u/supermonistic

I have a friend that I’ve been hanging out with a lot recently and today they offered us to hang out together at their house at their request.

I said I was excited to come over and hang out and have a good time and talk about life. I was really looking forward to it.

I messaged them early in the morning about what time should I show up figuring that probably noon or 2 o’clock might be best. They didn’t really respond back until 3 PM and then that was to say that they weren’t sure when they would be free because after they get off work, they wanted to go to the gym and they weren’t really sure what time they would leave the gym.

I said no worries and just to let me know when it got closer to that time. It got way later and they finally texted me saying that they wouldn’t be able to meet up with me and apologized for it.

I just feel kind of weird about it. It was their suggestion to hang out with me today, so I kind of cleared my whole schedule to hang out with them. Then when I actually asked them what time they wanted to hang out, they couldn’t give me an exact time and ended up canceling the plans.

I’m just feeling a little bit irritated that I kind of wasted my whole day because I was waiting for them to tell me essentially when it would be a good time to meet up with them.

Thoughts and opinions?

From what information we can garner about his life and exploits he was a from Canada, way out in the Northwest Territories specifically. Somewhere around the time of 1832. In 1845 we see him as a small child when his mutant abilities first manifested.

Following this almost 20 years later we see him fighting in the American civil war. Presumably on the side of the Union (I hope). Why is he there?

I can only reason that either:

1. He felt a strong desire to help fight against slavery in the United States.

- This seems odd though considering he is a legal resident of Canada so he shouldn’t have even been legally able to enlist in the United States Army AND if he felt particularly strong about discrimination there was plenty of that work that needed to be done with anti-Indigenous discrimination in Canada still. Including violent fighting.

2. He just really wanted to see the world and fight in a war because it was exciting.

- This probably seems more reasonable especially considering his brother was also fighting alongside him and his brother is less bothered by oppression and cruelty. But James is a much more compassionate person so it also doesn’t fit extremely well.

Several months ago, I hung out with a friend and we went to a video game tournament together. I signed up to play in the tournament and she wanted to watch me perform. At one point during the tournament she got really hungry and left to get a sandwich and that’s exactly when they called me up to play. When she came back, she asked if I had gone yet and I lied and said I hadn’t. I felt guilty immediately in the moment because I knew lying would come back to bite me, but also because I felt guilty that she didn’t get to watch.

Immediately afterwards, when she found out, she was pretty pissed at me understandably so and I apologize profusely. It didn’t impact our friendship too much. I haven’t lied to her since and she’s invited me multiple times to hang out with her one on one at different events doing different things. So it seems like things are going well.

So last night, I went out with several friends to bars drinking and having a good time. And the friend I lied to was there as well. Throughout most of the night everyone was having a great time and things went extremely well.

We ended up going back to her house and everyone was a little bit inebriated, and everyone started having side conversations. She then brought up the fact that I lied to her several months ago again and started asking me a series of questions about it. Including asking if I had gotten therapy to address the fact that I’ve lied to people. And asking what the root cause of it is etc.

I definitely understand that it was a stupid and morally wrong thing to do to lie to my friend, but I was a little bit, taken a back by her, bringing it up. I just politely apologized again and expressed remorse for doing it. After I got home, I sent her a text message apologizing for lying to her and telling her that I’ve tried to become better since doing that, etc., etc..

Something about the situation though has made me feel a little bit uncomfortable. She has every right to call me out lying, but I thought we had moved past the situation. Am I being unreasonable for thinking it was an odd thing for her to bring up kinda randomly?

TLDR: several months ago I lied to one of my friends for a silly reason at a video game tournament. We moved on and I thought all was forgiven until she brought it up again today after a night out of drinking completely out of the blue. Asking me a series of questions about whether or not I’ve learned my lesson and if I’ve gotten therapy about it. Why would she do this? Am I wrong to feel uncomfortable?

