r/ToxicFriends

Me, (17F) and my friend (17F) were in our Religious Education class. The assignment requires us being split into groups, one of 4 and one of 3 (including me and my friend).

My friend and I are sitting on the end of the table. Whereas, the other group is on the other end engaging in a fun conversation and making jokes that will turn into inside jokes, leading to us being further excluded in future conversations and classes

We understand that this is a group assignment, but they arent even doing their work which makes us feel even worse becausw theyre not even including us in their conversations.

They are naming KPOP geoups, which is our favourite activity, and the fact that theyre leaving us knowing that we love to do that is disgusting behaviour

We asked what else they were doing but they ignored us and kept talking to eachother

Theyre also talking about a festival whch we have been wanting to got o and theyre planning on buying tickets to go without us.

This behaviour has happened for a long time, since the term started (2 days ago)

I am constabtly excluded and ignored and my fried and i arent allowed in the circle at lunch time either

I was forced to sit alone at lunch and be seperated from my friend as well. The group stole my birthday cake that i planned to share, and ate it on my birthday.

Im planning to confront them about this soon

We'll update on the situation

Edit: Thanks for 100 likes. We are still being excluded its been an hour\

Edit 2: They ignored us again

I’m in a situation involving one of my friends and her boyfriend, and I’m not sure how to handle it without making things worse.
Her boyfriend was also my friend, and I only ever saw him as a friend. However, whenever he and my friend had arguments, he would come to me, invite me to hang out privately, and sometimes tell me to keep it a secret from her.

• we used to drink together before they started dating but after they started dating and have arguments, he invited me to drink at the hotel and told me not to tell her we’re gonna go for a drink or jam together.

• he told me “ what if I tell you, you were my type before me and your friend started dating”

• he asks personal questions when he sees me with someone else.

I never asked to be involved in their relationship problems, but I ended up being put in the middle of them.
My issue is that I don’t want to betray my friend or participate in keeping secrets from her, but I also don’t feel like it’s my responsibility to manage their relationship or expose every problem they have. At the same time, I feel uncomfortable continuing to interact with him normally when he’s deliberately hiding things from her and involving me in their personal issues.
I’ve tried to think about whether I should tell my friend, distance myself from him, or simply stay out of it completely. But each option feels complicated: telling her could make me look like I’m interfering in their relationship, while staying silent could make me feel like I’m enabling something or being a bad friend.
What would be the most appropriate way to handle this? Am I wrong for feeling disrespected and wanting to establish boundaries.

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