r/Crush

me and this guy from the gym have been making eye contact for weeks, i know he notices me because we had some interactions and he never misses a chance to look at me
after i lift, i usually do cardio, nothing unusual here
i’ve never seen him do cardio, never
and 2 days ago it was just me in the cardio section, on a treadmill, and guess what, he came and did some cardio right beside me😱😛
that means i can shoot my shot, right?
help me here

PLEASE HELP ME OUT. IVE HAD A CRUSH FOR LIKE A YEAR BUT HE’S SO CONFUSING I JUST DONT KNOW.
ok for context he’s pretty popular and he’s really funny and I’m really quiet and don’t talk outside of my friend group.

Anyway he sits with me in a couple classes. In one of these classes we kinda have this game where he stares at me really intensely until I notice and look at him. We kinda just stare each other with a straight face until one of us laughs. It’s like 99% me laughing. he laughed in the beginning but now he js has a straight face even when I’m laughing like what.😭 This game thing happens like 6 times every class, it’s really often.

In my other class where we sit tgt, whenever we make eye contact he makes a really silly face and I always laugh but his face remains straight??

He always initiates the convo if we sit together but it’ll be something really random and stupid.

Ok so this other guy, him, and me all sit at the same table. it’s the other guy and him sitting next to each other with me an empty seat away from him. So this other guy was doing the chubby bunny challenge and he spat up all the marshmallows onto the floor next to them. Ik gross. My crush was like “EWW.” And he moved to the empty seat next to me but then he said to me, “I’m not doing this because I want to sit next to you”. I was js like ok and he immediately follows up with “do you think I’m funny?”

Another time he was talking to his friend and the teacher was telling my crush to go back to his seat which was next to me. His friend said “Yea go sit with your girlfriend” and he said “She’s not my girlfriend she’s my cousin” (because we’re both Asian). His friend was like “that’s impossible because you’re Korean and she’s japanese”
During that same period he was showing me a game he was playing on his computer and he was like “Ella watch me win. If I win you have to give me a hug” But then he died and he asked me if I wanted to play but I said no and I acted really tired and put my head down bc I was just so embarrassed idek. He was like “Ellaaaaa please let’s play”.

When we were in the same lab team one of the other people on our team was asking me to go get some equipment because I was literally doing nothing. My crush was like “no it’s fine I can do it” and he did. But maybe he was just being nice?

Another period he did that thing where I was looking at the board and he was sitting next to me. When I looked back at my desk his face was like 2cm from my face and his eyes were wide opened. We both just laughed after.

When we changed seats in a class he was like “Noooo I won’t be able to sit with Ella anymore”. not specifically to me he js said it kinda loudly

Ok so. This one time. he was telling me his type in men. It was ridiculous. He was obviously joking and laughing. But another time he was getting really. Touchy. With this guy. At our table. Infront of me. Ik he’s not gay. But would he really act like that if he liked me. Is this an embarrassment ritual.

Okay I feel like those are the main points but I do have a lot more stories if it needs like more substance or something. Maybe he’s making fun of me or bullying me or something because I’m a quiet person?? I honestly feel like he’s nicer to me than other people but I could be wrong and even if he is maybe that’s a bad thing like I’m a joke or something??? Please help.

I'm realllyy bored and i like hearing peoples stories, share yours. How did you crush on your crush?

I, 31M, have a crush to a guy 21M.

I met him on a Karate class a few months ago, then by chance I saw him outside of dojo, doing something on a weekend and he decided to invite me to join them and it became a regular thing.

Now at first I don’t have any sort of attraction towards him, and I saw him mainly as a friend (since I just moved here in Australia and I don’t have any friend -I’m so keen for the friendship to develop).

Anyways, the weekend thing became more regular, not to mention we always find ourselves having a one-on-one conversation about life, family, our plans and him even joking about moving in with me (since I live alone - which he mentioned several times already since then..).

Then I don’t even know if he is gay or bi. But know I think I’m already anxiously attached to him and he never texts on weekdays but constantly calls or invites me to hang out during weekends. I can’t even focus my attraction on someone else since I live in a regional area in Australia and there’s literally no one here.

And not to mention there is that 10 year age difference. Though he is really mature looking (he’s got gray hairs) I jokingly said that he even looks older than me. And one time I said I’m young at heart and he countered that he is old at heart.

IDK what to do. I will definitely continue living with the friendship, but I’m too old to miss any chance for something more..

What do you think is happening?