Several months ago, I hung out with a friend and we went to a video game tournament together. I signed up to play in the tournament and she wanted to watch me perform. At one point during the tournament she got really hungry and left to get a sandwich and that’s exactly when they called me up to play. When she came back, she asked if I had gone yet and I lied and said I hadn’t. I felt guilty immediately in the moment because I knew lying would come back to bite me, but also because I felt guilty that she didn’t get to watch.

Immediately afterwards, when she found out, she was pretty pissed at me understandably so and I apologize profusely. It didn’t impact our friendship too much. I haven’t lied to her since and she’s invited me multiple times to hang out with her one on one at different events doing different things. So it seems like things are going well.

So last night, I went out with several friends to bars drinking and having a good time. And the friend I lied to was there as well. Throughout most of the night everyone was having a great time and things went extremely well.

We ended up going back to her house and everyone was a little bit inebriated, and everyone started having side conversations. She then brought up the fact that I lied to her several months ago again and started asking me a series of questions about it. Including asking if I had gotten therapy to address the fact that I’ve lied to people. And asking what the root cause of it is etc.

I definitely understand that it was a stupid and morally wrong thing to do to lie to my friend, but I was a little bit, taken a back by her, bringing it up. I just politely apologized again and expressed remorse for doing it. After I got home, I sent her a text message apologizing for lying to her and telling her that I’ve tried to become better since doing that, etc., etc..

Something about the situation though has made me feel a little bit uncomfortable. She has every right to call me out lying, but I thought we had moved past the situation. Am I being unreasonable for thinking it was an odd thing for her to bring up kinda randomly?

TLDR: several months ago I lied to one of my friends for a silly reason at a video game tournament. We moved on and I thought all was forgiven until she brought it up again today after a night out of drinking completely out of the blue. Asking me a series of questions about whether or not I’ve learned my lesson and if I’ve gotten therapy about it. Why would she do this? Am I wrong to feel uncomfortable?

Much ado is often spoken about Batman and his one rule. Namely his insistence to protect the sanctity of life.

This is often called into question when thinking about what should happen to his more notably… unhinged, foes. The Joker most especially

Putting all that aside, let us presume that Batman has successfully made a legal case to have Joker permanently imprisoned… with the added stipulation that the Joker will inevitably receive the death penalty.

This puts Batman in an interesting situation; he would not be directly responsible for the death of the joker, the state would be. Through a perfectly legal systemic process.

However Batman fundamentally believes that anyone can change for the better. From this view it seems he might be opposed to the death penalty.

Would Batman intervene to rescue the Joker from facing the death penalty?

Deadpool is among a select few superheroes who across his numerous multiverse counterparts seems to have a “fourth wall awareness”

This consists usually of a few things:

1. He is able to perceive the nature of his reality’s medium (i.e. he knows if he is in a comic book vs a videogame etc)

2. He knows things she should not normally be aware of (authors, cannon plot elements he wasn’t around for, future storylines, real life events etc)

3. He can use and abuse his knowledge of the fourth wall to his own advantage (jumping across panels, hitting people with health bars and word balloons etc)

On earth 616 this version of Deadpool seems to know he is in a movie. He also is able to stop and start the film and call other characters by the actors that portray them… which begs the question

Within his own mind… does Deadpool believe he is the actor Ryan Reynolds playing himself?

Keep in mind:

1. This film version of Deadpool is aware that he is in a film. He has even literally seen the “20th Century Fox” logo before

2. He is aware that Blade is played by Wesley Snipes and wolverine is played by Hugh Jackman.

3. He is aware that Ryan Reynolds has other films like Green Lantern. He even jokes about this twice.

So me and a person I have a crush on who I was at one point reasonably sure had a crush on me too is making me utterly confused. I’ll explain

As recently as the beginning of this year, my crush frequently made reference to doing things together in the spring and summertime. Several of which we have already done or I thought we would do by this point. Things like doing a half marathon together we went to several music events together. I went to one of her musical performances in the local area. We frequently talk about our shared interests at least in the past. Etc

We even set up, at her request, a weekly meal preparation day, where we would gather materials and make meals for the week together at her house.

