r/Crush

Hi , I am 20 f I college , and I want to purpose this guy in my college but here are facts

I have never had a full on convo with a guy part of the reason I don't look attractive enough I mean not even a single guy has approached me first

He is also kind of comes in my category , also he is very shy to the point that it feels like he must never been in a relationship, but he has a great personality, and I like him very much

We have only had small talks of like 2-3 min in a month , but there also, I have never seen him talking to girl in the class , everytime we talked I initiated and he just replied respectfully

I am from north , he is from south

Now the semester is almost over , only like 2 days are left exams are completed, and I don't want this time to go waste and want to tell him about my feelings even though he says no in return , I just can't take it anymore

Also I don't want other people to know that I am purposing him , I mean it's my first I am a little embarrassed , during my schools I had toxic friends and they told the whole school about my crush , and it became very hard for me after that , and I don't want to repeat it in college

How should I approach him

Also I don't know why but we used to talk on WhatsApp but he hasn't replied to my messages since 2 days

I (21m) had seen a girl at my gym last week who I took a liking to. I noticed her giving me some glances in the mirror, so I gave some back. After a couple of sets she took her pump cover off. But I didn’t psyche myself out, she’s jacked I’m sure she was checking herself out. Next time I saw her I introduced myself and I told her I like her style. Afterward I said have a great workout because I didn’t want to linger. She was pretty receptive and I could tell she liked what I said. The next time I saw her she smiled at me and said hi. We never spoke because she was training with a friend and I don’t want to force anything. We spoke again the day after and I asked about her training. The conversation was a little awkward but that’s how meeting people can be. As I was backing away she complimented my pants a couple of times. I mentioned we should workout sometime as I walked away and she smiled and said ok. Her smiles don’t seem forced to me. I haven’t spoken to her since but she’s social with some regulars and gym staff. Last time I saw her she was talking to another guy and there was just no way I could find a way to talk to her. All the interactions happened in the space of 3 days.

I feel like I succeeded in not looking like a creep but I obviously want to ask her out. How should I proceed?

Hello! So my brother has been friends with this guy for a few years now, we’ve invited him for dinner, they went to see a football game with my dad, so my family knows him well.

I’ve seen him a few times at the bus station in highschool and always thought he was kinda cute. For some reason I’ve been thinking a lot about him lately and I’d like to talk to him…

The issue is : he’s friends with my brother. (My brother knows I had a small crush on him back then but that’s it).

The bigger issue is : he doesn’t know me, I don’t even know if he remembers me and I have no idea how to approach him. We go to the same uni but I never ever see him on campus.

Edit : I’m incredibly shy so I had made a secret snapchat account and added him on there, I didn’t realize how weird it was, I deleted the request and the account as well. Thanks for the advice

I found his tiktok instagram and discord but I’m so scared to reach out. I’m scared he might tell my brother or that things might get awkward if I do because he certainely doesn’t like me back at least right now.

I’m 19 btw and he’s probably 21 ? I’m not sure

So what can I do about it ? I don’t like the idea of reaching out through snap but did it anyways, should I dm him on instagram instead ? What’s the safest option, so that I’m sure he will text me back…

I’m so so scared

So I started classes in college last week, on the first I saw this guy quite on his side as soon as lessons ended he would be out in an INSTANT without speaking to anyone. I have always had a thing for calm people so i developed I tiny crush on him however I moved along. So out of pure hazard we found ourselves sitting next to each other in one specific class. I saw he would play chess a lot and this casino kind of game he doesn’t speak but when anyone come up to him he speaks quite openly but will be fast to return in his bubble. So out of courage I went up to him and asked for his instagram now we follow each other but we barely speak there, he is rarely active and I don’t really how to speak. In class, he would speak when I would start conversation but then we would just sit next to each other in kind of a silence. The other day, he started telling me when he was going home and the next one told me he was going home to have something to eat so he left early. I really like him, but I think it’s obviously too early to tell him,
I ignored him the whole day today and felt like at one point when he was leaving he wanted to tell me he was going but did nothing. He’s such a cute boy I don’t know how to be closer to him and bring him out of his shell.
What do you guys think?

