u/StudentExpress9902

As the title says, how??

I havent had sex in my entire life, due to me healing from this attachment style, its hard to let myself be vulnerable, feel, Id feel that every move of mine is judged somehow or idk😭😭 I dont like this feeling

For avoidants who cant have sex w someone unless there’s an emotional connection (like not ons and stuff, even tho im not judging this) and had sex, how was ur first time?

Could u let yourself feel, enjoy and be in the present moment??

Sorry if its tmi but i dont even know how i moan or if i moan, but the most important if i would let myself moan😭😭 ughh

For me is the thing that id freeze and obviously wont be able to enjoy it, Id think that every move of mine is being judged and obviously seen and i do have this lump in my throat when I think about it 😭

Ugh and also someone fully seeing u, i dont think i could stay that much in that very sexual and vulnerable energy🤡

Help? Any advice would be helpful! Feel free to even dm me about it, id be happy to know ur experiences and that overcoming this can happen!!

Thank u for reading all this! :’)

I’m dating a girl who’s a switch but leans more top, and I’ve noticed that when I say something I personally consider flirty or hot, she often responds with “cute” instead of “hot” or “sexy”.

For example, if I say something playful like “I wanna be in Italy with you and have me for dinner”, she’ll usually say “that’s cute”. Sometimes she does say things are hot, but much more often she calls them cute.

Another example: one time she told me “you’re so adorable thirsty for me” lol.

She tends to describe things as cute that I would personally classify as sexy or hot.

Is this a common thing among top-leaning lesbians?
Or is this completely unrelated to top/bottom dynamics and just a personality thing?

Curious if anyone else has experienced this.

Okay so when a girl says as a compliment ofc that “someones eating pussy like a champ”, i do get that its very good and stuff but what do u do?

i guess im asking how to eat pussy like a champ lol😭😭

like i need details n stuff, maybe u start w teasing, kissing it or near it, slowly tasting it and then sucking it?

if u ever got this compliment u need to tell me what u did ahahaha, how u ate that puss

thanks:)

Okay i know there are lots of avoidants who can have sex without a problem if there are no feelings like hookups n stuff

but i wanna talk w those ayoidants that cant have one night stands, because only sharing their body feels disgusting and are just simply not into casual

SO

we are all battling the fear of being intimate w someone, like being scared of the intimacy and vulnerability in a romantic relationship right, maybe also w some other unhealed things (for me being the inner critic that says lots of negative things like judging or criticizing myself bcs thats what my dad did when i was lil) 😭

how was for you the first time u had sex with someone?? could you be as open as u imagined ud be first time having sex? where u on ur healing era when that happen?

what state of mind u had before it happened? idk

im a virgin and im dating a girl i really like, we are so into eachother, when we meet we cuddle a lot, make out a lot, holding hands a lot, talking, laughing, flirting, kinda feels like we cant keep our hands off of eachother, but romantically

we havent done anything sexual yet
sometimes i would mentally feel brave enough to have sex with her, sometimes not

there are some things that hold me back, they would be tmi but if u send me a dm, i would tell u them bcs why not, i wanna learn to let them go

so yes, i already asked my questions, thank u for reading this! and feel free to text me giving advice or sharing ur personal experience! being avoidant sometimes feel like being in a prison sadly

thank you:)

Okay i know there are lots of avoidants who can have sex without a problem if there are no feelings like hookups n stuff

but i wanna talk w those avoidants that cant have one night stands, because only sharing their body feels disgusting and are just simply not into casual

so
we are all battling the fear of being intimate w someone, like being scared of the intimacy and vulnerability in a romantic relationship right, maybe also w some other unhealed things (for me being the inner critic that says lots of negative things like judging or criticizing myself bcs thats what my dad did when i was lil💀)

how was for you the first time u had sex with someone?? could you be as open as u imagined ud be first time having sex? where u on ur healing era when that happen?

what state of mind u had before it happened? idk

im a virgin and im dating a girl i really like, we are so into eachother, when we meet we cuddle a lot, make out a lot, holding hands a lot, talking, laughing, flirting, kinda feels like we cant keep our hands off of eachother, but romantically

we havent done anything sexual yet
sometimes i would mentally feel brave enough to have sex with her, sometimes not

there are some things that hold me back, they would be tmi but if u send me a dm, i would tell u them bcs why not, i wanna learn to let them go

so yes, i already asked my questions, thank u for reading this! and feel free to text me giving advice or sharing ur personal experience! being avoidant sometimes feel like being in a prison sadly

thank you:)

Hello Cluj people! La intrebarea asta am nevoie de OGs of Cluj😭😭 Exista ceva loc pe o cladire, cu acoperis plat wannabe, un fel de benzinarii sau poate licee unde se poate sta la un date frumos cu o patura pt uitat la stele?? 🧐

Nu stiu cum sta treaba in Cluj, cu amenzile sau daca e chiar interzis, as vrea sa aflu pana nu gasesc locul😆

Dar ce locuri stiti? Ce cladiri unde se poate urca, nu prea inalte, si sa nu fie o problema? Si strazile cladirilor pls

Late night questions! Multuu! 😊

I know people usually complain when the person they’re dating doesnt kiss with tongue, but I’m here with the opposite problem lol.

The girl I’m dating and I had our first kiss recently. The vibe beforehand was really romantic; we cuddled a lot, held hands, played with each other’s fingers, stayed really close, I rubbed her cheek, she kissed my hand, etc. Because of that, I imagined our first kiss would be slow, soft, and mostly just lips at first.

Instead, I felt her tongue almost immediately, so I just went along with it. I did enjoy it, but it felt a bit different from what I expected. I was hoping for something more gentle and romantic before getting into tongue kissing.

Am I weird for feeling this way? Has anyone else experienced this?

So, im dating this girl I really like, she also really likes me, says she's "down bad for me". She's a switch but she's more of the top, meaning she'll take the lead and its hot to me that her pleasing me would turn her on more n stuff, but she doesn't know im a virgin. So, im asking all the lesbians out here.. Would u care if the girl ur dating is a virgin??

Like, what would ur thoughts be? 😭
That is crazy she's this old (24) and still a virgin? Would it be a turn off? Would u not care at all?

I'm waiting for ur opinions! Thanks! :’)

My question is for those who enjoy topping more or are stone tops.

Maybe my question might sound stupid but for stone tops, how do you cum if u only love to give pleasure?😭
I heard someone saying they often can cum knowing their loved one came for them or after they made their loved one cum, but like without touching themselves? Idk if I understood right

And for the ones who are most likely to enjoy giving pleasure, do you only let ur partner touch u/eat u just after u pleased them? Cant it be other way around?

Thankies!:)

I wondered how that feels, cause like i can sext someone n not be triggered right cause they r not next to me, they r not touching my body so sexting its like nothing really, but when they reply with “i wonder how you would look like when u do that” its so SJSJSJJSK to me, cause like i cant understand how someone can feel so much pleasure n stay so much in a very intimate moment? bcs i personally would feel like running 😭😭 For people that are on their healing journey from being DA, do u still feel like running from the intimacy in a romantic relationship or did u learn to stay in that and also enjoy it? when it will get better fr? ☹️