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My gf and I have been dating for a year and a half and we want to get engaged. We have talked about how we wabt the proposal to go and she wants me to ask her parents first. I have no doubt that when I propose she will say yes, but I do have doubt her parents will give me their blessing.

Some background, when she came out to her parents it didnt go well. She was 19 and going through a breakup of a 3 year relationship they had no idea about. Her dad didnt talk to her for days, and her mom tried to be supportive but kept bringing up their Christian beliefs.

Its been 3 years since then and even though they love me as a person, they still struggle with the gay thing. They try to be supportive but whenever talk about moving in together or marriage is brought up they get very quiet.

Im so nervous and have no idea what to say. I need advice from people that get it. My family doesn't get it because they are accepting but have never had to deal with someone not accepting their relationship because of homophobia.

Could really use some help navigating this one.

My daughter just came to me and told me that she’s “officially” dating her best friend. This happened without a prior conversation, so we were unable to talk about the reasons why this may not be the best idea.

They’ve been best friends for 3 years now. They do everything together. As her mom, it has genuinely been such a joy to watch them grow up together.

I don’t even think they’d do anything beyond holding hands at this point, to be honest.

A couple of issues: Issue #1) I’m gay, and that already makes her parents uncomfortable. It took some time for us to get past it. We still don’t discuss it.

Issue #2) Both myself and her friend’s parents regularly go through their phones. Immediately after she told me, I went through her phone. Sure enough, they were texting about it.

Issue #3) She told her via text that she was going to talk to me about it, so her parents will know that I know.

Issue #4) There is a group chat with 2 other friends whose parents are also MAGA and also go through their phones. They are all very close friends. I am not close with any of them for obvious reasons.

Issue #5) Her friend’s older sibling is also closeted out of fear with how her parents would react.

I am worried that she’ll lose a friend, of course. However, I’m more concerned that her friend and her older sibling could potentially face bigger issues at home beyond that.

I told my daughter to invite her friend over so we could have a chat about how to handle this. I don’t want to break trust with her parents, I also don’t want to tell them and risk her life at home blowing up.

I don’t know what kind of parental controls everyone has on phones. I’m wondering if it isn’t worth involving the older sibling/ group chat and getting some of the texts deleted. I really don’t want to overstep, but idk from the horror stories I’ve heard from girls I’ve dated, I’m legitimately concerned for them.

Any advice is appreciated.

A classic conversation about dating within my friendgroup over wine:

«Its so hard to find women who are emotionally mature, not-toxic, have a good stable job and healthy friendships»

*my lesbian friend group full of about 10 attractive, emotionally mature, non-toxic lesbians with good stable jobs and heathy platonic friendships

(Multiple of us have even hooked up with each other)

Quick rant..

I downloaded HER for the first time n im immediately annoyed.
Tell me why MARCUS the ‘lesbian’ with a full beard holding a fish
(fucking classic male profile photo btw) talkin bout “I’m a top leaning switch” is the first profile I see —__—
Young man if you don’t get that cis male pp out of places it don’t belong 😤
I seriously wonder what goes through men like Marcus’s mind and how successful they really are (if ever)((I hope never)) while invading our spaces for funzies.

Obv I know this is not new or uncommon at all esp on sapphic focused dating sites but c’monnnn man.

Fuck you marcus! Actually, no. You don’t deserve it. You’re messin up my algorithm.

I grew up very religious. I prayed multiple times a day, memorized scripture, volunteered at my mosque, and even wore a face covering at one point.

I left religion 6 months ago after challenging male authority, getting dismissed and turned away, then ultimately deconstructing.

I’ve finally realized I was a lesbian all this time. It feels so freeing!! An angel grew wings today y’all. Pray to Allah I find myself some lesbian friends and a wife one day 😀🫶🏽

I'm an avoidant person anyway but I behave like I don't know them.

I have a crush on this woman who was a former account manager for the company my work uses. She's now a manager and she comes in every few weeks or so.

I find her attractive but started liking her when she showed interest in me. At the start of the year she came in and walked by the desk I was sitting at and looked at me and smiled and I was confused. Her expression was the I'm interested in you look. I'm not used to people smiling at me.

Later on I walked by her and she looked at me and smiled and unintentionally ignored her. I was spaced out and not used to people smiling at me. I was confused at why she was smiling at me like that. She looked sad afterwards and didn't say bye to anyone when she left.

She came in two months later and she insulted me thinking I didn't hear. She seemed standoffish. But she was standing at a colleague's desk and turned to look at me when I walked by. That day a few colleagues made it obvious that I like her. When she came in a few weeks later which was two weeks ago she was dressed up and very social. She came by my desk area to talk to my colleagues. I walked by her and said hi but she didn't acknowledged me. I wasn't offended because she probably didn't registered it or felt awkward. When I walked back to my desk and she finished up the conversation with my deskmates I walked by her and she looked awkward.

She came in today which I was surprised at and she was social with everyone. I was nervous and went from having the shakes to feeling fine. But I ignored her. I was filing away paperwork when she was leaving and I got up as she walked by and she flinched away.

It's probably a good thing so I know to not be delusional.

when giving oral, do y'all care if they have a belly? research purposes

Hi everyone!!

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years, and it’s been amazing. The only thing that has hurt our relationship is my fear of her liking men. It’s made me more insecure and made me subconsciously controlling of like what movies she watches and stuff like that. We talk about this a lot, and i am actively working on not letting it get to the point of being super controlling. My girlfriend has told me it’s getting better.

But, even if i’m not expressing it around her, i still feel it. If she’s watching a show and i know there’s straight sex in it or something to do with a guy in a romantic context I get so worried, and i hate it! It’s so stupid and weird. I know she loves me, i feel it all the time, but for some reason i just can’t shake this worry that she will be attracted to a man.

We both identify as lesbians and she has expressed numerous times she only likes and is attracted to women/non men, and especially me.

Does anyone have any advice for getting over this? I really don’t want it to keep hurting our relationship and my mental health.

For context my gf and I broke up around 2 and half months ago and while I’m (mostly) over missing her damn I miss the intimacy that came with a relationship (and I’m not only talking about sex). I miss making out, cuddling and just feeling close with another person.

After a chat with a friend the other night I also realised I’m probably not built for casual intimacy (the closest I could do is exclusive fwb )

These feelings have just been popping up lately and I wanted to get them out. I’m luckily gonna be quite busy over the next month with friends, a trip, and a new job so hopefully that’ll help keep these feelings at bay for now.