r/AmiInTheWrong

Hello! My child’s father (25M) and I (29F) have not been together for over a year. Nothing really happened between us, we just didn’t work and he couldn’t step up to his parenting role. I am finally trying to get a parenting plan so we don’t have to fight about holidays, schedules, taxes, etc. I put in there that he needs to ask me to take her if he isn’t around for more than 4 hours. He is trying to fight me on this and says I get my time so what happens during his time is up to him. I feel as though I should not be co-parenting with his parents. I love that she is so loved but at the end of the day I am her mother. I don’t view it as my time or his time necessarily we are her parents 24/7 no matter what. Anyways, I am so frustrated that this is even a fight, but am I in the wrong because I am technically fighting his side as well? It’s just so hard to know I don’t have my child and she is not with the other parent. I did even try and compromise and say it can be changed to if he’s not around for more then 1 day!

Edit: Our child is 19 months. And it’s not that I don’t want her to be with her grandparents. He lived with his parents so they see her every time he has her. The issue is he is gone every weekend he has our child. And he is not gone for work, he is out with his friends. I have been very accommodating to them when they ask for extra time. I also have always made sure to ask him if he would like to take her when I am not able to and says no every time. Which is his right but it feels like the fair thing to ask him first, since he is the parent, The parenting plan would apply to both of us.

Some context: job position I have requires us to get a CDL license to operate certain vehicles. Even though I did not want to get my CDL I still did per responsibility of said job position. My co worker and I got hired around the same time, and we both were told eventually we would have to get our CDL’s. When we finally got told to start studying, while I didn’t want to get it, I still sucked it up, passed the written test, and then eventually passed the driving test, because I did not want to get reprimanded for not attempting/finishing it.

My co worker has not gotten theirs “yet”. I say it with quotations because it’s been almost a year since we were told and they haven’t even passed their written test. Now I’m not saying that training for a CDL license is easy, cause it’s not, I failed quite a few times in both sections before I was able to pass.

However, my frustrations come from what my boss had told me. I was told that if said co worker did not pass the written test by the end of May this year, there would be consequences for them (we were told September of last year to start training). May came and past, and it doesn’t really seem like any consequences were given out to them. Now I don’t want to “overstep boundaries” and directly ask if there’s any consequences but I do feel like I already know the answer. One of my other co workers who would be trainer, had told me they stopped asking that co worker if they’ve passed yet because it was always no.

Now I was told by my boss that the co worker would receive consequences after I had expressed my frustration with them not getting it. But it seemed like they were more worried about me not getting my cdl, when I never said I wouldn’t, just the fact I didn’t want to get it, but IS still getting it.

I don’t really think there is any consequences for that co worker as the placements they have been placed in don’t seem like something of a consequence nor are they cut from being full time.

Thank you for advice, clarification or anything else, as I don’t really have too many people to talk about this with.

Hi!
Am i (F19) the asshole for not breaking up with my bf (m20).He is all green flags and i love him and he treats me the best i really hope hes the one.
But lately my sister and her best friend have said i deserve better and that im on a higher leauge. But he have been nice to my sis and bought her gifts and she’s being mean.
Everyone except them loves him even my cat likes to sleep on him.
So am i the asshole for choosing my bf from 8months back over my sister?

I 22f have been in a relationship for about 5 months. I reposted a TikTok edit of 2014 dylan obrien the other day because like. 2014 dylan obrien was iconic. my boyfriend 21m is very upset. He cannot believe that I would do something like this and am attracted to people other than him. I'm trying to tell him that like it's the same as 2010 Megan Fox from transformers and like sometimes there's just iconic pop culture people. He is adamantly disagreeing. I get having different viewpoints but he will not drop this saying "how could you do that when we were probably talking just earlier that day" as if me being attracted to 2014 dylan obrien is a direct betrayal to him. AITAH here?

