r/AmIBeingTooSensitive

Ever since me and my boyfriend met hes been…very sweet. We call each other almost everyday. We live separate places right now and I’m trying to finish my ged so I can get a job make enough money to visit him someday. Hes always been very thoughtful asking me what was wrong if he noticed I sounded different. I struggle with something I told him way before we started dating which is my bipolar. I overthink a lot switching between narratives of how he has no interest or he loves me.

Íts something I have struggled with before in relationships, I’m always overthinking. I can keep it to myself and not bother him as ive tried no to. But since yesterday he …sounds like he’s losing interest. Yesterday he was too tired to call which- fine okay.

But he also never texted me at all just sending me random videos throughout the day not asking me if he wanted to hang out woth me, how my day has been which he usually does! I started worrying and so when I asked he told me he was on the game watching the World Cup with his family.

I’m not even mad about that. I know you might think I’m - at first Im always needing reassurance or that I’m too needy. I understand all of that even if he was tired, I tried to. And I did. But after he told me that he didn’t again- ask what ive been doing which he always does. I said I was going to sleep early …because it was before I asked him and then he just accepted it..so after he told me that I was thankful, I thanked him for telling me because I was worrying. Didn’t even care

after I said you didn’t say anything you just went quiet because earlier I was hinting ít…and he was just saying a whole bunch of sweet shit how I shouldn’t worry but all that sweet shit didn’t help me.that didn’t help…in fact I didn’t feel better, after i said that being more direct he just responded with a goodnight and a stupid gif. Like he got mad that I kept going. All that reassurance felt like be quiet

I wouldn’t care, but when you establish a schedule with someone if that someone suddenly changes or acts differently you worry.

I don’t know if I’m being too sensitive…he knows I do tend to worry and even called me clingy and needy because of that. He always tells me afterwards íts not a bad thing. But whenever he does say that it makes me double think to text him…that the way I like being around him ís considered needy. How I lol forward to us talking me dropping compliments ís needy. I have tried to make it not affect me…but I go quiet everytime because it’s like…okay then I’ll stop doing these things if it’s too much for you

I’m wondering if I just…turned him off..or..that I came off as too much. I vented to him before that I thought I was broken I had issuers and he didn’t care. But maybe he finally does care.

Maybe I am needy. I apologize if that’s the case. But I just want to know what’s happening..how this came out of the blue because it feels like that. Hes not asking to call anymore he didn’t even want to the other day he just slept. Now today same thing. Even if he was available afterwards there wasn’t a single hey I was busy today. Wanna call since yesterday and all day today hes been in his own world.

I’m thinking maybe hes right. Maybe I am needy and I …need to change that part of me..but all I want to do is be able to hang out and call my bf. So when that changes yes I’m going to worry.

And the fact ít was his day off…that’s another thing I have tried to understand. He has a job- I’m trying to get one. He probably gets tired more often and I can’t blame him. This was probably his only time he could chill and…if I’m not apart of that I worry. Like suddenly talking to me ís becoming a chore and not something he enjoys.

Tomorrow is another day off, I’m expecting the same thing to happen which…fine..all I wanted today was just a quick hey I’m busy rn don’t even have to tell me why I don’t expect a fucking why! But I have been…worrying…and thay Wouldve made me feel so much better. That I didn’t have a reason to worry, to have my sick brain tell me things that are probably not true.

And I don’t understand why.

Am I just being too sensitive.

I feel like apart of me wants to believe hes losing interest already when another part of me is making me think that we talk almost everyday. I’m not in his life right now…if he doesn’t want to talk to me and enjoy a fucking day to himself okay.

Last night I understood that when he said he was tired. Still I was concerned but I understood. I’m not someone who won’t understand that. I know that’s how I come off as but I need this to work..he makes me so happy and the thought of losing him..makes me realize how quieter my days will be again.

And rn I can’t sleep. I said to him I was going to bed because he never came back and asked to call. Even rn I CANNOT SLEEP because I’m worried. And it fucking sucks, why does my day have to be filled with so much dread because you seem uninterested whilw yours was probably fun and chilling.

