u/Equivalent_Dog2342

Okay weird question (not even sure if it’s a question, just want thoughts) - I go to the same coffee shop every morning and there’s a guy I’ve been seeing several times a week for almost a year now. He stares at me when I walk in, smiles at me, opens the door for me, and very noticeably looks me up and down when he sees me. We are in similar lines of work and I think he’s cute so we started talking in the mornings, nothing crazy, just casual chatting while waiting for coffee, and honestly I was so confident he was into me I was just waiting for him to ask me out. Well I just found out (not even from him, but from someone else) that he just got engaged. He’s been living with a girl for over a year and they’ve been together for 2 years. She is in similar work as both of us but he never mentioned her. I’m honestly shocked. I feel like he was being very flirty with me (and especially scanning my body whenever I walk into the coffee shop…) and it makes me feel gross to think he’s been dating someone seriously the whole time. Is your impression of this that he’s gross and a scumbag or is it normal for guys to check girls out even if they’re in a committed relationship? Thoughts from the guys out there?

People with fearful avoidant attachment styles. Have you had an experience where you break up with someone because things are getting too intimate, even though you genuinely loved them? Can you tell me how it feels/how you acted? My now ex-boyfriend is FA and he broke up with me out of no where, blocked me on social media, and switched his schedule so he wouldn’t run into me. I’m trying to understand how he’s feeling.

I’m going through my first real breakup and genuinely I’m heartbroken. I can’t stop thinking about him. I think the worst part of it is it came out of no where. He was so intentional, so interested, so sweet for almost 2 months and I felt so secure, and then he flipped a switch and ended things. He gave me a dumb reason for the break up that honestly didn’t even make sense, so I don’t even feel like I have closure or know the real reason why things ended. He unfollowed me on social media and stopped going to places where we used to run into each other. I feel like in other situations where a man let me down, he was pulling away for so long before actually ending things so I had time to prepare and see it coming. This came out of no where and all I want to do is text him, call him, ask him to meet up but honestly I wouldn’t be surprised if he deleted my number. And he’s the one who ended it so clearly he doesn’t want to see me. We went from seeing each other every day to not seeing each other at all overnight and I’m just so sad.

I’m going through my first real breakup and genuinely I’m heartbroken. I can’t stop thinking about him. I think the worst part of it is it came out of no where. He was so intentional, so interested, so sweet for almost 2 months and I felt so secure, and then he flipped a switch and ended things. He gave me a dumb reason for the break up that honestly didn’t even make sense, so I don’t even feel like I have closure or know the real reason why things ended. He unfollowed me on social media and stopped going to places where we used to run into each other. I feel like in other situations where a man let me down, he was pulling away for so long before actually ending things so I had time to prepare and see it coming. This came out of no where and all I want to do is text him, call him, ask him to meet up but honestly I wouldn’t be surprised if he deleted my number. And he’s the one who ended it so clearly he doesn’t want to see me. We went from seeing each other every day to not seeing each other at all overnight and I’m just so sad.

any advice for someone a little new at kissing? i just started dating a guy and i don’t have a ton of physical experience. he hasn’t openly shared this with me, but i have a feeling he also doesn’t have much experience dating or kissing. i’m trying to just follow my body and let things unfold naturally but things got a little more heated today and idk i just feel like maybe neither of us are doing it right? we don’t feel in sync and he keeps using his tongue but like what the heck is your tongue even supposed to be doing while you’re kissing? any practical advice?