So I just started school again and I’m in alot of classes with my crush, we already are great friends luckily We sit next to eachother in almost every call we have even at tables filled with girls, often we stare at each other and just start laughing for no reason. We talk about books and fandoms we like. She did say she had a crush a while ago but almost never mentioned him after, so she may have lied? We both have fun and are goofy and she always texts me with :)’s and asks how my classes went. This might sound obvious to you but I’m not good at these things. (also at home I feel alone and miss her and am exited to think about her and see her tomorrow, which idk why. :)

ok so i recently became friends (i think…) with this guy he’s really cute and goofy yk but since we just met, idrk if im trying to pursue.

so school just started for us and we started talking to each other about 3 days ago from when i’m posting this. how we started talking, uhh i kinda forgot lol.

but the day after, i basically made a signal as to not sit in the chair he was gonna sit on because then he would have to be apart of this conversation activity with the class and i assumed he didn’t know. he came over to my seat and i told him about the activity and he just sat next to me. that class was super fun because we were just talking about similar courses we took the prior year sooo yeah. afterwards school was over and we just went our separate ways.

next day, that same class rolls around and he sit’s in the same seat from the day before. we had an assignment so we didn’t talk much but afterwards we started chatting again and i feel like he was kind of trying to tease me. we were talking sm we ended up walking out of class together when school was done. we were walking together when i saw my friend sitting at our usual spot so we parted ways and said bye. sooo this was the day i started getting a bit of interest i guess you could say?

after that the next day we sort of talked in the day like before that we had lunch and he was kind of teasing me again. so we get to the class we talk most in and the seating arrangement is different. it was in rows that day so my friend sat next to me while my other friend sat in front of me. when he walked in, instead of sitting near the door because those seats are closer to him, he walks past and sits in the one BEHIND my friend next to me. mind you we were on the farrr right side of the class. he kept trying to get my attention kind of, and we had this back and forward banter. a little into class we get into groups and it’s my friend, him, some guy next to him, and myself. as we were coming up with ideas, it was lowkey just us talking. i was trying to share ideas with the group, but when he was sharing his own ideas it was more like he was just telling me because he wasn’t looking at anyone else. we were ribbing a bit throughout the class again (lmao you can tell there’s a common them here) and afterwards i left to meet with my same friend.

while walking with my friend after school, i was telling her a story of what he said, and when i saw him i called him over to tell her. he winded up sitting with the two of us at our usual spot and it was really nice. they didn’t really know each other so i was kind of the mutual friend.

anyways yeah the next day at the same class we always talk in, we’re back to the earlier seating arrangement and he crosses the whole room to sit next to me again. he was just pestering me again and idk guys it’s kinda cuteee.

but yeah so that’s basically it. kind of a nothing burger but it doesn’t feel like it. am i crazy for thinking he’s interested?

Time literally stops when I look into her eyes and I imagine a future that holds just the two of us. Everything about her is perfect, and she is the kindest person I've met. She has a perfect sense of humor and has same music taste as me. I want to make her mine, but I cannot. Maybe in a few years I will be the one by her side, comforting her when she's sad and enjoying her accomplishments with her. I want to be the one to hold her hand and kiss her lips. The one to know her secrets and the one to tell her mine. I want to experience life with her and grow old together

Someday

I'm bored with no hope, lol. So tell me what made you like your crush. Like actually like them. Hopefully not just that they're physically attractive, but what drew you to them initially and what kept you pulled in 😊

Guess what? I think I’m still stuck on my first school crush 💀

Everyone had that one person during school, right? First love, first crush, whatever you want to call it.

Well, mine was completely one-sided. And the funniest part?

I never even talked to her in school.

I first noticed her during prayer time. She used to host the prayer for a few days when we were around 7th, 8th, 9th standard. Somehow, I just developed a crush on her.

We were in a co-ed school, but boys and girls had separate classes, so I never really got a chance to talk to her.

And then came tuition.

Everyone was going to tuition around that time, and I thought, "Okay, maybe I'll finally get a chance to talk to her."

Nope.

The moment I joined, they separated the tuition timings for boys and girls.

My luck was absolutely cooking. 💀

Anyway, school days passed. She moved to another school for 11th and 12th, and I somehow still missed her.

And don't ask me:

«"Bro, how can you have feelings for someone you've never even talked to?"»

Because honestly...

I have absolutely no idea.

I don't have an answer for that either. 😂

Then I joined college around 2021 and eventually almost forgot about her.

Until one random day, I somehow found her Instagram.

I sent her a request.

And she accepted.

At that point, I was like:

"Wait... what? She actually accepted?"

I had always assumed she was probably the quiet/serious type who wouldn't even bother.

A few days later, I finally gathered enough courage to send a simple "Hi."

She replied.

But the replies were so short that it felt like I was talking to ChatGPT running on a 16K context window with the token limit about to hit. 💀

We chatted occasionally for a few months, but it never really became a proper conversation. I never asked for her number, never really tried to take things further, and honestly, I probably just didn't have the maturity or social skills back then.

Looking back, I was basically running on:

Courage: 10%

Overthinking: 90%

Social skills: 404 Not Found

Then one completely random day...

She blocked me.

No idea why.

I thought maybe she was preparing for her college entrance exams or had something going on, so I didn't push it.

And then...

Two years passed.

Fast forward to 2026.

I randomly sent her another Instagram request.

She accepted.

I said hi.

And this time...

She replied almost immediately. And with an actual lengthy reply.

My brain immediately went:

"Wait... where was THIS version of you two years ago?" 😭

I didn't continue the conversation much after that because I started overthinking everything again.

But here's the weird part.

Even after all these years, I feel like I still kinda have a thing for her.

Which is honestly ridiculous because we barely even talked in school, and even after that, our conversations were never that deep.