I’m 18 years old and currently living with my mom and my 6-year-old brother. We just moved into a two-bedroom apartment in August, so we’ve only been here for a short time.
I want to start by saying that I understand that $300 might not seem like a lot of money to some people. But $300 is a lot of money to me right now.
There was a time when I was only making around $75 a week. I would literally have to save my money until I had enough to pay my car insurance, phone bill, gas, and medicine. I was struggling to cover basic expenses.
I even started doing Uber and DoorDash on the side to make extra money, while knowing my car has transmission problems and could potentially break down at any time.
So when I finally get $500 after working for three months without getting paid, giving $300 of that away is a HUGE amount of money to me. That would leave me with only $200, and I still have bills, gas, school expenses, medicine, and a car that needs around $3,000 worth of repairs.
I’m not saying $300 is a huge amount of money to everyone. I’m saying $300 is a huge amount of money for me based on my current situation.
Before we moved, I had my own bedroom, my own bed, and my own furniture. When we moved, my mom took her bed and my brother’s bed, but she told me to leave my bed behind. The weird part is that my bed was actually the newest one, and I kept asking her if I could bring it, but she kept telling me no.
My grandma had also given me a bedroom set, including my bed frame and dressers. Now my brother is using the furniture, and my mom has basically arranged the room around him.
While I was gone taking care of my grandpa, my mom rearranged the bedroom. She made the room mostly to my brother’s liking and put his dressers, toys, and other things everywhere. There is basically no room left for me to have a bed.
So now my clothes are in trash bags, and I sleep on the couch every night. My mom told me that my options were basically to sleep on the couch or sleep on the floor.
I’m also 18, but my mom still gives me a curfew and expects me to be home at a certain time.
Now here’s where the money situation comes in.
My mom recently decided that I need to start paying her $300 a month.
I honestly don’t understand how she thinks I can afford that right now.
I pay for my own phone, car expenses, and car insurance. I’m also in college working toward becoming a nurse. I have a 2017 Chevy Impala that has transmission problems, and I need to save around $3,000 to get it fixed. If my car breaks down, I won’t have a way to get to school or work.
I also have an issue with my phone bill.
I’ve always paid for my own phone. My dad originally got me my phone, and I’ve been responsible for paying my phone bill myself.
My mom has two phones. Her boyfriend pays for one of them, and I agreed to let her add her second phone to my phone plan because I was trying to be nice and help her.
Because her second phone is now connected to my plan, my phone bill went up significantly. So now I’m responsible for paying for both lines, even though I was already struggling to pay my own phone bill.
The frustrating part is that my mom is now using the phone bill against me.
She told me that if I can’t give her the $300 she’s asking for, then she won’t give me money to help pay the phone bill.
But the reason the phone bill is higher in the first place is because I allowed her to add her second phone to my plan.
I don’t feel like it’s fair for her to add another phone to my account, increase my bill, and then use that bill as leverage when I’m already struggling financially.
I’m honestly thinking about removing her second phone from my plan because I don’t want to keep being responsible for a bill I can’t afford, especially when she’s also asking me for another $300 every month.
I currently have two jobs. One of them is IHSS, where I’ve been taking care of my grandma.
I’ve been working for about THREE MONTHS and haven’t gotten paid yet because the whole IHSS process takes so long.
So imagine working for three months without getting a paycheck.
I’ve also been helping take care of my grandpa on the side.
Recently, I watched my grandpa for six days, and my aunt paid me $500.
This was basically the first decent amount of money I’d gotten after working for months.
The moment I finally got that $500, my mom told me she wanted $300 of it.
That’s what really upset me.
I’ve been working for three months and haven’t gotten paid, and the first time I finally receive some money, she wants more than half of it.
I told her that I would be willing to start contributing once I actually start getting paid from IHSS and have a stable income. But right now, I genuinely don’t have the money to give her $300.
At first, she called it rent.
I told her that if I’m paying $300 in rent, then I should at least have some of the normal freedoms that come with being an adult, like being able to stay out later sometimes.
She said no.
Then she switched it up and said it’s not actually rent because I don’t have a bedroom. She said it’s for utilities.
But I’m confused. $300 just for utilities seems like a lot to me, especially when I don’t even have my own room or a bed.
Another reason I’m uncomfortable giving her the money is because my mom has a gambling problem. I’m worried that if I give her $300, the money isn’t actually going to go toward utilities or household expenses. I’m worried it will end up at the casino.
I also have other financial responsibilities.
I owe my college around $500 because I failed one class. I took five classes and passed four, but I failed one, and now I have another bill to deal with.
My mom also expects me to help with my little brother.
She knows I have to work early in the morning, but she’ll wake me up and ask me to take him to school.
His school is in the complete opposite direction from my job, so I have to use extra gas and spend extra time driving. When I asked about gas money, she basically told me that she doesn’t need to give me gas money because she’s letting me live with her.
That’s another thing that frustrates me.
I understand that she’s letting me live with her, and I’m not saying I don’t appreciate that.
But I’m also paying for a lot of my own expenses, I’m working, I’m going to school, I’m helping take care of family members, and I’m currently sleeping on the couch because I don’t even have a bed.
And now that I’ve finally gotten $500 after working for months without getting paid, she wants $300 of it.
I’m also planning to move in with my dad soon. This isn’t something I want to stay in permanently, and I’ll be leaving within the next month.
That’s part of why I’m struggling to understand why I should suddenly start paying $300 a month when I’m going to be leaving soon anyway.
I don’t want to create a huge conflict with my mom. I just want her to understand that I genuinely cannot afford to give her $300 right now.
I feel like she’s calculating how much I should be making based on how many hours I work, but she’s not considering all the expenses I have.
Yes, I work. Yes, I’m 18. Yes, my mom is letting me live with her.
But I’m also trying to build my life, stay in college, keep my car running, pay my bills, and save money.
I don’t want to be ungrateful, but I also feel like I have to think about myself because nobody else is going to pay my bills or fix my car if it breaks down.
So am I in the wrong for refusing to give my mom $300 a month right now?
Am I being selfish and ungrateful because she’s letting me live with her, or is it reasonable for me to say that I simply cannot afford $300 right now, especially when I’m leaving soon and don’t even have my own bed?