Guy, I never talk to, but he goes to my school followed me a couple of days ago, and for those three days, he was texting me. It felt dry, but he also said things like, “Let’s hang out sometime.” I didn’t say yes or no because it’s too soon like it’s been two days. He also wanted me to text him after I finished studying even though I mentioned it would be late. I didn’t😓 I don’t know if he got mad because it felt like I was soft rejecting, but I didn’t mean toooo. It isn’t really a talking stage because we went two days no texting. Convos are dry. Then we didn’t text for a while, but I reached out because I wanted to talk to him, and I said, “Here’s my number because you mentioned hanging out.” He said, “Okay, I’ll text you,” but he never did. He also followed this girl I follow, which made me a little jealous, even though we’re nothing. Then, I posted a picture of myself, and he replied with a text and I started a convo, but I was dry. Hurt my feelings a bit. Maybe I am too sensitive.
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So. today I blocked him 😓 because if someone likes you or if he just wanted to be friends he could be clearer with his intentions .I don’t want to question them and he texted me like 3 hours ago asking why I unfollowed. Should I reply. My stomach hurts from thinking of replying. But I feel so much better not worrying about a guy. I’m very sad though because I liked him. 😔😔 sorry guys for this drama. It’s a little dumb 😓

Basically, there’s this guy in one of my classes and I genuinely can’t tell if he likes me or if he’s just friendly.
At first, he barely talked to me and would mostly just look at me from afar. Then after I started talking to him first, he became way more talkative with me in person. We’re in the same friend group now, and even my friend noticed that he talks to me the most. He also admitted before that he was intimidated by me when we first met.

He acts normal in group settings, but when it’s just me and him, he gets quieter and kind of awkward/nervous. I also catch him looking at me a lot from across the room, but whenever I notice, he immediately acts like he wasn’t staring. Also, sometimes he replies to my selfies, but indirectly. Like instead of complimenting me directly, he’ll comment on my henna or joke about my friends hyping me up in the comments. One time he replied saying my friends’ comments were “taking him out.”

At the end of the semester, he got sentimental about missing everyone and hoping we’d all have classes together again. Then when everyone left, I waited for him and we walked together, and he offered on his own to tutor me for a summer class I’m nervous about for free.

Another thing that stood out was during finals week. Around midnight he asked the class gc for study materials, and after I sent some, we stayed up talking about the exam. I went to sleep, and then at like 2 AM he tagged me because I stopped replying and said he had made a whole study guide and wanted to send it to me (before realizing he already had my email). When I thanked him, he replied immediately at 2 AM saying stuff like “we got this.”

The confusing part is that he isn’t consistent over text at all. He’ll send me reels sometimes, but it’s rare and usually only after we’ve seen each other in person. Now it’s summer break, we haven’t talked in a week except for me wishing him happy birthday, and he’s supposed to tutor me in two weeks.

So I genuinely can’t tell if he likes me and is nervous/intimidated, or if he’s just a friendly guy and I’m overthinking everything.

There's a guy catching my eyes, but I am too shy.
How can I approach them
I am an asian girl , he looks too white white iykiwm.
We are working in same place but dont really bump into each other

Also hes young 22, i am 26. Am i too old for him ?

I’ve had a crush on this girl for years and we finally had sex several months back. We live in different cities. We keep in touch here and there, but I wanna have sex with her again and want to see how she feels about it without coming right out and saying, “hey, wanna fuck again?” So I told her I had a dream about her (obviously BS) and she responded with, “oh ya? So what’s the story?”

Any ideas on what to say the “dream” was about that’s sexual, but not completely about being nasty w each other that would start thinking about getting in the sheets again?

I know, this is rather lame, but it is what it is.

Thanks

I live in an apartment complex and the head maintenance guy is attractive to me. When I first met him I wasn’t attracted to him until we interacted more. I can tell he’s the head maintenance guy because he drives the companies nicest truck. The only thing is he’s definitely a lot older than I am. I’m 25 and he looks like he’s in his 40’s or 60’s. I can tell there’s mutual attraction (he has come to fix small things only a few times). I say this in the most humble way but I know I’m somewhat attractive with a fit curvy body.

