r/Crush

Hi All,

I have had this eye contact that went on with my coworker for almost 5 weeks and soon after a project came up and my manager put me and the other person together on it. We are both from two different teams and vendor companies and work at the client site.
Now that my manager introduced us, I have been trying to get to a spot where I feel comfortable talking to this guy because I felt really nervous around him esp because he gave me the eye contact in the beginning. I don’t want to feel all warm and romantic when I look at him and work with him.

Now that I am gathering my courage to talk to him professionally, I sometimes feel very nervous still, and kinda forget how to smile or talk to him about anything else other than work.

Yesterday we chatted for 3-4 mins straight and I was looking into his eyes directly, and asking questions, he was actively listening and answering, I felt super weird once the conversation was over mainly because I don’t want to come off desperate or weird at all.
I am worried if he read my soft eyes, because to me his eyes were just flat wide open, i didn’t see him giving me any warm look. He did mention to chat again for a few minutes today.

I was busy today and couldn’t talk to him at all, so towards the end of the day when he walked past my desk, our eyes met and he gave me a smile, I smiled back at him. And then I stopped him and asked about the project. Him and his other friend will come to work on that project with me tomorrow.

I don’t know what to expect, I think I have developed a crush on him, and now I don’t even know if he still feels the same way about me like he did a few weeks ago, but I don’t want to lead myself on and be delusional about the situation. How do I proceed in this situation?

Someone else posted about having to give up on their crush because it will never happen, so I’m curious to hear others’ experiences with this.

Aside from getting flat out rejected by your crush, what other reason/reasons did you give up on your crush?

So basically me (17m) and this girl (16f) are new to a job and we have people we got the job through. She’s really shy and was for the first few shifts then all of a sudden I started to make her laugh when talking to her and ever since then we talked more she seems to ask questions about me when working together getting to know me she remembers stuff about me and we would like mess each others work up as a joke not badlt just one or two small things and thenn the other day I had a QR code a picture of it we needed for something I said I’d help her and she can scan it and she said do I just wanna send it to her (asking for my snap) then we add each other we start snapping and she asks me what my TikTok is not even for the QR code I tell her it we was talking a tiny bit on messages she sends me videos on TikTok how I’m her fav co worker and about a co worker we both hate but the other day I asked to walk her home she said yes and I walked her. I guess I’m just trying to say is do you think she likes me and if so what should I do to make it to the next step?

My gym crush finally approached me to talk today ( yay!) I'm a woman and he's a man. However, I was pretty out of it today and am worried I came across too neutral/ standoffish in the conversation so wanted men/ others advice if this interaction sounds ok and like I was approachable enough?

He said what times do I usually come to the gym and I said whenever. I'm worried this sounded standoffish or evasive but it's true because my schedule is very chaotic. We talked a bit about schedules, preferred gym activities etc. Then I asked him the time which I'm worried he took as me looking for an out but I just wanted 5 mins in the jacuzzi before closing time, then he said see you around and excused himself from the conversation. Ik it's so silly but I also forgot to say thanks for the time which I'm worried was rude.

The whole interaction was very classic small talk, I felt quite self conscious as I could tell others in the sauna were listening. What do people think? Was this alright as an interaction or would you not bother trying to talk to me again after this?

Like, I have a crush on some guy and I thought of approaching him first (at the gym) but all of the people that I have told this said that “guys are simple” and if he also finds me attractive or wanted to get to know me, he would have approached me by himself. So I have a question for the guys, especially at the gym, even if you’re a really shy person, would you approached a girl you find attractive or would you just wait so that she would make the first “move”? Because i had another guy once approaching me at the gym, he was blushing a lot and it was visible that he was shy and embarrassed but he still approached me…. can that be that the guy that i like maybeeeeee thinks of me the same way but is too shy to approach or he just dgaf?😔 (I have wrote several posts about the full story with him, so if you want context for this guy you can look up these:))

So there’s a girl I’ve like for a long time and she used to like me to but we were very young like (10)
and now we’re 15 now she has a bf but I still like her and I think she still likes me to and we often talk and laugh together I don’t now what to do
Should I ask her?

I am an 8th grader in middle school and I have a crush on this one girl who goes to the same school as me. I am not going to give to many details, but I don’t throw no she is in any relationships, and I have never been in one either. I have 1 class with her and I don’t know if I should try to talk to her or not. For context, I am 5’8 and do a couple sports. Reddit what should I do? (first time posting btw)

Edit - I don’t really know how to start talking to her sense I don’t really have any female friends and I don’t want to make it awkward between us/her friends by just asking for her number straight up, and I’m not sure when/what to text her even if I get to that stage.

