u/Effective_Still_1227

So I (19f) have noticed some weird behavior in my best friend (20f)’s bf. They have been dating for two months but they have know each other for a year, and he is (26m). When they met he was 25 and she was 19. She had never had a bf before and im concerned because in the two months the only time they havent spend everyday together was when she was on vacation. She has not texted any of her friends anymore except me since she started seeing him, and she doesn’t even want to hang out with me anymore. Her best friend since childhood has also been having a hard time and I encouraged her to reach out to this friend as she is my friend too and im worried about her, and she didn’t care and hasn’t messaged her. They have been best friends for over a decade. It also rubs me the wrong way that her bf cant drive and doesn’t have a car (not a problem) except that he makes her drive him everywhere and pay for stuff when they work the same job. Before they started dating he had no issues getting to work but now even on her days off she will plan her whole day around driving him. If they make the same amount and have the same expenses then why is she paying for everything? I think the biggest thing that gets me is him talking to me like im soooo young. He has said before that he thinks im soooo young or has made snarky comments hinting im immature or a kid….. When im the same age his gf was when they became friends and he had a crush on her. Every-time I see him (which is almost everyday) he also finds a way to mention to me that “he is going to marry that girl” which was cute the first time he said it, not so cute when its the 47th time he said it in a month, and thats just to me. Idk if this is relevant but she is also the youngest sibling and her bf is older than both her siblings. I think it is also worth mentioning that people will routinely mistaken me for being 20 upon meeting me or just older, so I think it’s weird that he thinks of me as a child. Idk if you think that a 20 year old is a child and you need to baby talk to them then maybe you dont need to date one? Am I being too harsh? Im more than willing to update with more information or answer questions. AITA?

So I (19f) have noticed some weird behavior in my best friend (20f)’s bf. They have been dating for two months but they have know each other for a year, and he is (26m). When they met he was 25 and she was 19. She had never had a bf before and im concerned because in the two months the only time they havent spend everyday together was when she was on vacation. She has not texted any of her friends anymore except me since she started seeing him, and she doesn’t even want to hang out with me anymore. Her best friend since childhood has also been having a hard time and I encouraged her to reach out to this friend as she is my friend too and im worried about her, and she didn’t care and hasn’t messaged her. They have been best friends for over a decade. It also rubs me the wrong way that her bf cant drive and doesn’t have a car (not a problem) except that he makes her drive him everywhere and pay for stuff when they work the same job. Before they started dating he had no issues getting to work but now even on her days off she will plan her whole day around driving him. If they make the same amount and have the same expenses then why is she paying for everything? I think the biggest thing that gets me is him talking to me like im soooo young. He has said before that he thinks im soooo young or has made snarky comments hinting im immature or a kid….. When im the same age his gf was when they became friends and he had a crush on her. Every-time I see him (which is almost everyday) he also finds a way to mention to me that “he is going to marry that girl” which was cute the first time he said it, not so cute when its the 47th time he said it in a month, and thats just to me. Idk if this is relevant but she is also the youngest sibling and her bf is older than both her siblings. I think it is also worth mentioning that people will routinely mistaken me for being 20 upon meeting me or just older, so I think it’s weird that he thinks of me as a child. Idk if you think that a 20 year old is a child and you need to baby talk to them then maybe you dont need to date one? Am I being too harsh? Im more than willing to update with more information or answer questions. AITA?