I’m not trying to blame anyone I know that íts my fault,most of this probably is because I’m worrying over something I can’t control.

We've been together since we were teenagers. He used to be my sunshine, genuinely the best part of my life. But over time, especially with pressure from his work, he's become someone who prioritizes money and work over basically everything, including me.

Some things he's said to me:

\-"fk off, I don't need you"

\-"It's just periods, you can't even complete this work by this time"

\-When I fell and got hurt: "I didn't push you, you fell on your own"

\-"you cry every time"

\-"I'm your senior, I'm not gonna do this shitty work" (said to put me down)

\-"I can scold you, I'm way above you"

\-"You can't do any job if I haven't given you this one"

\-"You are dumb"

He also makes me do his work even when I'm hurt ( on my periods or wounded) , simply doesn't care about my well-being at all.

I cried for three days straight thinking about all of this. I haven't changed since we were teenagers, I still love him the same way, but he's completely different now. I know he's under pressure, and I get that pressure changes people, but does that give him the right to treat me like this?

Am I overreacting by being this hurt? Or is this actually as bad as it feels to me?

Me and bf of 1yr had an argument . He wants to go to his friends house party where his ex crush will be present and he used to like her a lot and she had publicly rejected him several times yet he still liked her . Even his friends there have disrespected me many times before. I have simply asked him to not go there cuz I am not comfortable with it and said both of us can go on a date instead . Am I being too controlling or toxic? And btw I am not invited here

I recently turned 18 on the Fourth of July and we were holding a party at my sister’s house, it was a party for the Fourth of July but we’re also celebrating mine and my niece’s birthday on that day. At some point, my sister’s lover starts bringing out the desserts and two cakes, mine was cookies n cream ice cream cake, my favorite and what I’ve had for every birthday.

So, I start getting everything set up, the candles, the plates, the knife, and then I wait for my parents to come. About twenty minutes later and they’re still not in the kitchen so I go out and look for them, I find them sitting in the car because my dad got too high and drunk. My mom tells me that my dad is resting and they’ll be inside soon, so I go back and wait in the kitchen. I’m not exactly sure how much time passed but by that time, my cake had melted, I went to go look for a place to store it since the inside freezer was full. By the time I got back, my niece had cut herself a slice and was eating my cake, I got mad but brushed it off since she was family and was supposedly told by my mom that she could.

Then, since the cake was cut, the rest of the family started cutting and leaving since they usually stay around till the cake is cut. I leave to go the to the bathroom to more or less stop myself from crying since it was just a cake and there was another in the fridge but as I come back to the kitchen. My mom was there and started asking what happened to the cake since it was cut and fully melted where I just started crying.

I don’t know if this was reasonable, I felt I was being dramatic, while it was my birthday, the party wasn’t about me and there was another cake in the fridge. There was just something about seeing my favorite cake melted and the happy birthday icing on it dripping onto the table that made me feel unreasonably sad.

Please tell me what you think.

So tonight I had people over for fireworks an my wife's friend brought her boyfriend of like 15 years and at first he seemed like a alright guy an i went out of my way to talk make him feel welcome. Then at some point in the night while lighting of fireworks I was handing out lit sparklers. We had about 20 packs so we were trying to get rid of them. Tbh everyone liked them an people were even drawing their name on the ground with them. When I went to hand one to my wife's friend boyfriend he kinda laughed an say na im cool. I said alright bro and he said "do your little pom pom things with them like the girls were doing". At first I walked away and thought to myself was he being intentionally disrespectful or not. I couldn't help but feel like he was so i went back over to him and asked him what did u just say. And he did say what I thought he did. I told him I didnt appreciate that ciz mind u I've never met this guy a day in my life so to be making cheerleader jokes at me felt very disrespectful to the point where I couldn't jist ignore. What do yal think, is that something yal would of jist took and ignored or would yal have done the same thing. Cuz my wife wanted us to get along an so did I but I felt it was very disrespectful.