Okay, I genuinely need an outside perspective because I feel like I’ve been living in my own head about this for way too long 😭last year, I had an additional paper class in my college and noticed this guy there. We had a few random eye-contact moments and eventually started talking a little. Nothing dramatic happened, but I found him attractive and developed a crush.At some point, I found him on our class group and started messaging him mostly about the academics. We eventually became somewhat comfortable talking, but the pattern was almost always that I initiated and he replied. He was never rude or cold, but he also didn't really pursue the conversation or initiate much. So I eventually assumed he wasn't interested and stopped trying.Then, months later,(he wasn't attending lectures during those months) he randomly texted me first asking about the lecture.It took me a month to actually know his name.After that, when we saw each other again, things became much more comfortable.There were little things that confused me:

He would make space for me to sit next to him.

He remembered when I hadn't attended class.

He would sometimes walk with me and we'd take the same route home.

He acknowledged that I was trying hard to talk to him and literally told me he was introverted but was “trying.”

We had this stupid little handshake ritual every time we parted 😂

Once I teased him about his hair always falling over his forehead and he actually fixed it while laughing.

We followed each other on Instagram.

Later, after the class ended, we still occasionally talked.At one point he himself initiated a conversation and asked if we could talk on the phone, and we ended up talking for around 50 minutes. It wasn't romantic, but we talked about random personal stuff too.There have been other small moments where he seemed genuinely comfortable and engaged with me.

BUT.

He has never actually made a clear romantic move.

Even when I stopped messaging, he didn't consistently come looking for me. Most of our conversations have still been initiated by me, although there have been a few occasions where he initiated himself.I've liked him for YEARS at this point, and I've tried multiple times to get over it. Sometimes I genuinely think I'm over him, and then somehow he pops back into my head again.Recently we started talking again. Nothing serious, just normal conversation.I made my mind that okay I'll confess him so I texted him tonight and I asked where are you he told me he's currently on a trip with friends. We joked around for a bit and the conversation ended normally.And now I'm sitting here thinking:

Should I finally tell him everything?

Not in a “please date me” way. More like:

“I liked you for a really long time. I never said anything because I always assumed you weren't interested. But some of your actions genuinely confused me, and I could never tell whether you were just being friendly or whether there was something else from your side. Maybe I was simply overanalysing everything because I liked you. I've tried getting over it several times and apparently failed 😂. So I thought I'd finally tell you instead of continuing to make theories in my head. What did you actually think of me/us?”

I'm honestly okay with whatever answer he gives. I'm not expecting him to suddenly confess his love or anything.But part of me thinks maybe I should just stop initiating altogether and see if he ever comes looking for me on his own.

So Reddit, what would you do?

Tell him honestly how I felt and ask how he saw everything, or stop initiating and let his actions (or lack of them) answer the question?

And please be brutally honest. I don't want people just telling me what I want to hear. 😂

I tried to summarise the whole plot in the best way I could but the whole plot is kinda more interested so I can't now decode the whole plot.

This is going to be a long one, aka mixing signals final boss.

So this all started last year, we are both female (19) btw. We were mutuals for a bit and started texting after she reached out to me, it was very friendly and just chill. until one day she started to be more flirty you could say, but in a jk manner. I also don't really know the true meaning behind it but i just played along. (thing is she told me she was celibate at that time and not lesbian because her parents don't support it) So we texted all day almost everyday for a long time, things started to get more confusing for me because she started sending pics of herself that i wouldn't say you would send your friend (it wasn't that crazy tho), so i was overthinking everything. until one day she decided to fly me out to hangout with her. i went for a few days over the weekend. we honestly had a really fun time and held hands here and there. then the week after she flew me out again and i think that was when i realised wow i really like spending time with her. (she is very wealthy and in a diff tax bracket compared to me btw.) So after that we started to text less and less and it stopped for a while, during that time i noticed that i kept thinking about her and after a few months of self reflecting i realised i must have a huge crush on her. (Also before she flew me out, she told me about her past roster etc. and till now i think she still isn't entirely over her ex boyfriend.)
Back to the present, i texted her again, she was really dry and the vibe was completely diff, but she still said that she missed me. well back to my question now, should i just confess how i feel? eventho i know this would not work, and it's not like i expect something out of it anyways, since i think i wouldn't be able to give her what she deserves or expects. i just feel like i'm going crazy and it's really distracting.

so either i confess and honestly hope she just blocks me, or i just let it be and continue the mutual liking posts on social media here and there. i really don't even mind just being friends, at least something yk, but i also get the vibe that she doesn't even really sees me as a friend.
(of course some other stuff also happened that were not mentioned, but this is it summed up)

Some of my friends tell me i should just confess, and others say i shouldn't since it's already been so long. but if i do, then i feel like there's no turning back.