I’m kind of shy but have been waving back at him every time we pass by in our vehicles since he started it. I kind of want to initiate my attraction towards him so I’ve been hoping something breaks in my apartment lol. Should I just let this slowly and steadily burn, or should I take the initiative to show I’m attracted to him. I know he’s on the job and has to be professional, but there’s clearly attraction from interactions I don’t want type all of it out. I always see his truck driving around even on the weekends and he’s always alone. The big age difference is a bit weird, but I’ve always liked more mature men. How should I start initiating my attraction to him?

TL;DR

I’m a college student and I think I got emotionally attached to a girl for the first time in my life. The problem is, this situation is so emotionally complicated now that I genuinely can’t understand what I should do anymore.

This was never one of those “I just like her because she’s pretty” things. What attracted me the most was her nature. She’s very simple, straightforward, soft-spoken, emotionally open, and genuinely kind-hearted. The type of person who talks freely, doesn’t pretend too much, and feels emotionally warm. That’s what got me attached to her.

I usually don’t get attached to people quickly, which is why this hit me so hard.

We slowly became comfortable talking to each other. There were jokes, teasing, casual conversations, late-night chats, helping each other with things, etc. Recently I even stayed awake till around 1 AM helping her complete a job application and resume before a deadline because she was tired and probably would’ve left it incomplete otherwise. We joked a lot during that conversation too and she genuinely appreciated it afterward.

The issue is that somewhere in between all this, I started developing feelings.

One day we started talking about relationships and she revealed that she had a past relationship which ended because of family issues and disapproval of love marriage. Then I asked if she still talks to him sometimes, and she said yes. I asked if she still likes him, and she also said yes.

That honestly broke something inside me.

At the same time, she kept asking me if I liked someone. I avoided answering directly, but eventually I admitted that I do like someone and promised I’d tell her face-to-face someday. She even warned me that confessing to a good friend can damage friendships. She said this from her own experience.

Now here’s the confusing part.

Even after all this, she never became cold or distant with me. She still talks normally, jokes around, sends reels back, continues conversations naturally, and never ignores me intentionally. Sometimes it feels like she may already have a hint that I like her, but I genuinely don’t know.

Maybe she only sees me as a good friend. Maybe she suspects something but ignores it. Maybe I’m overthinking everything. Maybe there’s something more. I honestly don’t know anymore.

And I’m also aware that a lot of this could just be happening inside my own head because once feelings get involved, every interaction starts feeling emotionally significant.

Then the next day I saw her in college with the same guy she still likes. Seeing them together hit me much harder than I expected. It suddenly made everything feel real. Until then, it was mostly imagination and emotional hope inside my head.

Since then my emotions have been all over the place.

Part of me wants to step back completely because I feel like I emotionally attached myself to someone whose heart may still belong somewhere else.

Part of me still has a soft corner for her because I genuinely care about her wellbeing. I don’t even care anymore whether she chooses me or not — I just hope whoever she ends up with respects her properly and doesn’t hurt her.

Right now my current plan is:

• not confessing
• not breaking the friendship
• not overchasing
• staying normal
• letting things flow naturally
• focusing on my own life and goals

But emotionally I’m confused because:

• sometimes I feel detached already
• sometimes one conversation pulls me back in
• sometimes I think I’m just becoming the “safe emotional backup”
• sometimes I think maybe life changes naturally over time
• sometimes I think I should move on completely

I genuinely don’t know whether I’m handling this maturely or just emotionally trapping myself slowly.

What would you honestly do in my situation?

I added my crush on snapchat last night and he immediatley added me back, i said he looked familiar and we kinda talked but he didnt really recognize me, i told him that we've talked before but he said he doesnt remember and i replied with i thought so lol, now im on delivered since last night. I feel like i closed the conversation and i should've just told him who i am since im the one who pursued him first. What should i do now? he didn't unadd me or anything

