u/Secret-Girl-18

As an adult, if you're interested in someone, just say something. I learned this the hard way at the gym.

I thought a guy was into me because he was always staring, making eye contact for months, and often lingered near me. He even seemed to get jealous if other guys talked to me. I once even caught him trying to take my picture.

Yesterday, I finally approached him and asked for his number, only for him to act surprised and tell me he was married. I might have misinterpreted his behavior, but either way, I wasted a lot of time wondering. If you think there's mutual interest, speak up. It saves you from uncertainty and helps you move on if it's not reciprocated. Good luck out there!

If you're interested in a girl and know her a bit, just go chat with her. There's no rule saying girls have to make the first move. Once you've talked for a while, maybe a day or two, if you feel ready, ask her out. Don't overthink it or put it off.

Some girls, like me, prefer to get to know someone before jumping into a relationship. If she suggests talking more, it's not a rejection. She's likely being cautious to avoid getting hurt. If you truly like her, and you see her, take that chance!

People on the internet always say a crush is only a lack of information, implying they'll disappoint you eventually. Well, that's not always true. I'm currently crushing on this amazing 21F who's stunning, and getting to know her just made things ten times worse for my 22M heart.

I honestly thought getting to know her would make the crush fade, but she's genuinely one of the kindest people I've ever met. Now I'm stuck thinking about her forever. Send help.