gush: my friend that i’ve known for about 5 years now has been trying to set up me and this we will call him “I. I and me have tried to make things work for multiple times for over a year now and it just never worked out for a multiple for reasons, but recently he reached out to me a month ago and it has been the best month of my life. we started talking again on the 5th of last month and since then we’ve seen each other 3 times and had yesterday we had a our first kiss!! which actually was my first kiss ever :) he’s really been so sweet amazing and i honestly can’t believe we are where we are right now. encouragement: as i have been looking at a lot of these posts everyone seems kind of sad. i want you guys know do not get discouraged with your crush!! it will happen if its meant to be even if it takes time, even if your crush doesn’t like you right now, or even if it seems absolutely impossible. you never know what life has in store for you so just be patient and positive :)

I’ve known this girl since 9th grade. She apparently liked me back then, but I didn’t realize it. After 10th, we started talking every single day, and literally not a single day has gone by without us talking for almost 4 years.
We went to different schools/streams after 10th, but stayed extremely close. We talk about everything — family, problems, random daily stuff, gossip, basically our entire lives. There were even nights when I stayed awake until 2–3 AM just to talk to her and say goodnight.
Over time, I developed real feelings for her. I eventually told her. She said whatever she felt was only until 9th and that she didn’t want a relationship. I accepted that, but later she randomly said, “I like you too.”
That confused me even more.
We continued talking every day like nothing happened. She has given me a lot of mixed signals over the years, but whenever the topic of actually dating comes up, she says “I want to be single.”
I’ve even caught myself trying to become “perfect” for her, hoping maybe someday she’ll want me. She’s now in Delhi for college, and I’m scared that eventually she’ll meet someone else and I’ll lose the possibility of us ever being together.
I know she doesn’t owe me a relationship. I know she’s allowed to want to be single. And I don’t want to pressure her.
But after almost four years of talking every single day, hearing “I like you too” and then “I want to be single” has completely messed with my head.
I genuinely love her, but I don’t know whether I’m holding onto something that could actually happen someday or just something I’ve built up in my own head.
What would you do in my situation?

This would be my first reddit post so apologies if it's a little wonky. For context, both me and my ex, I will call him Jack, are still in high school. I have known him since elementary, but I haven't had the chance to actually get to know him until about a year ago. A mutual friend introduced us and we started dating a couple months ago, but during this time I felt a horrible sense of inferiority, like I wasn't good enough for him. He never did anything that made me feel like this. He's a big guy but he's so nice (almost too nice), cute, funny, so smart, and I realized that I wasn't ready for a relationship. It sounds kinda cliché, but I knew I had to like myself better before I could like anyone else. The breakup wasn't hard, he said he would wait for me and we are still pretty good friends. That was a couple months ago, and while I still don't feel 100% about myself, I'm starting to miss him more and more. I invited him to a get-together with some of our friends, and I was reminded about how amazing of a guy he is. Another factor in the breakup was that I still live with my parents and I'm technically not allowed to have a boyfriend. Whenever we hung out it would be at school or behind my parents' back. I have scheduled a driver's test in a couple months, so I won't have to rely on my parents taking me places and possibly finding a boyfriend. Now here's my dilema, while I'm working on myself and waiting for my test, I want to hang out with him even more. I want to rebuild our relationship, but I don't know if that's fair to him. I still think that he can do better than me and I don't want to lead him on too early where I am still not ready. And if we did start dating, I wouldn't know how to act. I feel like a boring person and I'm afraid that if we were alone I wouldn't be interesting (something I've thought about since we were together the first time). I'm not sure if it's selfish of me to hold onto him like this, what can I do?

I’m honestly really confused about my situation and could use some outside perspective.

I’ve been with my girlfriend for about two years. For most of our relationship, we’ve been happy together. We love each other, we have a lot of good memories, and I genuinely care about her.

But on November 17, 2025, I realized that I had developed a crush on another girl, who I’ll call Lara for privacy.
Things have become especially difficult around Carnival season. My girlfriend gets very jealous, and we often end up arguing. Usually, after a few days, we make up and forgive each other.

However, after a while, the situation started going the other way too. My girlfriend began doing things that seemed intentionally designed to make me jealous. For example, she would post stories with other guys or send me snaps from a school trip where other boys were in them, including videos of them hitting a boxing machine. I felt like some of these things were specifically meant to get a reaction out of me.

I know jealousy isn’t healthy, and I also know I’m not completely innocent here. I developed feelings for Lara while I was still in my relationship, and I don’t want to pretend that doesn’t matter.

The complicated part is that Lara and I actually get along really well. We’re very nice to each other, we spend time together, and I feel like there are moments where she might like me too. But there are also moments where I don’t get that impression at all, so I genuinely have no idea whether she sees me as more than a friend.

We also train together at a dance club, so I see her regularly. Recently, she even noticed that I’ve gotten stronger from training at home, which honestly made me really happy.

Now I feel stuck between two things:
I still love my girlfriend and don’t want to throw away two years of our relationship.

