exist..She/He would be pleased by my performing rituals or constantly chanting Her/His name. If He/She does exist, my existence doesn't really make a difference to Him/Her.

We were just talking, and as the debate got more intense, my sister raised several arguments. I answered them calmly but she got triggered and became quite angry.

In the end, she said that unless I believe in God, I cannot succeed in life.

Just then, my mother walked in, echoed the same sentiment, and agreed with my sister. I’ve had many arguments with my mother about God before, too, because she wants me to perform daily prayers and rituals Or at least privately accept that God exists and keep faith in His/Her blessings.

I’ve faced failures in life...I didn't get the marks I wanted in 10th grade. The same thing happened in 12th grade. I took a couple of competitive exams but didn't succeed.

But I don't blame God for that...Because I know the fault is mine. I know there were distractions. I know I didn't devote as much time to my studies as I should have. I know God had nothing to do with any of it.

My sister made an interesting argument: She said that in life, we need someone or something to blame..Otherwise, we couldn't keep going.

She gave an example: Suppose I don't succeed...If I blame myself, I’ll be destroyed from within; I’ll lose all hope in life. But if I hold onto the hope that God has a plan, and let that carry the weight instead, life becomes easier. I know her point makes sense on an emotional level...

But is it necessary to blame anyone? Even if God exists, is it necessary to blame Him? Why blame anyone? Why?

Right now, I blame myself in order to improve, because I know the fault was mine. This self-blame acts as fuel for me.

But suppose that in the future..even after giving it my 100%..things still don't work out...Suppose I don't get selected for a government job or anything similar...

Then why should I blame God? And why should I blame myself?

Just as I know deep down right now that the fault is mine, I will know then, too, that I gave it my absolute best. I will be happy that I tried that I worked hard and improved myself.

And HONESTLY I DON'T THINK I’ll FAIL. THATS ISN'T GOING TO HAPPEN. I KNOW I WILL...

So...Am I thinking about this wrong? Does believing in God actually change outcomes or does it just change how we deal with them?

Seriously though..why is everyone so quiet?

Rant, share, ask something, post a meme.. anything.. This sub is so warm and I just want MORE of it.

Reading posts late at night hits completely different.

Come on girlies...let's get talking..🐥

I want to write poems for you, but I fear you'll find them meaningless.

The way your smile comes a second late, the depth in your eyes, the dark circles beneath them..I want to admire all of it. But I fear my gaze will make you uncomfortable.

This introverted me wants to crack jokes and do silly things just to see your smile, but I fear you'll think I'm being fake.

I want to save up and buy you a purple saree, because I want to see you in it. But I fear you'll think I'm being too demanding.

If we ever cross a road together, I want to hold your hand...not holding it, just… the space near it. But I fear you'll find it too forward.

I want to wrap my arms around you, listen to your heartbeat, breathe in your scent..but I fear you'll find my hug a suffocating trap.

I want to sing every song on my playlist, every one I've dedicated to you in my head, but I fear my voice will feel like a needle in your ears.

I want to hear every small, forgettable thing about your day..the boring parts, the repeated stories, the things you almost don't say but I fear you'll think I'm being a detective.

If you ever try to hurt yourself, I want to hold both your hands so they stay safe...but I fear that I might be the reason.

I want to explain everything when your mind spirals into overthinking, but I fear you'll think I'm being manipulative.

I want to become better.. for you, because of you but I fear you'll only ever see my worst.

I tried to write my thoughts into words, hoping you'll find them anything but meaningless.

(I tried to write something like this for the first time. How is it?)

Same as the title, really.

I just feel like I'm the only one here from a village. I joined this subreddit about a month ago and haven't been very active...mostly just reading posts and scrolling. But the more I read, the more I wonder... am I the only village queer here?

After years of struggling, I finally accepted myself a few months ago and since then I've been slowly exploring, which is how I ended up here.

And I genuinely want to say... this sub feels like home. I don't talk to many people here, I mostly just read posts and scroll. But I feel this warmth, you know? (The sad posts literally make me want to cry.)

Anyway.. I hope I find the courage someday to talk to the people in my life who don't know this side of me. My real side. My most important side. But first, I want to understand myself better. And this community is really helping me do that.. even without knowing it. You really are...🤌❤️

Hieee..I want to talk..

Anyone here?

Looking for some random, genuine conversations..

movies, series, hobbies, overthinking spirals, study/job struggles... basically anything and everything.

A little about me..I recently came out as queer and I'm still figuring a lot of things out. I don't really have any queer friends yet, so I'd love to meet some genuine people here. Maybe we become friends? Who knows..

I'm naturally a little flirty, but please... no horny people. I am absolutely not here for that.

Also, it would be really nice if you could talk in Hindi too.. I just feel more comfortable in my own language, hope that’s okay..

(Vo alag baat hai ki Hindi mein bhi bhut kam bol paati hu.. introvert aatma🦉)