Hi Reddit, I’m turning to you for some insight. I apologize in advance for the length of this post; I’ll try to keep it brief. I (26F) live in France and I posted about this situation on French subreddits and was curious to see what another community might think. I hope there aren't any language errors in this post; sorry if there are.

A close friend of mine—let's call her S—lives just outside Paris and always suggests we meet at BFM (train station) (a 23-minute trip for her), which means a minimum of two hours of travel time on the RER for me (round trip). I should mention that S grew up in Parisian circles and is used to meeting friends at outdoor café terraces; it’s sort of her "safe place." Having grown up in a more rural area, I don't really have that same connection to terrace bars, and I feel like some of these conversations could just happen over the phone—but S struggles with phone calls.

I’ve been making this effort for years because I know it’s a hassle for S to come to my place, as the journey takes longer for her. For her part, S used to visit me at my mother’s place two or three times a year and stay overnight to make the long trip worthwhile.

Current situation: I moved into my first apartment with my boyfriend four months ago. S and I have met up five or six times over the last few months, and I’ve gone up to her area every single time—while mentioning, increasingly unsubtly, that I was really looking forward to her first visit to my place. Until mid-June, she was very busy working on a thesis (which I proofread before she submitted the final version). That thesis caused her to miss my birthday party in early June, but she had promised to come visit as soon as she had more free time. I should add that I moved closer to Paris, so I’ve shaved 15 minutes off my commute; it takes me an hour to get to BFM now, whereas before it took an hour and fifteen minutes at best.