So for context me and this guy (we'll call him Smartie) have been friends since sophomore year (we are currently at the end of our junior year), we met through student council hes the class president now student body prez, and I've been the treasurer. I've always thought he was cute, but nothing ever happened because I got a boyfriend. I dated said boyfriend from october to early/mid may, but in April I went to prom with our class council (there was 5 of us and we're all pretty good friends) for the coat check. During prom me and Smartie were mostly alone because our three other friends were walking around the venue looking for their situationships. That night I think my feelings rekindled because of how much we were talking, and he was just doing subtle gentleman gestures. During the summer before our junior year me and Smartie texted quite a bit just talking about our goals and joking around. Junior year starts and we have the same 6th period, we got say alphabet order so he sat right behind me. Our school starts late July so from July to about September or early october we talked a lot during class. We stopped talking as much when I found out he was going on a date with a girl, We were still friends but we just didn't talk, and it kinda felt like he was just avoiding me? Fast forward to after winter break, in January I found out they broke up during winter break. A week after we got back to school he started talking to me a lot more again and a lot more consistently. We had a school bonfire, and half the time we spent it together, with two of our other friends. We had a karaoke booth and I was talking to my two other friends while Smartie was a bit to my left side, I asked my two friends if they would sing with me because I wanted to sing and he suddenly offered to sing. We sang Toxic by Britney Spears which was kinda funny at the time of the situation. We took a lot of group pictures during the bonfire and I'd end up in the middle with him and he would put his arm around my waist, which I don't think much of however he did only put his hand on our other friends shoulder who is also a girl, and he later moved his hand to my shoulder. FAST FORWARD again, to yesterday. We've been constantly talking every day or every other day, and yesterday we had a pool party together. Four of us went to our friends house after school to hang out before the party. When we got to her house we mostly worked on our project for the class we all have. Around two and a half hours later it was just me and him plus obviously our friend who lives in that house left, because the other two went to go grab their stuff at home and was gonna come back to get us for the party. He was in the living room sleeping on the couch laying on his stomach when I walked past him to change in my friends room for the party. After I got changed I sat at the opposite side of the couch from him but right next to his foot. He woke up thinking the corner of the pillow I used to cover my lap was our friend's dogs sniffing his foot. I moved a little closer when he woke up because we were trying to call the dogs over. The first dog came up to my lap and sat on me and then the second dog came a minute later but then left. Smartie put pillows on top of his bottom half to "camouflage" and trick the second dog to come to him, which eventually worked when I picked up the second dog and placed him on the couch. 5 minutes later the dogs left to go to our friend. When the dogs left I decided to lay my head on one of the pillows which I didn't realize until later on was actually the pillow that was on his lap. Our faces were around a foot and a half away from each other and we just kept talking. Later on a couple hours after we got to the party, I went into the kitchen where he was already at to throw away my plate of food, and he asked me "Can you get (matching) friendship bracelets with me?" I obviously said yes. He asked me to help him but the bracelet on because it was made for kindergartener and was way too small for his hand. When we got outside he showed everyone our bracelets and I moved from where I originally sat which was at the opposite side of the table from him to the armchair of the chair right next to him. Our friends were all just talking and sometimes me and him would start to block everyone out and just have our own conversation but would zone back into everyones conversation once in a while. One of our friends (we'll call him Bud) and his ex (we'll call poppy) who were also friends with (they have a really complicated relationship) were talking with everyone, and a topic of leading someone on got brought up to which Poppy started telling Bud "Do you see what you're doing wrong now?" "Are you listening to this? Do you what you're doing to that freshman?". And Poppy then asks "Who is it?". Bud tried to divert it towards Smartie by saying that Smartie knows who it is. Smartie teases him at first asking if she was blonde or brunette and saying which one. Bud started bringing up Smartie's workplace and said "If you tell them who it is I'll tell them what you do during your work break". After a while of the passive aggressive jabbing at each other Smartie gets fed up and says "Fine! I made out with __ during my work break in the parking lot" I gasped, everyone gasped. 10-ish minutes later, The rest of the group started peppering (playing volleyball but just volleying) and me and Smartie stayed back at the table and kept talking. He brought up earlier topic of him making out with someone at the parking lot of his work during his work break, and it was during spring break. He told me "To be honest I didn't want you to know about that because I didn't want you to see that (bad?) side of me" and I didn't know what to say so I just told him that everyone makes decisions they're not proud of. He explained to me that it was during spring break and he got bored and he broke it off with her even though they werent anything and he just didn't want her to think he was leading her on. He started telling me that she was his worse kiss too, saying that her lips are really thin so it was just teeth and she yanked on his neck. It was kinda funny because I put my hand on his neck and did what he said she did to him just to clarify. We talked for about 30 minutes before he brought up that he wanted to go swimming again so I offered to go in with him. I was in the pool with him for almost an hour while our friends were still playing volleyball. We were having such deep conversations, and everytime the ball went into the pool and our friends would ask him to get the ball he'd immediately come back to next to me and restate what I was saying before he left and assured me he was listening. Anyways! AIO?? It is so hard for me to tell if it was casual if it was something because he's someone who's genuinely nice and chill with physical touch. I've asked my 5 of my friends and 3 of them say that it wasn't casual because who does that casually? and the other 2, told me that it definitely could be casual, one of them being my guy friend (also ex from middle school) telling me that I often unknowingly flirt and that's what I was doing and he wasn't really doing much of anything and the other one is my brutally honest friend who told me she wouldn't bet on him flirting or doing anything (she also knows him whilst my guy friend doesn't) but I definitely was flirting. (on accident). I think I really just wanna know if i'm overthinking everything and if him explaining himself about the girl meant something. HELP A GIRL OUT!!! I've been going insane and my cousin referred to us as Adrian and Marinette which is really funny because he's blonde (just with blue eyes) and I have colored hair (currently pink but I was blue for a while this year).

