My bf didn’t invite me to his party
My bf hosted a party at his place for one of his friends birthdays that I didn’t get invited to. I found out that there were gonna be girls there from another gf who also didn’t get an invite. I don’t know the birthday guy very well and the reasoning why I wasn’t invited was cause the other gf wasnt invited either. I’m really upset to think I wouldn’t be invited to this party with 15-20 people there and it makes me spiral a little about the fact there are other women there. I understand the fact that I don’t know the guy whose birthday it was personally, but shouldn’t it be a given that girlfriends are invited if there are other women there? I feel like I come off as insecure when I say it out loud, but something doesn’t sit right with me about the whole situation. I don’t know if the whole party was close friends only but I do know I was not specifically invited by the birthday guy, but the fact it’s at their house should mean they can invite whoever they want. I personally don’t ever see myself being in a situation like this where I wouldn’t invite him (unless it was women only).
I’m really not insecure when it comes to him doing things without me and I also want to respect that he has friends and I don’t get an auto invite to every single outing. I also understand not everyone wants SOs there, but I genuinely haven’t intruded on any of their group hangouts before. It would be one thing if it wasn’t at his own house or was a small group, but this seems more intentional. I always encourage him to do things with his friends and I never expect and invite to their nights out. He doesn’t go out with them super often and recently every time he’s gone out has been with me and my friends.
We’ve been together for over 2 years and he’s never given me any reason to not trust him. We’re both 21 and his friends are in college. Anyways am I being too insecure and sensitive, or is this an actual reason to be upset. Looking for all opinions and am very open to hearing from other perspectives!!
Edit: he already apologized and said he understands why I feel that way and he will be better in future situations but I don’t feel like we had an actual productive conversation about it and I didn’t get an actual reason why I wasn’t invited.