Here’s the issue: Last Friday, she suggested meeting up the following week but immediately pointed out that she was unusually exhausted and wasn't sure she could make the trip to my place. I suggested she get some rest and come over the week after that, but she told me she was going to Orléans and Étretat with some other friends, so she wasn't sure she’d be available that week either. That was the first thing that left me baffled: you know you can't come to my place—even a week from now—because you'll be too tired, yet you're going to travel to see other people just a few days later?

I don't feel I have any right to dictate how she spends her time, but I did find her a bit tactless in how she put things to me. And I wonder: if she’s so tired, why is she so set on seeing me for just a few hours at a bar instead of inviting me to her place? It’s been over a year since she last invited me over.

Yesterday, she got back in touch—still trying to figure out when I could come up to Paris—saying she really wants to see me but is too tired to make the trip herself, has too much on her plate, *and* would prefer we meet somewhere other than my home because she wouldn't feel comfortable talking in front of my boyfriend.

S knows my partner; they get along well and share common interests. I understand not wanting to discuss her personal life in front of him, but it’s not for lack of me suggesting we go for walks without him, grab a coffee to chat, and so on. I get the impression that being hosted by us as a couple makes her uncomfortable, but it’s a bit annoying to only find this out now, after she’s spent weeks putting off a visit to my place.

Yesterday, I tried to explain my point of view as gently as possible via several voice messages. I told her it was important to me to show her my home, and that I’d like—if possible—for us to talk on the phone or meet at her place, but for longer than just a few hours.

I haven't heard back since—which isn't unusual for her—but I’m left wondering. Am I asking too much? Am I overanalyzing things? I don’t want to lose S; she’s important to me, and I know things are complicated for her right now. However, people close to me say I’m right to feel bothered by this situation and that I need to be firmer and set some boundaries. If you have any thoughts or advice for the next steps, I’m all ears. Thanks for reading!

For some context I have a sister (22) female and me (17 female). Me and my family lived in my aunts house at first and wasn’t able to have people come over. So when we recently moved I heard my sister talking on the phone with one of her friends trying to invite them to the new house. For a little context my sister cheated on her baby’s father 7 time and every week has a new girlfriend or boyfriend and meets them off the internet and was kicked out of her baby’s father’s house. So she is not allowed to have people come over unless she has been with them for 6 months due to my nephew and not wanting weird people in the house. My mom lifted the rule one time because my sister claimed she would sleep in my mom’s car with this girl so my mom let her stay for a few nights. My sister and her baby’s father are coparenting so when my nephew was getting dropped off it caused a big argument that the girl was even over and the girlfriend is not allowed around my nephew. Back story on the girlfriend her and my sister has been off and on every time my sister gets paid she gets back with her then breaks up with her when she has no money so we did not like this girl from the start. So after my sister had to take the girl home so my nephew can come over I had found out that the girlfriend was dating a 16 year old girl at 21 years old and told my sister that it was the past and then come to find out she told my sister the 16 year old girl lied about her age and then I found out the girlfriend also cheated on my sister and now my sister is claiming it was a mistake and asked if the girlfriend also cheated can come back over here. So after the long message asking if the girlfriend also cheated can come back over of course I told my sister of course not and that I did not want to feel uncomfortable in my own home and which everybody else in the house other than my sister agrees with me and thinks she should not come over again. Now my sister is claiming we all hate her and saying she rather stay at a homeless shelter because she’s not allowed to have the girlfriend come over. And now is bashing everyone on the internet. So am I in the wrong?