So like I told her about my family's situation and stuff and how broke we are,and she understood and was nice about it.

Okay maybe I'm js a jealous bitch but like she always shows the new things she gets to buy whenever she goes out😭maybe she's js happy and wanted to show me but all I feel is envy.

I feel guilty about even spending 3 cents,she says she's broke as shit but it doesn't seem that way.

Idk this is stupid sorry

My sweet husband said "What about that, you both have the same name..." or something to that effect. Then the woman said, "I'm sorry." Why did the woman say this? Did she just not want to talk? Why would someone say "I'm sorry" when they didn't do anything wrong? I did not participate in this conversation at all. I just smiled politely and listened. Whether I am being too sensitive or not, I still would like to know why.

I used to weigh 98 kg, and over time I worked really hard and lost weight. I’m now 54 kg, and I was proud of myself.
The problem is my boyfriend keeps making comments about my weight.

He tells me things like, “Lose more weight, you’re fat,” “I don’t like fat girls,” or “I won’t marry you if you’re fat.” Sometimes he says I should be 50 kg or even 45 kg.

When I tell him those comments hurt me, he says it’s just a joke and that I get mad too easily.

The truth is, his comments have made me doubt myself. Even though I’ve lost so much weight, I still look in the mirror and feel like I’m not good enough.

I’ve started hating my body and worrying that I’ll never be enough for him.

Am I being too sensitive, or are these comments unhealthy? Has anyone else been in a relationship where “jokes” slowly damaged their confidence? I’d really appreciate honest opinions.

My long-term boyfriend and I are clearly in very different tax brackets.. I have lived on the coast my whole life, and I grew up driving the boat and fishing with my family. We have smaller boats and an 18-foot boat we have gone offshore with. My boyfriend does not live at the coast, but his family likes to fish. He came fishing with my dad and me recently and was talking about how he did not have enough room to fish on our boat (implying it was too small), which rubbed me the wrong way. Well, his parents just purchased a 33-foot boat; they do not live near the coast and have probably been fishing 3 times in the last 5 years. I am getting so annoyed from this and I do not know why, I am happy for him but at the same time, I just do not understand why they need such a large boat when they don't live at the beach and it's just not necessary for the kind of fishing they want to do. Why am I so annoyed??

Edit: I forgot to mention, his family is considering buying a beach house so they can keep the boat there..

My girlfriend was at the river house with her family and her mothers best friends son was there with his friend who I both work with but I’m not friends with and she called me but my coworker was on the phone calling me instead of her. I’m not close with them and I felt like that was disrespectful. They were just trying to get me up there and he asked if I was working today and she was in the background saying “he didn’t work today!” . I feel that was intrusive for him to be calling me off my woman’s phone and it’s weird she thought that was cool

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost **three years**, but I’ve only met his mom **twice**—once on his birthday and once at his graduation.
Both times, I felt this really cold and intense vibe from her. Maybe it’s just me, but I couldn’t shake the feeling that she didn’t like me.
For context, I’m 5’4”, morena, have long hair, and I always have a full set of long nails. I like dressing up and taking care of myself, but I don’t think I look disrespectful or inappropriate.
One time, I happened to see a Messenger conversation from his mom where she said that my boyfriend was being “dragged by a non-believer.” I immediately assumed she was referring to me.
The thing is… that’s completely untrue.
Yes, I don’t post about religion online, but I **do** go to church. I grew up in a family that values faith, and we were raised to respect everyone regardless of their beliefs or appearance. We don’t judge people just because they look different or express themselves differently.
What hurts me the most isn’t even what his mom may think—it’s that **my boyfriend has never corrected that misunderstanding** (at least not that I know of). He just lets his family believe whatever they want about me.
Another thing that bothers me is that he can’t even say “I love you” out loud when he’s around his family. If we’re on a phone call and they’re nearby, he’ll whisper it or avoid saying it altogether. It makes me feel like he’s embarrassed of me or afraid of what they’ll think.
I’ve never asked him to choose between me and his family. I just wish he’d stand up for me when I’m being misunderstood.
At this point, I don’t even know if his family dislikes me because of who I am, because of how I look, or because they’ve created this image of me that isn’t true.
Am I overthinking this? Or would you also feel hurt if your partner never defended you against assumptions his family had about you?