At the same time, I have genuine feelings for Lara and I enjoy being around her.

My current relationship has also become increasingly affected by jealousy and attempts to make each other jealous.

I don’t even know whether Lara actually has feelings for me, so I don’t want to make a huge decision based on assumptions.

I’m not looking for people to simply tell me “choose Lara” or “stay with your girlfriend.” I want an honest outside perspective.

What would you do in my situation?

Would you focus on fixing the relationship I already have and try to let the crush go? Or is developing serious feelings for someone else a sign that something in my current relationship is already wrong?

I know I need to take responsibility for my own part in this too, so please be honest with me.

I have like a HUGE crush on this girl in my math class and I wanna ask her out but I’m not sure if I should like ask her out by talking with her or making writing a note to ask her out. The reason I even mention making a note is because I’m very nervous and I feel like if I wrote a note I wouldn’t be as scared to approach her because all I would do is just say “hey, I have this note for you I think you should read it when you get the chance” then I can walk off and think of how I could’ve seemed like less of a dork in private. But I’m scared that giving her a note will make her think less of me like I’m
Some kind of cowardly loser so I think maybe actually asking her out myself without a note might make me seem more confident and approachable. What do you guys think?

‎Hi I'm 17F and there's a guy I like for almost a year now. we met online and started talking. At first it was casual but we ended up talking more comfortable ‎About interest, our lives, and more. Then turns into a flirty conversation. it wasn't a very long time we talked but somehow I became really attached to him.

‎I realized that I like him so so much. ‎I never really told him how strong my feelings were though. I know that my feelings probably affected how I interpreted certain things. But at the time, I genuinely cared about him and looked forward to talking to him. Even though we were never officially together, he became someone I thought about a lot.

‎Eventually, things got changed. He told me he doesn't wanna be friends with me anymore cus he just wanted love and he was lonely. Continuing the friendship wasn't healthy for him. I respected his decision even tho it hurts. After that we stopped talking, there was no contact between us anymore.

‎Mny months passed. I've tried to move on ‎But every once in a while, I start thinking about him again and wondering what might have happened if I had just been honest about how I felt. The fact that I never actually told him has always bothered me a little.

‎So should I confess to him? ‎And I'm not expecting him to like me back ‎I just wanna tell him how I feel. Please I need advice😭🙏🏻🙏🏻

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So, I have a crush with this guy I met in an online forum and we got along very well and everything, I think he followed on IG last year, we have been nice friends and I felt crushed by him when I first saw his photo and he also seemed very cool. But I have a long distance boyfriend too, we have 4 years together and I have felt like we had some problems, not dramas or anything but I feel like I don't feel connected and I feel like we talk very simple, not always but ultimately I think it has been like that. I do feel loved tho, but I feel like he is disconnected or sum. He has said that he has been a bit tired and stuff but, sometimes I have felt like that too but I always made sure to communicate what was going on with me and what happened when I didn't respond and stuff.

On the other side with the crush, idk if I have been overthinking his reposts on IG, cause he usually reposts memes, phrases or sum. He had a girlfriend and now is his ex, they broke up like 4 months ago, but he has said before that, to overcome a relationship, he would wait 1 o 2 years. But I found 2 reposts in which idk if he might be dating someone or he has a crush on someone, or idk if it's just humour. The first repost said something like: when you ain't got a car but she wants you to come over, and the guy in the video gets a magic card. I guess it's like a reference from an anime that he likes. I know that he has a car tho, but yeah. The other post said that: Date idea, we play chess but every time I blunder we kiss, and the post has an anime girl in it. So, I have played with him before in a chess app, but he also has played with another girl but I know she is in a different country, so yeah.

What would you recommend me to do? Am I overthinking his posts or sum?

So I’m 15M and there’s this girl at my school who I don’t really know yet. We aren’t in the same class and I don’t even know her name or exact age/grade.
Over the last couple days she’s been messing with me a lot.
First she pulled my hoodie while she was walking behind me with her friends. Her friends basically pointed out that it was her so I looked back at her.
The next day I was walking alone and she was behind me with one of her friends. She lightly kicked my ankle to make me lose balance. I turned around and walked backwards for a bit while looking at her, and she was smiling and saying something to her friend.
Later that day I was getting food at school and she came over and stood right beside me. She looked me directly in the eyes and smiled. I believe she didn’t buy anything and came there just to stand next to me.
I’ve barely talked to her before this, so I have no idea what to make of it. I’m also pretty shy and awkward around girl so I don’t want to completely fumble it because I already have with another girl😭
If she does something like this again I don’t really know what to do. Do I smile and ask for her name? Do I tease her back?
Do these things sound like possible flirting /interest nah? I also have never been in a relationship before so I don’t even know what a couple does in middle school… what would you guys do?