I (23f) accidentally woken up by an elbow to the face from my partner (23m). He thinks I'm being dramatic for the way im going about what happened this morning. But without context how would you react if you woke up to an elbow in your face from your partner? For context there's a significant bruise on my nose and I heard a crack when it contacted. WWYD?

i have this boy i have a crush on and im seriously head over heels for him. we're both in the same class, and i also have this one friend, lets call her rosy.

rosy knwos all about my crush. we call him iron (his codename) and we've had this silly miscommunication where me and rosy were talking about iron. she says "iron" a lot to tease me in our class groupchat and no one else knows about my crush and his codename.

however, irons friend SOMEHOW connected the dots and assumed that the so called iron was rosy's crush and that "iron" was the codename.

we shook it off as a silly miscommunication and ddint say anything to defend ourselves because we didnt think anything of it.

irons friends call rosy "iron" to tease her.iron thinks that rosy is the one who likes him.

i know i am wrong for this but i feel terribly insecure whenever they call my friend, who's gorgeuos, skinny and beautiful, "iron". i am so much fatter and uglier compared to her, and all the boys like her, including iron.

i know iron likes her , its very obvious. he looks at her constantly, blushes when she's arounf and enjoys when people call him iron.

iron is the codename i made for him and hes getting shipped with my friend :(

my friend told me she didnt like him though, so it made me feel slightly better

today, my teeth hurt and i put medicine on my mouth which made my entire mouth swell up and my voice sounded funny and muffled.

i sent my friend a voicenote singing, which was pretyy embarassing to be honest, bit i didnt think anything of it, because i wws havin fun.

she forwarded my singing to iron, and made an ai image of iron responding "what the hell!?", which made my heart skip a beat. i was so shocked and was freakimg out.

then, my friend, after loke 5 minutes, told me thay it was ai and showed me a ss of the prompt. she said she deleted the message before he replied and said she just wanted to prank me.

okay, at that point i was already cooled down, because i thoight nothing else would hapen. then ,after like 10 minutes she told me "hey iron message me asking me if i sent him anything, should i respond?"

i feel even more suspicious because she didnt send a ss of their conversation ot anything:(

i know this is very silly but i feel so weird. the way my friend forwarded my voicenote to the person I LIKED and askrd me if she should respond.

does this break girl code?

am i overthinking? becuase i think i would never ever message my friends crush who likes me and try to embarass my friend.

i know that i shouldnt feel so insecure over this, but i know that my crush likes my friend and everything feels so weird :(

AITA? My boyfriend suddenly pulled his phone away after we’ve always had an open-phone policy and now I’m convinced it’s either a ring or something terrible
Okay, I genuinely need outside opinions because I am SO confused right now.
My boyfriend (26, turning 27) and I have always had an open-phone policy. We know each other’s passwords, can grab each other’s phones, and look at them whenever. It has never really been an issue. There’s no “don’t touch my phone” rule in our relationship.
So the other day, I went to grab his phone like I normally would… and he pulled it away from me.
Like… HARD.
And then somehow we ended up having a literal 5–10 minute wrestling match over his phone. 😭
Obviously, my brain immediately went to the worst possible place.
We live with roommates who are also really good friends of ours, so they heard us arguing and one of them came into the room. I explained what happened and asked him what he thought.
He basically said a whole lot of nothing at first, and then randomly goes:
“What if he was texting his mom about a ring?”
AND MY BOYFRIEND IMMEDIATELY GOES:
“I can never keep a secret from her.”
EXCUSE ME?????
Now I’m sitting here thinking IS IT A RING??? IS HE HIDING SOMETHING??? DID I JUST WITNESS THE MOST SUSPICIOUS THING EVER???
For context, he has never cheated on me and I genuinely don’t think he would. I don’t have any other reason to believe he’s cheating.
But now I can’t stop thinking about it.
I’m 20, turning 21, and he’s 26, turning 27. I’m still in college, and I’ve always told him that I don’t want to get married until after I graduate.
So obviously, the thought that he could secretly be talking to his mom about a ring has me freaking out a little.
I asked him why he pulled away and why he wouldn’t let me have his phone.
His explanation was basically that he should have communicated better and that he just wanted his phone in that moment. He said there wasn’t anything bad going on.
And honestly… I can understand that. Even if you have an open-phone relationship, I guess someone can still have a moment where they’re like “I just want my phone right now.”
BUT THEN WHY DID WE HAVE A 10-MINUTE WRESTLING MATCH OVER IT?! 😭😭
And now my roommate has planted the idea of a ring in my head and I can’t stop thinking about it.