I 28 M, and my partner 24 M, during a break in our relationship started to see other people, but now we’re back together. My partner would like to remain friends with one of his former crushes. He said he no longer has a crush on him, but he was acting very weird when I wanted to get to know his new now friend some more because of that & the fact that I have a child with my partner, I wanted to get to know this person. I ended up asking this ex crush about if my now partner again revealed that he had feelings for my now again partner . Ex crush lied and I told as informed by my now again partner that he revealed that he informed the ex crush about the crush before i went to meet the ex crush before I meet the crush to pick up toys for my infant son.

I was baffled and mad. My partner said so what that he lied, we all make little white lies.

How bad was what I did? Am I a weirdo?

My friendships in real life were potentially weird and dare I say innapropriate - and I’m pretty much all to blame.

I’m 20 now but when I was 19-

My friends were 45f, 17m, 17m, 16m, 15m, 15f, and 14f and I’m I think a 19f but I’m still trying to understand if I’m trans or not but that’s a separate thing. Anyways most of these people are from my high school that I graduated from in May. I did however get held back (not my fault it was in 2nd grade for health issues).

Anyways here are the actions I want opinions and advice on- like actual advice and opinions not just the one off “yeah” or something short with no real value. This isn’t Am I the asshole so if you’re looking to judge without any explanation or advice go on that subreddit- this goes for people who aren’t judging too. I need explanations and actual answers not just blind “it’s fine” stuff. Neither of these approaches are helpful.

Anyways-

Ive bought spray paint for them (17m, 15f, 14f) because well I’m an adult and they aren’t and instead of just doing whatever we go off into the town and explore train tracks, and spay paint the water run off areas (idk what to call them). They usually already have spray paint on them.. so I’m not too worried about vandalism (uh hopefully).

But here’s where the things I’m mostly panicking about are- for context I was also hurt by an adult emotionally relying on me- but that wasn’t my intention in these scenarios- I just have a major issue of not thinking before I speak and uh always telling the truth- anyways-

When I was hanging out with my friends walking around my friend who is 17 had an ex that was in my grade. I told him like “yeah I didn’t really like that friend group one of them rejected me and completely ghosted me” or something alone those lines and my 15 yo friend when “ohh that’s awful who does that”

Looking back on it I do wonder if this is weird conversation to be having- I mean with the 17 year old I’m not really concerned since we’ve been talking like this for 3 years ever since we’ve know one another- but I don’t really know whats appropriate conversation for a 15 and 14 year old to be listening to. Maybe some advice on this piece would help me understand?

The other was when I was with my 15 year old and 17 year old friend. We were hanging out under a bridge near a river- and they kept praising my parents for being the coolest. I told them they were actually not that cool all the time and that they “let my abuser into my house for 4 years after the fact” and that I believed they probably feel guilty for that- but I don’t know is I said “sa” or like you know the first part of it that starts with “s” as an sexual but either way I didn’t explain in detail what happened (because god no).

But I really kinda panic because it’s like holy shit I did not mean to be that weird grown up that “talks about weird shit with minors”- and at first I didn’t really view it that way but I’m not sure how other people view it since i don’t really know if I mentioned what kind- but I also don’t know if i did that would be considered being sexually explicit to minors.. which worries me.

It was also I must note when my 15 year old friend was away from us but I don’t thing far enough that she didn’t hear. My 17 year old friend tried to guess who it was- and I told him it’s best not to say and (I think I may have said it was fine but idk) I wasn’t trying to trauma dump or emotionally rely on them- but I did feel bad because honest I’m not sure what constitutes that- I was simply trying to be honest but I know it’s still… errr not great probably? I’m not sure to what scale tho.
If someone could tell me that’d be much appreciated.