She even exhibited some of what I thought would be openly flirtatious behavior. We would sit in her room alone together while she got ready. There was even a moment a few weeks ago, where we passed an apple tree in the city and she requested to sit on my shoulders to reach up some of the higher apples in the tree.

Recently, I asked her out on a sort of kind of date to go hiking and then grab some food afterwards. Because we both enjoy hiking. Five days went by without her responding to the message. I sent a follow up asking if everything in real life is going OK because before this point she had alluded to the fact that she was getting some anxiety about losing her job and needing to find a new one. Two days have passed since I sent that message.

I thought she was really displaying a lot of strong signals that she was attracted to me now I’m not really sure what to think. What should I do? Thoughts and opinions?

Spider-Man maybe moreso than almost any other superhero in New York on earth 616 (outside of maybe the notable exception of Daredevil) has an absolutely terrible relationship with his superhero career.

He is nearly constantly failing in his personal romantic and platonic relationships. He struggles to find work. He has never really accomplished much professionally as a scientist and his education is typically nothing further than a bachelor’s degree despite him being tremendously brilliant as we see him demonstrate consistently.

But… he perhaps moreso than almost ANY other superhero on earth has maybe the most extensive connection of friends and allies in the superhero community. He is considered a valuable ally and well-liked by many people from the Avengers to the FF and the X-Men (most of the time). Even a good number of his villains at least respect him… so why does he so rarely ask for help?

Hey everyone, just need a bit of advice

So basically last semester, which would be the spring semester, I got a registration block put on my account due to making “insufficient, academic progress”. I was frustrated by this, but I was already having a pretty rough winter with my mental health anyway. I figured I would take the semester off since I couldn’t physically register for classes because my father had passed away that winter and I just needed the time off to get my life together.

I was then going to try to take classes again during the summer, but I had found that because I didn’t take classes during the spring. One of my academic grants was applied to my account as a charge that I owed the university. Essentially meaning that I couldn’t attend classes until I paid off this debt. Which was over $7000 dollars.

That was eventually sent to collections just because obviously I don’t have 7000 dollars laying around. But I tried my best to accommodate the university. My student financial account now says I owe zero dollars but my testudo says I “need to submit a reenrollment application with the Student Success Office”. I have no idea what this means or what to even do to begin that process.

Please help

TLDR: my life personally and financially spiraled out of control early this year with the death of my father and a deep depression, trying to get my life and school back on track and could use some advice and guidance

Hello everyone

I’ll try to make the story as brief as possible, but here goes… i’ve been in a friendship for the better part of two years with someone that I’m beginning to realize lacks boundaries and a basic sense of respect for me and I feel like I’m in a toxic friendship with them.

I’ll give two stories that recently happened as an example. Recently this friend, who we will call Anna, asked me if I wanted to go hang out with her at a club. The club was having a DJ do a special set that night so tickets were required for entry. I agreed to go and she was excited that we were gonna get to hang out after not hanging out for a significantly long time. She then asked me to cover the cost of both the tickets. Which was a little bit irritating, but I understood a little bit also because she’s been going through some financial stress recently.

I covered the cost of the tickets and the event for the DJ set started at 10 PM so she agreed to meet with me at 9 PM that night so that we could convene together a pregame and then we go out afterwards. I drive over to the area where her house is and I’m there at 9 o’clock and she text me and says that she would maybe need some time to get ready so meet up at 10:30. Completely understandable because sometimes people just need additional time and maybe they aren’t at their house at the precise moment. I figure it’s no worries. I could just walk around town until it’s time for us to start heading out. Then 10:30 rolls around, then 11 o’clock. I asked her if she needs more time to get ready or that if she wants, we could just hang out at a different point if she’s too busy at the moment. She text me back and says that she’ll be on the way soon, she was just on a date. She said the time again to 11:30. 11:30 comes and goes and it’s almost 11:50 at night. At this point, I’m just getting ready to leave because I feel like my time has been disrespected and I just was about to text her that we could perhaps hang out a different time if she’s too busy. She then comes casually walking up to me as if nothing is wrong, laughing and completely inebriated.