Maybe it's nostalgia. Maybe it's the fact that she was my first crush. Maybe I'm just emotionally attached to an idea of her rather than the actual person.

I genuinely don't know.

And honestly, there's another reason I never really tried anything back then.

I wasn't confident in myself at all. I was overweight, didn't think I looked good, and had basically zero confidence when it came to talking to girls. At that age, I also didn't really have the maturity to understand my own feelings, let alone express them to someone else.

I know some people will say, "Who cares about looks or body?"

But when you're in school, things don't always work that logically. You're young, insecure, and you overthink everything. I didn't know how she would react, and I didn't even know how to approach her properly.

So I just stayed silent.

And somehow, that silence lasted all these years. 💀

Now I'm older and I can look back at it and laugh at how stupidly complicated I made everything in my own head.

But I'm still curious...

Has anyone else ever had feelings for someone from school that somehow survived for years, even though you barely talked to them?

Please tell me I'm not the only dumbass here. 💀

Dear introverted/shy ladies. Help me out.

I really like a quiet, introverted woman. I've known her (not well) for around 3 years. As far as I'm aware she hasn't seriously or casually dated anyone in that time.

The thing is, I really like her and trying to gauge if she likes me. Sometimes I can't tell - she is friendly and has complimented me and often waves first when I do see her.

Any help is much appreciated.

Thank you!

Hey guys. I am a high school sophmore student. This is quite a sticky situation so I am going to fill youy in on a lot of context details. So the situation is this:

I liked a girl, 8 months ago. But hse had a BF then, so she told me to stop texting her (like I was messaging abt hw and all, trying to start light convo since I didnt know she had a bf at the time) I then got blocked for reasons still unknown to me. I just got to know that she broke up 2 months ago. Now here is the sticky situation. I made up that I had a gf about 2 months ago, aorund the same time that she broke up. a week ago, when some girls were discussing who were all the boys who were having a gf (dont even as why), my name came up. My crush then apparently got very surprised, and was visibly dissapointed. One of her friends say that there was a tinge of jelasousy as well ( i cant spell the word.) Now if this is true, then I would definitley go for here agian. What brekaup story (with my imaginary gf) would you suggest, and how long to wait untill I make a move? (we share only one class; french. btw)

As an adult, if you're interested in someone, just say something. I learned this the hard way at the gym.

I thought a guy was into me because he was always staring, making eye contact for months, and often lingered near me. He even seemed to get jealous if other guys talked to me. I once even caught him trying to take my picture.

Yesterday, I finally approached him and asked for his number, only for him to act surprised and tell me he was married. I might have misinterpreted his behavior, but either way, I wasted a lot of time wondering. If you think there's mutual interest, speak up. It saves you from uncertainty and helps you move on if it's not reciprocated. Good luck out there!

Okay weird question (not even sure if it’s a question, just want thoughts) - I go to the same coffee shop every morning and there’s a guy I’ve been seeing several times a week for almost a year now. He stares at me when I walk in, smiles at me, opens the door for me, and very noticeably looks me up and down when he sees me. We are in similar lines of work and I think he’s cute so we started talking in the mornings, nothing crazy, just casual chatting while waiting for coffee, and honestly I was so confident he was into me I was just waiting for him to ask me out. Well I just found out (not even from him, but from someone else) that he just got engaged. He’s been living with a girl for over a year and they’ve been together for 2 years. She is in similar work as both of us but he never mentioned her. I’m honestly shocked. I feel like he was being very flirty with me (and especially scanning my body whenever I walk into the coffee shop…) and it makes me feel gross to think he’s been dating someone seriously the whole time. Is your impression of this that he’s gross and a scumbag or is it normal for guys to check girls out even if they’re in a committed relationship? Thoughts from the guys out there?

What was the thing they said that made you look at them differently? What made you fall for them? What made you know they cared?

So I've known of this guy at work (regular customer) and he always makes prolonged eye contact with me whenever I see him. He holds my gaze and looks at me with a soft expression that he doesnt give my other coworkers. He always looks at me when I'm not the one serving him and after he's been helped. He stares at me from across the room subtly. He acts nervous sometimes by looking away if he sees me catching him. He also stares with dilated pupils sometimes. We havent talked except for the rare occasion I do help him. What do you think? He is my age too. He also stays a long time at the place I work (cafe) for like 2 hours when I'm around

Edit: he's been doing this since May

Hace un mes conocí a un chico que trabaja cerca de mi casa, él atiende personas, bueno la cosa está así, mi mamá decía que había un muchacho guapo ahí en ese lugar pero yo no le creía, luego mi hermana fue ahí y llegó diciendo que había un muchacho guapo y era el mismo que mi mamá decía, luego mi tía llegó diciendo lo mismo JAJAJAJAJ, pero bueno las veces que he ido me ha atendido normal de hecho lo he visto tímido más bien y yo también soy así, la primera vez que fui y lo vi por primera vez, se me quedó viendo normal y yo también a él pero pues ahorita no ha pasado nada más, simplemente lo vi lindo, que debería hacer? Yo siento que nada tampoco puedo decir que me gusta por que no lo conozco bien

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