Anyway my friend who is turning 17 is having a birthday party and I originally cancelled because of this- and I don’t wanna hurt anyone. I’m just really afraid that I’m a danger to my friends or if what I’ve done is really bad-
And even then I feel really guilty that my friends are minors and I’m an adult.

I have ocd and real event ocd so before you judge me for not knowing if these things are a big deal or not- it’s not because I don’t care or I believe my actions are justified, it just means that my brain often warps things. I’m afraid to go. I don’t want to go- I feel like an adult who’s invading everyone’s lives, and not being friends with my own age- but if I drop these kids- like I really want to so I don’t effect their lives negatively anymore I don’t plan on making anymore.

Can anyone help me?

So this happened a while ago but it still pops into my head sometimes.

I was scrolling through Instagram and liked a model's picture. It wasn't someone I knew, wasn't someone I was talking to, literally just a random post while doomscrolling. I didn't even think twice about it.

My girlfriend found out and it turned into a massive argument.!!!

She said it was disrespectful, embarrassing, and made her feel like she wasn't enough. I tried explaining that it wasn't me trying to get anyone's attention or cheat or anything like that. To me it was just... a like. No different than liking a nice car or a cool landscape.

What hurt more wasn't even the argument. It was how long it lasted. It got brought up over and over again, and I ended up feeling guilty over something I genuinely never thought had that much meaning.

Looking back, idk if I was just being clueless or if we simply had very different boundaries when it came to social media.

I'm curious where most people stand on this.

Would you be upset if your partner liked a random model's photo on Instagram? Is that actually disrespectful, or is it something that's been blown way out of proportion?

Genuinely asking because idk if I was the problem here or if we just had completely different expectations.

I (28f) started talking to a guy (33m) earlier in the week. We came to the conclusion that we would better suit a friends with benefits situation. He isn’t my typical type but I’m trying to just enjoy people before I move countries at the end of the year.

We met up on Wednesday, we were drinking and he was talking, I couldn’t really get a word in but I put it down to nervousness. We did end up hooking up and it was great. But afterwards he randomly goes “just letting you know you can’t catch feelings for me” I was annoyed because we’d be pretty clear in our message conversations about this whole topic. It felt oddly condescending.

The days after, I was texting him checking in and wanting to chat because he’d decided he wanted me to come stay with him last night (Friday). I have an anxiety and am prone to anxious attachment style when I don’t properly know where I stand with someone, initially in the first couple days I was chill because he seemed chill but in person he was really over bearing and opinionated and I really wasn’t sure how I felt about him. Yesterday during the day I was incredibly anxious, was having a terrible day and was messaging him about what time he’d be free and so on. He sent a pretty snappy message how he isn’t a big texter and didn’t want me to text him during the work day. I said something like, “now I know, sometimes we gotta figure out the dynamics and I understand” for the me, the issue was addressed and I thought we were moving on. But after that he was super blunt and my gut was screaming that I shouldn’t go to his house to stay.

But after his post work drinks, he was drunk and friendly, I wanted to give him the chance I guess. So I went knowing that I could leave and go home if I needed to and if I felt uncomfortable. As soon as I walked in the door, he goes on this massive rant about me texting him during the day and how it’s a massive turn off. Having had a very anxious day, I was taken off guard and completely dissociated. Because he’d been so excited in his texts as I was in the uber to his place I guess I was expecting some hot make out as soon as I got there. After a minute or two of me not really sure what to say, I excused myself to the toilet and called a friend to pick me up. I didn’t feel comfortable and I knew being with him wasn’t what I needed after a high cortisol inducing day.