Story 2. Recently she became very sick and was talking about needing to take a break from some other activities so that she could have a little bit of time to recover. I said no worries and offered to even pick her up some medicine if she wanted it. She declined my request and went to sleep that night. The next day around two or three in the evening, I text her and ask her how she’s feeling and if she’s recovered at all or if she’s feeling any better. She text me back that she hasn’t gotten any better and sort of snaps at me about “why would she feel any better if she just got sick yesterday”. I felt a little irritated because all I was asking was if she felt any better and she completely blew up in my face.

This is a person who I have done, countless chores for before helped her clean her house. She’s gotten angry at me for a long stretches of time without even telling me why before and frequently will forget to text me back four days at a time. Is this a friendship worth salvaging?

Hello everyone

I’ll try to make the story as brief as possible, but here goes… i’ve been in a friendship for the better part of two years with someone that I’m beginning to realize lacks boundaries and a basic sense of respect for me and I feel like I’m in a toxic friendship with them.

I’ll give two stories that recently happened as an example. Recently this friend, who we will call Anna, asked me if I wanted to go hang out with her at a club. The club was having a DJ do a special set that night so tickets were required for entry. I agreed to go and she was excited that we were gonna get to hang out after not hanging out for a significantly long time. She then asked me to cover the cost of both the tickets. Which was a little bit irritating, but I understood a little bit also because she’s been going through some financial stress recently.

I covered the cost of the tickets and the event for the DJ set started at 10 PM so she agreed to meet with me at 9 PM that night so that we could convene together a pregame and then we go out afterwards. I drive over to the area where her house is and I’m there at 9 o’clock and she text me and says that she would maybe need some time to get ready so meet up at 10:30. Completely understandable because sometimes people just need additional time and maybe they aren’t at their house at the precise moment. I figure it’s no worries. I could just walk around town until it’s time for us to start heading out. Then 10:30 rolls around, then 11 o’clock. I asked her if she needs more time to get ready or that if she wants, we could just hang out at a different point if she’s too busy at the moment. She text me back and says that she’ll be on the way soon, she was just on a date. She said the time again to 11:30. 11:30 comes and goes and it’s almost 11:50 at night. At this point, I’m just getting ready to leave because I feel like my time has been disrespected and I just was about to text her that we could perhaps hang out a different time if she’s too busy. She then comes casually walking up to me as if nothing is wrong, laughing and completely inebriated.

Story 2. Recently she became very sick and was talking about needing to take a break from some other activities so that she could have a little bit of time to recover. I said no worries and offered to even pick her up some medicine if she wanted it. She declined my request and went to sleep that night. The next day around two or three in the evening, I text her and ask her how she’s feeling and if she’s recovered at all or if she’s feeling any better. She text me back that she hasn’t gotten any better and sort of snaps at me about “why would she feel any better if she just got sick yesterday”. I felt a little irritated because all I was asking was if she felt any better and she completely blew up in my face.

This is a person who I have done, countless chores for before helped her clean her house. She’s gotten angry at me for a long stretches of time without even telling me why before and frequently will forget to text me back four days at a time. Is this a friendship worth salvaging?

Hello all, I’ll try to keep this short

I’ve had a friend who I’ve had a reasonably strong suspicion had a crush on me for a little while now. Maybe the better part of 4-5 months.

Other friends have tried to socially engineer situations for us to be alone together and have given me pictures of her as mementos in addition to other photos we have taken as groups etc.

For the past 3ish months we (me and her) have done meal prepping together. We will meet up at her house and make several meals together and watch a television show and then I go home. It takes all of maybe 3 hours in total and we just sort of hangout and chat.

We will occasionally hang out outside of this context but it never really feels like a date and usually other friends are also present.