I am waiting to confess my feelings to my crush. It has been around 56 days since I have loved this guy. I had a crush on him on March 26th. I was planning on the 26th but you know, two months but I just cannot wait that long. What do I do? Do I tell him before the 26th, wait till the 26th, or tell him after the 26th? My patience is not lasting that long.

I need honest opinions because I genuinely can’t tell if I’m reading this wrong.
There’s a religious guy I know. He’s said clearly he doesn’t do relationships at all — only marriage when he’s financially ready (no dating, no talking stage).
But his behavior with me feels… different:
Quiet in groups, but VERY talkative with me 1–1
Said I’m the only girl he really talks to
Remembers tiny random things I say and brings them up later
Asks my opinion about himself (red flag/green flag type stuff)
Compliments me (calls me pretty)
Protective of me when other guys are involved
Talks to me about marriage and what I want in a man
Notices small details about me and my reactions
At the same time, he insists he doesn’t do relationships and would only consider marriage when ready.
So I’m confused:
Is this just strong emotional friendship / comfort, or does this look like interest he’s holding back because of religion/timing?

I feel as if you’re doing it on purpose. The proximity, but distance. You’re somehow always in my view. Always on my mind. I suck at reading signs; I’m autistic. I suck at getting closer to people. I suck at showing my interest towards you. I didn’t mean the blank stare. I wanted to say hi back, I wanted to tap your shoulder and talk about something. Just to hear your voice. I’m sorry about my cowardice. I never had this feeling growing up. It feels like I’m overthinking our every move. I wish it was mutual. God can it be? Can we start over? What’s your name? How’s it spelled? Was it your mother or father who gave you that name? Can I start by asking meaningful questions; or is it far too late for that?

I have a female friend and I have a male friend, I told her about my friend and then she asked me to give her his discord and I did BUT the thing is that I think they might be in a relationship and that friend of mine is looking down on me and I don't actually consider him a friend of mine anymore because he drained my energy when ever I was with him and his moral values were just pathetic but the thing is his bad boy type behaviour ended up leaving an impact on that friend of mine and she started liking him. I dont know if this is true but he told me that she was interested in him and I did not feel like asking her but the problem is why the hell am I so bothered about all of this, why am I feeling.. bad? why am I feeling jealous?

Literally how do i text my crush on instagram like.. I need something that will maybe strike up a conversation but keep me kinda mysterious yk? Like i know a simple “Hello” or “Hi” will probably do it but it won’t go far from that. I need something baseline but something that will tell me if he likes me or not. Idk.

Need some ideas or tips or advice honestly. He does watch my stories but that’s js normal behavior.

I rarely have crushes and when I do, they either have girlfriends or are married!!!! Why me😭

I’m going on holiday this summer and flying by myself (first time) and I’m planning to message my crush and basically confess right before I get on my flight
Thing is I’ve never actually talked to her before and like we’ve never interacted
So I’m not really sure what to do or if it’s even the right thing to do because I’m only doing it to counter the risk of crashing (iykyk) and I’ve liked her for a year and a half but never done anything and I really want to just get it over with and I don’t even mind if I get rejected