I came back out and said, “my friend will come get me soon”, he looked shocked and got all woe is me saying things like “I always do this”, “I’m just an asshole” and he just went on and on for a bit. It was uncomfortable and I switched off again cause I wasn’t gonna tend to his ego and tell him he did nothing wrong. Anytime I tried to switch the subject to something else he would find some way to argue with me, mansplain and tell me I’m wrong. At one point, I got my drinks out of the fridge and put them in my bag and his eyes went wide “oh you’re actually leaving” and I was like “yeah I just don’t think we’re compatible, sure the sex was good but I don’t do well with conflict” and he instantly goes “you’re weak, means you’ll never stand up for yourself” um sir, I am leaving your house because you’re making me uncomfortable and being extremely manipulative and condescending, I definitely am standing up for myself in my own way. It took about 30 minutes for my friend to arrive, I did book an uber at one point cause I needed outta there asap but my friend called and said they were 10 minutes away and I felt like I needed to have a rant to someone before I got home, so I cancelled the uber and braced myself for the next 10 minutes. I tried to ask him what was the best part of your day, shouldn’t have done that, he went on a big spiel about he was really looking forward to me staying over and that I’ve ruined his day. Once my friend got there I unlocked the door and SPRINTED to the car.

I kept saying we just weren’t compatible but when I got home and replayed everything it felt like more than just incompatibility, it was such an icky experience. But am I overreacting by instantly deciding to leave?

**TL;DR:**
I (28F) started a casual/FWB thing with a guy (33M). First meet goes well sexually but he immediately drops a “don’t catch feelings” comment that feels condescending. In the days after, texting dynamic gets weird, he says he’s not a texter and gets snappy. I get anxious, but still go to his place after he’s friendly again.
When I arrived, he basically launched into a rant about me texting him during work and criticises me. I feel uncomfortable, dissociate, call a friend to pick me up, and decide to leave. He then gets passive-aggressive, guilt-trippy, and finishes with insults like calling me “weak.”
I leaves and later realise the whole vibe felt off, not just “incompatibility”. I want to know if I overreacted by leaving wanting to leave immediately.

My (f21) boyfriend (31m) has made a comment about my lifestyle and my future that really brushed me the wrong way.

I have recently moved out to US from overseas with a work and travel program for students. I’ve been experiencing a lot of hard time adapting to this new environment. I am a big visionary so I do see this experience as a way to expand my experience in this world and achieve better things for myself and others. This feeling has been crystallised in the past few weeks because of the tremendous shift from one place to another and the struggles that came with it.

On our recent phone calls with my boyfriend who is at home I’ve been expressing some of my struggles and he has repeatedly mentioned how coming here was a bad idea (knowing that I cannot go back without making some money at least to cover the debt I got into in order to come here). I would’ve understood and seen it as neutral if he did not imply that this is something that people that waste their lives do, that I will turn out being older and hating my younger self for making such decisions (his own words).

It really bothered me so I tried drawing a boundary and letting him know that this experience should not be disqualified in that manner because regardless of the struggles, I am also learning a lot of new things about myself and the way I see the world. I also mentioned that this experience has helped me with building more confidence and being more hopeful about my ability to create great things about my life though they’re not crystal clear yet.

After this, he looked really annoyed with the things that I was saying and said that “I should enjoy it while it lasts because once I’m back home, I’ll go back to Zero.”

I am struggling to see it as a good-willed comment. Am I taking it too seriously? Could you please share some perspective?

My adult daughter’s friend eats at our house at least twice a week but never contributes toward the meal nor brings any drinks or snacks. She has suggested to him that he bring something but he always declines. Neither he, nor his family reciprocate with dinner invites for my daughter. I feel like he is being a mooch. Short of refusing to allow him to come over for dinner, how should we teach this young adult social etiquette?

I'm literally having a fucking mental breakdown over this.

I was out with my friends and ordered a dessert drink. When the waiter brought it over, he asked who ordered it. My friend pointed at me, he looked at me, smirked, and said, "Oh, seems like it" while looking me up and down. Everyone laughed. I've had people comment on my weight before, so I instantly took it as him saying I looked like the kind of person who'd order a dessert drink because I'm fat.I genuinely haven't stopped crying since. I don't even want people looking at me anymore. I don't want to leave the bathroom. I feel so fucking disgusting and I can't stop replaying it in my head. Am I losing my mind? I feel like Im being wayy too sensitive about this.