My confusion comes in because despite spending prolonged one-on-one time together I’m still not certain if she has any romantic interest in me. She’s usually a bit hard to get a hold of, usually only messaging me on the day of our meal prep. Or if I do send her a message or invite any other time it usually takes her days to respond. We never really hug or anything when I leave and rarely talk on the phone. She doesn’t really watch my socials etc

On the positive side we have several activities we enjoy doing together and at least in the past we have made plans to do things like go hiking, to the beach, we’ve gone to concerts together etc.

TLDR: I’m confused if my friend likes me or not. We usually hang out once a week but they are extremely slow to respond to my messages or requests to hang out and don’t give a lot of openly flirtatious signals despite other intuitions I have telling me they might have strong feelings for me

Hello all, I’ll try to keep this short

I’ve had a friend who I’ve had a reasonably strong suspicion had a crush on me for a little while now. Maybe the better part of 4-5 months.

Other friends have tried to socially engineer situations for us to be alone together and have given me pictures of her as mementos in addition to other photos we have taken as groups etc.

For the past 3ish months we (me and her) have done meal prepping together. We will meet up at her house and make several meals together and watch a television show and then I go home. It takes all of maybe 3 hours in total and we just sort of hangout and chat.

We will occasionally hang out outside of this context but it never really feels like a date and usually other friends are also present.

My confusion comes in because despite spending prolonged one-on-one time together I’m still not certain if she has any romantic interest in me. She’s usually a bit hard to get a hold of, usually only messaging me on the day of our meal prep. Or if I do send her a message or invite any other time it usually takes her days to respond. We never really hug or anything when I leave and rarely talk on the phone. She doesn’t really watch my socials etc

On the positive side we have several activities we enjoy doing together and at least in the past we have made plans to do things like go hiking, to the beach, we’ve gone to concerts together etc.

TLDR: I’m confused if my friend likes me or not. We usually hang out once a week but they are extremely slow to respond to my messages or requests to hang out and don’t give a lot of openly flirtatious signals despite other intuitions I have telling me they might have strong feelings for me

As long as I’ve known the character I’ve never actually thought about it. I can’t seem to recall his weaknesses outright ever being mentioned. Are his weaknesses ever explicitly stated or demonstrated? Either by Peter himself or his opponents.

For clarification I don’t mean things like requiring food and sleep or getting tired. I mean specifically gaps in his abilities or specific vulnerabilities created by his powers as a downside to having them or psychological problems that are potentially harmful.

I’m going on a beach trip soon and i thought i might also bring a few weights to lift while im there just to be outside and enjoy the sunshine.

I don’t want to come across as douchey or inconsiderate to other beach goers though. Would it be rude or cringey to workout while I’m enjoying the beach?

I’ve been really struggling recently emotionally after some personal setbacks in my own life (money and friendship related issues) and things in the public sphere (war, death, minorities being treated badly in the United States).

It didn’t really strike me how much it’s been affecting me until I woke up and realized I’ve been feeling emotionally numb. Numb to a point where I didn’t feel sad, I just didn’t feel anything. For example I love food very much but none of the foods that even I highly enjoyed made me feel excited or happy. To the point where eating felt like a chore.

This really is beginning to concern me because I know it’s not my usual emotional state. I don’t feel suicidal or anything just… emotionally flat and drained.

What’s wrong with me

So recently I (M30) was hanging out with a close friend (F29) whom I hang out with regularly. Every week she invites mr over her house to hang out watch movies and eat.

This friend recently (about a month ago or so) changed her first name. She even held a little name change party. She isn’t Trans she just really wanted to change her name.

Last night we went to a club to listen to some live music and walked back to her house together. While walking I accidentally called her the old name. She corrected me and we continued on basically as if nothing happened. I felt awful though. We hang out pretty regularly I feel like I shouldn’t have made a mistake like that.

Outside of correcting me in the moment she hasn’t brought it up but I still feel really bad about it.

Am I the asshole?