At the end of a relationship, not legally married, splitting homes soon… multiple times now she has said she is not going to let me see my daughter, so I asked her, in this scenario you’re talking about, do you still expect me to pay you CS , she said yes. To which I said “why? if you insist on doing it all without me and want to block me out then you shouldn’t need money from me either. I’m not paying you anything if I can’t see her. “

I feel conflicted about it but I am seriously considering taking this stand. Two wrongs don’t make a right and just because she is petty doesn’t mean I should be. Yet I also don’t see it as petty it’s logical to me, what’s the purpose of helping with money if you won’t let me have any time with her at all..

Has anyone lived a similar scenario, give advice on it, am I wrong for thinking this way?

Am I in the wrong for feeling a bit mad and very defeated because I've been talking to this person for months about selling one of my baby crested geckos and all of a sudden my boyfriend brother contacts them to sell his baby and when he knows I've been talking to them for months and keep in mind I wanna breed and sell reptiles as a business this is my first client and he has no intentions of doing this for a living at all

Today I was slapped across the face at school full force by a boy. I am a 17-year-old girl and just started my senior year of high school today during lunch. I was hanging out where I always do with my friends and was sitting at the bottom of a staircase. We always sit in the same exact spot and a group of boys (some sophmores and juniors) also happens to always be at the same spot as well, but on the top of the staircase instead. This location on campus is sort of secluded and hidden from the cameras because we like to smoke during break and lunch. Everyone who hangs out there is like one big friend group made up of like 20 people. Not everyone knows everyone else, but everyone there knows at least a few others there. Well today there’s one individual boy I don’t even know his name or who he is, but he is notorious for throwing things during lunch. Last year he threw a tennis ball at my friends face who is also a girl, he does all this shit on purpose, but ONLY every does it to girls. Anyways, today I was sitting at the bottom of the staircase during lunch as usual, and he was at the top. I was talking to my friend and randomly there are mustard packets starting to be thrown at me. About three or four hit me until I finally get up and say something. I walk up the stairs a bit and say, “why are you throwing shit at me???what’s your issue? like are we serious?”

He mocks me and starts laughing with his friends and says “I didn’t throw shit at you.”

I look at the ground next to him and there is a giant pile of mustard packets on the floor. I look at him and say “are you serious? There’s literally a giant pile of mustard packets right next to you. What do you mean you didn’t throw it? if you’re not the one throwing it you’re obviously letting your friends throw them at me like, what is your issue?”

He laughs again and continues talking shit so I flipped his sandwich out of his hands. the sandwich falls onto the floor, before he even takes a bite of it, and gets mustard all over his supposedly new white shirt. He ends up standing up and open handedly and full forced slapped me across the face in front of everyone as hard as he could. I looked right back up at him, in shock, as he’s walking backwards away from me. I didn’t fall over or anything, but I walk up the stairs so that if he does hit me again, I won’t fall down them completely. I yell out, “are you fucking serious? Did you really just hit me right now? you’re the one throwing shit at me you’re a fucking weirdo.”

He looks over at his friends and is saying that I’m lucky he doesn’t hit me again. I tell him do it and I drop my backpack ready to fight. He continues still walking backwards as I step up towards him again, so I retreat and grabbed my backpack off the ground, still calling him a weirdo and a pussy. I just walked back down the stairs, my friends still at the bottom, watching the whole thing.

The security guard ended up coming down. I think he saw us on the cameras, but the location we were at on school grounds is slightly blocked off, so I’m not sure if he saw the boy actually hit me or not. I tell the security guard that he was throwing mustard packets at me, and so I hit his sandwich out of his hands, and the security guard immediately starts scolding the boy. the boy is saying how he didn’t throw the mustard, but the security guard is telling him that even if his friends did throw it, he’s the one who brought all the mustard packets down in the first place, so he shouldn’t be letting them take them and throw them at people. I agree with the security guard 100% I don’t know what I should do. I didn’t tell the security guard that he hit me. What actions do you think I should take next? Do you think im in the wrong?

