u/Brave_Pick468

I need some advice on what to do about my current girlfriend. I care about her, but she acts extremely cringe in public. It feels like she is completely dysregulated when it comes to expressing herself around other people. Here are a couple of examples:
**With my friends:** On several occasions, during conversations with friends she had just met a few minutes earlier, she couldn't immediately get into the flow of the chatter—which I think is completely normal. However, she doesn't seem to read the room or match the tone at all. Every single time, she hogs the spotlight by loudly interrupting everyone else to rant about her own personal business. At first, my friends are tolerant, but because she keeps doing it over and over, the cringe makes everyone completely ignore her, treating her like a disruption. And when she goes on these rants, she doesn't stop after a few seconds—she can go on for minutes and minutes.
**With my family:** Unfortunately, she once completely blew up at me over a minor thing, scolding me like a child in front of my relatives. Specifically, I had accidentally damaged some souvenirs we had bought that same day, which I immediately made arrangements to replace. While she was upstairs taking a shower, I took the items to show my aunt and uncle—who live in the area where we bought them—just to ask where I could find identical replacements nearby. She actually came back downstairs just to double down on berating me, because heaven forbid I touch her precious belongings (a grand total of €35 worth of ceramics).
Unfortunately, incidents like the second one make her very unattractive to me, to the point where I lose all physical attraction to her for days. I know that as time passes, I get used to it again and we get back to being good, but I know these episodes will keep happening. The worst part is that she makes these gaffes whenever social situations come up, so it gives me anxiety knowing she could do something embarrassing at any second.
I'm struggling to figure out whether I can hold out hope that she might change enough to make her behavior tolerable, or if this is a lost cause.

I need some advice on what to do about my current girlfriend. I care about her, but she acts extremely cringe in public. It feels like she is completely dysregulated when it comes to expressing herself around other people. Here are a couple of examples:
With my friends: On several occasions, during conversations with friends she had just met a few minutes earlier, she couldn't immediately get into the flow of the chatter—which I think is completely normal. However, she doesn't seem to read the room or match the tone at all. Every single time, she hogs the spotlight by loudly interrupting everyone else to rant about her own personal business. At first, my friends are tolerant, but because she keeps doing it over and over, the cringe makes everyone completely ignore her, treating her like a disruption. And when she goes on these rants, she doesn't stop after a few seconds—she can go on for minutes and minutes.
With my family: Unfortunately, she once completely blew up at me over a minor thing, scolding me like a child in front of my relatives. Specifically, I had accidentally damaged some souvenirs we had bought that same day, which I immediately made arrangements to replace. While she was upstairs taking a shower, I took the items to show my aunt and uncle—who live in the area where we bought them—just to ask where I could find identical replacements nearby. She actually came back downstairs just to double down on berating me, because heaven forbid I touch her precious belongings (a grand total of €35 worth of ceramics).
Unfortunately, incidents like the second one make her very unattractive to me, to the point where I lose all physical attraction to her for days. I know that as time passes, I get used to it again and we get back to being good, but I know these episodes will keep happening. The worst part is that she makes these gaffes whenever social situations come up, so it gives me anxiety knowing she could do something embarrassing at any second.
I'm struggling to figure out whether I can hold out hope that she might change enough to make her behavior tolerable, or if this is a lost cause.