Edit: no need be a dick and DM me saying some mean shit for no reason. I asked a simple question and I'm trying to be respectful with my responses.

I don’t know who to ask and I don’t want to ask my friends because they hate each other a lot like stray cats and it’s make me sad and I don’t want to choose between them because I love them both equally but my friend who hates my friend (M) thinks I’m choosing them over her
(Friend one who I give the name ocean) I knew her since like birth because we our blood aka cousins
and my other friend who I meant like 4-5 years ago and I don’t want to choose between them because I barely have any friends and most friends (use to be) were oceans exs
and her friends but I barely have any hobbies with them
And M is genuinely a good friend
I feel like I’m in the wrong and I can’t really explain it
(Cause I suck at explaining)
any wisdom from online strangers?😓

My husband goes out every weekend with his friends, usually Friday or Saturday evening and spends the night. He always says he’ll be back early in the morning but is always 2-3 hours past the time he said he would be home. And then when he does get home he is usually tired and/or hungover. I’m a SAHM to our toddler and I’m so grateful that I get to be a SAHM. It just sucks that it feels like we never get to see my husband/her dad and spend real meaningful time together as a family. He works a very demanding job. 12 hour days 5 days a week. He’s been working the night shift for the past year, 1pm-1am so we only get to see him for a few hours in the morning each day. And still, sometimes during the week he will stay at his mom’s house because it’s closer to his work or he will stay at his coworkers house overnight sometimes or have stuff he needs to do in the morning so most of the time we don’t even get to see him everyday. On average I would say we see him about 3-4 days a week with only one of those days being an actual full day. It’s hard to feel like a family when we don’t ever get to spend time as a family. I know it’s hard for our daughter to not see him as much as she would like. She says things about it to me, as well as when she’s playing pretend by herself. She will make her toys go to work and be sad about it. It breaks my heart. He’s a great dad and plays with her a lot but I feel like he doesn’t prioritize family time the same way I try to and definitely does not prioritize our relationship and connecting either. We’ve been going through a rough patch the past few months in our relationship and need to be connecting now more than ever but it doesn’t seem like he gets that or cares. We can’t even sleep in the same bed/room right now either because his snoring has gotten so bad that it wakes me up. He’s finally in the process of trying to get his sleep apnea fixed but it’s gonna be a while so that makes me feel even more disconnected. And it sucks too because the friend he goes to hang out with most of the time is married with kids and very clearly cares about spending time with his family because they always hang out at his house so that he can be there with his wife and kids and he brings his wife and kids everywhere he goes with his friends and his wife is such a big part of his overall social life. And I try to be a part of my husband’s life and want to hang out his friends the same way his friend’s wife does but he doesn’t invite me most of the time. And I get along great with his friends me and his friends wife have hung out just her and I several times and it’s always fun. And It’s totally okay for him to want to hang out with his friends alone, I want him to keep his individuality for sure but it’s hard to not feel left out when he’s always with his friends family and leaves his family behind. And it’s not equal “time off” he doesn’t ever ask if I am doing anything with my friends, or if I even want to. It’s always him going out with his friends. I also take care of our daughter 90% of the time which is fine I appreciate how hard he works for us and I love being a SAHM but I would like a break sometimes to ya know. I only ever get one full day to myself a week if I’m lucky. Sorry this is long it’s just a lot that goes into this and all the little things add up over time. When I bring any of this up to him he just gets mad and says he’ll cancel but I don’t want him to cancel because then it will be a whole big thing and I don’t want that. I want him to want to spend more time with us. I want to spend more time together as a family. I don’t want him to feel like I’m nagging or trying to control him. Which I’m worried that he does feel that way. Am I overreacting and being too sensitive about it all?