So I (19f) have noticed some weird behavior in my best friend (20f)’s bf. They have been dating for two months but they have know each other for a year, and he is (26m). When they met he was 25 and she was 19. She had never had a bf before and im concerned because in the two months the only time they havent spend everyday together was when she was on vacation. She has not texted any of her friends anymore except me since she started seeing him, and she doesn’t even want to hang out with me anymore. Her best friend since childhood has also been having a hard time and I encouraged her to reach out to this friend as she is my friend too and im worried about her, and she didn’t care and hasn’t messaged her. They have been best friends for over a decade. It also rubs me the wrong way that her bf cant drive and doesn’t have a car (not a problem) except that he makes her drive him everywhere and pay for stuff when they work the same job. Before they started dating he had no issues getting to work but now even on her days off she will plan her whole day around driving him. If they make the same amount and have the same expenses then why is she paying for everything? I think the biggest thing that gets me is him talking to me like im soooo young. He has said before that he thinks im soooo young or has made snarky comments hinting im immature or a kid….. When im the same age his gf was when they became friends and he had a crush on her. Every-time I see him (which is almost everyday) he also finds a way to mention to me that “he is going to marry that girl” which was cute the first time he said it, not so cute when its the 47th time he said it in a month, and thats just to me. Idk if this is relevant but she is also the youngest sibling and her bf is older than both her siblings. I think it is also worth mentioning that people will routinely mistaken me for being 20 upon meeting me or just older, so I think it’s weird that he thinks of me as a child. Idk if you think that a 20 year old is a child and you need to baby talk to them then maybe you dont need to date one? Am I being too harsh? Im more than willing to update with more information or answer questions. AITA?

So, for quick context I'm 21 years old, and I applied for work at this call center company.

I've been working there for 2 weeks and finished the training about 4 days ago.

The training is very short and it doesn't go into anything at all in any detail, it is a telecommunications company, so basically a network provider.

I started taking calls 4 days ago, and I literally don't know how to do anything at all, every customer that calls me feels like an unopened can of scary worms, I have no idea how to help them and yet I'm forced to pretend like I know, I've gotten insulted, hung up on, etc.. Which I understand is normal in this field, but it's not normal in this frequency, I've only taken about 20 calls and literally 17 of them were just like that.

And it's not like they're wrong because I indeed have no idea what I'm doing since I was never trained for it.

There is nobody to ask or support, the knowledge tool is absolute garbage without even a search bar and the system is very laggy in general.

Now, that's all a can of worms, and what I'm about to say is even worse.

So, due to them employing more people than the building could handle, there are no lockers available, and you're not allowed to enter the working area with your phone for security reasons, protecting customer data, etc..

So, everyone leaves their phone outside in a little area before entering the production area.

I left my phone like everyone else, I left it outside for one hour, usually I leave it in my bag, returned after the hour and the phone was nowhere to be seen, after heading to security I was met with "Go have your team leader send an email" instead of immediately taking action, I did that due to the fact that I was panicking, and he checked the cameras, left for five minutes and came back with the phone.

He refused to explain where or how he got it or from whom, nobody took the situation seriously although it is literally THEFT. And that left a very bitter taste in my mouth.

How can a thief simply get away with stealing property on company grounds? And why are we protecting a literal criminal.

HR did absolutely nothing the following days, right now I just don't know what to do, I've never been in such a situation and I simply don't have the life experience to deal with it, any input is appreciated.

Hi 15f, I just needed clarity on this, but today a friend and I were talking about how especially now there are so many double standards when looking at Christianity and other minor religions. I’d say we were talking pretty quietly, but I was talking about how the religion is something I respect more of as well as all the other religions, but it’s always Christians preaching and forcing religion down throats and not other minority religions (not saying this can’t happen, just saying it doesn’t happen a lot and isn’t treated the same). As in when a Christian does it, it’s glorified preaching, but if a different religion did it, let’s say a Muslim did something similar, people would have a big issue with it. Moreover, it was that kind of conversation, but I’d say we weren’t hating on the religion, just more of some of the followers. Anyways, this guy who’s a Christian really sweet, but he started saying we should respect religions and that not all Christians were like that, and so I agreed with him and told him I was just talking about my own experience, and he gets this piss face and walks away.

Anyways, should I apologize? Or was he overreacting? It was never my intention to be rude, and it was a conversation between me and a friend only. Also I live in Texas so ugh that says everything already 😭😭

I have been living with my partner for two years and we've decided we don't want to do that anymore. We arent breaking up, but Im moving out of the house he has owned for 10 years. In the past 6 months I've been feeding feral cats in our front yard. They are the relatives of the cat we adopted together when she was a kitten. They've all been spayed. I'm moving out and I asked if he would feed the feral cats. I said I would buy the food for 6 months or so, but asked if he would take it on after that. He said no, he things he's being nice just by offering to feed them, that I should pay for the food indefinitely. I think he will fall in love with the cats in six months or so. Who is responsible for the cats? Me because I started feeding them in the first place? Does it change if he falls for them? I thought offering to buy the food for 6 months or even a year was reasonable. As I'm typing this, I'm seeing that maybe it is not... Thoughts? For more context, we also share a dog. The pets are very important to us. We will have to share custody of the dog once I move out.

I (24F) have been friends with “Daisy” (23F) since our senior year of high school. We became extremely close while studying for our final exams and would spend 10+ hours on Discord calls, sometimes without even talking. Even after we went to different universities, she would come to my university and attend classes with me despite not studying there.
Over the next four years, she became heavily involved in my social life. She befriended my university friends and treated them like her own, sometimes making them uncomfortable. After I graduated and started a demanding job, I naturally had less free time, although I still made an effort to see her and my friends after work.
She also started coming to my workplace during lunch breaks and would spend my entire shift waiting for me at a nearby café. She became friends with my coworkers too.
Things got worse during a girls’ trip I planned with a coworker. I invited Daisy out of courtesy, not expecting her to actually come, but she did everything possible to join us. During the two-week trip, I became extremely uncomfortable with her behavior. She acted very childlike toward me, constantly holding my pinky or shirt, hugging me without warning despite the heat, carrying a plushie and using a baby voice, and even kissing my cheek and hand in a way that felt more like a romantic partner than a friend. My coworker noticed it too.
She also became annoyed whenever I called my boyfriend, even though it wasn’t often, and would constantly ask what was wrong whenever I texted my best friend for more than a couple of minutes. She even bought the exact same dress I had chosen, despite us having completely different styles.
At one point, I was so overwhelmed that I cried alone in the bathroom because I felt trapped and knew confronting her would probably result in her crying and making herself the victim. She also went through my phone while I was showering and then denied doing it, becoming extremely offended when I confronted her.
After the trip, I decided I needed distance. I started focusing on work, declining plans with her, asking her not to come to my workplace, and trying to build friendships outside of her.
She reacted very badly. She came to my house uninvited saying we “needed to talk,” repeatedly called me to find out where I was, and started getting closer to my friends by visiting their homes, universities, and workplaces for random reasons and telling me about it.
I eventually confronted her and told her that her behavior had become suffocating and that I needed space. I made it clear that I wasn’t necessarily ending the friendship, but I needed distance for a while. Instead of respecting that, she pressured me, called me an asshole for trying to cut her off, and continued involving herself in my life.
The strange part is that she does have other friends, but she has always kept them completely separate from me and refused to introduce us, saying I wouldn’t like them.
After five years of friendship, I now want her to stop calling me, coming to my workplace or home, and trying to meet me or involve herself with my friends.
AITA for asking her to leave me alone and give me space?